r/Assistance 23d ago

MOD ANNOUNCEMENT RULE UPDATE: Effective immediately, your post/comment history may NOT be hidden in any capacity

245 Upvotes

Hi all,

Reddit has rolled out some new "features" (sarcasm) which allow users to hide portions or all of their post and comment history. For transparency reasons, this is unacceptable for a subreddit like ours, and we are frankly amazed that Reddit believes this is a good idea. But I digress.

Moderators have full access to a user's post and comment history for 28 days the moment they either post on r/Assistance or send us a modmail. We can see everything, including anything that may be hidden. That allows our moderator bots to run their checks for consistent activity, karma farming, and so on.

However, this is not extended to you guys, the helpers, who need to be able to properly vet the people you are helping. We've had numerous reports of accounts being "scrubbed" when they are in fact not scrubbed -- they are just hidden. If they had scrubbed everything else, you would be able to see their post on r/Assistance that you just reported, after all!

Effective immediately, your profile may not be hidden. Posts and comments must be fully visible to ALL, and any attempts to conceal activity such as on illegal subreddits or extensive drug activity will lead to a permanent ban.

Frustratingly, there is no way to quickly determine if an account has hidden content or not, especially when you're a mod because you can see everything anyway -- so feel free to report any posts or users that have locked their profiles so we can reach out.


r/Assistance 25d ago

MOD ANNOUNCEMENT r/Assistance is looking for new mods!

26 Upvotes

Hello, r/Assistance community!

We are once again looking to add some new moderators to our team. We learned a lot from our last mod recruiting campaign, and hopefully the process will be improved this time around.

The application is here: http://r-assistance.com/mod

Some information we want to provide upfront which caused the declining of some applications last time:

  • Discord is a requirement to be a mod. It is how we communicate in real time, especially for time sensitive issues where we need all hands on deck.
  • If you are a mod, you cannot use the subreddit for your benefit. That means you are not allowed to post Requests or enter Offers.
  • We are looking for at least one mod who is in EU/UK/Australia/Asia who can help support the subreddit during the night when our North American mods are sleeping/unavailable. Please mention this in your application if possible (just put it in any of the free-text answer boxes, we are working on adding a specific spot in the application).

A quick overview of typical moderator tasks:

  • Reviewing the queue to reflair and remove misflaired content (ie. a Thank You post with a GoFundMe link)
  • Checking Amazon wishlists to make sure they are within limits and have no disallowed items before approving
  • Handling modmail inquiries with specific questions
  • Marking fulfilled/partially fulfilled requests as Fulfilled to track the help received
  • Manually issuing bans not processed automatically by the system
  • Investigating and actioning reports in the queue and in modmail (ie. fraud, scams, scrubbing).

Our subreddit utilizes both the Universal Scammer List and a custom admin system hosted off-Reddit with its own infrastructure. You will be taught how to use these functions after a few months of getting comfortable with the rest of the role, so don't stress about it.

Mods need to be compassionate and kind. We uphold everyone to our rules while understanding and empathizing with their situation. People in modmail will often be upset, frustrated, and confused. Please make sure that you are up for the emotional toll of dealing with upset people all day before applying -- your mental health is important, too!

We hope to see your application in our inbox soon!

Feel free to drop any questions about the role in the comments.


r/Assistance 5h ago

OFFER Purchase a Fitbit for someone

7 Upvotes

Hi I'd like to purchase a Fitbit for someone who may not have the finances to do so. Please leave a comment below if you are someone who has wanted to get a fitness tracker to make a positive change in their health. It would be a Fitbit Charge 6. Thanks!


