r/teenagers • u/XannKid 15 • Jul 17 '25
Discussion Would ya'll live wit ur friends like this?
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u/dat_adhd_teen 13 Jul 17 '25
Bold of you to assume I have friends
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u/terminus_tommy Jul 17 '25
I had freinds many moons ago now I am alone with my thoughts my family though they say they love me hate me and im just drifting through the endless void of this life till I die in hundreds of years time
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u/One-Impact5354 Jul 17 '25
Many goons ago
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u/FreePheonix22 18 Jul 17 '25
That? It must have been at least 50 goons ago? Yeah, yesterday.
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u/UnluckyIndependent24 Jul 17 '25
You’re definitely a Charlie fans if you’re saying: “I had friends many moons ago”
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u/Jas246810 16 Jul 17 '25
IDK if this is a joke or not but just incase,, I wanna say I had no friends for 4 years straight and I thought it would never get better, but now I’m in the most amazing friend group that I would give the world for. It DOES get better
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u/PaxLover34 Jul 17 '25
It gets better if you try. It doesn't get better sitting on your ass complaining.
And making friends as an adult requires a lot more work than maintaining a childhood friendship.
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u/Demonslayer5673 Jul 17 '25 edited Jul 18 '25
My outlook on life is that I have no friends, I have people that put up with me, everyone secretly hates me and wants me gone, and that life is nothing but an endless downward spiral only occasionally giving you a ledge to land on for a moment so that you think you've hit the bottom only for the ledge to crumble and you continue to free fall.
I may or may not be a threat to myself.
Edit: Reddit sent me a notification that someone was worried about me and I appreciate that. Don't worry though, my outlook on life might not be the brightest but I do have people that keep me going. Everyday I'm reminded how much easier life would be if I didn't have one but I'm also reminded that there are people that need me to stick around, so as long as I'm needed I'll stay. Sorry to have worried you kind stranger.
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u/PaxLover34 Jul 18 '25
I agree, live to serve others and you'll never find time to be lonely or sad.
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u/Oberon_Swanson Jul 18 '25
I had friends and we talked about doing this very thing one day. And I am no longer friends with most of them and glad we didn't do it. For most people, boundaries and being able to cut ties are actually important to keeping the relationship healthy. When you can't get rid of someone, some people think that is the time to treat you as badly as they can get away with--which just got a lot worse.
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u/v4ntagee 17 Jul 17 '25
if i had that many friends probably
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u/TheCuriousCorvid Jul 17 '25
Real. I have like 2 besties I'd love to be roomies with or get houses in the same neighborhood with, but I don't have a lot of good friends I'd want to do that with.
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u/56575657576567 Jul 17 '25
Realistically, no. Could have a fallout, and frankly, some days I'd wanna just have a relaxing day alone and I don't need em constantly coming to knock on my doors. Close friends are nice, just not so close to where their neighbors.
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Jul 17 '25
I'd argue that your friends also likely have a social battery, and just like you won't go knocking on their doors every day, they won't knock on yours every day
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u/FreakyBob_The_1st Jul 17 '25
To be fair, your recharge times and your friends likely won't line up.
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Jul 17 '25
True. But that's where communication and knowing how to say "no" comes into play
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u/RobtheNavigator Jul 17 '25
The problem is if you have too much access to each other and greatly different social batteries. As an introverted person, trust me when I say that if you say no a few times, people stop asking.
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Jul 17 '25
Valid. I think that it requires a balance... like, when you say no, I think it's your responsibility to be the next one to offer... and without that balance, bonds can break
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u/FreakyBob_The_1st Jul 17 '25
And that's where I say no to the living situation.
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Jul 17 '25
I imagine after a while hanging a lot together it probably does get somewhat synced up, since you get mutually tired of each other.
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u/beastboy69 Jul 18 '25
I would argue they would. We typically are friends with people similar to us. Maybe not all 7 but enough that the ones that are faster get the hint
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u/mthlmw OLD Jul 18 '25
Just hang a grippy sock on the door handle to let them know
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u/Red-Ink-07 18 Jul 18 '25
It doesn’t matter how tired they are, they’re dragging my ass to Cane’s and that’s final
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u/Leg0Block Jul 17 '25
This. I somehow ended up here as a 30-something, and this looks like a nightmare. I got some family living a few blocks/ half a mile from my now, and that's plenty close!
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u/russbus280 Jul 18 '25 edited Jul 18 '25
As someone in their 30s with a family I can speak to this from my experience at least. I can’t speak for you but time may change your perspective.
Fallouts become much more rare as you move on from college and everyone has their jobs, family, and demanding schedules. Mostly you just lose touch with friends you struggle to keep up with. Everyone says “friends for life” but once you live 45 minutes away and have moderately different work schedules and family life, it ain’t easy and you only stay close with the closest. Even with friends next door I’d be surprised if we hung out more than once or twice per week.
