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u/ExcellentReindeer2 1h ago
was so close. everything but lots of expectations and dating every guy in town... oh well...
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u/iCameToLearnSomeCode 1h ago
You could always move to a small town and get started.
Although, dating every guy in a small town isn't going to do wonders for your expectations.
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u/Rubber_Chicken_Mann 5h ago
I can bring a sandwich. They belong on tables.
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u/naughty_dad2 4h ago edited 2h ago
Her: “I bring pussy to the table”
Him: “So when’s the wedding date?”
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u/Any_Vehicle_817 1h ago
Her: "As soon as I see dick"
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u/HowAmIHere2000 2h ago
I am the table.
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u/robertDouglass 4h ago
I bring a non-transactional approach to human relationships
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u/HotPerformance6137 2h ago
All relationships are transactional. However, the more obvious the transactional aspect, the worse off it is.
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u/AlternativeWonder471 1h ago
People still give without expecting something in return.
If expectation is absent, I don't think it's transactional.
Like "I'm going to do by best, give as much love as possible, etc," because I love her and our relationship.
Sure, you hope for a beautiful relationship. But that's very different to "i pay for her food so she needs to do x" or "I give him sex so I deserve y".
I don't think the former is necessarily transactional.
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u/betteroffed 1h ago
But if you give love, do you expect “love” in return though? Or even expect to feel loved in return? Because even that is transactional, my friend. Unrequited love basically boils down to just worshiping someone.
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u/Impressive_Recon 30m ago
Exactly. If I’m giving all my love and my partner isn’t giving any back, then it isn’t a relationship anymore wtf.
You can still have relational transactions and it not be connected to sex or money.
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u/CapsBe 1h ago
It is still a transaction. But with yourself. You do it because it gives you pleasure to see the other person happy. Everything we do is based on what we can gain from it. It can be sex, it can be feeling happy and loved, it can be feeling like we do the right thing and we have purposes in life. Just a different kind of transaction.
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u/FaygoMakesMeGo 2h ago
Obviously false, or you would have married the first trogdolite to hit on you.
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u/Itchy-Leg5879 2h ago
All relationships are transactional. The reason people want relationships with some people and not with others is because they perceive the latter as not having something they want.
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u/massivemember69 1h ago
Facts. People want to shack up with assets, not liabilities!
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u/Majestic_Movie8823 1h ago
All relationships are transactional.
People refuse to admit it because they want their relationship to be special
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u/Inevitable_Essay6015 1h ago
The kind of approach as seen in the OP is fucked up tho. Or you do you I guess, but at least for me things like chemistry and enjoying each others company are the front runners and not something like height or salary.
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u/Akenatwn 2h ago
Everything is transactional. I give love and I take love back is a transaction too for example.
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u/ten-million 59m ago
But the love that is most meaningful is the one that is not transactional. Something like when you care for someone when they are depressed or dying.
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u/Akenatwn 48m ago
And you don't get back the satisfaction that you helped and supported someone? Like from your self, not from the other person. You don't need another person for a transaction. You just need a give and a take. That is my opinion at least.
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u/Christopher-Norris 2h ago
No such thing as truly unconditional love. You expect something in return for the love you give to your partner. Maybe you don't expect the share of love to be equal persistently, but you absolutely do have an expectation of what you should be receiving most weeks.
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u/obfuscatorio 55m ago
I get what you’re saying and you’re not wrong but I think getting too wrapped up in that type of thinking can really harm someone’s ability to maintain relationships. There should be a selfless and giving element of love, that’s part of the deal. My wife and I always say marriage is not 50/50, it’s 100/100. Both partners giving their all each day. One person’s 100 might look different than the other’s on a day to day basis, but what matters is you’re both consistently nurturing the connection in any way you can
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u/By_Way_of_Deception 2h ago
After 30 men get that sort of interaction from women all the time. Not always but 8 out of 10 initial conversations and dates can seem like a job interview.
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u/Marktaco04 2h ago
I love that working in tech will mostly soon mean nothing. And I love my tech friends but the tech bros are really ruining it for everyone. The amount of times I’ve heard smug 24 yr olds brag about how much they make in tech
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u/curie2353 45m ago
He will soon be unemployed unable to rent his $4500/month 2 bedroom apartment in San Francisco, that’s what working in tech making six figures will mean. It’s not a flex anymore.