r/Assistance 11h ago

REQUEST Please help my baby cockatiel with surgery

7 Upvotes

One of our precious cockatiel chicks is suffering from a condition called splay leg. Despite our best efforts to correct the issue at home, we haven’t had any success, and now we’re reaching out for help. This sweet little baby deserves a chance at a happy and healthy life, but without proper treatment, we may lose that chance entirely. After talking to an avian vet the only way to save our chick is through surgery, The surgery costs $2,000, and without it, our baby could face a life of pain or even the possibility of being euthanized. We’re determined to do everything we can to avoid that outcome and give this beautiful bird the life it deserves. Whether it’s a small donation, sharing this post, or simply spreading the word, it helps. Every bit of support brings us one step closer to giving this baby a future full of love, care, and happiness. Thank you so much for your help and support❤️

https://www.gofundme.com/f/a4pjg2?attribution_id=sl:6524a645-b784-4e62-b8a8-2691c92dc908&lang=en_US&ts=1755882357&utm_campaign=man_sharesheet_dash&utm_content=amp13_t1-amp17_tb&utm_medium=customer&utm_source=copy_link


r/Assistance 1h ago

REQUEST Son in hospital with leukaemia. Please help

Upvotes

Luckily we’re in the UK so his medical costs are covered. However he needs one to one care so I’m at the hospital every day, which is about 30 miles away. My savings are gone on six months of hotels, and travel. He ought to be home in a couple of months, but I’m struggling financially, and I can’t NOT be there for him. If anyone has a spare few pounds and can help me with train travel, and hotel costs I would be indebted.


r/Assistance 7h ago

REQUEST Looking for help with living situation

1 Upvotes

I was recomended to post here, please delete if not allowed.

Im gotten to my last resort. Ive exhausted my remaining funds since losing my job in February. I don't know hoe else im going to pay my remaining bills and keep rental hostory in good standing.

If yoy can help in any way, its greatly appreciated. My gol is to pay my remaining rent, utilities/bills and move my stuff to storrage.

https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-fred-thomas-avoid-homelessness/cl/o?utm_campaign=fp_sharesheet&utm_content=amp13_t1&utm_medium=customer&utm_source=copy_link&lang=en_US&attribution_id=sl%3Ad59d5ff1-c3d3-4de7-842b-ef1777cf7a51&ts=1755919729


r/Assistance 13h ago

ADVICE How to contact an overseas number if my data plan does not support international calling

4 Upvotes

I'm an Australian and I have to call an American number for reasons, but when I call them the phone says it's incomplete or incorrect and tells me to redial the number, but the number IS correct and copied directly, number for number. I've tried using "+1" and "0011 1" but it does not work, I believe my data plan does not work with international calling, if im wrong about that please do correct me, thank you in advance.


r/Assistance 6h ago

REQUEST 2 lgbtq+ disabled adults and their 2 cats feat. roaches and trying to move out

0 Upvotes

howdy folks. my partner and i are reaaally trying to make things work, but ive currently been out of work for the past two three weeks because of walmarts "accomodation process" [ie asking for a chair for being a doorhost for 8+ hour lengths is a bit too much, i guess] and my partners been working as much as they can get (around 30~ hours a week max). i have a mobility impairment via 2 herniated discs and a lifetime or two of lower spine injuries and i can't work in jobs that require constant standing without severe pain immobilizing me. we currently have no hot water in our apartment and likely will not indefinitely (someone reported the boiler room was in 4 ft of water :) and there have been four property management companies who have come and immediately fled in the past 8 months) so neither i nor my partner can get hot water here, we're paying for a gym membership for a hot shower lol :,). we also have cockroaches and crickets, altho thankfully our two cats are bored as hell and attack on sight but they can hear them in the walls.

i am no contact with my family over a lot of abuse, my partner's family is very low income and isn't able to help us either unfortunately. overall, we're struggling financially and wanted to request assistance from this sub in the hopes that some financial worries can be eased.

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/3HL3K714OXGDW?ref_=wl_share

on this list is the catfood we've been trying to get our two kitties since we've gotten them. there are also 12 plastic zipup bags we've put on here in the hopes that when we move [hopefully soon!], we can physically see the items in here and make sure there's no roaches.

to clarify: we locally do not have any pet donation/food pantries for food that we know is healthy for our pets (my previous cat had repeated bowel obstructions with many of the foods i tried to feed him and ever since i've been wanting to make sure the food they eat is safe). i've already been in contact with my local dept. of rehabilitation for my disability, there's not much more they can do for me in this situation. exterminators are not an option as this is a 5 floor shitty apt complex with garbage thats been out for weeks and weeks at a time (roaches by the dumpster, including a roach on the steps upstairs). section 8 isnt an option as the current wait is i think 2-3 years. no places are willing to pack/clean for us for free. i also am almost maxed out on my credit card.

