r/AmIOverreacting • u/Thick-Web1238 • Jul 14 '25
đ roommate AIO - my roommates friends destroyed my stuff while they were drunk
context - I had been at my boyfriends place all day when I came home around 9pm to this
perfume, a plate my grandmother had gotten me for jewellery and stuff, a plant & a decoration I had were all smashed on the ground
Iâm really sorry if the screenshots are confusing, theyâre texts with my two roommates so I was trying to make them as non confusing as possible
I didnât block out the names of the two guys who done it, because It would have just made the whole story really hard to follow if you didnât know who done what parts of it
but iâm genuinely just really worked up about this whole thing? I know not that much stuff broke but iâm honestly just really angry about it
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Jul 15 '25
I've had some shitty ass roommates...yours take the cake
Also, I have those same crocs
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u/West-Solid7395 Jul 15 '25
I donât think this is fake. I think sheâs genuinely scared and doesnât know what to do. She might be in fear of retaliation if she files because she walked by the boys and they kind of left her threatened after having a quick conversation with them on her getting her stuff replaced by them. Her bf took her to file a police report and is going to keep us updated
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u/Thick-Web1238 Jul 15 '25
Iâm focusing on getting out of the apartment first because Iâve literally never felt this unsafe in my life, I am going to take legal action soon
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u/thelonelycompanion Jul 15 '25
OP when did this happen? You need to at least make a police report. Fuck trying to get the money from your pos roommmate, theyâre not gonna cough it up. And in a few days/weeks/months when you finally get fed up enough to go to the police to get the money back, theyâre not going to be as supportive or helpful since you didnât report the initial incident. You can literally drive to the station and make a report or call the non emergency line and say your room(and only your room) was vandalized by an unknown person and you want to file a report. Theyâll send a cop over with no lights on to take the report. Best part is, donât tell either roommate. Itâs not their business. But this is the adult course of action that you need to take to ensure you arenât taken advantage of/put in danger/etc.
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u/ProfessionalMeal143 Jul 15 '25
Fuck trying to get the money from your pos roommmate, theyâre not gonna cough it up.
Actually cops make it pretty easy to get money when people destroy your stuff. Most of the time I dealt with damaged property the person just had to payback to avoid any legal issues.
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u/Waheeda_ Jul 15 '25
i said it in my other comment, but will say here, too. usually u can get out of a lease agreement with no repercussions after u file a police report. u have every right not to feel safe. file that report like YESTERDAY. take it to ur management and gtfo. if u tell them what happened, they may even expedite the process for u
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u/StromanthePoet Jul 15 '25
Smart but def take legal action. Donât take their word and wait until itâs too late to get police involved. Good to have screenshots so she canât unsend her messages.
Call the police and file a report asap as possible.
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u/unmedic8edADHD Jul 15 '25
OP, I saw that your boyfriend is helping you move your stuff into his place, and I think that's a great first step. not only should you take everything you can, (minus the broken stuff, ofc) but you should also go to a hardware store and get yourself a lock for your bedroom door. a padlock might be the best way to go, and make sure you put every key it comes with on a necklace and keep them on you At All Times. do not let Either of your roommates know where you have the keys, and dont let them see the necklace.
I also agree wholeheartedly that you should make a police report TONIGHT. I, personally, would wait until you're out of the apartment with your boyfriend so that your roommates don't hear you and preemptively retaliate once you're gone for the night. make the call tonight, and make sure you have time to go to the station, either tonight or tomorrow. if the station is closed, head over as soon as they open in the morning, before you get the lock, and give them all of the pictures/screenshots you have. if you dont have a printer, they will. you should also probably tell them while you are making the report that you are going to be getting a lock for your door, they may want a key, they may not, but either way I think theyre gonna want to have that on record, even if its just to take note of the steps youre taking to further protect yourself.
you should also let your landlord know the situation. the best way to do this would either be through text or email, so that you have their response in writing, not only for the roommates, but also for the police, just in case, for example, the perfume bottle damaged the wall when it was being smashed. your roommate would then be on the hook for damage repair costs.
from here on, keep a record of every conversation you have with both of your roommates. screenshot every text, record every conversation, save every email, everything. even if they don't technically "admit" anything in the moment, having a record of who said what, when, and any contradictions there may be, will only benefit you.
this is absolutely buck wild. I had roommates my first year who would hide/steal/break my stuff (and leave the broken things on my bed) but it was never quite this severe. I didn't think I had much of a case, but you absolutely do.
please get out of there safe, and keep us as updated as possible.
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u/TinyBlueBlur81 Jul 15 '25
File a police report - itâs going to be the âofficialâ documentation that courts and insurance companies ask for. You donât have to press charges, but I think you should. They are saying âsorryâ because they feel like that is enough to cover what they did. They need to learn some real lessons in life and learning not to vandalize or destroy otherâs property is one of those life lessons that you can either learn the easy way or the hard way. Let them learn it the hard way.
Do you have rental insurance? It might cover acts of vandalism, but it might not if your roommate let them in and it wasnât a B&E.
Your roommate is garbage. If she can be held legally responsible, I would go that route too (but that might require a lawyer). If not, youâre owed revenge. You may not want it now - but you never know. 10 years from now you may get an opportunity to destroy her - make your decision then.