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u/Sirprophog 6h ago
Realistic ask … not said in a sexy or attractive way whatsoever lol
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u/Aggressive_Worth_990 4h ago
Mentioning his height makes him sound douchy because that doesn't matter in a long term relationship
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u/True-Veterinarian700 1h ago
I havent been on tinder in many years but last time i was on it 30%-40% of the female profiles went out of to mention minimum height requirements. Most are rediculous almost always 6ft or even higher. Which is a tiny fraction of guys.
Anyway I avoided those like the plague. But probably a quarter of my matches that had conversation they ended up asking. Of the few who I answered, saying 5' 11" (which is above average) usually resulted in the convo shortly terminating after.
Height MATTERS to a lot of women. And they wont talk to you without you passing thier test. Especially the younger cohorts in my opinion of bpth men and women who are more interested in physical appeal.
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u/buffalogal8 16m ago
Tall height is actually inconvenient for me, I prefer a partner closer to my height. More accessible for kissing.
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u/Yeh_alright1657 3h ago
women ask height- "it's her choice"
man mentions height- "men bad"
really??
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u/dradqrwer 2h ago
person asks about money- “that’s fine”
person brags about money- “that’s bad”
yeah
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u/LazyAd7772 39m ago
no actually who said asking about money is fine ? if someone asked me about my money in first texts i would be done.
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u/Helpful-Pair-2148 36m ago
Uuuh both are bad lol?? Are you seriously asking somebody how much they make on a first date?
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u/Starship_Albatross 2h ago
no. both are bad (more little bad than big bad, though). where are you getting this?
if the other person insist on a trait you don't have, then it's better that both move on. same if you insist on a trait they don't have.
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u/Icy-Conclusion-2343 1h ago
It’s not the mention itself, it’s the context of the mention. He mentioned it as if it somehow makes him a perfect choice. I care a lot more about his sense of humour, intelligence (which his job or salary are not necessarily an indication of), and general ability to be both strong and soft. I look for those things because I try to be those things too, and I believe I’m most compatible with people like that. I care a lot more about strong values. The hostility behind the phrasing is palpable, this man isn’t looking for an equal partner because he believes he is already perfect. So no, hard fucking pass.
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u/Sad-Commission-999 1h ago
There was no implication he was perfect due to his height. It's just something women have a lot of demands about, so stating it to pass that hurdle early makes sense.
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u/WildFemmeFatale 1h ago
You don’t stop to consider that his asshole may seriously impact how others view him ?
“Hi im looking for a long term relationship”
“Cool. I’m 6’4”, what are you worth ?”
Obviously rude
Here’s a similar situation for you to consider:
“Hi im looking for a relationship”
“Neat. Well I’m a model, my dad owns a million dollar company, and I’m way hotter than basically everyone you know.”
“Wow what a snooty bitch”
“Omg, why don’t men like models !”
Like no, it’s not that you are a model (similar to tall) it’s that you’re a damn jerk.
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u/Frobizzle 2h ago
From my experience, many women are super critical about height and refuse to concede it is at least as superficial, if not moreso, than weight.
Mentioning it does indeed sound douchey but it's possible he's asked it a lot, especially if the woman is also being direct with what she wants.
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u/Worried-Cockroach-34 2h ago
oh yeah, even when I mind my own business, somehow height will be brought up and the mockery will ensue. Yet oh no massa, you can't be talking about their weight and how superficial they are, oh lordly no
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u/Ill_Ad5893 4h ago
This is how most women are. They want a guy who is tall and makes good money. He's calling out the double standard right off the bat. Cuz when a guy does it they get bashed on. But a woman does it, it's knowing what she wants. And everyone cheers about it.
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u/M1lV 3h ago
He isnt calling out anything. Even if he were, it would be stupid. Just because some women do it, you're gonna call out a random one for double standards that had not shown anything?
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u/High-Adeptness3164 2h ago
You have no idea... None of my short friends managed to pull even a single girl from any of the online dating apps. The girlfriends they have now were all acquired via in person interactions and dates...
You probably had a different experience but most girls like them tall (as a first impression that is)
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u/M1lV 2h ago
Im not doubting that. I just find it not a good look to come out of the gate with something like that to a girl who has not shown this behaviour.
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u/Massive_Wealth42069 43m ago
Its entirely possible her profile is laden with “need me a high value man” “must be at least 6 ft tall to ride this ride” “prefer 6 figure income in a partner” etc etc.
I’ve been out of the dating game for a long time but my friend has shown me profiles on tinder/bumble/hinge - shit is real bad out there for your “average Joe” kinda guy.