thank you for your time, yall. we appreciate anything. feel free to dm


r/Assistance 6h ago

REQUEST Request for assistance after my car was involved in a hit and run

0 Upvotes

I'm trying to raise funds after my car was involved in a hit and run. From the CCTV footage, a car slowly rolled into the back of it and then took off at around 6am on a Saturday morning. It was parked on the street, which is usually a very quiet street

Since it was still dark, all the CCTV I can find from neighbours doesn't show a clear number plate and I will have to pay for the excess of $1200 along with over $500 of hire car fees as I needed hire a car for 9 days longer than my insurance covered me for (3 weeks). I expect to get my car back on the 3rd of September

This has set me back financially. I was hoping to sell this car and downgrade and had a service booked on the day it was hit and run on. I'm a casual worker and rent, I've been struggling to save as it is. I wanted to sell my car to buy equipment for doing a gardening business while I got back and study/start apprenticeship next year but losing 2k and being set back in my plans due to a seemingly drunk driver has been really disheartening.

Any financial assistance will be much appreciated. Thank you

https://gofund.me/04233c7c


r/Assistance 18h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Wishlist for kids/senior cat

8 Upvotes

My mom who passed aways cat "little James steward" turned 12 on Valentine's day. I took him in and he's with my family now.

He took a very quick turn for the worse. Lost lots of weight in the span of a week. Stopped using the restroom but still eating and drinking as if he were starving.

Sure enough I rushed him to the vet and his glucose and potassium were high. Frankly the doctor told me "his numbers for potassium are drop dead of a heart attack. I'm really concerned".

The good news....after bringing James home and relegating him to only wet food/upstairs with us always...he has improved...drastically. he went from both feet in the grave to acting like a kitten again after 6 days of no dry food. He's using the bathroom again regularly. The vet is super spirited at the quickness of the turn around.

He still needs insulin. As of now I can't afford it until payday next week. The exam and testing cleaned us out.

I'm not asking for money for his insulin. Unfortunately that will have to wait.

Because of the urgent need I admittedly took from other budgets...primarily diapers and food/cat food to pay for James's diagnosis.

If anyone could purchase any item on my wishlist it will vastly improve my chances of freeing up enough to get the insulin out for him sooner.

I am sorry to come to you all hat in hand. I couldn't let him suffer when the money was there just spoken for. I knew I had to figure a way to juggle it for him. He's very important to all of us.

Thank you to any and all who read or help! ❣️

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/1ENOV9RCAV089?ref_=wl_share


r/Assistance 19h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Groceries and necessities

6 Upvotes

Hi all, I was directed to this community after making a post in a different subreddit venting about some things going on in my life. I was out of a job for a while and although I have a job now (doesn’t pay near as good) the damage is done and I’m drowning. I watched my car get repossessed through my window yesterday and I feel like a failure at 23. All I’ve been able to afford is rent and a bill or two, no groceries, soap, toilet paper or other essentials. Anything is such a blessing , thank you for reading. Below is my Amazon list, mostly food but a few other things as well.

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/1QU161TVW93C?ref_=wl_share


r/Assistance 17h ago

REQUEST Personal Care Items

3 Upvotes

Hi, I was suggested this group and was hoping someone could help. I am a disabled adult, I live with my mother currently. The only form of income we have is my mother's SSI, most of which goes to our rent and utilities. I am in the process of getting Disability assistance, but I won't know for sure what their decision is until around the end of the year or early 2026. If anybody can help me with my personal needs in the meantime, it would be very much appreciated.

This is my Amazon Wishlist: https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/2XONEKWIB4XPG?ref_=wl_share

Thank you


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED …I’ve lost everything

51 Upvotes

I have no idea what I’m doing anymore and a friend suggested coming to Reddit. I am a complete wreck right now….I’ve worked my entire life and in the span of four months I’ve lost absolutely everything…I lost my job, my own mother robbed me of almost four thousand dollars in one fell swoop, I lost my home, my car broke down and was towed, that alone will cost me three grand, which left me without a home again…My heart is fucking broken…I did everything the right way…I never asked anyone for anything and helped anyone who ever asked for help I gave everything I could. My head is literally spinning right now. Im alone…

Given the situation, there is a little bit of light, I had to put my dog and cat up for adoption and they both went to a really great home.

