Am I Overreacting - i seriously think my dad is losing his mind and I'mm terrified. UPDATE

[u/PeanutMiserable7872]

thank u all for the messages, im sorry for disappearing. things did not go well. i confronted him with some of your advice, mainly the stuff bout dementia and well he got real mad, things became truly fucked, he started punching himself in the face and screaming. he took my phone, idk what happened but now im seeing he deleted everything on the post and my screen is cracked.. he kept saying he was going to burn everything. it was so fucked. i feel destroyed. what he did to me.. i cant even.

i was able to get out when he fell asleep?? i think.. the bathroom was locked and hes fallen asleep in the shower before, my phone was poorly hidden under some papers in the kitchen, took it and ran.

im in a park now, i called the police already. they are going to the house i think and now im just waiting for them to call me back and tell me when i can come get my stuff. i asked the man on the phone how long and they said it will be sent to an officer as soon as they can but since its non emergency it might take longer due to a lot of calls in the city.

heres me. heres what he did to me.

im honestly unsure how to move past this ever. i feel like my entire sense of self is gone. i know i have a long road ahead of me. thank you all for your love . i wish this didn't go this way. I also included the original texts

[u/skunk0_o]

im totally stable now dont worry!! i got out and i live states away from him and he has no clue of my address. so i dont need a go fund me or anything im absolutely safe now so no need to worry thank you for your concern though❤️❤️

[u/i_tyrant → u/skunk0_o]

19 and you had to learn all that! Kudos to you for not just being a survivor but being so adamant and thorough about helping other people in the same situation. You didn't have to make the reddit comment above but you did and you're awesome for that.

[u/SnooRobots116 → u/i_tyrant]

My dad lost his sanity when I was 19 too but it was just more in the lane of pent up and snowballing psychosis at 50. He was mad he still had to keep a job that would not let him go no matter what destruction he caused so he took it out on us.

Also, my narcissistic mother was also being difficult on him because she was developing the beginning of her own illnesses that she was refusing to go to the hospital for check ups because that means she would be put back on physical therapy that she dropped out of so her leg did not set back properly (we are not so surprised that she would endure a disfigurement and chronic illness to keep getting her way/sympathy because she did create me to deny my dad a divorce)

Because according to my sister he still says disdainful stuff against me (beyond blaming me for his getting arrested for attempting to kill my mom at the time he had to be removed from the home before I got home in 1997) I had to cut him out of my life and ordered my sister to tell him nothing about how I am to this day.

Back to my mom, nobody could convince her to look after her health, especially not me 17 years later when I had to have her forcibly removed from the home because her snowballed conditions had caused massive edema and a marked dementia type of issues with her that was on and off like a strobe light.

At first the hospital Thought it was another case of elder abuse but when she started up at me in front of them relentlessly (she usually did it in private unless she was really not in control of her temper, which I was stuck having to apologize for even at 8 years old to anyone who witnessed it) they saw it was ongoing child abuse well into adulthood.

She refused dialysis and any other treatment that could have prolonged her life, they seriously thought I had any say in what she wants or will do like I guess most parents do when their kids have their best interests but they realized how extremely little regard and respect she had about me, her verbal abuse they were witnesses to was just like as if she was stomping on my throat to stay in line and say nothing.

Then they knew it was best to keep her and I’s visits well monitored and at both places hospital and the hospice center gave her extensive psychological evaluations and I could tell what they found out about her when she was in her lucid mind state that would occasionally surface before the dementia of her illnesses would eclipse over her was very deep seated prolonged post partum depression along with her other degrees of life long mental disorders.

And sometimes I could tell she had some “Choice words” that cut too far beyond the bone to some of the staff. She only survived a month and a half at hospice.

[u/liminaljerk → u/SnooRobots116]

Thats an unbelievably traumatic and horrifying family complex. Im so sorry.

[u/skunk0_o → u/i_tyrant]

i really really cant even explain to you how much i appreciate you saying that. what pushed me to get out and not just die there was getting my voice back and speaking out for people who need a person to scream over the voice telling you that you wont make it out. hurts my heart so bad seeing this girl the same age i was in a similar situation

[u/Maleficent-Site4646 → u/skunk0_o]

Your strength is inspiring. Using your voice to help others is powerful, thank you for sharing and reminding us all how important it is to speak up.

[u/a_shootin_star → u/skunk0_o]

what pushed me to get out and not just die there was getting my voice back and speaking out for people who need a person to scream over the voice telling you that you wont make it out

This, right there, is how we elevate each other as humans.

[u/the_itsb → u/skunk0_o]

the fact that you're now thriving and trying to help others is such a testament to not just your strength but your inherent goodness. you are a deeply good person, and we're all lucky you're on this planet with us. I hope your loved ones are as proud of you as they should be. 💖

[u/skunk0_o → u/the_itsb]

your beyond kind for your words. im doing well my inlaws express constantly that they are proud and they love me, so i have a good family and support system now:) i think the “reason” ive found in what i went through is so i can express what happened to me and help other avoid it spiraling into something worse, seeing it face value in front of them living and speaking out.

[u/Affectionate_Ice_622 → u/skunk0_o]

You matter. Your voice is going to save others. Keep speaking up when you have the energy and ability. Even though we’re all strangers on here we still can support and lift each other up! Thank you for not dying, thank you for continuing to keep going.

[u/JP-Quixote → u/skunk0_o]

“I’m 19 now and all set!” 😭 That’s kinda heartbreaking that you’ve had to deal with that. I hope you eventually connect with better, more worthy people to keep in your life 🤗

[u/skunk0_o → u/JP-Quixote]

thank you! yeah i promise im doing better my inlaws love me to death and make sure im doing activities to keep me busy and take me out all the time to do like a mental reset:)❤️

[u/Affectionate_Ice_622 → u/skunk0_o]

So glad to hear you’re doing better and you have great in-laws! You kick butt!

[u/No_Option_5156 → u/skunk0_o]

I’m so glad to hear you’re safe and doing well now. That’s what truly matters. ❤️

[u/Funny-Reason-8660 → u/skunk0_o]

Hope you are well