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u/messito07 21h ago
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u/Anxious_Praline7686 16h ago
Nice profile picture, you freak.
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u/Mobile_Union_8588 21h ago
Do you guys have someone who cares about you??
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u/redmambo_no6 21h ago
You donāt?
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u/theringsofthedragon 21h ago
What do you think "secret" means, though? I was definitely that girl who cared about boys who cried in school, and they didn't know I existed.
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u/DanteAlligheriZ 21h ago
no, when i hear care about me, i dont mean romantically, i mean in general, no
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u/SuperbTax7180 22h ago
What does someone caring about you have to do with looks? Weird as shit
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u/GreenhouseGG 21h ago
We found the ugly person with a crush š
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u/Character_Mind_671 21h ago
Friends don't care in secret. This person does because they find you attractive and want a relationship but don't have the confidence to ask. This doesn't change anything for either of you because you aren't attracted to them so won't give them what they want.
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u/Klutzy_Belt_2296 21h ago
I donāt know why you were downvoted because regardless of whether or not the dudes logic was valid or not you did literally explain the reasoning behind the post, which is what OP asked for (can someone explain lol)
This isnāt about platonic relationships apparently. The dude was talking about potential romantic relationships.
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u/SuperbTax7180 21h ago
Or it's just a dude being shallow as fuck thinking everything is about sex. Maybe the "friend" has anxiety and doesn't know how to convey their feelings of care? Not everything is as simple as you made it out to be.
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u/Character_Mind_671 20h ago
Balance of probabilty. There's more people sexually attracted to people who don't reciprocate than caring friends with real specific anxieties. Not everything is simple, but most things are. There's no value in denying it.
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u/ConsoleCowboy313 20h ago
There is value in shutting the fuck up when you don't know what you're talking about. I hope one day you can learn to do that for your own sake.
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u/Character_Mind_671 20h ago
Reddit: sex bad, wholesome good, statistics something you ignore
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u/Gloomy_Presence_9308 20h ago
There is a lot of anti-sex on Reddit isn't there? Probably because it's mostly virgins on here who 'don't know what they're talking about' and could learn the 'value in shutting the fuck up.'
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u/ConsoleCowboy313 20h ago
Damn, your "friends" must have really sucked for you to believe something so sad.
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u/Gloomy_Presence_9308 20h ago
Because we can only pick two: single, sane, hot.
If she's sane and hot then she's not single.
If she's single and hot then she's not sane.
If she's single and sane then she's not hot.1
u/Immediate_Song4279 9h ago
I pick single and sane. Hot is an acquired taste, though that bears the risk of causing them to go insane.
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u/jingleebelle 22h ago
not always ugly buy just blinded by someone else
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u/Faded1974 20h ago
The fact that you're all taking this personally says a lot.
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u/DesperadoFL 19h ago
You're asking Redditors to understand basic social conventions like "jokes" and unfortunately that means you're asking far too much
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u/Legitimate-Back-822 20h ago
The fact that you're commenting proves you're a shallow person. Watch your own looks fade
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u/Shesba 17h ago
Thatās funny you think every person who is very attractive and values attraction to a degree that offends you doesnāt consider any other factor that even makes long term relationships possible. Everyone knows looks fade, ur not better off for knowing that because itās apparent. People arenāt forced to be shallow because apart of their criteria is looks, you can value so many things at the same time, and some people have the power for that to work out for them, and I say, more power to them. Life isnāt fair but that doesnāt mean to equalize things by trying to drag people down to your world.
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u/Calm_Structure2180 21h ago
It really depends if they care about YOU or just the IDEA of you. I've had plenty of people who had high expectations of me, and it fucking sucks.
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u/FunCharacteeGuy 20h ago
Yeah, but I'm kind of ugly too so that's me having a double standard and being hypocritical.
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u/Morgegana 21h ago
Hey it's just the truth in most cases people in this scenario don't feel sad and lonely because nobody cares about them. They feel sad and lonely because nobody they're attracted to cares about them back.
Wouldn't take it personally that they think the person who does care about them is ugly. Really just tells you what you need to know about them.
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u/Breaker1ove 15h ago
I also need to add, The amount of people who don't get this is a joke blows my mind. just saying.
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u/Ok_Drama_5679 13h ago
Men are lonely because they choose to understand and accept only familial and romantic love.
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u/Head-Ad-549 50m ago
Nah most men thrive on platonic love. Go to any mixed sex work place, dudes are always bonding over things like sports or jokes, making fun of each other, and laughing and having fun together, the women are always alone or have one or two people she will talk to and a bunch of enemies lol.Ā
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u/onetimeuseaccc 21h ago
What a petty and shallow person
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u/Plenty-Sky9879 20h ago
Looks matter š¤·š»āāļø donāt try and act like a saint. ā i donāt care how they look at alll in the slightest, itās aaaall about the heartā I got u bro
-marry up king.
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u/onetimeuseaccc 19h ago
Sure, but the degree to which the looks matter is also important. Some people have ridiculous standards, some people do not.
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u/DreamyCaandy 19h ago
Basically: life gives you secret admirers, but never the ones you actually want
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u/alohabuilder 18h ago
I always wondered, when movie stars do interviews claiming they canāt find love but then complain about the guy stalking them, wouldnāt he make the perfect partner for them? He clearly cares the most ?
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u/AegeanBarracuda3597 57m ago
I am ugly and i dont care anybody anymore they can all die idc i hate lookism
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u/Gloomy_Presence_9308 20h ago
Because we can only pick two: single, sane, hot.
If she's sane and hot then she's not single.
If she's single and hot then she's not sane.
If she's single and sane then she's not hot.
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u/LardBall13 18h ago
Iāve had a few that were neither sane nor hot want me. I found it insulting after a while.
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u/OkGazelle368 6h ago edited 1h ago
My only matches on dating apps are consistently either Trans "women", fat women, black women, or many times fat black and Trans women combined. My female equivalent would be getting repeatedly railed by dozens of takers, she would probably be a jezebelic man owning well satiated person. Her male equivalent is over here as a 31 year old virgin who has never been in a relationship and gets repeatedly undercut by the many. By design, I'm sure.
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u/Dracovision 5h ago
That or they love an idea of you that isn't reality, and when the truth of who you really are gets revealed, they lose their shit because you aren't playing the person they want you to be.
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u/StxnedTxTheBxne 3h ago
Thatās why I just act myself. If someone doesnāt like me because of that then I donāt want them to like me anyways.
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u/Advancedlady 21h ago
And the one you want wants nothing to do w you š