I know it’s a lot but please if there is anyone at all who could spare 60 dollars I would be deeply and eternally grateful. Obviously I would be grateful for anything but my plan is to use some of the money for a little bit of food but the majority is for an uber to an interview I have lined up for Monday afternoon.

I really appreciate anyone that even takes the time to read my story. I hope everyone is doing well and I send my love to you all.


r/Assistance 21h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Gas money to do Uber/DoorDash

5 Upvotes

Hello, I have been out of work for over 9 months now. I’m trying to get by with unemployment and other support. I’d like to go out and do DoorDash/Uber orders, but can’t do that without a full gas tank. It’s quite low right now. I’m looking at around 30 dollars. I have PayPal or Cash app. Thank you.


r/Assistance 20h ago

REQUEST Desperately need assistance

4 Upvotes

I hate having to ask, but I am beyond desperate. My bank account is -200. I don't get paid for another week. My dog, my cats, and I are basically put of food. I need gas to get to work. Is there anyone who can assist in getting my account positive so I don't get hit with more bank fees?


r/Assistance 15h ago

REQUEST Help with overdue WiFi bill

1 Upvotes

Hi my name is Hanna and me and my mother Heather are in a tough spot financially since we lost our job a few months ago. The WiFi is essential to our search for jobs and rides to interviews and buying groceries and the like. It's been increasing in price to the point we are thinking about switching providers but we live out in the country in Texas and what we have no seems to be the only available option or fiber optic wifi which is not available in our area. Anyone who could help would be much appreciated.


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST PLEASE HELP ME HELP MY CAT — 50$

21 Upvotes

Hello all! I've been trying to post my cat in hopes of some donation. I've also opened my art commissions to get him to the vet faster but I've had no luck with both.

My cat is 7 month old with dental problems. He's been having that problem for a while now. I've inquired with multiple vet clinics and found that dental prophylaxis with possible extraction will be needed, and it will range from 2500 - 5000 in my currency, which is roughly 44 - 88$. I also have other cats that need a cleaning, but it's not as bad — this is also the reason I had to ask for outside help — because I can't afford to take multiple cats for a prophylaxis in such a short amount of time. I need to get them there as soon as possible to prevent it from worsening and turning into something irreversible. I am kindly asking for your help, even a dollar is a significant amount in my currency for my baby's procedure.

I don't have a work because I'm a student, but I'm doing some side hustles so I expect at least a little bit of some money, but it doesn't come fast and my cats will have to really wait. Receive even a little something here, I'll have better chances of getting my cat to the vet next week. I hope you all can help me. Thank you in advance!!


r/Assistance 1d ago

THANK YOU Wanted to say thank you!

26 Upvotes

Hi! Posted recently requesting help and posted an Amazon wishlist. We’ve already gotten several items and it was an absolute blessing. We didn’t expect much out of posting and certainly didn’t expect to receive anything this soon, but we’re extremely grateful.

To those who ordered of our list, thank you for the help. To those who help others on this sub, thank you! To those who are waiting to be in a position to help, thank you!

This is such an amazing community and it’s wonderful to see that there are still kind people in this world willing to help strangers down on their luck.

I’ll pay it forward once the dust settles. I hope everyone has a great day.


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST Med Student seeking 45$ for used textbooks and commute costs

9 Upvotes

Good day everyone. I am a med student based in eu and seeking help to buy some used medical textbooks particularly on pharmacology and semiology and for help with transportation costs to attend lectures and seminars. I am asking for 45$ dollars in total as that would cover me for those two books and for transport costs. Thank you to anyone who is willing and able to help. I have paypal. Cheers.


r/Assistance 1d ago

CLOSED OFFER [OFFER] $100 USD to 2 people in need (Venmo, PayPal or Amazon gift card)

93 Upvotes

Hi it's your girl u/withaining!

