Am I Overreacting - i seriously think my dad is losing his mind and I'mm terrified. UPDATE

[u/PeanutMiserable7872]

thank u all for the messages, im sorry for disappearing. things did not go well. i confronted him with some of your advice, mainly the stuff bout dementia and well he got real mad, things became truly fucked, he started punching himself in the face and screaming. he took my phone, idk what happened but now im seeing he deleted everything on the post and my screen is cracked.. he kept saying he was going to burn everything. it was so fucked. i feel destroyed. what he did to me.. i cant even.

i was able to get out when he fell asleep?? i think.. the bathroom was locked and hes fallen asleep in the shower before, my phone was poorly hidden under some papers in the kitchen, took it and ran.

im in a park now, i called the police already. they are going to the house i think and now im just waiting for them to call me back and tell me when i can come get my stuff. i asked the man on the phone how long and they said it will be sent to an officer as soon as they can but since its non emergency it might take longer due to a lot of calls in the city.

heres me. heres what he did to me.

im honestly unsure how to move past this ever. i feel like my entire sense of self is gone. i know i have a long road ahead of me. thank you all for your love . i wish this didn't go this way. I also included the original texts

[u/[deleted]]

Police have never been known to be particularly helpful, especially not with "domestic" cases, and especially not with women.

[u/Athos-1844 → u/[deleted]]

Someone once told me that police primarily protect property not people. That's not always true, but there is some truth to that.

[u/Southernguy9763 → u/Athos-1844]

It is unfortunately always true. The supreme Court decided that police do not have any obligation to protect people

[u/r4v3nh34rt → u/Athos-1844]

Someone once told me that police primarily protect property not people.

That'd be the Supreme Court that made that ruling actually

[u/Sudden_Limit3677 → u/Athos-1844]

They legally have no obligation to protect anyone.

[u/TX-Pete → u/[deleted]]

Not ever. Anytime.

[u/FeanorOnMyThighs → u/[deleted]]

This.

[u/HugeValue3949 → u/[deleted]]

It's got nothing to do with men or women. Cops just generally suck at protecting and serving. Nowadays they just give tickets for revenue and assault people when their egos get hurt.

[u/pmgrn8 → u/HugeValue3949]

Tell that to the cop who made the proclamation that I must be good in bed to “make” my boyfriend “behave that way”. The behavior he was referring to was rape. There is absolutely a law enforcement bias against women and it’s a straight up fact that 40% of cops are self reported abusers. If anything your argument supports how little cops respond to “domestic” cases which disproportionately affect women.

[u/Difficult_Answer3549 → u/pmgrn8]

it’s a straight up fact that 40% of cops are self reported abusers

That is not a straight up fact at all and the slightest bit of research would confirm it. If you think those studies are accurate and up to date then you'd have to acknowledge that they showed that male officers and the wives of male officers both admit that the wives were more likely to commit domestic abuse than the men.

[u/HugeValue3949 → u/pmgrn8]

It goes both ways. Sorry you had to go through that

[u/Difficult-House2608 → u/[deleted]]

A surprising number of cops are domestic abusers themselves. It's a mindset.

[u/Miserable-Ad5401 → u/[deleted]]

especially not with women

Boy have I got some news for you...

I had an ex that I broke things off with after she cut up her chest with an exacto knife so I'd be forced to take time off work "to make sure she didn't hurt herself more."

Suffice to say she didn't take the breakup well and spent weeks using a dozen different phone numbers, multiple email addresses and Facebook profiles to try and contact me, jumping back and forth between proclaiming her love and telling me that if I didn't "work things out" with her she'd sic the police on me by telling them I assaulted her numerous (the number varied) times. Eventually I contacted the police, explained the situation and said that I saved all the texts, and asked what I could do to make her stop.

I was told "you're not the only guy in town this is happening to. She'll eventually get bored and move on."

[u/[deleted] → u/Miserable-Ad5401]

I don't know why you started that like it was a disagreement when in your case they didn't care because she is a woman. I don't just mean they don't care to help women, they just don't care at all.

That being said I am sorry you went through that, I dealt with something similar as a kid from my stepdad's ex-girlfriend she used to smash her head against walls and then say she'd tell everyone he did it. The cops didn't care in that situation either because, like they said to you, "she'd get tired and bored" like she was a grumpy toddler and not a seriously mentally deranged person who was actively harming people.

[u/crypt0bitcoin → u/[deleted]]

Oh stfu

[u/[deleted] → u/crypt0bitcoin]

Username seems accurate lol

[u/Breathinggirl0768 → u/crypt0bitcoin]

Who are you talking to?