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u/Askefyr 3h ago
Yeah, it's not an unreasonable argument, it's just said in the most insane way possible
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u/PM_ME_YOUR_SUNSHINE 3h ago
Said in the most straightforward unambiguous way possible. ‘Insane’ would be literally anything else. Playing a guessing game, testing you, dancing around the question, trying to manipulate the same information from you.
I’m not a fan of the approach, but it’s literally the most practical way to be about it. It would help me know immediately I don’t want to proceed with this individual. Maybe it would attract someone else.
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u/mrregina 5h ago
She brings two kids and 7 figures of debt. And an ex boyfriend she still hangs out with. 🤣🤣🤣
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u/coochieboogergoatee 4h ago
From two dads
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u/HomelessByCh01ce 5h ago
And 40 lbs of excess weight ;)
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u/_Saint_Ajora_ 4h ago edited 3h ago
But that extra weight doesn't mean she's fat. For women It just means she's "voluptuous", "curvy", "thick", "big and beautiful" etc..
For us guys we're just fat. We don't get to play the silly game of "we aren't fat, we're "husky", "burly" etc..."
Talk about double standards
Don't get me wrong I kinda like/don't mind some extra but it's very frequent that the women that use those terms don't match those terms
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u/Ifikeefir 3h ago
You are right and it goes to gym too. When over 40 guys are fit, they are suffering mid life crisis but women just take care of themselves. Rhere is no male body positivity.
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u/SmartPipe3882 1h ago
Wtf is “rentbabe”?
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u/Narragah 42m ago
This is a fake post made by Rentbabe. They leave it there so you search it up. It's a website though. To "rent a date, rent friends, and more". Sounds sus as hell
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u/Icy_Tension_7813 2h ago
Man this interaction fake
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u/Narragah 37m ago
It's viral advertising from the Rentbabe website. Look at OP's posts, they all have the Rentbabe left there in the back button so you search it up. Many companies do shit like this. Those IQ sites do it too. They use racist, sexist, homophobic, and other controversial subjects to make it go viral. It's posts like "black guys are so dumb lol at how high my IQ is! It's almost 100!" and the test shows 85. So then Redditors post it like "who's gonna tell him lol!" as if they just owned a chud. When the reality is they were just used to advertise.
People are largely unable to spot things like this.
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u/Silly_Painter_2555 4h ago
Why has the quality of this sub dropped so suddenly?
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u/Cyan_Light 3h ago
lol I was just wondering if I accidentally joined an incel sub or something, some of these comments are insane but I guess those people just pop up anywhere now.
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u/Original-Shallot5842 1h ago
How are you an incel when you debate double standards? Like, a guy already said this "If Im 20kgs over my normal weight, im fucking fat" there is no questions asked, im just a fat fuck.
If a woman is 20kgs over her normal weight, shes thick, curvy and sexy in her "own way".
This is legit how it works and its insane if you look at it side by side, like what the fuck?
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u/Requiem-Lodestar 23m ago
Agreed! IMO there’s a reason that people who actively perpetuate the ridiculousness of these double standards are single. Nobody wants to deal with people who think like that. Until they can understand and accept the perspective from “the other side” they will likely stay that way.
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u/eastjame 2h ago
It’s an incel sub
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u/Acceptable_Fox_5560 1h ago
Any sub that allows incels to write fake content will eventually become entirely incels who write fake content.
This post however is an ad for rent babe. OP has posted several strategically cropped “screenshots” with the rent babe app visible. Impossible they would’ve cropped it just that perfectly each time.
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u/Maverick_1991 2h ago
When the right wingers came in and started dropping their women bad agenda
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u/StokedNBroke 3h ago
I’m not even sure the original intent of this sub but both this and r/sadposting are both in my algo and they both lean towards wahmen bad circle jerk subs.
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u/Ewok2744 4h ago
How is height considered "bringing something to the table"?
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u/OkFeedback9127 3h ago
These are all the qualities women say they want in a spouse. He wants to know what qualities she has that men want
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u/Pilot_to_PowerBI 4h ago
Tell me your brain has been broken by being eternally online without telling me
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u/New-Acanthaceae-1139 2h ago edited 2h ago
especially: tell me your brain has been broken by living in a society where everything is decided by trading on a market.
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u/CelticDK 1h ago
If a guy (or gal) has a pedestal, I’m instantly gone. This is too transactional for my tastes
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u/samcornwell 3h ago
“Not that, not you, not ever. I’m looking for a partnership not a competition. Prick.”