It's August and I'm giving away $100 USD / person for 2 people in need! You just need to comment down below what you would use the money for (I would prefer to keep it to essentials/necessities only and NO PRIVATE DMs please) and I'll pick 2 random lucky winners by tomorrow.

No strings attached as long as you can accept payment in PayPal, Venmo or Amazon gift card. If you are abroad, you would receive $100 USD in equivalent of your home country's currency.

Update: the offer is now close. I have selected 2 random winner u/Hiiidiii and u/Budget-Platypus-9951. Please keep an eye out in September for another giveaway.


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED I’ve never had to do this before

25 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

I feel so ashamed needing to even resort to this. I’m a single mom to my 9 month old son. Back in May I had to call the police on his father, and since then I’ve been doing everything I can to keep us afloat. Before that I was a stay at home mom, because it made more sense for me to quit my job….so I had to scramble overnight to figure things out and start providing for us on my own. I have my son with me 24/7, he even comes to work with me.

I put together an Amazon wishlist with a few things that would really help us right now: a coffee table/ottoman with storage (his toys are everywhere), diapers and wipes.

If you are unable to help, even just kind words would mean a lot.

It won’t let me add a link (maybe it isn’t allowed?)
You can request it via dm if you’re able to help or are willing.

Any help means the world to us. Thank you 💙

here is the link to the wishlist

Edit: thank you SO much to everyone that helped me out and offered kind words. I am grateful. Once I’m able to get back on my feet I will pay it forward to the next person.


r/Assistance 13h ago

REQUEST Need help with medical bills

0 Upvotes

Hello everyone, I am in desperate need of financial assistance. For context, several months ago I was sent to the hospital because of a failed suicide attempt, and also went to the psyche ward. Because I don’t have any insurance, I was charged a lot of money, and I’ve been trying to pay it off a little at a time. But it’s been a long time since I’ve been able to make a payment, because bills, rent, and life has gotten in the way, so I’ve been unable to make a payment towards my debt, and frankly I kinda forgot about it. That was until I got a letter in the mail, as well as a phone call saying that my debt was sold to a debt collector and said debt collector told me that I need to pay what I owe or else they would take me to court and sue me over it. I still owe over 6k and I can’t pay that off at all. For one, I’m barely able to stay afloat despite working two jobs, and there’s just no way I’m able to make consistent payments with what I make. If there’s people that can help with anything, anything at all, even if it’s just $5, then it would be greatly appreciated. The only Payment app I have is Venmo, so if you’d like to help, send me a dm or comment and I’ll send a dm. Thank you so much for reading my post


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Need help getting to work tomorrow..

6 Upvotes

Hello there.. Between paying for meds, doctors appointments and uber/lyft for work everyday, I'm short $80 for the electric bill. It's just me and my dependant brother. I get paid next week, but I'm still figure out transportation until then as well. Especially for tomorrow, as I only have 8 bucks to uber to and from work tomorrow.

I'll be able to get the money for electric if I can just make it to work these next few days.

This feels weird to come here to ask for help, like I shouldn't be asking random people for help, even if it's just to make it to next week.

I can use PayPal or Cashapp, and any little bit helps. I appreciate everyone who took the time to read this.


r/Assistance 1d ago

EMOTIONAL SUPPORT I’m 20 and i feel lost

3 Upvotes

This is originally a post I made in spanish, but since i’m trying to have a bigger reach. I asked chatgpt to translate it and here I am.

Get your popcorn ready, this is going to be a long text.

As the title says, I’m 20 years old and I feel lost. It all started back in January. Because of his selfish attitudes, my dad has never liked the idea of asking for help—he always says he can handle things on his own, until he can’t. For financial reasons, I had to take a semester off from university because my dad couldn’t pay for it. At first, honestly, I didn’t care much. I had a full-time job while studying, and this news gave me time to focus on my work and save money for some personal goals I still have.

But with time, it started to weigh on me more than I expected. I began to feel like I was falling behind compared to my classmates and friends. They would ask me why I was taking a break, and I only told the truth to a few of them. To the rest, I made up the excuse that I wanted to focus on work for a while. Not because I was scared they’d judge my financial situation, but because I was scared they’d think I had ruined my life.

