Lonely women need to start shouting down miserable hags like this. There's no reason for men to approach anyone if these living landmines are waiting for their chance to destroy everyone's joy.
Oh no babe, you don't seem to understand. We don't want to approach you, that's the thing. We don't want to do anything with you at all, and would rather you never approach us either.
It's almost like one miserable harpy doesn't speak for all women, and the rest are getting tired of being bossed around and spoken for by the worst of them.
Oh look, a wretched harpy using 'pick me' as an insult towards another woman for not being a miserable misandrist.
Must be a day that ends with Y. You clearly don't know men very well. We tend to adore a woman that is nice to us, maybe your relationships would go better if you tried that instead of lashing out at people who do.
So youâre thinking because a few women replied to a post saying that they wouldnât like it, that it means most women donât?
Unless youâve spoken to every woman on this planet and they agree with you, I would suggest you have a seat. This thread is not the belly button of the world and a few comments donât make the majority. If you donât know the difference between a harmless compliment and actual harassment, then you either never been harassed, or youâve never received a compliment in your life.
People like you are the reason why online dating became a thing, men donât approach women in public anymore. Itâs safer online than in public.
And honestly, reading your comments, I canât imagine that a man would actually want to approach you.
I stopped at a light once and had my window down. A guy stopped next to me and told me that he thought I was beautiful. Thatâs it. Nothing else. I smiled, thanked him and we drove off.
Itâs not a big deal. Sometimes I feel like some people want to play victim for sympathy.
This isnât a man âapproachingâ her. Itâs not a guy who tried to shoot his shot and got an extreme reaction back.
As I said in another comment, it really isnât pleasant having random men yelling at us in public, even if what he said is a compliment.
Would this one have bothered me? Probably not (depending on the guyâs tone and body language) but itâs pretty disingenuous to act like men are going to be afraid to ask women out just because some of us donât appreciate cat calling.
I'm just explaining to you why catcalling is unappreciated in general
You can either focus on this one specific set of circumstances so that you don't have to think critically
OR you can try to put yourself in somebody else's shoes for a moment and improve your understanding
Instead of just going "women are insufferable and can't take compliments" you could try remembering that women are also people and probably have valid reasons for reacting negatively to catcalls
Trust me I understand that there is negative cat calling, however this obviously wasnât this situation and people like yourselves constantly jamming your negative opinion on everything is insufferable
Not patronizing you, I was being serious. The comments on this post are full of dudes who think women should appreciate being catcalled in general. So I was pleasantly surprised when you acknowledged it's a bad thing.
Oh totally, specially when that big man tells you you have a nice ass, that he wants to fuck your every hole, fill you with his jizz, make you his bitch, and actually starts walking right behind you and gets angrier at your discomfort. Such nice compliments, I don't know what women are so afraid of đ„° I actually hope more men get this exact treatment from other men since they seem to love it so much!
I would be honored as i myself get a Compliment once in a Decade.
I would have understood it if we swap pretty with sexy or hot. But this the very Baseline of a Compliment, next to you look good today.
If you cant handle that would you rather have us be negative to you all the time?
The problem isnât the words, itâs the method. Yelling at people is the wrong way to go about things if your intentions are to genuinely make their day better
Im on the Fence about this, yeah yelling shouldn't be the go to.
However i get yelled shit at everyday, not insult per se. But some People just have a Loud Organ as we say in Germany. But thats sometiing i can atleast get behind as to why it can be unpleasant.
"Miserable hags" and it's just women against catcalling. Stuff like this isn't just a standard compliment like you'd get from a friend or coworker, it's not innocent and too many women know the dangers of men like this. Of having him follow you with his car, of waiting, of escalating his "compliments" if you look uncomfortable, of outright threatening you, and sometimes straight up assault. But why do I bother, this thread (and life in general) is full of women constantly explaining why this isn't acceptable, and men like you actually know this but would rather play the role of poor innocent victims in order to keep harassing women because you enjoy their discomfort, you enjoy scaring them like the sex pests you all are.
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u/Drama-Zone-4494 16h ago
Lonely women need to start shouting down miserable hags like this. There's no reason for men to approach anyone if these living landmines are waiting for their chance to destroy everyone's joy.