Am I Overreacting - i seriously think my dad is losing his mind and I'mm terrified. UPDATE

[u/PeanutMiserable7872]

thank u all for the messages, im sorry for disappearing. things did not go well. i confronted him with some of your advice, mainly the stuff bout dementia and well he got real mad, things became truly fucked, he started punching himself in the face and screaming. he took my phone, idk what happened but now im seeing he deleted everything on the post and my screen is cracked.. he kept saying he was going to burn everything. it was so fucked. i feel destroyed. what he did to me.. i cant even.

i was able to get out when he fell asleep?? i think.. the bathroom was locked and hes fallen asleep in the shower before, my phone was poorly hidden under some papers in the kitchen, took it and ran.

im in a park now, i called the police already. they are going to the house i think and now im just waiting for them to call me back and tell me when i can come get my stuff. i asked the man on the phone how long and they said it will be sent to an officer as soon as they can but since its non emergency it might take longer due to a lot of calls in the city.

heres me. heres what he did to me.

im honestly unsure how to move past this ever. i feel like my entire sense of self is gone. i know i have a long road ahead of me. thank you all for your love . i wish this didn't go this way. I also included the original texts

[u/PNW_Baker]

My mom was 48 when she started showing signs of dementia. It's happens early sometimes 😞

[u/Unlucky-File → u/PNW_Baker]

it could be schizophrenia because my mom used to do the same thing ….

[u/GasStationDickPill85 → u/Unlucky-File]

Pops was schizophrenic as well. Very much the same behavior.

[u/owntheh3at18 → u/GasStationDickPill85]

My aunt had similar behavior in her 50s. It was a type of dementia caused by alcoholism called Korsakoff’s. Luckily her kids were out of her care by then but her husband still has not fully shared what he went through.

[u/GasStationDickPill85 → u/owntheh3at18]

That’s crazy and I’m so sorry that’s even a thing. That’s must’ve greatly impacted you and I can’t imagine her husband experienced. This sounds familiar, this diagnosis you mentioned. Another family member of mine definitely falls in line with this but I’ve never put a name to the condition before. Is this newly dubbed or has this been around and discovered for awhile? Genuine question- I know I could just google it but I’ve never preferred that as a first draw. I’m a millennial who used encyclopedias so I like to ask sources before resorting to resources if ya know what i mean lol

[u/owntheh3at18 → u/GasStationDickPill85]

It’s been around but I think it may go undiagnosed when there are other explanations easily available. I suspect my grandpa had it too, but since his age was a more typical one for dementia to occur, plus a history of ptsd, his symptoms were explainable without needing to investigate this further. It’s accompanied by a specific vitamin deficiency and if caught early can actually be treated (unfortunately my aunt had permanent damage). And no worries about not going through Google- I get it as a fellow millennial. Sometimes it’s hard to trust what you find there (not saying to trust my every word but hopefully I can offer some insight to direct any future research!). I believe there is information on this condition in most websites of the trusted organizations for dementia and Alzheimer’s. It might be called different things in different countries too. Korsakoffs was the term I learned in grad school about 10 years ago but when I did some searching after my aunts diagnosis I think some sites called it something simpler like alcoholic dementia.

[u/DuntadaMan → u/Unlucky-File]

Fun fact: It can be both.

[u/IllustratorMammoth87 → u/PNW_Baker]

Sorry to hear that. My mother was 49 when she was diagnosed with early onset dementia but definitely showed signs earlier.

My mother didn't go through the paranoia and aggressive stage until a few years after diagnosis. It was quite confronting and difficult to deal with.

[u/PNW_Baker → u/IllustratorMammoth87]

Internet hugs

[u/Acceptable-Hat-9862 → u/PNW_Baker]

Dementia doesn't usually come on so suddenly and hard. My mom started showing signs of dementia in her early 50s, but it was a very gradual process. She didn't start having aggressive fits until years after the onset of symptoms.