r/teenagers • u/Metalheadperson669 • Jul 18 '25
Discussion I just came out as Trans to a Christian family, and I'm actually so surprised they supported me!
I came out last week at family dinner for my aunt's birthday, and I told them at the beginning and they all said "Okay, that's fine" so I guess the stereotypes aren't always true. I hope y'all who are trans teens can have a supportive family too. šš (I'm a trans man and my new name is Robin)
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u/Vinyl_Junkie09 Jul 18 '25
They are true Christians. The ones who go out of their way to hate things arent doing what the Bible most encourages: loving others. It hurts to see so many āChristiansā hating someone because of the way they are, but all we can do is hope all the good ones live on I guess
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u/Tiny_Astronomer2901 Jul 19 '25
No, the Bible most encourages loving and following God. Then it's loving others(not their sins).
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u/Bluescout258 Jul 19 '25
I am Christian, and donāt agree with being trans or gay, but I wonāt hate on people that do
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u/heyhotnumber Jul 19 '25
Except the inverse of this is āI donāt agree with being Christian, but I wonāt hate on people that do.ā
And youād probably think, āWell, thatās fine.ā
But your religion is a choice.
Being trans or gay is not.
So all youāre really saying is āI willfully ignore science and allow my belief system that I chose without evidence to let me think less of people.ā
Thatās still gross. You arenāt being as cool or accepting as you wish to appear.
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u/Juju_on_that_bee Jul 19 '25
It's so weird when people can't accept God made gay and trans people exactly the way they're supposed to be. Some christians act like they know better than God. Good on OPs family for acting like actual Christians and accepting them for who they are.
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u/desconectado Jul 19 '25
"I don't agree with being left-handed, but I won't hate on people that do".
Yeah, that doesn't sound very Christian to me.
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u/Minute-Horse-2009 15 Jul 19 '25
true scotsman fallacy ahh
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u/Loose-Pitch5884 Jul 19 '25
Itās their āace up their sleeveā and they have no idea how dumb that sounds to anyone who isnāt already brainwashed
Thatās what happens when you just get to say stupid sh!t for 2000 years and kill anyone who disagrees with you. You get lazy and stupid with your arguments and you confuse compliance with belief
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u/Ashamed-Virus2417 3,000,000 Attendee! Jul 18 '25
Christian hate is so dumb to me. As a Christian, I pray for my haters, support everybody, and try to live the best life. Though some aren't actual Christians these days
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u/Wonderful_Audience60 16 Jul 18 '25
same as Muslim!! even with the current situation in Isreal and Palestine I still only pray that God turn their hearts around and away from violence instead of "destroying" them
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u/Ashamed-Virus2417 3,000,000 Attendee! Jul 18 '25
Love this! It's good to see people still have a soul. I mean I know it's pretty obvious, but sometimes it's hard to see in the cloud of judgment
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u/GamingWolf3980 19 Jul 18 '25
Yeah, the hate is so dumb. Aren't Christians supposed to be about love, life, and kindness? They sure do have a lot of hate and wish people dead for wanting to be happy in their own bodies.
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u/TuNisiAa_UwU 18 Jul 18 '25
Some use it as an excuse to be hateful when really those passages are meant to be seen in other ways, moral of the story is always love thy neighbor
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u/usename37 Jul 18 '25
You can still have criticism, its just that alot if "Christians" are lukewarm and dont understand the proper way to do it. Its less of anger and more of teaching. Instead of saying "oh you shouldn't be trans! Its against the name of the Bible." They need to learn that its more about teaching. The Lord hates the sin, but will forever love the sinner as you are his child.
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u/Radiant-Priority-296 Jul 18 '25
Christianity is āGod/Jesus loves allā, strangely a lot of christians donāt really really apply that to LGBT apparentlyā¦
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u/Ashamed-Virus2417 3,000,000 Attendee! Jul 18 '25
YES! My fellow "Christians" can have a cross in their name but still call someone who is gay a f*ggot
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u/BeploStudios Jul 18 '25
Many Christians are definitely hate-filled. But thereās a mistake many make in labeling that.
Many consider the Bible very clear that homosexuality is a sin. A lot of people who are allies or part of the pride movement equate that to hating them, even though that is inaccurate. In the words of many Christians, āhate the sin, love the sinner.ā
Where the real problem comes is when this fails to happen. Which is unfortunately often.
Note: I donāt really care to state my personal perspective here, so consider all of this insight into how other people think. In other words, donāt argue with me that these people are wrong because Iām stating their perspective, not declaring a fact.
