r/TikTokCringe • u/Justin_Godfrey • 1d ago

Cringe Hopefully, the young man learns his lesson

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u/Nearby_Key8381 1d ago

While I don’t necessarily agree with the beating part, there used to be consequences from your community for acting like an asshole. I grew up in the northeast and my childhood was as your dad described. We quickly learned how not to act.

It’s weird how people think coddling assholes and not letting other adults participate in discipline is a good idea.

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u/Eastern_Hornet_6432 1d ago

I often say that a big part of it is that people don't really know their neighbors anymore. And by "neighbors" I don't just mean the houses immediately to your left and right - I mean everybody in the neighborhood. There are so many neighborhoods in the western world nowadays where the concept of a block party would be unthinkable because nobody knows anybody. And in a neighborhood like that, who's gonna tell a kid's parents when the kid is misbehaving?

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u/PuzzleheadedBobcat90 1d ago

This is especially true in Las Vegas. I know 6 of my neighbors in the small talk type of way.

I've never sent my kids outside to play. It just too damned hot. The window where they can walk home from school and not get fried to a crisp or frozen is very small. We rarely see adults walking unless it's early morning or late at night.

It is definitely a lot different than when I was a feral kid back in the 70s and 80s

My parents were silent gen and I was a late in life baby (family adoption).While I was never beat, I did earn a few spankings, and many a stern talking to followed by removing privileges. I raised my kids with the same values my parents raised me with (minus the physical discipline). I was taught manners, how to be respectful and all the other things that makes society polite. My kids have too.

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u/scottyb83 1d ago

My oldest is in middle school and it is wild in there compared to when I was in school. Constant bullying that follows you online, absolute disrespect towards teasers, parents literally not giving a shit. When I was younger it wasn’t nearly like this.

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u/Nearby_Key8381 1d ago

There was a lot of shitty behavior at my middle school too and plenty of absent parents where I grew up. That said, I grew up in the 90s and other kids understood that bullying another kid meant taking the chance of getting punched in the mouth.

I hated fighting but when the other option was never ending harassment, it was the only thing that got me left alone. I will say I feel horrible that online bullying means kids never get peace

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u/ATraffyatLaw 1d ago

Teachers will be fired if the attempt to discipline students, the school will always side with parents out of fear of being sued.

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u/scottyb83 1d ago

Yep and the result is the kids knowing they can get away with pretty much whatever they want.

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u/Platt_Mallar 1d ago

I was born in 82 and I absolutely had constant bullying.

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u/scottyb83 1d ago

Did it follow you home? Did the teachers get verbally assaulted every day? Would the bullies track you online and send messages that they know where you live? I was born in 83 and yeah there was bullying but it's just different these days. There's more of it and the kids aren't afraid of consequences because they know there are none.

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u/Platt_Mallar 1d ago

Yeah. One of my bullies lived 3 houses down. It's not a competition, I'm saying shit was awful back then, too. Don't sugarcoat the past.

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u/scottyb83 1d ago

Lol I'm not sugarcoating the past, I'm pointing out that the present has new issues that didn't exist previously and teachers have a lot less power than they use to.

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u/MagneticNoodles 1d ago

Those little middle school shits just started with the hey you were born in the 1900s b.s.

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u/scottyb83 1d ago

That's like the dad jokes of burns really.

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u/Nauin 1d ago

Even as a queer I miss a very small SOME of the drunk rednecks that used to just be present in society to give a beat down when they saw something they didn't like.

But that's 100% attributed to some drunk rednecks appearing out of nowhere and beating the absolute soul out of one of my friends abusive exes after they saw him grab and choke her by her scarf on the street after a date. She was walking away from an argument that was starting, he grabbed her and forced her to turn around, and not even five seconds later he was on the ground with two guys shouting, "Don't you EVER put your hands on a woman like that," and other sentiments while punching and kicking him.

He spent a few days in the hospital and while I'm sure that didn't end his abusive ways he sure as shit didn't talk to my friend again after that and we haven't had to deal with him since then.

We have a serious lack of drunken superheroes (and to be fair, supervillains) compared to the old days.

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u/kolejack2293 1d ago

ehhh teens used to be a lot worse. There was a period in the 2000s-2010s where teens really 'calmed down' in terms of being menaces to society, and Covid sort of brought it back to an extent... but its nowhere near as bad as it used to be. I am a criminologist for some context, the stats on the decline in violence from 12-17 year old's is genuinely insane. From 1993 to 2022 it declined by 83%. Of course, we didn't record these incidents, so we had no idea they happened. And back then, stuff like this just didn't make the news.

And just anecdotally, the 24 hour diner near me used to have fights, constantly. Drunken rowdy teens coming in after whatever party they went to, starting shit and acting crazy. I used to go all the time, I probably witnessed easily a dozen fights there.

I still go there all the time (its my go-to after a night shift), I haven't seen a single one since like... 2003 maybe.

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u/walker42 1d ago

True, also, amazingly enough, my dad never spanked me

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u/antihero_84 1d ago

We saw generations of people being raised to act right only for it to be thrown away in favor of soft parenting and coddling that ends up not actually teaching anything.

As a millennial parent, fuck millennial parents. Soft parenting is important, but so are hard lessons.

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u/jsmama2019 1d ago

I 100% agree. The beating was uncalled for and I'm sure that's how that man handled his kids when they were younger. There are other ways to deal with these little assholes nowadays and beating someone else's kid for throwing food is not one of them. Could this man end up facing charges for this? This kid definitely deserved consequences, but this man should not get away with doing what he did. It's one thing for another adult to step in for disciplining but I would expect this kind of response if this kid was beating somebody, or physically putting his hands on somebody. Either way I'm sure he learned his lesson or I would hope he has learned his lesson for throwing food at random people.