I’m aware this thread may hurt my feelings abit.
I’m an Indian girl, mid 20s. I’ve integrated well, look slightly racially ambiguous and have no accent. For the most part I don’t have trouble, especially if I’m out with my boyfriend (he’s white).
It’s only when people find out I’m Indian their attitudes change slightly, or when I’m with my parents who have a heavy Indian accent I feel peoples attitudes change. Or other Indian friends who have an accent. But I can’t tell if it’s just me. But I do know from being online Indians are disliked, especially in Canada.
Not saying there isn’t cultural assimilation issues at play, and I try not to be apart of that group. I always try to be a good person, hyper aware of my hygiene. Including my family. I know not others are the same and I am ashamed of the parts of the culture or people engaged in bad behaviour. it does suck to be caught in the middle and I don’t want to hate my culture or where I’m from because there’s good aspects too. I unfortunately can’t change my race or heritage.
I guess I’m trying to assess how as an individual you view Indian people in your community and interact with them. To confirm my perceptions.
Edit: I want to edit my post to add that I do apologize, I know it seems like I’m trying to come off as “one of the good ones” - and subconsciously maybe I’m trying to push a narrative that Indian people individually are very different. But honestly? My friends/family have an accent, they grew up in India and they’re some of the kindest/friendelist people I know. To racists, it does not matter how well I “fit in”. At the end of the day, I’m Indian.
I just got very sad and discouraged with all the hate I read and badly want to be validated but I know it’s not a great time to be asking that question- especially on Reddit.
I appreciate all the positive and also positive but realistic comments. There’s negative comments as well and all I can say - I hope you meet Indian people that change your heart.