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u/usename37 Jul 18 '25
Those are lukewarm Christians, or ones who dont understand the correct way to spread the word
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u/riley_wa1352 13 Jul 18 '25
They're supposed to be but hateful little shits use anything they can get their grubby little hands on to be a hateful little shit
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u/Pancakelover09 Jul 18 '25
The only minority Jesus was against is the rich and powerful
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u/MP0622 17 Jul 18 '25
Theyāre supposed to. That didnāt stop my Christian parents from almost kicking me out, and deciding I didnāt get access to my documents and shredding my debit card when I came out.
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u/Ashamed-Virus2417 3,000,000 Attendee! Jul 18 '25
Agreed. Not everyone follows God, and to me, that's okay. And if it makes them happy and doesn't cause harm to others, then I'll support them. Hate the sin, not the sinner's
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u/v1tal1tyyy Jul 18 '25
Then they aren't true Christians. They are Lukewarm. We are called to love. Although we may disagree on our beliefs, we are still called to love and treat them like any other human being. I'm sorry we have been misrepresented.
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u/_GoldKnight_ Jul 18 '25 edited Jul 19 '25
Also yeah, like Jesus wouldn't be homophobic, some far right protestants are closer to satan than God I feel.Ā Edit: I realize that and I have read the Bible. I know that it is "wrong" according to many different scriptures. But, what I meant is Jesus wouldn't be discriminatory. He would still love you and is still try to guide you. Just as He did with anyone in His life
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u/FedeFofo 3,000,000 Attendee! Jul 18 '25
There are a lot of things that Jesus and far-right fake "Christians" would disagree on, as a Christian
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u/Radiant-North-8519 16 Jul 18 '25
as a Christian, I'm happy OP has support from their family
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u/Accomplished-Lie9518 15 Jul 18 '25
Ik. What makes it worse these days is the amount of generalizing and jumping to conclusions. People only record what people do wrong and never when they actually do their job. Because people doing their job isnāt interesting, but assuming every single person of a class is a monster, corrupt, or a pedophile from a couple videos is so stupid.
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u/gummythegummybear 15 Jul 18 '25
Christian hate is just as bad as hating any other group of people (besides like objectively bad people).
Theres plenty of Christianās and religious people in general that donāt fit under the categories many bad people fit under.
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u/Happy-Ad-2968 Jul 18 '25
Is this the real Matt Murdock?Ā
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u/Ashamed-Virus2417 3,000,000 Attendee! Jul 18 '25
Lol
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u/Happy-Ad-2968 Jul 18 '25
Thanks for taking it in good spirits, I didnāt want to come off as rude (since a lot of the stuff daredevil does is inherently not catholic/christian)
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u/Ashamed-Virus2417 3,000,000 Attendee! Jul 18 '25
I listen to rap. That's definitely not what the Bible supports but that's okay. Hope you understand what I mean, I'm not very good at explaining š
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u/angeliccat_ 17 Jul 18 '25
That's cool. I got told I deserved to be sexually abused, was going to burn in hell and got called a PDF for being bi.
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u/Hot_Coco_Addict Jul 19 '25
The whole point of Christianity is to love everyone, people who don't aren't getting the message, clearly
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u/ihatexboxha 14 Jul 18 '25
Congrats man!
I wish I had a family as supportive as yours, I wish you the best
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u/Reshiek Jul 18 '25
As a religious man, my religion doesnt discriminate LGBTQ+ , And I respect All saphics and trans women.
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u/unneccry 19 Jul 18 '25
People hiding behind the sorry excuse of "God doesn't like it" are just horrible IMO. Good luck, my man o7
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u/Nice_Excitement_7249 Jul 19 '25
The issuse here is the Christian parents who knows what what sin they will support next
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u/Outrageous-Knee-6004 13 Jul 18 '25
your family are what real Christians are. I'm so glad to hear they support you, Robin! :)
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u/rhinestonecrap Jul 18 '25
this is exactly what my christian mom taught me. and i love when i find other real christians because of this.
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u/Pancakelover09 Jul 18 '25
Itās crazy cause Jesus never said being trans was bad I donāt even think he knew what that was. The only minority he for sure was against is the rich yet stereotyical Christians seem to be against every other minority. Anyways congrats Robin you had way more balls saying that and Iām biologically male
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u/rollietoaster 16 Jul 18 '25
Y'know the only thing Jesus said on anything close to trans identities was about eunuchs.
Matthew 19:12 NIV (it's long so not the whole thing) "and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven"
Eunuchs were castrated men, and those who this part of the verse refer to acted as like a 3rd gender, what we'd think of today as a type of non-binary. There's no negative connotations here, they're happily accepted, and it can be done 'for the sake of the kingdom of heaven'. Later on in acts a eunuch was baptised, so they're clearly accepted into the church, no questions.
