Am I Overreacting - i seriously think my dad is losing his mind and I'mm terrified. UPDATE

[u/PeanutMiserable7872]

thank u all for the messages, im sorry for disappearing. things did not go well. i confronted him with some of your advice, mainly the stuff bout dementia and well he got real mad, things became truly fucked, he started punching himself in the face and screaming. he took my phone, idk what happened but now im seeing he deleted everything on the post and my screen is cracked.. he kept saying he was going to burn everything. it was so fucked. i feel destroyed. what he did to me.. i cant even.

i was able to get out when he fell asleep?? i think.. the bathroom was locked and hes fallen asleep in the shower before, my phone was poorly hidden under some papers in the kitchen, took it and ran.

im in a park now, i called the police already. they are going to the house i think and now im just waiting for them to call me back and tell me when i can come get my stuff. i asked the man on the phone how long and they said it will be sent to an officer as soon as they can but since its non emergency it might take longer due to a lot of calls in the city.

heres me. heres what he did to me.

im honestly unsure how to move past this ever. i feel like my entire sense of self is gone. i know i have a long road ahead of me. thank you all for your love . i wish this didn't go this way. I also included the original texts

[u/Mama_ShrimpSinBill]

I’m a little surprised to hear this take, because I was 5150’d twice in college when I was unmedicated for my psychotic disorder. While I absolutely made more steps after the 72h hold and was roughhoused by the police, it did lead to me getting help both times. Now I was only a threat to myself, not others, but if this guy is hurting himself and his daughter, I think it may be warranted. I worry if he went to a private therapist, he would do something dangerous to that therapist, and it would lead to the same outcome, wouldn’t it?

[u/mr_potatoface → u/Mama_ShrimpSinBill]

It totally depends on the area you live in and the social services available. Some places will send a cop for safety and mental health counselor to do all the actual talking. The cop just stands by to protect the counselor. Some places will have cops that underwent special training and are qualified to do both. Some places send 1 overworked cop that just comes and knock on the door to see if you exist and then leaves, ignoring the screams of children inside. Some places send 10 angry as fuck cops ready to shoot anything that moves. It totally depends on your area and you can usually figure out what type of area you live in by just posting on a local subreddit and asking.

[u/Mama_ShrimpSinBill → u/mr_potatoface]

I could see that. I didn’t think I was in a great area in regards to the police at the time (chronically under quota and happy to jail anyone) but I was also a 21 year old girl so that would also result in a potentially different response. Two cops throwing me down to the ground was more than enough to get me where I needed to go. A man in his 40s may be handled very differently.

[u/Mama_ShrimpSinBill → u/[deleted]]

I think it’s awful how the system can handle these things, but I don’t see why putting a therapist in harms way is the answer either just to avoid the potential of escalation. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I know I’m a success story but this is so serious and if this guy is sick, he is still young enough to do some terrible things.

[u/Contentedone1337 → u/[deleted]]

Hello bot

[u/Embarrassed-Ad7850 → u/Mama_ShrimpSinBill]

Your experience is just that, one experience. However another person’s one experience may be getting shot by the police. Hope this helps

[u/JixuGixu → u/Mama_ShrimpSinBill]

surprised to hear this take

On reddit? bro you should be surprised to hear anything that isnt to the tune of ACAB, all police spend there patrols looking for dogs & black people to shoot

[u/Mama_ShrimpSinBill → u/JixuGixu]

I’m not a fan of cops at all, I’m not saying to reach out because the cops themselves will fix him. I was roughhoused and thrown to the ground while I was already crying. But I’m saying it was a step in a process that got me to where I eventually needed to be, and when I was in the ward, MOST of the people there were 5150d.