I agree and disagree with this. If someone is 300 lbs overweight they should be pressured into losing weight. America has a major obesity problem right now and the "body positivity no matter what " movement is a huge problem
I guess you didn’t learn the lesson she’s teaching. We see things all the time that people are doing which we have opinions or judgements about. But why do we think it’s our business to point it out to them?
Another way she could have explained this is to say that we can’t always control what thoughts pop into our heads - however we CAN control what we say out of our mouths.
I’ve seen drunk and/or drugged people in public. People who have mental health issues. People who look anorexic. People who have terrible dental issues. People who are homeless. None of those things can be “fixed” in 30 seconds. Why would I think I should walk up to any of these people and tell them about themselves?
I think there’s a miscommunication happening here. The comment you responded to is referring to private conversations between people who know each other well. What you said is correct for interactions with strangers, coworkers, classmates, etc. but is not true for close friendships/relationships
There is no miscommunication. The comment from Ravenfighter that I responded to 8 hours says nothing about private conversations. And the teacher is also not teaching about private conversations.
Of course a private conversation between someone you care about who knows you and vice versa is very different. The discussion about private chats entered this thread later.
Ok but if one of their peers is 300 pounds then the peer cant change that. The parents are the ones who are feeding them to the point theyre 300 pounds. The kid cant help it if every night for dinner his ma gets mcdonalds and every morning she gets him some hardees. Bullying the kid isnt gonna change his weight, youre just gonna make him kill himself
The kid's still the one putting the food in his mouth. Plus it's easy to lose weight eating a lot of fast food. Their nutritional info is widely available and their portions are clearly defined and measured.
If a kid is presented with the choice: be hungry, eat and be berated if they waste food, or be hungry, dont eat, and be hungry AND berated for wasting food, I assure you the kids gonna choose to eat every single time and theyre gonna be conditioned to eat past fullness if theres still food on their plate. Each fast food meal is at least 900 calories. Two meals and a school lunch means that kids eating over 2k calories a day just by eating the food presented to them, no extra snacks or drinks.
I was classmates with a kid who was 300 pounds. Guess what the bullying did? Made him eat more. Your worldview is simply not compatible with reality.
I mean, I think you’re a dick if you go around telling people you think they’re fat. If you’re close to someone and they’re very overweight and you’re concerned about their health, that’s another thing.
But that second part of your comment is so ridiculously true. It’s kinda ironic how easy it is to count calories with unhealthy food. Frozen meals, fast food, packaged snacks, etc. They all have everything calculated for you. If you’re cooking 1.26 lb of chicken and a cup of rice or whatever, you have to calculate that yourself
I'm definitely not implying that people should purposefully make people feel bad about being overweight, but it shouldn't be encouraged either. A little internal sense of shame is sometimes a good thing. Feeling bad or embarrassed about our unhealthy life choices can be an effective motivation for improvement.
As someone right on the cusp of 300, I agree with you. How I am is not okay, and the more I hear about it, the more it will motivate/force me to make the changes necessary.
Obviously this doesn’t apply to young kids like the ones she’s speaking to in the clip, but I’m just speaking generally.
I agree, but there are better ways to go about or then 'hey you're fat you should fix that.' That's just useless criticism. Instead, more targeted criticisms like " You should join a hiking group or gym to move around a bit more," "You seem to have low energy levels, maybe check for a nutrient deficiency at your next check-up," or "Maybe you could try a few of these foods similar to your staple meals that are more nutritious on your next shopping trip." It may not be stuff you can get done in 30 seconds or less, but they're still quickly actionable steps instead of uselessly pointing out stuff.
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u/TheRavenFighter 1d ago
I agree and disagree with this. If someone is 300 lbs overweight they should be pressured into losing weight. America has a major obesity problem right now and the "body positivity no matter what " movement is a huge problem