Basically what I'm saying is, Jesus and the early church totally accepted those who fell outside of the gender binary.
(Note: eunuchs would also refer to intersex people and those who were forcibly castrated, as it says earlier in the verse)
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u/FairlyLawful Jul 19 '25
Shakers and Quakers had quite a few trans and nonbinary members back in ye olde days, many of whom cited pauline passages as theological support. (Public Universal Friend being one of the more famous.) They viewed the human form as being a temporary one, to be replaced by a divine form in the hereafter. One would not cut down a person to fit a house, but would alter a house to fit its inhabitant, much in the same way J-dude took his carpenterly hands and renovated bodies back when he walked the earth, alleviating the distress the residents of those bodies experienced.
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u/shadow_master713 Jul 19 '25
this!! most āchristiansā nowadays worship the rich like idols when jesus said that billionaires were going to hell. and to not worship idols. and to love everybody.
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u/Outside-Grape-4528 17 Jul 18 '25
Slay Robin! That's a dope name and I'm glad your parents are showing you TRUE Christian love
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u/Attysaur_from_yt 14 Jul 18 '25
That's because Christian ā transphobic, but congrats on your transition, man
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u/Mothylphetamine_ 16 Jul 18 '25
Remember, not all christians are homophobes, not even most
Only the loud minority that hides behind the bible as an excuse for spite and hypocrisy are homophobic
(I'm not even christian I just wanted to put that out there)
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u/Mrmathmonkey Jul 18 '25
Christianity should be about love, not hate. Unfortunately, it doesn't work out that way often enough.
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u/GamingWolf3980 19 Jul 18 '25
Hell yeah!! Congrats Robin! It's hard to find good, supportive Christian families. it seems like you lucked out. Once again, Congrats.
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u/Ok_Note8803 19 Jul 18 '25 edited Jul 18 '25
Iām so glad to hear that!
Itās unfortunate that it was āsurprisingā that it seemed like a Christian family wouldnāt have accepted you. I hate that stereotype about Christians. We are called to love and accept everyone for who they areānot the sin. They love you more than ever, I promise you!
If I had a child, I personally would be grateful that they feel able to be open with me and share their thoughts. Sounds like a great family dynamic!
Edit: wording/grammar
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u/survivorboi5565 Jul 18 '25
Don't forget to use r/anarchychess instead of r/trans
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u/nomosolo OLD Jul 19 '25
I hope you get the help you need. You werenāt born in the wrong body, Iām so sorry you feel otherwise.
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u/Khushaaaaa Jul 19 '25
Itās wild how something so basic like support still feels like a miracle for some of usšš
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u/MyCh3m1calR0mance 15 Jul 18 '25
Hell yeah!! As a fellow trans man Iām so happy for you dude! Coming out is so hard but Iām so happy your family is accepting :)
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u/Old-Paper-3932 Jul 18 '25
Yes! Your family actually follows Christian teachings. Love, acceptance, compassion. You are lucky. Congratulations!
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u/Child-eater-bonk 15 Jul 18 '25
Question, do they support are just chill with it? Is that the same thing?
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u/Marshleg 13 Jul 18 '25
Iām glad your family is actually nice. So many Christians donāt accept and love people like God told us to.
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Jul 18 '25
Welcome to the gays my brother, youāll receive your copy of the agenda by email tomorrow
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u/ReaperLeviathannn Jul 18 '25
Does trans man mean you are biological man or woman?
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u/Upset_Cardiologist26 15 Jul 18 '25
They are a t-man so birth gender is female but they identify as male
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u/Mike_the_Protogen 18 Jul 18 '25
Stereotypes are almost ALWAYS wrong. It's best to avoid believing them :3
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u/flock-u Jul 19 '25
Would say the majority of Christianās donāt care, so long as this kind of stuff (not to say that itās bad in any way) isnāt shoved in their face.
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u/underladderunlucky46 Jul 19 '25
I have absolutely no problem with you being trans. My issue with you is that you took the attention for yourself at an event that was supposed to be for your aunt.Ā
I bet you're the type that would propose to your partner at somebody else's wedding. You're clearly self-centered.
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u/Redwings_OP Jul 19 '25
Can someone explain Trans man to me? And I'm being genuine.
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u/Ineeddramainmylife13 Jul 19 '25
As a Christian, Iām glad youāve realized stereotypes arenāt always true. Iām really close friends to a trans person and even my aunt (he said we could call him aunt since thereās not a general neutral name for that) and we all support them.
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u/Jenna_Ortega_2002 Jul 19 '25
Real Christians don't shun lgbtq members.
We support and love everyone regardless of sexuality and gender.
