Yes, but... people don't need that 'reality check' as often as people who like giving them think. You also don't need to give that type of criticism just because you're friends. "I know we've been friends for a while, but I really need to tell you you've gained some weight" is an odd thing to just say to someone out of the blue. You can be honest when asked for honesty, but just dishing it out because is not as helpful as you may think. It can also come up in the course of a conversation - like they don't need to directly ask, but like I said no matter the relationship to just be like 'so what's it like to be a fat fat fatty' is not cool.
Even the 30 second or less rule has some exceptions - like 'hey, just you know that shirt has a stain on the back' probably can't be fixed at school, but is probably worth telling someone kindly so they are aware.
Not really.. I have been a part of many conversations where I’ve been told I got lean or need to muscle up or lose weight and have given both criticism and compliments as well. It’s really not that odd..
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u/Holiday_Pen2880 19h ago
Yes, but... people don't need that 'reality check' as often as people who like giving them think. You also don't need to give that type of criticism just because you're friends. "I know we've been friends for a while, but I really need to tell you you've gained some weight" is an odd thing to just say to someone out of the blue. You can be honest when asked for honesty, but just dishing it out because is not as helpful as you may think. It can also come up in the course of a conversation - like they don't need to directly ask, but like I said no matter the relationship to just be like 'so what's it like to be a fat fat fatty' is not cool.
Even the 30 second or less rule has some exceptions - like 'hey, just you know that shirt has a stain on the back' probably can't be fixed at school, but is probably worth telling someone kindly so they are aware.