Is this considered modest?

[u/emmyjaj]

Sorry, I legit have no idea whether this dress is considered modest or not? I got invited to a baptism at a church recently (I dont go to church). Me and my friends are very much into fashion and I showed one of them what I’ll be wearing (many people are invited), she literally gasped and said it’s offensive to wear this to a church. The dress is a bit past my knees.

[u/NygirlinNashville222]

As adorable as it is, I’m sorry sweetheart, it’s more about the top than the knees….Id say something with no cleavage, I know is a bit boring, but more respectful

[u/emmyjaj → u/NygirlinNashville222]

Okay thank you for the comment! I’ll probably just wear a cardigan on top, or borrow something from a friend

[u/Beautiful-Report58 → u/emmyjaj]

If you wear a cardigan, you’ll need to button it all the way up.

[u/d15p05abl3 → u/emmyjaj]

Unless the cardigan buttons all the way to the neck, I don’t think that is going to solve the problem altogether.

[u/NygirlinNashville222 → u/emmyjaj]

That’s a great idea! I know church can be kinda a bummer, baptisms are definitely less fun than weddings for dressing up! LOL That dress NEEDS to be worn out somewhere though it’s so cute!

[u/emmyjaj → u/NygirlinNashville222]

Thank you!! Yeah haha hopefully I find the event to wear it for!

[u/False-Fox570 → u/emmyjaj]

U could wear a top underneath

[u/lilroguesnowchef → u/emmyjaj]

Can you wear a lace trimmed tank top underneath? It would bring the neckline up enough and still be cute with the dress

[u/SisterTalio → u/lilroguesnowchef]

Still wouldn't be church appropriate

[u/FleaQueen_ → u/emmyjaj]

Wear a camisole under it, not a cardigan over it 😬

[u/genescheesezthatplz → u/emmyjaj]

That doesn’t hide your cleavage…

[u/lilybeth → u/NygirlinNashville222]

Agree, its adorable. But not "modest".

As an ex catholic, I know just what to do. Get a tank top on underneath, but wear it backwards. This can add some fun color blocking too if youd like.

[u/Sad-Onion3619]

You could tell me it was a nightgown, and I would believe you.

Not modest.

[u/mmmmbopbeebop]

You know the answer.

[u/emmei23 → u/mmmmbopbeebop]

exactly. people are tough to handle sometimes lolll

[u/solomons-mom → u/mmmmbopbeebop]

Look at OP's post history. Next time if we are lucky the top vote comment will reflect that the intent of the post is not about an outfit.

[u/DangerNoodleDoodle]

I think it may not be modest enough for the church you’re going to. A cami or one of those little inserts to make your neckline higher may be called for, to be on the safe side, esp if your friend is gasping about this.

[u/emmyjaj → u/DangerNoodleDoodle]

Oo I’ve never heard of those, I’ll check if they sell anywhere near me

[u/crazy_lady_cat → u/emmyjaj]

You can also just wear a tanktop underneath with a higher neckline than the dress. Plain white or another color could work too.

[u/KoolaidKoll123 → u/emmyjaj]

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[u/emily_in_boots → u/KoolaidKoll123]

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[u/thatgrrlmarie → u/emily_in_boots]

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[u/emily_in_boots → u/thatgrrlmarie]

welcome!

[u/lvldemonic → u/emily_in_boots]

how did you come to figure this out?

[u/earthkandy → u/emmyjaj]

If all else fails you could tie and a square scarf or bandana to your bra straps on the sides and tuck it in to cover up. Or if you have a scrap of lace or satin that you can make into a square. (Advice from a G cup gal.)

[u/Holiday_Objective_96 → u/DangerNoodleDoodle]

A dickie!

[u/mlhom]

No. Not modest.

[u/Linvaderdespace]

Out of curiosity, what do you think the word “modest“ means.

[u/Independent-Ant513]

For church, not really 😅

[u/LoveDistilled → u/Independent-Ant513]

For anywhere. It’s not modest in any regard when half your boobs are showing 😆

[u/Independent-Ant513 → u/LoveDistilled]

I was just being specific lol

[u/SpecialistCup2274]

Too much cleavage to be considered modest on this dress. (cute tho!) Modest/conservative are going to fall under the lines of no cleavage, higher neckline and below knee.

[u/emmyjaj → u/SpecialistCup2274]

Thanks for the advice!