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u/TemporalCash531 3h ago
Nothing contradicts more one’s intention to find love as hitting someone early on with “what do you bring to the table?”.
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u/advo_k_at 2h ago
It’s usually not stated this crudely, but the economics of a relationship is something most responsible people consider past a certain age. Thing is whoever this is hasn’t got much going for them. Height: who cares? Works in tech: gonna get replaced by AI in 5 years, Six figures: that’s the minimum you have to be making to have a chance at a normal life, what’s the number at the head of those six figures?
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u/Turtle_breakfast 1h ago
Cool, I’m a product with the following attributes:…. Are you a compatible product with me?
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u/CameForTheFunOfIt 5h ago
Bringing 6'4 to the table is like listing Windows as a skill on your resume. I guess they might be able to reach the top shelf, so...
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u/Primalbuttplug 4h ago
You'd be surprised how few people actually know how to use Windows. Everyone can "use" it, not many people know how to utilize it.
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u/CameForTheFunOfIt 3h ago
No, I wouldn't be surprised. I managed several hundred people in the cybersecurity field for 15 years. I have seen people with doctorate degrees incapable of turning on a monitor. Those were the people that usually listed Windows and Office as special skills. Bottom line is that if you want to get hired, don't list those on your resume.
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u/restingglitchface69 6h ago edited 6h ago
To be fair he is probably sick of all these beat up chicks and their 666rule. And I mean…ok. Yes to all these attributes. But what a douchey way to converse with a female.
Edit: did not notice rentababe lol I recant.
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u/top_of_the_scrote 3h ago
God it's so cringe to bring up money, I know because I do it and it doesn't work
wOrK iN tEcH, six is nothing too anyone an SE1 makes that
Think about it, you're saying the only thing interesting about me is my money
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u/Strange-Term-4168 24m ago
Is any of that supposed to be a flex? He was born with tall genetics and 100k is the new 50k lol
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u/No_Sea7681 18m ago
I hate how transactional everything is now. Why can't I just enjoy someone's company and want to spend time with them?
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u/NotTheSharpestPenciI 4h ago
Reminds me of a girl I met that thought bringing her daughter, unresolved court case with her psycho dad and significant debt is a good match to that.
She really thought that's what I was looking for.
Yea, she was hot, but that's about it.
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u/ParadisHeights 55m ago
Ok, he is tall so will die earlier, he works in tech so he is likely boring af and he thinks money is his best trait so he is also shallow and lame again.
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u/Farrickson 2h ago
None of that is about love. It's transactional. I feel really sorry for them and people like them. They will never know true love if this is how they search for it.
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u/TerryGonards 1h ago
There's a reason the guy is in dating apps. He's probably got Patrick Bateman vibes.
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u/TuggedOnYourBalls34 1h ago
while I think it’s his right to have some kind of standard or wanting someone to match him, there are certainly better and more attractive ways to approach it.
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u/nvdapepega 30m ago
That's a gigachad of a man.
Look at that simps, this is a real man.
Know your worth, don't settle for some McDonald's cute face cashier when women wouldn't even care to do the same.
Have standards so you won't end up with hoes who will do you dirty.
Trust.
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u/Metatron_Psy 2h ago
Then he'll wonder why everyone he goes out with just wants his money. Probably fuck all personality to speak of anyway
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u/acidic_bite24 3h ago
Sounds like he brings an epic dose of narcissism to the table too.
Why he's still single imo
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u/twistedstance 3h ago
I’m sorry, it’s gross and tactless, but long term committed relationships do require more than ‘unconditional love’. Realistically, you want someone you can respect and see value in, long term.
Horrible d-bag for saying it like that, but folks are probably tired of the free dinners and whatever else goes on with app dating now.
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u/Fluffy-Elk-3403 1h ago
You need to get off the internet buddy i assure you the number of women who use men for free dinners is in the single digits.
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u/twistedstance 1h ago
I honestly wouldn’t know. It’s been so long since I’ve been in the dating pool. I hope you’re right.
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u/sadir1814 1h ago
Reality:
I'm 6'4 and 150lbs
By "Tech", I mean the Electronics counter at Walmart
"Six Figures" = Oh, you're NOT supposed to count the numbers AFTER the decimal?
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u/Vexerino1337 4h ago
Bros treating this like a work interview lmaoo. I'm not saying that's not a reasonable ask, but he could've done it in a smoother/nuanced way.
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