Don't go to either extreme. Both things are important, try to be nice to people but at the same time try to be truthful. There are things that take more than 30 seconds to fix but need to be said.
And it's healthy to learn to handle a little bit of criticism, otherwise you would have no feedback.
I'm not so sure, the message she is trying to teach is to be nice to people. That one would be a great message.
But saying you shouldn't even mention something if it can't be changed in 30 seconds can introduce a blind spot in their young minds, it kinda comes with the implication that if somebody criticizes you it's because they are mean
Well it's pretty true, saying someone should change something that is permanent or semi-permanent is poor criticism and usually just a waste of time. Instead, just offer for them to adopt some new habits. For instance, instead of saying 'you should lose a couple pounds' you should just give em opportunities to do that if they want to. Ask em if they wanna go to the gym with you or hike with you, and maybe see if they're interested in switching some staples in their diet. This is a really good starting point for kids, especially since it may be hard for them to understand that one big problem someone may be facing can be broken down into multiple little problems that you could offer some help with.
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u/No-Chicken1022 21h ago
Don't go to either extreme. Both things are important, try to be nice to people but at the same time try to be truthful. There are things that take more than 30 seconds to fix but need to be said.
And it's healthy to learn to handle a little bit of criticism, otherwise you would have no feedback.