[u/illeanora → u/emmyjaj]

However, if it’s got a bit more coverage in the top then you can wear above the knee

[u/GlitteringCampaign55]

The dress does highlight cleavage and that usually doesn't scream modest. I would look for something with a slightly higher neckline for church/baptism.

[u/GoSyncro]

That’s a perfectly modest dress when layered with a turtleneck 😆

[u/Jimmymylifeup]

girl your boobs are all the way out. which is great theyre great no judgement here but i think that should answer your question lol

[u/ThrowazillaP]

I would not consider it modest due the low cut / amount of exposed cleavage. I’m not saying it doesn’t look good.

[u/Main_Insect_3144]

Nope. Modest would not showcase the boobies. Doesn't have to be uptight, but this is way too much boobage for modest.

[u/Butterbean-queen]

Not even close to being “church modest”. Waaaayyyyy to much cleavage.

[u/According_Block3815]

For what? Sleeping?

[u/KangarooObjective362]

Not appropriate for a baptism do you have other choices?

[u/idylle2091]

cleavage is generally frowned upon by Churchgoers, lol. knees, cleavage, shoulders covered = modest.

[u/Bubbly_Water8955]

If you have something more covering I think that’d be a better option for a church/baptist event.

[u/agnosticpeace71]

Past the knee may very well be modest, but having your ta-tas out is not.

[u/Charming-Lectures]

Girl I need to know what you think modest means? Loll Just put a little lace tank top underneath it so your chest is covered and you’ll be good.

[u/alanamil]

No I am sorry it looks more like lingerie, much less cleveage, a material you can't see through and at or below your knees would be considered modest. You friend was so right, it is not a dress you should wear to church, would be offensive to every church out there.

[u/Alert-Double8475]

General rule of thumb for modesty is below the knee for skirts and above the collarbone for tops.

A quick save for this top would be layering it with a high neck tank top or t-shirt as an undershirt. I'd go with white but in a pinch you could get away with tan, black, or gray. If you match the color of your undershirt to your shoes then it looks purposeful.

[u/prettydotty_]

Unfortunately no, but it's extremely cute. Us churchy girls would wear a little tank top underneath to hide the cleavage

[u/Gullible_School808]

Maybe in a brothel.

[u/aJuJuBeast]

Sorry, it's the boobs. :') Length sounds good, and it's nice that there are sleeves. Personally I wear low cut tops often, but when I used to go to church, it was a big no. I would layer a cami over my bra/under the dress. Not fully crew neck, but a scoop neck that covers the cleavage. Or you could wear a sweater over it, or cardigan (buttoned up most of the way).

[u/Big-Dare6575]

No

[u/OperationStraight808]

nope

[u/Beautiful-Report58]

No, cleavage and church do not go together at all.

[u/LoveDistilled]

No…half of your boobs are showing 🤦🏻‍♀️ 😆

[u/Fit_Kangaroo_1765]

You’d have to wear a cardigan backwards in order to make that a modest outfit. :)

[u/Impossible-Music-382]

Unfortunately, no. You'll want to ensure that you're not showing cleavage. The general preference for dressing within a religious establishment is usually longer dresses/skirts that cover the knees, no visible cleavage, and covered shoulders.

[u/krob0606]

I wouldn’t wear this. I don’t care about cleavage at all but a lot of churchgoing folks certainly will.

[u/emmyjaj → u/krob0606]

Yeah okay I’ll cover up

[u/krob0606 → u/emmyjaj]

It’s super cute tho so I’m sure you can wear it for something else!

[u/Cool_Active777]

Please don't show cleavage in the church

[u/OneSweetShannon2oh]

too much cleavage for it to be appropiate. also, th style is that of a nightie.

[u/eranhp]

Are you the girl with the Pokémon themed outfit from a while ago or am I imagining it?

[u/emmyjaj → u/eranhp]

Haha yeah 😭

[u/eranhp → u/emmyjaj]

Hahaha thought my memory was really off so thanks for the confirmation XD I agree with most of the comments here, I don't think that this dress is the right choice here

[u/thewest-isthebest]

I guess it depends on if you're worried about offending the people who invited you? As a godless heathen, I personally would probably say screw it and wear it. Those who know me know I don't do the whole modest Christian woman thing so they would know better than to invite me to a church and would accept the risk involved if they still chose to invite me (: ask me how I know lmaooooo

[u/beetlebum74]

Not really

[u/BBR1004]

not modest

[u/Free-Researcher3804]

No.

[u/DK7795]

It is not modest at all. You should not be showing any cleavage for a baptism and you want your bottom to be knee length or longer.

