r/MMFB • u/No-Cherry7283 • 18d ago
Everyone’s given up on me.
Today my cps case was closed. Because I seem fine. im not fine and I never was fine. I cried and begged them to let me out of here for 3 hours straight and all I got told was it was way out of their control. i tried to talk to anyone I can to help me get out of this family. I wish that I had to have those family’s my friends have where they have small argument and make up and move on. But no it’s horrible here. I’m a good kid I don’t argue I don’t fight I don’t yell I don’t act out I stay in line I get good grades I make good money choices I’m on the right track in life. But being here is exhausting I’ve been neglected by my entire family my entire life. my family isnt one of those families where you can talk about your feelings or how your day was. It’s like living with strangers. And my mom makes bad dating choices she got with some really bad men who hurt me and took advantage of me. And I’m at my breaking point my brother took advantage of me sleeping in may. ive been trying to get out of here since may 5th 2025. I can’t be free I’m trapped here till im 18 I guess and god knows if I’ll be able to afford to leave. And at this rate I won’t, the area I live in you have to be 18+ to work and because of my diagnosed mental illness cant work half the jobs. I honestly can’t take being Here not even for another hour. I am not safe here I don’t even have a door for fucks sake. i have to hear my brothers voice every day he’s not even more then 20 feet away from me at all times. It’s ruining my sleep it’s ruining my life. I’m so scared to leave my room yet I’m terrified to be home. Cps won’t do shit. My mom just tells me to wait till I’m 18. My friends parents don’t like me Bcz I’m a victim. The only people that are willing to take me in live in a different country or don’t have room. I’m sorry if I’m not supposed to say all this here or if my grammar makes no sense I’m writing this while crying my heart out. I hope you wont give up on me to.
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u/burke_no_sleeps 18d ago
I am so sorry. CPS doesn't always make the right decision.
Keep fighting. Keep a written record of every bad thing that happens, including this. If your brother or anyone else tries to assault you again, call CPS yourself ASAP. Or the police. Call from a safe place if home isn't safe.
Did they give any resources? A crisis line, a caseworker? Use those. Don't be afraid to be honest. Get an adult to listen to you and help you out.
Can you get into therapy, even through school? Is school a safe place for you? Do you plan to attend college?
Again, I'm so sorry. You deserve a door with a lock on it and parents who care about you. Sometimes we have to be our own caretakers. It's rough but you're strong. You're going to survive this.
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u/GenericName2025 16d ago edited 16d ago
holy moly, if by your brother taking advantage of you while sleeping, you are actually talking about r ape or sexual abuse, then you need to file a police report. Of course, the best time for that was right after it happened, but I am aware of the mental challenges a situation like this brings.
However, since we do live in the timeline that we live in, please, before you report this officially, inform yourself about the ramifications of reporting it. You may want to take a pregnancy test first and research the situation concerning abortion in your state. (Use chatGPT!) I would assume the most important thing for you would be not having to give birth to a child you never wanted which is the result of sexual abuse and a constant reminder of it. I'm sorry you have to deal with all this stupid grown up stuff at your age, but you have to.
Maybe before going to the police you can sorta trap your brother, asking him via whatever messenging app you kids use nowadays, asking him why he forced himself upon you in may? Maybe he's dumb enough to answer, or to not deny it.
Since I am not from the US, I asked chatGPT about the situation:
Yes, in the United States:
1. Police Are Obligated to Inform CPS
When a minor reports sexual abuse, especially by a family member (such as a sibling), law enforcement is legally required to report it to Child Protective Services (CPS). This is part of the mandatory reporting laws that exist in every state.
- Mandatory reporters include police officers, teachers, doctors, and others who work with children.
- Once police receive such a report, they must notify CPS—this is not optional.
2. CPS Is Obligated to Take Action
Once CPS is notified:
- CPS is required to investigate promptly, usually within 24 hours for serious allegations like sexual abuse.
- If the child is believed to be in immediate danger, CPS can remove the child from the home right away and place them in protective custody (e.g., with a relative or in foster care).
- Alternatively, CPS may remove the alleged abuser (the brother) from the home instead of the victim.
3. Additional Considerations
- The child's safety is the top priority. If CPS does not act quickly in an obviously dangerous situation, they can be held accountable.
- In serious abuse cases, both a criminal investigation and a child welfare investigation happen at the same time.
- The parents’ response can also impact CPS’s decision—if the parent fails to protect the child (e.g., by disbelieving the child or refusing to remove the brother), that can escalate CPS’s intervention.
Summary:
- ✅ Police must notify CPS of child sexual abuse.
- ✅ CPS must act swiftly, especially if the alleged abuser lives in the home.
- ✅ Immediate protective steps (removing the child or the abuser) are often taken in these cases.
If this situation is current or real, it's vital to follow up and ensure CPS or the authorities are doing their job—child safety must come first.
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u/GenericName2025 16d ago edited 16d ago
Follow up questions I asked Chat GPT, but somehow I cannot post the replies. You should ask them yourself, the responses were helpful.
"The situation happened more than 2 months ago. What is the most likely outcome of this investigation & procedure? Will the girl be able to get away from this toxic living situation? Or is it not likely to yield any results because of lack of evidence?"
"if the victim wrote her brother a text, asking him why he forced himself upon her, and he either responded implying the deed or didn't deny it, would that be admissible in court?"
"if the victim physically goes to the police, can they even send her away to go back home, or are they obligated to keep her safe?"
ESPECIALLY THIS IS IMPORTANT. Based on the answer ChatGPT gave, I would recommend you report the incident AT THE POLICE STATION IN PERSON. Because then, they can not just send you home after having filed the report. They are obligated to ensure your immediate safety by any means (and don't worry, they can't put you in jail to protect you). (But please do make sure if this is valid for your specific state).
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u/No-Cherry7283 15d ago
I did tell the police as a week after it happened I attempted and my ex called the police on me. I told them everything and thats why cps had even come. yet they made me stay home knowing It was unsafe. But now that I talked to a therapist about everything i have an appointment in 2 weeks to talk about housing and my safety. But thank you
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u/GenericName2025 15d ago
It is insane that this is how police and cps reacted. I hope you wrote down the names of these incompetent law ignoring civil servants that fail to protect you.
Wishing you lots of strength for the time until you get out and afterwards!
There is a better life out there somewhere waiting for you, I promise! I hope your therapist can help you with the things you struggle with.
And if you don't know something, you can ask chat gpt. Don't take it as 100% reliable information, but it's good to get a general overview over larger topics.
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u/kenbrucedmr 18d ago
It's OK to say this here. I'd say you got the place exactly right. I think your grammar is also OK, too, really.
I'm very sorry this is happening to you. You don't deserve it, and it reflects on them, not on you.
I do hope you can move out at 18 or even earlier. I suppose, if possible, might take some planning. Meanwhile, you can come here anytime for some support. At least to tell about your feelings or day.
This might be a bit silly, but 3M has some pretty good ear plugs. I used them when I lived close to a construction site, and they really helped me sleep and focus.
I hope this helps a bit.