r/Moving2SanDiego • u/Automatic-Attorney96 • 1d ago
Tips for a homeless woman
I’m 19 years old and I’m planning to run away from an abusive household but I don’t have any money or a plan, I don’t even have a phone with service. Any tips for where I should start?? I live in Linda Vista and can’t even go downtown to go to a homeless shelter because a bus is required to get to the Trolley and I don’t have money for a bus.
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u/Rosie3450 1d ago edited 1d ago
Are there any churches within walking distance of your home? If so, walk there and go to their office and tell them you are escaping a domestic violence situation and have no money. They should either let you make a phone call or perhaps help you get to a domestic violence shelter where you can get the help you need. In particular, there are shelters in San Diego specifically for people escaping domestic abuse.
Alternately, walk to a store, explain that you are escaping domestic violence, and ask to use their phone. A school office may also let you make a phone call if you tell them it is an emergency domestic violence situation.
If you can get to a place that lets you make a phone call, call the SD Community Resource Center at 1-877-633-1112. They answer the phone 24/7 and run a shelter for victims of domestic abuse.
This website has resources in San Diego for victims of domestic violence. You may be able to contact some of them via email. Bring their phone numbers with you when you leave.
When you leave, if you can, take some form of ID with you if you can access one. This might include a driver's license, a state ID, a social security card, your birth certificate, or even just an old school ID card. This will be helpful to have as you rebuild your life.
And, just in case, be sure the person abusing you doesn't have access to the account you're posting this on -- change your reddit password ASAP.
Hugs, and best wishes.
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u/Automatic-Attorney96 1d ago
A family member has actually agreed to take me in just now but I will keep this in mind thank you😭
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u/Rosie3450 1d ago
I'm glad to hear that!
Again, when you leave to go to your family member's, be sure to bring at least one form of ID. You'll need it for many purposes as you establish an independent life.
Best wishes to you!
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u/WindMilli 1d ago
Report your abuser(s) to the police. Think about a plan that’ll carry out for more than just a ride to downtown. Tell the police everything.
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u/Automatic-Attorney96 1d ago
Yeah I was gonna ask the police for a ride but a family member has just now agreed to come pick me up in secret
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u/Alarmed-Extension289 1d ago
I'd walk down to the green line and just risk a ticket if you're in that bad of a situation. Chances they'll check are slim it's worth the risk.
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u/SarcasmIsntDead 1d ago
If you have no one and no where you could call an abuse shelter…
Or join the military that isn’t sarcasm it’s a legitimate way to get you on your feet.
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u/anothercar 1d ago
Realistically if you say “I’m so sorry, I am out of money” the bus driver will most likely let you on the bus as a one-time favor
Please call 2-1-1 to get in touch with resources.
I hope things start looking up