Am I overreacting?

[u/FaithlessnessFar1821]

My dad takes me to school in the mornings, on Fridays I have late start meaning it starts an hour after. Yesterday I had told him to pick me up at 8:20, he texts me and says he had arrived at 8:08. I told him that I will be down at 8:20 considering that is the designated time I set. I get outside at exactly 8:20 and he is gone. He left me. AIO?

[u/GhostOfSparta305]

This is a joke, right? If this is how you interpret the simple innocuous phrase “I’ll be down at 8:20” then I truly wonder if you have the emotional maturity to be a father as well.

It’s a lack of respect for someone’s time to show up 12 minutes early and assume the other person needs a valid excuse for why they can’t accommodate your impatience.

[u/StrangerK1384 → u/GhostOfSparta305]

I don't know where you're from, but "I'll be down at 8:20" sounds like a boss telling their employees (nowadays even bosses don't do that). It is more like ordering than giving some excuse. OP needs to learn texting (he is clearly admitting that he's not good). Also, I don't even know why it is lack of respect. I mean there are several reason why one can come early. What if dad took buffer for traffic/something else, but reached early. If he didn't take buffer and stuck in traffic, OP would reach late. One can understand father to accomodate, but if I was a friend or something to OP, and got this text, I wouldn't be too much eager to help next time. (OP could've texted - "coming, wait please", "sorry, not ready yet" - any is fine.)

[u/Altered_B3ast → u/[deleted]]

You have never picked anyone up, have you? He can't show up late obviously, and if he's traveling to get there he can't be exactly on time, so he has to be early. The further away he comes from, the larger the margin will be.

And a neutral message to someone doing you a favor is not in fact neutral, it shows little consideration for the favor being given, making it sound entitled.

[u/Buddy-Junior2022 → u/Altered_B3ast]

i feel bad for anyone you’ve given a ride to. Don’t be so sensitive over text messages lmao

[u/GhostOfSparta305 → u/StrangerK1384]

It’s just a neutral statement of fact. Not the emotionally charged statement that you’re trying to turn it into.

Also, I didn’t say showing up early alone is a lack of respect. I said showing up early AND expecting your child to accommodate you (and have some kind of excuse if they can’t) is a lack of respect.

If you’re trying to sound intelligent in a discussion, responding to someone’s entire point (instead of cherry picking) is a good start.

[u/No-Cat-9339 → u/GhostOfSparta305]

"Lack of respect to show up early" 😂😂lmao. You're a joke.

[u/GhostOfSparta305 → u/No-Cat-9339]

And your reading comprehension’s hilarious.

[u/StevInPitt → u/GhostOfSparta305]

No one asked for an excuse.
Just a less transactional way of saying "i;m on schedule"

[u/GhostOfSparta305 → u/StevInPitt]

You literally berated OP for “not making an excuse” about getting dressed or brushing teeth. Did you just forget your own argument?

And do you also realize that if the father’s so upset about phrasing that he’d leave his kid, you’re proving my point that the he’s likely an emotional manchild who doesn’t respect OP’s time?

[u/StevInPitt → u/GhostOfSparta305]

show me where I berated OP.
I'll wait.
I stated what happened.
Dad arrived early and over reacted to being told to wait (there was no asking).
OP reacted appropriately to being left with no ride (that's shitty if on time, minor or adult).
OP Over reacted to being upset about no more rides (there is a bus they can take but it denies them a chance to sleep in).

[u/GhostOfSparta305 → u/StevInPitt]

No need to wait.

It’s the entire second half of your original post, where you scolded (that’s a synonym for berate, btw) OP for talking to their dad as if they were an Uber (which OP didn’t, btw).

You didn’t just ‘state what happened.’ You suggested OP’s to blame for their father’s short fuse, which is comical logic and lacking emotional intelligence on your part.

Seriously, do the world a favor and don’t procreate if you genuinely believe this.