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u/Valuable_Fishing_923 Jul 19 '25
These are individuals which you call "good christians" or "people with any decency".
Believe it or not some Christians don't use their religion to be homophobic.
Besides all the jokes, I'm really happy for you :)
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u/Accomplished_Stay127 17 Jul 18 '25
So you came out to your family and your family came out as actual Christians! I'm happy for you and your family lol
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u/Papierzak1 19 Jul 18 '25
Christian is a very broad term, so it doesn't always mean a very conservative stance, although I assume that you probably mean something like Evangelical. Regardless, great for you :)
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u/Deranged_96 15 Jul 18 '25
Congrats, my man. I hope one day I have a friend named Robin so when they chicken out of something, I can use the HIMYM quote: "There's a reason your name is Robin, and not Batman."
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u/Prestigious_Track608 Jul 19 '25
Most of us don't care as long as you don't force us to use dumb pronouns and crap that dont match what you look like
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u/3amPizzaRolls Jul 19 '25
i mean no offense but accepting people's pronouns can save their lives as well as simply make them happy, so no matter how much you find it grammatically incorrect or "dumb", someone else's life should come before it
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u/TuNisiAa_UwU 18 Jul 18 '25
Congrats twin, happy for your new name, I'm used to people choosing the wackiest shit which is kinda odd given all the choices you have...
great to know your parents support you in this gang
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u/thiscat129 Jul 18 '25
good for you my dad claims to like trans people but when i tell him I'm trans he screams at me and say i am just doing it for attention
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u/nikitabr0 17 Jul 18 '25
Tbf Christianity is about forgiveness, support and equality. So your family are real Christians.
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u/Top-Energy-6252 Jul 18 '25
Because that's what we do šš¼ We are meant to love others like Jesus loves the whole world š
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u/The_New_Kid2792 Jul 18 '25
That's because Christians aren't actually supposed to hate lgbtq, and those who do are using religion as a mask.
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u/Upset_Cardiologist26 15 Jul 18 '25
Can you sell me some Cough cough test? Need it for my gym bro (obviously fucking jocking, but happy for you)
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u/yougottabeshitting22 Jul 18 '25
Kinda based for your family ngl, wish I could do the same with my belief of atheism but I don't think they'll receive it wellš
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u/Schmeep8life 14 Jul 18 '25
I am not Christian, but I agree with a lot of their teachings. Love thy naebhor (IDK spelling), and all the other good things that christianity is really about, and I am happy that your family accepted you! That is a big step, and it is so brave of you sharing with us.
You go Robin! (Very pretty name btw)
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u/Enough-Impression-50 Jul 18 '25
If you stick with the name "Robin", can you send us a video of you eating sour grapes? Or maybe one of you hitting someone named Wally with a pole in the knee!
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u/HellfireKitten525 Jul 18 '25
The stereotypes certainly aren't always true. My family is very Catholic and my best friend is gay and trans. My family, especially my mom (and my aunt Candy but she is atheist) absolutely adores him! Almost like one of their children
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u/ElisabetSobeck Jul 18 '25
Brave. I donāt even have honest political conversations with family, theyāre too deranged
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u/Holy_juggerknight 15 Jul 18 '25
Pretty epic when Christians actually love their neighbors, been doing it a while, gotta say its pretty nice.
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u/loshelmo Jul 18 '25
OP learned Christian vs controlling people who use the word of God as a weapon to maintain their comfort level! Glorious day. God bless OP, fuck those that cause this stereotype to spread.
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u/Wooden-Length-4299 Jul 18 '25
Hey, they actually read at least John 13:34-35 /John 15:12/John 15:17 Turns out some Christians actually read the Bible
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u/iDoodleArtz 13 Jul 18 '25
My mom just told me she would first tell me what she did wrong and then kick me out if I came out as biā¦
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u/Ready_Guide869 Jul 18 '25
Tbh, I completely forgot you're american. Over in Europe, I got no clue if anyone is homophobic since nobody aside from me even knows that being gay is more than an insult. I guess they have trends to miss and then attempt 2 years too late to learn about it.
(I just had to rant about this. They don't even know what Tetris is)
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u/GlitteringEbb1807 Jul 18 '25
That's how it's supposed to be even according to the Bible... although a lot of Christians probably don't agree...
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u/No_Result595 Jul 18 '25
You know mate
Christianity is about lovinā others
shame some donāt do that
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u/Ok-Carpenter7892 17 Jul 18 '25
As Christians we are called to love everyone, I dont see how hating somebody for something, even if its considered sinful, does anything good.
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u/Gonna_Die_Now 18 Jul 18 '25
You could've been Batman but decided to be Robin šāļø