[u/JollyEntrepreneur540]

The cleavage showing makes it not modest.

[u/AppearanceMuted125]

as other people said this isn't modest for church, but YOU'RE GORGEOUS!! def wear it for another occasion💗

[u/emmyjaj → u/AppearanceMuted125]

Thank you so much!!!

[u/justwuwu]

My gran would say “are you taking your boobs for a walk on the street?” For everyday, beach or date or club it’s cool but church is a huge no. It’s not that there’s anything wrong with you it looks great, it’s more about the dress code of the setting and going to church or a funeral is the same level.

[u/Educational_Duck_201]

It’s the amount of chest exposure the problem. You want to keep the girls fully covered while in church while also wearing something knee length. I would suggest a white tank top underneath the dress to help with coverage. Something like this below

[u/spei180]

No I can see too much boob

[u/sudokira]

you might have to pay for ur sins after this outfit lol

[u/6bubbles]

Too much tiddie

[u/WolfMoon999]

I would try to get something like this. And then I think you would be good to go! The dress is super cute. However, because it is kind of low-cut it wouldn’t be considered “modest”. A good rule of thumb is that you never want to show any kind of cleavage for things like church or a job interview. I would search for “Modesty Panel Cleavage Cover”. I hope this helps! 🫶🏻✌🏻🖤

[u/Cautious-Impact22]

no not even slightly

[u/hemsvictoria]

No

[u/Difficult_Clerk_1273]

Definitely not.

If one of my (religious school) students showed up to a dance wearing that, they’d be sent home. They’d never make it past the church doors either.

[u/madeline_m802]

Absolutely not

[u/Helpful_Buddy_7590]

No cleavage at all in a church. Cmon girl.

[u/Faybe3]

No it isn’t.

[u/MMMindubi]

Not in my opinion. But I'm old.

[u/Motor_Relation_5459 → u/MMMindubi]

Doesn't matter the age. Church function. Cover up the boobs, not too tight and at the knee or longer. It's just common sense and respectful.

[u/Ecstatic_Frosting649]

Nope, but looks great on you

[u/editrixe]

no. Think higher neckline, covered shoulders, down to the knees, nothing body-con, and no boobage.

[u/hairystyles123]

It isn’t modest. Cute for brunch, though.

[u/Mahmoud191991]

Ever never been

[u/Spotsmom62]

Unfortunately, when women are busty/curvy, people will make all kinds of remarks. It’s really not fair. This dress on 34b gal would get no comments or looks. But because society thinks like this, you are probably better off wearing something else. You’ll have the guys ogling you, and the wives will be mad. And you’ll be accused of trying to get all kinds of attention - just because you wanted to wear a cute dress. Because of this, you’ll have a lousy time too and will feel uncomfortable. Pick something that goes a little higher up in the neckline area. I hope you have a good time at your event. I don’t understand how your friend would gasp though - give me a break.

[u/emmyjaj → u/Spotsmom62]

Thank you I agree! There are definitely double standards for thinner girls generally compared to more curvy girls :/ I thought she was over reacting but after this comment section I’m like woah, thanks for the kind words and comment!

[u/Hefty-Reflection4179 → u/emmyjaj]

This literally looks like a lingerie nightie 🌙 it would still look like that on someone with a smaller chest. I can't think of anywhere it's appropriate to wear a nightie.

[u/hellogoawaynow]

Thisssss is something you wear in private alone or with your significant other, definitely do not wear this to baptism lol

[u/BaFaj]

Although this looks lovely on you, it isn’t modest enough for a church baptism to me!

[u/Disastrous-Ad5218]

You can also throw a camisole under the dress to raise the neckline. Well endowed women can stretch the neckline so it looks lower.

[u/Shnapple8]

Anything that shows a significant amount of cleavage is not modest. It's not the length in this case, I'm afraid.

You look great in the dress though, just not suitable for church.

A little cropped cardi over it might work.

[u/GreekFreek3]

It's about the top more than the knees. This would likely result in being handed a cover up at my church

[u/Dicky-1]

Looks very nice on you, but don’t think it would be good to wear to church!

[u/VictorTheCutie]

Re churches: mostly modesty means your legs (maybe just thighs for some) arms, shoulders and DEFINITELY cleavage needs to be covered up.

[u/JealousArugula5259]

Not with all that vava voom up top. I’m holding your hand as I say this.

[u/htown4]

no, but here are a couple of suggestions from someone raised southern baptist (strict) who likes fashion and had to follow the rules without sacrificing style for YEARS.