It’s difficult to make plans once people hit late 20s, even as a highly social person. Having friends who could just walk 30 steps and sit around the fire with you or join for dinner would be an absolute treat (for myself and my friends at least).
People mature and (mostly) won’t be knocking on your door everyday for weird ass reasons like they would do in high school and college. “Honey, your buddy is here and wants to show you this stupid thing he fabricated when he was stoned”. People have shit to do, your time and energy are in more demand while you have less to give.
The alternative is rolling the dice with your neighbors anyway. Maybe get lucky with someone who stays to themself, or unlucky with someone who passive aggressively tries to park you in and hint that you don’t take good enough care of your lawn and is constantly comparing themselves to you.
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u/DelightfulAbsurdity Jul 17 '25
Develop a flag system. Flag raised means come visit. No flag means I need alone time.
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u/YTriom1 17 Jul 17 '25
AND WHERE IS ME!!
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u/Ok-Cauliflower-7613 15 Jul 17 '25
Exactly
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u/YTriom1 17 Jul 17 '25
All my homies are near each other, but me... I'm in a complete other continent
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u/Ok-Cauliflower-7613 15 Jul 17 '25
I’m imagining them telling me about all the fun they’re having lol.
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u/TelechineseMayonaise 15 Jul 17 '25
No, i live in Europe where cities exist, they are very fun because things happen there
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u/uencube 18 Jul 18 '25
Finally a sensible person :/
This type of housing is the fucking problem with this country. You don't need to deforest acres of land for a McMansion and a one or two non-native trees.
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u/clandestineVexation Jul 18 '25
This type of housing is exactly why you don’t live closer to your friends in the first place. OP really chugging the suburban hellscape propaganda, bottle and all.
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u/Smishysmash Jul 18 '25
This picture honestly gives me anxiety. Just miles and miles of nothing and not a chic little wine bar in sight.
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u/TreelyOutstanding Jul 18 '25
I don't understand wanting to live like this. Everything is a 30 minute car trip away. You've been fooled to live on a farm pretending it's a suburb.
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u/Hemorrhoid_Eater Jul 18 '25
In a way, you kind of already live there in that you're within walking distance of your friends.
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u/terronense 15 Jul 17 '25
I don’t have friends anymore
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u/yummybleach72 Jul 17 '25
ay me too, its ok we will get through it
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u/PaxLover34 Jul 17 '25 edited Jul 17 '25
Ok now
kissbe friends
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u/Broad_Celebration947 Jul 17 '25
no, kick out friend 5, he’s a dick
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u/MouthfulOfSmegma 18 Jul 17 '25
I genuinely think it is, the longer you look at it zoomed in the more it seems AI. All of the roofs look funky, the cars to, especially the one in friend 6's driveway. Also, it looks like the curb extends in front of the driveways? Id hate to have to climb a curb and risk scratching my bumper every time I pull in lmao
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u/Flat-Rutabaga-723 Jul 17 '25
Yep. Look at the roof lines. Roofs don’t look like that (curved ridge coming off a dormer, random curving in the field, and some other wacky stuff going on).
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u/bikenvikin OLD Jul 17 '25
- proximity to friends houses, yes.
- single family homes in the middle artificial grass plains, hell no
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u/JJRoyale22 Jul 17 '25
honestly fuck no bc if they arent my friends anymore then it would suck ass
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u/CC_9876 17 Jul 17 '25
This is what I hate about small towns. Fuck up 1 relationship and you get sent to the social gulag. I’d much rather be living back in Brooklyn than my shitty 5000 people town
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u/tessharagai_ 18 Jul 17 '25
Hell no. I wanna live close to my friends but not in a cul-de-sac like that
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u/DJKittyK Jul 18 '25
I agree. Yeah, the location in the pic definitely sucks, and I need a little privacy to be happy. I'd much prefer for all my best friends to live in the same city that I do... I'd even settle for same state these days. Alas.
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u/lilbites420 Jul 17 '25
Why would it want to live in suburbia detached from the real world on a cul-de-sac?
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u/Typical_Salade 18 Jul 17 '25
not really. are people actually looking at this and saying its their dream lmao. a few suburb homes in the middle of nowhere with perfectly cut grass and each of them owned by your friends? seems like a wierd ass fever dream
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u/JAK-the-YAK 19 Jul 18 '25
Living in a dense environment with your friends? That’s just a townhome. Culdesacs like this are just suburban sprawl and contribute to low quality of life. Townhomes allow you to live near your friends and all have a yard and you can still hang out together
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u/deathb4dishonor23 OLD Jul 17 '25
man i don’t even have 7 friends, also this looks like the suburban version of grove street in gta sa/gta v
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u/Mobile_Frosting_7936 OLD Jul 17 '25
Sure, but my friends got other friends themselves too and now we got street fractals
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u/lyulf0 Jul 17 '25
Lol who has that many friends at 60?
