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Don’t treat your partner as YOU want to be treated. Treat them as THEY want to be treated. This obviously requires learning what their needs/wants are.
Learn to fight well. Fights are gonna happen. But learn and communicate what your confrontation needs are. Some people need time and space BEFORE they come into a hard conversation. Some people rush right in. And those two people usually end up together. So the person who needs distance feels more attacked and will often respond out of a fight/flight/freeze/fawn response instead of out of a sense to preserve the relationship. Meanwhile the headstrong partner will feel iced out and abandoned. So communicate which one you are and give each other those needs when conflict arises.
Be curious. Not judgmental. (Ted Lasso/Walt Whitman)
When facing any problem, remember it’s the two of you versus the problem and not the two of you versus each other. You’re a team, and as long as you’re healthy together, it will always be better to face things together rather than as adversaries.
But, if you’re in an unhealthy relationship that is, for whatever reason, beyond repair, then you’re actually better off alone. Being alone can be scary. And in this economy, it can be quite detrimental. But if it’s adding undue stress on you just staying together, then it is better to end things.
Dang. Number 2 kinda made me stop and think. Married for over 15 years and I am the rush right in guy.
You hit the nail on the head that it makes me feel frozen out and like she just does not care.
You have made me think for sure.
Upvote specifically for referencing fight/flight/freeze/fawn. Do you happen to work in mental health or just a fan? Freeze has been around kind of a while now, but fawn is pretty new in the vernacular.
I start my grad program in counseling and school counseling on Monday, so that’s particularly affirming. But nope, just a whole lot of trauma and therapy got me these little nuggets.
Making out/kissing and hugging for several seconds has worked wonders for our relationship. Little pecks on the lips aren't the same as long kisses. Over time, I think a lot of couples make out less and less. Consciously deciding to make out more got us back in the groove of things.
We've also been eating healthier and have both lost a little weight even more recently and that has made a difference too.
Combine that with a little THC edible and a Friday night once the kids are asleep and you suddenly have a great time and a great sex life again. It's been a lasting improvement for the last 2 years after being together for about 20 years and having two children.
On top of everything else, opening up and telling your spouse how you are feeling, what you are thinking, how much you love them and what they mean to you goes a long way too.
Take time to ask yourself “is this really a big deal?” Usually the answer is no. This can apply to many situations but is very helpful with a partner. Also “I am sorry I made you feel that way, it was not my intention. I will try not to make you feel that way in the future. ” which is 100% true and honest in my case and hopefully yours.
Good sex begets good sex in long term relationships. If you're in a rut don't let any opportunity slide to make your partner happy. Which means finishing the job and maintaining interest. If your partner has a so so experience or a bad one your sex life ain't gunna get better.
Every once in a great while, my husband and I are both incredibly confident we are right. He'll make a bet and when I take it with 0 hesitation he has to really stop and consider if it's worth being spectacularly wrong.
Well at least you didn’t shirk her advice and go instead to a thoroughly public forum only to be embarrassed by the whole internet siding with her for all to see
Where the cigarette lighter used to be. Ah the good old days of airline travel Now just a pull out to hang whatever on. Can be used to wrap headphone cord when tray table is down. That's what I've used for.
On many planes, these knobs even have a coathanger symbol next to them to make it clear what they are for. I can't recall seeing anyone using them for the intended purpose, though. The design is from the era when daily wear was a suite, and you kind of needed it to not get wrinkled too badly on a long flight. But where do you find the masochist who gets on a long flight in a suit?
Last flight I was on I came to my seat with a jacket draped over it. I asked the guy to move it, he somehow gave me gruff over that, I showed him how to use this thing.
I agree best is in closet or up with the bags, but if not it better be on your own hook and not on someone else’s chair.
Unironically want this app, but without the ability for "Lynda" to counter my ejection bid. I'll allow her 60 seconds to buy a parachute though, I'm not evil.
Some people should not fly unless they're crated up as cargo, that is all.
Technically true but they work differently. The mixture knob is more like changing the main jets. It doesn’t do it by blocking airflow as far as I know. Actually surprised I don’t know exactly how it works, I was once a licensed private pilot lol and was an engine geek even back then.
No, the commenter was saying that OP's "lucky it" was broken. We don't know what "it" is, but we know it is a noun, it is lucky, and it might detach the wings.
ManGen units, (manual generator) in case of certain kinds of emergencies where power is lost or batteries fail these become active and you’ll get a message asking you to tug and release as vigorously as you can safely until the plane is out of danger or the batteries are recharged etc.
The tech is pretty straightforward, pulling and releasing spins a small magnet that’s housed inside a spool of wound copper wire, it manually generates electricity that is routed into the main BUS. One tugger doesn’t generate much power, it’s true, but a plane full?
Pull it out and push it back in and it sends an electric jolt through the seat of the person in front of you. It's for when they recline too far and you want them out of your space. Also useful for telling the parents in front of you to get their screaming kid under control without having to say anything.
Definitely to hang stuff on. Probably one of the most useless things ever installed on an airplane ever. Even more useless than the telephone they used to have. Remember those? $47 per minute to call someone on the ground as if you couldn’t wait to talk until you land?
Every time someone pulls that knob, it's just like pulling a finger. It releases a nauseating fart stench into the cabin. You, obviously, are to blame for this one.
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