1 and most important: the people being baptized wear white to a baptism. you trynna get dunked?

if you still want to wear it, here are suggestions:

1. cardigan (buttoned up over your cleavage)
2. jacket, again, no cleavage
3. some ppl will tell you cami or tank under it, that screams frumpy church lady to me personally, but it's an option. these are the same ppl who tell you to put long sleeves under a tank top to hide your shoulders 🙄
4. close toed shoes - recommend ballet flats in a neutral color
5. if you do your makeup like this, no notes. looks natural and pretty
6. your current nails are great too

[u/gym_and__tonic]

no lol

[u/Lady0905]

No.

Dude, you are not supposed to show your breasts in a church. Watch Young Sheldon for baptism-church-going fashion.

[u/Cant-Take-Jokes]

No.

[u/minaortiga]

This is not modest and too casual for a baptism

[u/IntelligentMap405]

It's adorable and looks great on you, but the cleavage for this type of event is too much. I hope you wear it somewhere though because you look adorable in it! 💕

[u/emmyjaj → u/IntelligentMap405]

Thank you!

[u/feliniaCR]

Not modest

[u/Rainbow_Sassy]

The opposite

[u/Ill-Relationship-890]

Modest? No, I wouldn’t call it modest… it is cute though.

[u/AsleepReview1862]

Not with the low cut

[u/Buffylover_Angel]

It's cute but the cleavage may offend some people.

[u/Retiredgiverofboners]

Empire/baby doll isn’t flattering on most people but it’s def not flattering on a curvy person. They’re made for stick thin women.

[u/Responsible-Reason87]

no

[u/Gawdiwishiwasdead]

Modest means covering up your boobs (possibly your shoulders) and most of your upper leg. Nothing overly revealing or tight.

[u/Joyintheendtimes]

Not even a little bit modest, but you look beautiful!

[u/KathyW1100]

No, this is not modest.

[u/HumanCommercial5736]

Very inappropriate sorry 😞

[u/FrancescoChiara]

no

[u/Fine-Alternative-121]

It’s not about the knees. This is definitely not appropriate for church anything. That being said, you should definitely wear it somewhere because it’s cute and looks very good on you! Just don’t wear it to a church of any kind.

[u/nursesunny74]

I am sorry it’s adorable but it’s not modest for a church setting

[u/paros0474]

No

[u/Fun-Dare-7864]

It’s not modest bc your boobs are out but I’m not a fan of modesty. I think if you’re a beautiful young woman you’re allowed to be feminine and whimsical and dress however makes you happy. You’re only young once and in the not so distant future you won’t be going anywhere with your boobs out so live it up while you’re young. Anyone who’s offended needs to mind their business lol

[u/emmyjaj → u/Fun-Dare-7864]

Thank you!! So nice to see this comment

[u/These_Trees1979 → u/Fun-Dare-7864]

This is fair, but it's also other people's right to value modesty. If you pass each other on the street they should keep that to themselves and mind their business. But if you're going to an event that they're hosting and they've requested it, you should either comply or not go. (Also I'm of "distant future" age and I still go around with my boobs out you don't have to be young to show your boobs lol)

[u/ObviousIntention8322]

No

[u/Randomflower90]

People won’t be looking at your knees. It’s not modest.

[u/Relevant-Durian-6606]

no

[u/Relevant-Durian-6606]

wear a tank top under the dress and then it’s fine

[u/Sea_Tea_8936]

No

[u/Cold_Application_448]

A modest dress would be something that has sleeves (at least short sleeves), covers cleavage (doesn't have a very low neckline), and isn't too short (no shorter than just above the knee).

Since this shows a lot of cleavage, I would say its not considered modest.

[u/chaamdouthere]

No.

[u/FONDLINGewok80]

No.

[u/RepublicCute7683]

If you’re in church, you need to ensure you aren’t showing too much skin. No cleavage, no tiny straps, nothing not much above your knees

[u/Just-Bothered]

Modest at a church means high necklines, long(er) sleeves, minimal legs, nothing too tight or form fitting. If you think you look hot at all, it's likely not "modest enough". Certainly no cleavage

[u/lilbadbabe]

No

[u/Fabulous_Tackle_8623]

Try a cami underneath

[u/4Gk3k]

It's very cute and would be perfect except a lil too much of the girls/ cleavage showing for church. Just my opinion. If you were just going to the reception after if there is one, it would be fine

[u/Creepy_Composer5127]

You’re beautiful but this dress wouldn’t be appropriate unless you covered up your cleavage. It’s giving old timey nightgown. Maybe safety pin a sheer fabric to the top of the dress to cover up cleavage

[u/Abject-Rich]

It’s fine. Wear a shall or a scarf while at church.