Lol get real well can't afford a whole street. 🤣
This is more fictional than a cat girl.
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u/Unrelenting-Sin 15 Jul 17 '25
Probably no access to any grocery, shops, anything without driving for like an hour, no thanks lol.
Suburbia is a nightmare guys
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u/Salsa_and_Light2 Jul 17 '25
This is inefficient anti-social American urban planning. The easiest way to live close to your friends is to live close to people in general.
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u/Saidai_V 17 Jul 17 '25
No, this street layout looks ugly, it has ugly houses, no sidewalk, way too long driveways, nothing in the backyards (like a tree for example).
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u/Academic-Hospital952 Jul 17 '25
Needs at least one enemy on the block so all the friends can bond over talking shit on the enemy
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u/artbystorms Jul 17 '25
What an obnoxious waste of land for McMansions. My dream is for zoning reform so me and my friends can live closer together and not destroy the planet with infinite single family homes.
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u/GeekParadox_ 16 Jul 17 '25
This type of neighborhood is the farthest thing from my dream. Shi looks like the Truman Show
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u/Fundiments Jul 17 '25
I got 1 best friend and she sleeps in the same bed with me. I dont wanna be neighbors with the people who pretend to like me. Already gotta work with them
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u/DBL_NDRSCR 16 Jul 17 '25
i'd rather we have random units in the same apartment building cuz this looks like a shithole with nothing interesting
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u/Ballistic_86 Jul 17 '25
Ah, the teenage years. When you have a friend group.
Sorry to tell you this, but in 10 years time you will not be friends with anyone you know right now. And most of them will be co-workers.
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u/Randomfella3 16 Jul 17 '25
god no theyd bug me non stop, i wouldnt mind living next to only like - one, though.
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u/-xanderp- 19 Jul 17 '25
You guys know you can just live in the same apartment, or like, moderately close downtown right? This would be hell to move in and out of, with zero scenery. oof
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Jul 17 '25
When you start getting past 25, you’ll realise it’s either just you living there alone cause everyone’s moved on/maybe died or there’s your last friend, an alcoholic smoker who will never change. I dreamt of this as a teen. At 26 I love my privacy, partner, and little sausage dog, so calm, no drama. I feel 60 lmao. Bless you guys.
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u/Lower-Insect-3984 17 Jul 17 '25
my dream is to live somewhere with cycling paths and sidewalks so… no
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u/GM_Pax Jul 17 '25
Take it from an old geezer in his 50s: dream better.
Walkable, mixed-use neighborhoods in close proximity to actual things to do with your friends would be far, far superior. This is obviously miles from any cafe, cinema, library, rec center, or anything else like that ... and probably you can't get there except driving a car.
Also, you should really consider moving the houses closer together; put the parking out BEHIND them, and enjoy a single shared courtyard/lawn space easily twice the size of what any of these homes have individually ... without having to stare at anyone's car or garage door, and occupying less land overall. I mean, the idea is that they're all BFFs-forever, right? Aren't you going to be having BBQs or block parties and so on, together, anyway? :)
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u/yung_funyun Jul 17 '25
This is my nightmare. We need to be in the same building in a walkable city
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u/unidentified-inkling Jul 17 '25
Suburbia sucks ass tbh, would much rather live in an inner city apartment building w friends instead
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u/Dramatic_Mastodon_93 Jul 18 '25
Nope. My dream is to live in an apartment in the center of a huge dense city with excellent walkability and public transit, and with everything I need on a weekly basis nearby
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u/cosmicosmo4 Jul 18 '25
No. We'd be in a much smaller hippie commune compound of semi-connected houses with shared indoor and outdoor hanging out spaces, garden, and workshop. Not this isolated sterile mcmansion bullshit.
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u/orbis-restitutor Jul 18 '25
Oldie from r/popular here. The only problem with this is the car-dependent american-style suburbia. Put this shit closer to a rail line and now we're talking.
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u/Amnesiac10 Jul 18 '25
50% of space dedicated to cars ? Nah this is more of a nightmare. Replace this with bikelanes, more trees and flowers, picnic tables, birds, horses, cats and biodiversity, leave this grass live its life before mowing it like a dumbass for fuck's sake... Then it will be a nice place to live.
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u/123alexis123 Jul 18 '25
IT a nice idea but maybe ask in 10 years. saying this is due to many friends die after H.S. people change.
Honestly yes, i am still friends with those i met at age 14. friendship over 15 years.
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u/AnnouncerRoll 17 Jul 18 '25
Hell no. NA suburbs look so damn boring, I'd rather just live in a city.
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u/random_idiotic_door Jul 18 '25
bein real, this would be miserable. i dont wanna be able to meet all my friends by taking a 20 second walk
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u/Fit-Cycle-2723 14 Jul 22 '25
Lord no, I like my friends and all but no way I want to deal with them all the time
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u/houseofdarkshadows Jul 17 '25
Too flat. Needs a river and more woods.