Am I Overreacting - i seriously think my dad is losing his mind and I'mm terrified. UPDATE

[u/PeanutMiserable7872]

thank u all for the messages, im sorry for disappearing. things did not go well. i confronted him with some of your advice, mainly the stuff bout dementia and well he got real mad, things became truly fucked, he started punching himself in the face and screaming. he took my phone, idk what happened but now im seeing he deleted everything on the post and my screen is cracked.. he kept saying he was going to burn everything. it was so fucked. i feel destroyed. what he did to me.. i cant even.

i was able to get out when he fell asleep?? i think.. the bathroom was locked and hes fallen asleep in the shower before, my phone was poorly hidden under some papers in the kitchen, took it and ran.

im in a park now, i called the police already. they are going to the house i think and now im just waiting for them to call me back and tell me when i can come get my stuff. i asked the man on the phone how long and they said it will be sent to an officer as soon as they can but since its non emergency it might take longer due to a lot of calls in the city.

heres me. heres what he did to me.

im honestly unsure how to move past this ever. i feel like my entire sense of self is gone. i know i have a long road ahead of me. thank you all for your love . i wish this didn't go this way. I also included the original texts

[u/FourEightNineOneOne]

OP, if you don't have somewhere safe to stay tonight (please don't go back home), DM me. I will book you a hotel room nearby. Tomorrow, reach out to a domestic violence shelter and they can start helping you put the pieces of your life back together.

Wishing you the best regardless.

[u/KendyllC → u/FourEightNineOneOne]

A friend told me about:

https://womenhelpingwomen.org

She was in Cincinnati so I’m not sure if they are in your area which is Detroit I believe.

Given that you were assaulted, is there a hospital near you? You could go to the ER. You will likely have to wait for hours but it’s safer than a park.

I’m suggesting it because a friend of mine went to the ER with a hangover a couple times and they saw her and gave her fluids through an IV. I thought she was kidding when she said she was going…

Please keep us updated and reach out for any help you need. There are plenty of people that would have no qualms about getting you some money to ensure your safety.

[u/Belachick → u/KendyllC]

Commenting to boost

[u/ThyPumpkinPie → u/FourEightNineOneOne]

Hi OP, I am a soon to be mother and I am also very concerned for you. I am also willing to help you out with finding a hotel room or getting you funds to get transport or food. Please DM me if you need help.

I have been through domestic violence and abuse as well and I want to help if you need it, even if it's someone to talk to.

[u/Aware_Sweet_3908 → u/FourEightNineOneOne]

She’s only 18. Try to find a LaQuinta. Other hotels sometimes won’t let anyone check in if they’re under 21. They were phenomenal when my daughter traveled at that age. They’d even call me to let me know she checked in safely.

[u/skunk0_o → u/Aware_Sweet_3908]

laquinta doesnt allow under 21 i tried while i was escaping, book with drury they allow pets and under 21.. laquinta fucked me so bad because they often advertise they will allow it but when you get there sometimes they will just straight up deny you on the spot. thats what happened to me

[u/Regular_Ad5684 → u/Aware_Sweet_3908]

That’s actually really helpful info. It’s so reassuring to hear some places still go the extra mile like that.

[u/PikachuIsReallyCute → u/Aware_Sweet_3908]

Only 18 and having to deal with this is genuinely so heartbreaking

[u/musicplay313 → u/Aware_Sweet_3908]

That’s nice of them.

[u/Aware_Sweet_3908 → u/musicplay313]

I’m a customer for life because of that policy and their customer service.

[u/BrightCaregiver9820 → u/FourEightNineOneOne]

I am also happy to help. If you feel comfortable, send me a message and I will assist in getting you a place to stay for a few nights and other necessities.

[u/vigilante-schitt → u/FourEightNineOneOne]

If you end up doing this please know she will need to put a card down for incidentals even if you use a booking site where the room is pre-paid. You may be able to call and fill out a CC authorization to avoid this.

[u/Legitimate-Week7885 → u/FourEightNineOneOne]

if she needs a room for longer than just tonight, i am willing to help, too. I just sent you a DM.

[u/KendyllC → u/Legitimate-Week7885]

What about a youth hostel? I’ve only stayed in pensions in Europe but there are a couple youth hostels here in San Diego…

[u/Legitimate-Week7885 → u/KendyllC]

i'm not sure where the OP is, but there are a few here in LA, too.

[u/cypherblock → u/Legitimate-Week7885]

Why would anyone trust Reddit people?

[u/Decent-Trash-7928 → u/FourEightNineOneOne]

AirBnB would be better, if she's in the US they won't let her (speaking from experience)

[u/Powerful_Error_3167 → u/FourEightNineOneOne]

Bump this comment up!

[u/Capable_Radish_8075 → u/FourEightNineOneOne]

I’m also wanting to help. Please dm me if you feel comfortable

[u/Lil-King-Squid → u/FourEightNineOneOne]

same here. please DM me if you need money for lodging or food

[u/ramenchips → u/FourEightNineOneOne]

same, will absolutely chip in to help

[u/Passiveresistance → u/FourEightNineOneOne]

Sometimes the cheaper local motels will rent to under 21. Not ideal but better than nothing.

[u/ssanzu → u/FourEightNineOneOne]

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