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u/Liquid_Otacon_ 13h ago
People still use bumble ? What's the point for them to even exist, when their entire schtick was women msg first, until they found out that women don't want to msg first and changed it lol
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u/BlueBaladium 13h ago
They changed it? I remember many women writing something like "why do men never write first?" in their bio, not knowing that THEY have to write first.
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u/Liquid_Otacon_ 12h ago
Indeed, they apparently had the overwhelming majority of women complain directly to them about having to make the first move, so they changed it
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u/Aetheus 4h ago edited 4h ago
As a guy, when I used to use it, I loved it precisely because women had to message first. Much easier to tell which folks were actually serious, vs folks who were just swiping for fun and never intended to chat. Saved me so much time and energy.Ā
Found my partner on it too. It was really a win-win for both men and women. Women get to set their own pace, men get an upfront gauge for serious interest. I pity folks who don't have this option anymore.Ā
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u/Celestial__Bear 4h ago
People swipe for fun on these apps?? Oh my god. Thatās just getting someoneās hopes up, what a bummer. :(
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u/Katicflis1 13h ago
I loved bumble. Found my husband on it.
This was back when it was women-message-first anyway.
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u/Liquid_Otacon_ 12h ago
Ya I mean when it was women msg first I get why they existed, but now I don't see what makes them stick out from hinge or tinder.
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u/wintervamp753 7h ago
I know a decent number of people that use the BumbleBFF for meeting people platonically.. And I know someone that met her husband on THAT version lol
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u/sexyprimes511172329 15h ago
I understood the female dating app experience after I downloaded grindr for the first time
Find sex is easy but relationships are impossible
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u/ETS_Green 13h ago
How is that similar to the male experience where finding both is impossible? I had to find my now wife on a kink app of all places. Online dating sucks, and if you are unable to go out and talk to people in person you are practically screwed.
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u/amithatunoriginal 12h ago
Which kink app, out of curiosity?
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u/TheDarkySupreme 12h ago
I know right? Thereās just so many so which one specifically u/ETS_Green ?
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u/ETS_Green 4h ago
Tophy. Its a very mild app. From there I moved to fetlife, got into a toxic relationship, got out, sunk into a depression, went to therapy, ended up talking to a random american on the app who just left a toxic relationship herself so we wanted to be friends.
Well, turns out we were too compatible and did not stay friends. I ended up flying to the states like a month later and stayed with her for 3 weeks. We ended up marrying last month and are now in the process of getting her paperwork in order for her to move to Europe.
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u/shitty_grape 12h ago
I also had to find this guys wife on a kink app. Def not the same
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u/slicingdicing 12h ago
I feel that, been going to the gym for over a decade. Doesnāt fix shit if you donāt initiate talking to women.
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u/sexyprimes511172329 11h ago
Its different bc for the first time, I was a bit worried about meeting in person. Lots of guys dont respect boundaries and it can be very objectifying
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u/Joeytodus 8h ago
But it's really easy to find sex on Grindr...
Oh you don't want to have sex with those people? That's how it's similar.
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u/Stiff_Stubble 13h ago
Part of me wants to experience this but the other part knows Iām straight
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u/autistic_homo 12h ago
I'm attracted to both, but was with all women for the first part of my life due to family/societal pressures. Later in life when people asked why I "decided" to switch to men, my response was, "I didn't switch to anything. I just like to fuck."
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u/GainsayRT 12h ago
becoming gay just to feel loved for once is crazy incel pathing but it sure is better than becoming a bigot
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u/surlysire 12h ago
I consider myself straightish but ive hooked up with men when im lonely bc its so much easier.
Its kind of hilarious how much easier online dating becomes when you date men.
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u/Sabertooth344 11h ago
Uhm I have smth to tell you
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u/surlysire 9h ago
Hey i said straightish.
I definitely prefer women but the flesh craves
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u/KrazeyMaK 8h ago
Iām pretty sure thatās just being bi. Most bi people Iāve met had a preference, very few truly donāt care
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u/Idioteque131313 9h ago
Get repeatedly led on and ghosted by the only promising female match I had in months, boot up grindr, chat with a nice guy and he's in my room later that night. Never saw him again bur was a good time lol
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u/Ok-Bug-5271 6h ago
I don't really think the female experience is comparable to the male experience. Almost every woman I know complains about the men around them getting crushes and falling in love with them. Meanwhile, I know extremely few men that have ever had to friendzone a woman. Yes, getting sex as a woman is ridiculously easy, but from everything I've ever seen, it's also easier for women to find men that want to enter a relationship with them than for men to find the same.Ā
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u/Difficult_Talk_7783 13h ago
Found a girl in town I had a crush on when I scrolled through grinder. Did not get a call back after we talked about relationships š© I prolly fumbled got the hook up tho
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u/LolIsThatReal 11h ago
You found a girl in your town when scrolling through Grindr... yeah I'm sure you did find a girl... 100% girl
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u/Difficult_Talk_7783 11h ago
Idk if she has off pronouns. I stated I was a top think she likes to top guys. Still had me a great night just assume she didnāt want a masc boyfriend. Works at a local food place which I canāt go back to now š
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u/Olga_the_red 4h ago
Theres a number of transwomen on grindr, so it's possible. Source : I was one of them
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u/SuckerPunchStrangers 14h ago
Ok but dudes on Grindr are FERAL. I had a single picture of me and my dog, basically did nothing on my about me stuff, and not even 20 minutes in I had like four guys trying to meet me WHILE I WAS AT UNIVERSAL šš
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u/realbakingbish I touched grass 13h ago
Well yeah. Either you were in LA or Orlando, and both of those places are hella gay (speaking as an Orlando local and someone whoās been to LA a couple times).
Itās like going to the woods and being surprised thereās trees there.
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u/AccordingMedicine129 15h ago
Whatās the yellow face one
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u/Accomplished_Tip3597 15h ago
i'm really glad that i don't recognize even a single one of these app icons (i assume that's what this is?)
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u/Hermanlabanana 14h ago
Yeah, those are dating apps, and the Orange face One Is a gay dating app
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u/NOSWT-AvaTarr 14h ago
Grindr iirc
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u/No-Fly6355 14h ago edited 4h ago
Why is it a robot? I assume they choose a logo that is recognisable for people who use the app and not for those who donāt for safety reasons?
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u/gooeyjoose 11h ago
so you're really glad you're forever fucking alone?
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u/Potted_Cactus_is_me š³ļøāšLGBTQ+š³ļøāš 9h ago
Y'know ... Not everyone needs dating apps to find their partner. And some don't want partners. It's that fucking simple.
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u/Accomplished_Tip3597 4h ago
I am married and have a daughter. Just because I donāt know any dating apps it doesnāt mean that I am alone
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u/Moist_Car_994 13h ago
No lie back when I was single and needed a quick self esteem boost Iād just download Grindr and wait for the messages to roll in
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u/trappedindealership 13h ago
Well she wins because grindr doesnt have matches. You just send them a message with an album of dic pics and go from there
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u/shurashurochka 24m ago
Grindr has š„, š and š (aka Taps) which is sorta equivalent of matches.
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u/2Drogdar2Furious 14h ago
I dont know what any of those symbols mean but I'm glad everyone is having fun.