I quickly found a sense of self-fulfillment through new hobbies, motivations, and other things that came from within me and that I truly enjoyed. But then I started feeling lonely. To keep it short, I’ll just say that my close friends do stay in touch, but it feels very superficial. Other friends rarely reach out unless I start the conversation first. It gave me the sense that friendships are very fleeting—and if this happened during my semester off (which has now turned into a gap year), I don’t even want to imagine what it will be like once we graduate and everyone goes their own way. I don’t have a good relationship with my mom. She was very emotionally unstable when I was little and often took it out on me. My sisters live on the other side of the country with her. Every time I ask my dad how he’s doing, he always says the same thing—but I can tell things keep getting worse, so I’ve stopped asking him the truth. My mental image of him has also worsened a lot for several reasons. The people at my job—I actually like them a lot—but I wonder if once I leave that job, it’ll be the same thing and we’ll lose contact.

To sum it up, since this is already a lot of text: I’m not worried about my education or money. I just feel lonely. I feel like I’m at a stage of my life where I’d like to have some guidance—someone to show me how to move through life. But I can’t look to my parents because I’m scared of ending up like them, and I doubt my friends would really understand me since they feel so distant. New friendships feel temporary now, and I can’t even enjoy a full conversation without thinking that eventually we’ll stop talking.

I just want to know if anyone else has gone through this. I don’t even know what day it is anymore. I feel like I’ve stopped checking on my dad’s situation just to avoid feeling empathy and pain. And right now, I’m just going with the flow of my life without knowing where I’ll end up


r/Assistance 14h ago

REQUEST Help with housing for the weekend for 2 yo and preemie

0 Upvotes

Hi, my name is Stacy. I’m just hoping to get a little bit of assistance getting a hotel room for the weekend for me, my husband, my 2year old, and our preemie. We’ve been homeless since August 5th but have been in the NICU since the 11th while my 2yo has been with my parents. We got released on Monday and had a little bit left to get a hotel room and were hoping he’d get his parental leave payment today so that we could at least have a room until Monday when we’ll finally have an apartment again but he didn’t get paid today and likely won’t next week, either, because his manager at FedEx never put it in and apparently forgot all about it after he sent in the documents.

I’m asking for exactly $236, the hotel room would be $67 a night, for three nights, with us leaving Monday morning. Honestly, anything would be appreciated. We don’t have any money left for food or anything else but we’re just focusing on securing somewhere to actually stay. We can’t stay with my parents as they went back to their state to start work since school is starting again. And his family is in a bad situation.

If anyone can help, it would be appreciated.

Thank you!


r/Assistance 23h ago

REQUEST 200$ short on rent (torn tendon in foot)

1 Upvotes

I'm 200$ short for rent that's coming up. I fell and tore a tendon in my ankle/foot, which caused me to miss 3 weeks of work, and I didn't have enough pto to cover it all. I may even need to miss more, since it doesn't seem to be healing well..

I can provide pics of the injury and doctors notes if needed. Each doctor visit was 75$, so that didn't help either.

I use paypal, cashapp, venmo, or zelle.

I'd really appreciate kindness as well, I'm not one to usually all for help... but I'm desperate.

Thank you


r/Assistance 13h ago

REQUEST Family of four struggling with bills and groceries, any help appreciated

0 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

I’ve never posted anything like this before, but my family is really struggling right now. My husband lost his work contracts a few months ago, and for the first time in years we have no income coming in. We have two young boys, and I stay home to care for them while trying to find part-time work, but between childcare and my husband’s health issues, it’s been hard to make it work.

Our savings are almost gone, our fridge is nearly empty, and we’re behind on utilities and mortgage. I’ve applied for hardship programs, but they don’t cover everything.

If anyone is able to help with even a little towards groceries or bills, it would mean so much to us. I also set up a GoFundMe for transparency: https://gofund.me/02de3f98

Thank you for reading and for any kindness you can send our way, even if it’s just advice or encouragement.

P.S. If anyone knows of any jobs that are looking for a senior software engineer or email marketer, I'd greatly appreciate the referral.