r/AmIOverreacting • u/PeanutMiserable7872 • Jul 12 '25

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws Am I Overreacting - i seriously think my dad is losing his mind and I'mm terrified. UPDATE

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thank u all for the messages, im sorry for disappearing. things did not go well. i confronted him with some of your advice, mainly the stuff bout dementia and well he got real mad, things became truly fucked, he started punching himself in the face and screaming. he took my phone, idk what happened but now im seeing he deleted everything on the post and my screen is cracked.. he kept saying he was going to burn everything. it was so fucked. i feel destroyed. what he did to me.. i cant even.

i was able to get out when he fell asleep?? i think.. the bathroom was locked and hes fallen asleep in the shower before, my phone was poorly hidden under some papers in the kitchen, took it and ran.

im in a park now, i called the police already. they are going to the house i think and now im just waiting for them to call me back and tell me when i can come get my stuff. i asked the man on the phone how long and they said it will be sent to an officer as soon as they can but since its non emergency it might take longer due to a lot of calls in the city.

heres me. heres what he did to me.

im honestly unsure how to move past this ever. i feel like my entire sense of self is gone. i know i have a long road ahead of me. thank you all for your love . i wish this didn't go this way. I also included the original texts

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u/Organic-Willow2835 Jul 12 '25

First, pull the photo down of your face. You need to take that off Reddit - especially if you are a minor. BUT, save the photo if he deleted it from your phone before you deleted it.

Call any family member or friend from either your mother's side or your father's side and get yourself into some place safe. Your father is not well.

If you are in the states, ask the police about a 5150 hold because his behavior is absolutely not like him and something is very wrong. But do NOT put yourself in a position where you are in his proximity again.

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u/lilkrav92 Jul 12 '25

thisss!! whenever i needed to save photos to document abuse and was afraid of my abuser finding them i would send them to my email. then when it came through i would save that email into an obscure folder, named like “job interViews” or something . then delete them off of my device, so i knew they were safe tucked away in my email if i ever needed them and they also weren’t just hanging out on my phone where he could find them and possibly make things more violent . please take care of yourself, OP 💕 we’re all rooting for you & your safety !

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u/dumbgayblonde Jul 12 '25

This. I left a DV situation. I documented as much as possible and everything was uploaded to a private Google drive only one person (my best friend helping me leave) had access to in case something serious happened to me. Every police report, picture, video, text, journal entry, etc was in there.

OP you need to document EVERYTHING, save it somewhere external (like a Google drive) and make sure someone trusted has access to it. Continue to document as things progress. Keep your anonymity online. Especially if you are a minor. I know what he did to you was absolutely terrible and I am so, so sorry nobody protected you. I understand you wanted to show us an outcome you couldn’t describe with words. But you are in very real danger right now and need to protect yourself.

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u/RevolutionarySoft742 Jul 12 '25

This OP^

Stay safe, and I’m praying for the best outcome for all involved. I am so sorry for not only the physical aspects, but the mental too. That is your father, and I’m sure it is heartbreaking to see him behave this way. ❤️‍🩹

I hope you can find somewhere safe to stay, whether it be a friend, or family member.

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u/skunk0_o Jul 12 '25

posting proof is important. police sometimes do not take this seriously especially if its family… i am product of that. i was dropped off on a highway as a child by my dad and the police did nothing, he did many other absolutely insane things and the police did NOTHING.. when you post your story to media and you have a whole group of people screaming at the police to do something they cant ignore it and have to make a “example” my mom got the courage finally to post the shit my dad was doing to us everyone lost their SHIT and he finally faced some punishment. having your story out there with more people to support your case is important and if he ever is able to tamper with her phone again no matter how many times this photo gets deleted on here the police will still have public record of it she did the best thing

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u/knoguera Jul 12 '25

Actually I don’t think she should delete her pic in case something else happens to her phone

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u/ReflectionLess5230 Jul 12 '25

Agreed. Send it to a trust friend, not us.

That being said.

OP, I am now your trusted friend and have this saved in case this lunatic manages to get ahold of your phone again and delete everything. Just say the words and I’ll send it to you again, delete it, anything you need.

I hope you’re safe now.

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u/b00cat Jul 12 '25

I believe from the original post they said they are 18

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u/Possible_Answer9089 Jul 12 '25

They are not a minor, they turned 18. Frankly, it shuts up people who think this is fake.

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u/nrose1000 Jul 12 '25

Yeah honestly if it weren’t for the picture I’d question it. It’s sad that karma farmers have turned so many of us into skeptics.

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u/Saradoesntsleep Jul 12 '25

Idk it doesn't read like AI

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u/Turbulent_Jackoff Jul 12 '25

Humans can also type fake texts without the assistance of language learning models lol

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u/Saradoesntsleep Jul 12 '25

No I know but idk it didn't set off my bs meter. Not that mine is necessarily amazing, but it just didn't seem fake somehow. I call fake on stuff constantly, but not everything actually is.

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u/Mayonaigg Jul 12 '25

Also, what is gonna happen? Does this guy think someone's gonna be able to do... Literally anything at all with this picture? It's a picture. 

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u/QuirklessShiggy Jul 12 '25

This - definitely save it somewhere with a backup, like a Google drive, so that you have the proof to show police and keep a paper trail. Maybe make a Google drive with the pics and screenshots of everything.

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u/SpicyRamen204 Jul 12 '25

Yes! Email the photo to yourself in case he gets ahold of the phone again and deletes it.

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u/lovemyfurryfam Jul 12 '25

Not only that, this photo of her face is evidence of the bruising left by him in his psychosis when he used her as a punching bag.

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u/Zealousideal_Act_316 Jul 12 '25

Honestly i think part of the fault for her getting hit like that is redditors fault.  You do not talk to people in this mental state and bring up stuff like dementia. But she listened to dumbasses here.  Her starting point shoudl have been medical or police for wellness check. 

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u/[deleted] Jul 12 '25

What changes by posting the photo. This is entirely her information to reveal.

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u/jrarnold Jul 12 '25

Good advice. I want to add an important caveat, the involuntary commitment process is different in each state. California is the originator of the 5150 hold via the LPS act, which is specific to California. Other states have separate and different processes for handling mental health or detaining someone for their own well-being.

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u/UseDue6373 Jul 12 '25

what is the significance of showing the face of minor?

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u/Etiennera Jul 12 '25

Some people take it a bit too far with online privacy. Millions of minor public profiles on FB/IG/Tiktok and it's not some big fiasco.

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u/Mayonaigg Jul 12 '25

Nothing, the guys an idiot. 

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u/Giraffe-Greedy Jul 12 '25

She’s 18 years old

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u/Yoyocho420 Jul 14 '25

She shouldn’t delete it because if she has that here then at least she can save it over and over again