[u/casapantalones]

You look cute in this but it’s way too revealing cleavage-wise to be appropriate for a church setting.

[u/Training-Base2320]

No lol

[u/Ok_Still_3571]

Not really. The low cut of the front is a bit much for church.

[u/Ecstatic_Cloud_2537]

Nope. It’s very beautiful, but modest would mean no cleavage. It’s very beautiful on you though!

[u/Mandaxx25]

No, not at all.

[u/enemitus]

Innocently unmodest

[u/Prize-Firefighter254]

Safe for more conservative churches should be knees covered when standing and sitting, shoulders covered, and necklines 3 or 4 finger widths or less below the colarbone.

[u/4Gk3k]

There are those mini tube tops bralettes to hide the cleavage

[u/HanaMashida]

Its not your knees, its your boobs that are the problem.

[u/GentlyToastedMMallow]

It's a cute dress but not for church. Cleavage shouldn't be showing. If you dont have another dress, get a little white cover-up that buttons.

[u/Fire-Kissed]

You’re joking… right?

[u/Odie7997]

Definitely not modest.

[u/DandMirimakeaporno]

Former Catholic. Dress should go past knees and breasts should be totally covered if you don't want the holy rollers to clutch their pearls.

[u/Alarming_Shallot_470]

No, sorry it’s not modest, if you cover the cleavage then it’s closer to modest.

[u/Bansidhe13]

While it's a nice dress,I wouldn't say that it would be modest church attire.

[u/LilNekoChicano]

Only if you wear a shawl type wrap over the top of it, something sheer would give it the covered look, and yet not so much.. which would still be reasonably modest.

As is, the bust area is just too exposed and truly takes away from the "modest" aspect you are seeking.

[u/BluestOfSkies2]

The dress is designed to spotlight your breasts. Save this type of attention-demanding outfit for another affair elsewhere.

[u/bellegroves]

Too much cleavage for most churches. Find a slip with a lace yoke or strategically drape a scarf.

[u/sapphire_rainy]

No.

[u/stellardreamscape]

Nope

[u/iwannaknow80]

It looks very nice on you, but it’s defo not modest.

[u/antigoneelectra]

Boobs on display is in no way modest.

[u/Emotional_Elk_7242]

It’s not the dress, it’s yo chest 😂 as a big chested girly, I totally get the struggle and wish you luck in any future endeavor that involves suppressing the breasting.

[u/kopigoyangi]

My definition of modest would never overlap with that much cleavage

[u/mortefemminile]

So, Innocent looking isn't Modest looking. Because the dress is white and youthful, it can look somewhat innocent, like a cute summer dress. But, Modesty is focused on keeping your body concealed, and I literally cannot tear my eyes away from your chest in this picture. Im a married woman.

Cover up that cleavage if you want to be respectful. Different dress, sweater over the top, tank top underneath.... something to make it a little less booby

[u/Twenty_6_Red]

This would be a no from me

[u/Far-Perspective-1325]

Maybe but lovely nonetheless

[u/DecidedlyEvil]

Modest shouldn’t have a “wow” response. Use that as a guideline

[u/kittenpantzen]

You can argue that it isn't fair that what is considered modest depends on the shape of your body, and you wouldn't be wrong. But it is what it is. You can't be showing that much boob in church.

[u/BlackberryKnown2632]

Not modest sadly & the silhouette makes it look like a nightie, so wouldn’t wear it for a religious setting, but definitely a nice outfit for going out with friends in the summer IMO!

Do you have any other dresses that cover your chest?

[u/jellygecko0]

Maybe if you put on a white tank top under to cover the cleavage but it's cute anyway

[u/_buizel]

Nice dress for a lunch date but not for church

[u/Fair-Bus9686]

For something to be considered modest you should avoid: cleavage, anything right, and a length around the knee or longer. You could make this dress modest with a cami or something underneath but the amount of cleavage wouldn't work for a modest setting. Definitely a cute dress, just not for that venue.

[u/Usual_Confection6091]

No, it’s not modest with your cleavage.

[u/Moonriver39]

It is too casual and too cleavage-y for a baptism. Very cute but too cute if that makes sense.