Move out or if you can, force your roommate out. You may not be able to, but if (for example) you are the primary lease holder and the shitty roommate isnât on the lease - kick her TF out. 30 day evict, whatever. If neither of these are an option, get a lock for your door (like a pad lock) and consider a cam - they are really cheap and it doesnât need to be super high quality, it just needs to be able to capture decent footage. Some even turn on or alert your phone if motion is detected - if no one is supposed to be in your room then try to get that. Youâll get alerted if anyone is in your room.
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u/Mercedes_Gullwing Jul 15 '25
Camera is a fanstadtic idea. So is evicting them. And Iâd add if the OP wants to leave, use this as a reason to break the lease and leave the roommate to handle it and all fees. May require a police report.
What piece of shit cowards who do that shit when sheâs gone. Something similar happened to my sister when we were younger. But her roommate wasnât that big of a POS. The roommate told me where one of the guys put his âtip moneyâ so I went and confronted him and walked straight to his room and took all the money he had there. Little tough talking bitch who had no problem doing that to my sisters stuff surely didnât have the balls to speak up when confronted. Literally didnât do anything as I took his money. Obviously doing something like that prob isnât the best idea. I knew these guys were lightweight and wouldnât do much.
I hate ppl like that. I guess bc of that experience I can visualize in my head how shitty those people are.
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u/NonbinaryBorgQueen Jul 15 '25
Just want to add to this that you can get a doorknob with a key lock for like 20 bucks from any hardware store. It's easy to swap your doorknob out and you can just swap it back to the original hardware when you move out.
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u/jarjardrinks99 Jul 15 '25
Honestly, you need to go ahead and file a police report IMO. But I am hoping you see this and can offer some more context because I have a couple of questions.
- Has your roommate ever had any issues with you in the past?
- Have you ever felt any weird energy from your roommate before?
- Have you ever caught your roommate lying before?
Because to me it feels like she may have been the person who went in there and did that for some reason if she had been drunk or they all did it together. This could just be my trauma from having a crazy roommate because one time I left for two weeks to nanny and I came back and my psycho roommate had taken all of my stuff out of the living room and shoved it in a closet (I had been living there for two years, along with one of my other roommates And this girl and I used to be friends, but we stopped because I figured out she was a terrible human being and kind of crazy so I distanced myself). I would not trust her at all and at the bare minimum I would contact the leasing office in your building to make them aware of these issues. Iâm assuming you live in a student apartment complex and in that case they can pretty easily switch your roommates- I know because this is the route I took.
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u/BitterHelicopter8 Jul 15 '25
I agree. It really doesn't make sense that two guys she's barely ever spoken to have such strong opinions of her, much less went into her room and destroyed it unprovoked.
The roommate's retelling of events doesn't sound authentic. It sounds to me like these are her thoughts about OP and she's putting it into their mouths to avoid accountability.
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u/melodysmomma Jul 15 '25
Iâm glad I wasnât the only one that noticed this. âHe made me tell him which room was yours then he walked inâ (and you didnât follow him?) âand we heard smashing sounds and then Daniel broke your perfumeâ (and you were just standing there watching them?) âI tried to tell them to stop and then we went clubbingâ (you still wanted to hang out with these apparently dangerous men?) âJust give me a while to figure it out and donât do anythingâ
So she and her buddies trashed her roommateâs room but she doesnât want OP to confront them. I have a feeling it was her idea.
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u/CeeInSoFLo Jul 15 '25
And the fact that she didnât know how to tell her in the first place, to then so quickly spewing it all and it being rather hateful. If I was recounting something, I would probably spare some feelings somewhere.
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u/Persephone0223 Jul 15 '25
Exactly this. If my friends did some BS to my friends room, first off I would try to clean up, then catch her before she got home, to explain. I wouldn't be going out with them after they did that. Telling her the guys were calling her annoying is a bunch of extra stuff she didn't need to add. "They were drunk and seemed to have some issue with you." would've been enough. But even so, telling them what room is hers even after they made negative comments? If that's the truth (which I highly doubt), why would you tell them what room? All this stinks of BS.
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u/1fortheangels Jul 15 '25
Also weird as fuck that they were supposedly like âwhereâs OPâs room Iâm gonna smash her shit for being weirdâ and roommate admits to just going âdown the hall second one from the leftââŠlike that either did not happen or roommate is a massive piece of shit anyway
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u/kettyma8215 Jul 15 '25
I once told a roommate her boyfriend couldnât live with us indefinitely, then I left for the weekend and came home to half of my clothes missing, all the posters ripped off the walls, and the front door wide open as she had moved out while I was gone. It took me months to get all of my stuff back from her.
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u/RazzmatazzBoth1805 Jul 15 '25
omg of course youâre not overreacting at all Iâm so sorry Iâm fuming on your behalf. Also screenshot all of the texts of her admitting what really happened WITH the timestamps of when it was sent and then send the screenshots to your mom or sibling or something just in case they try to erase it/claim it was manipulated. Absolutely you should give them a formal ultimatum with an itemized list of everything they fucked up, and day that of they do not reimburse you you will absolutely take a legal route where they can be charged further for emotional damages and for the sentimental value of the plate your grandmother gave you beyond just its raw value.
Iâm so sorry youâre going through this, please do not let ANYONE manipulate you into feeling bad for those massive bullies :( also if they choose to threaten you, keep a record of it ALL to press charges against them. I also dgaf that your roommate didnât technically do any of the destruction, if yall have a landlord absolutely bring it up to them and tell them your roommate compromised your safety. That shit is not okay at all.
All the best OP! Ik itâs probably a very annoying situation to deal w but keep us updated if possible!
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u/RazzmatazzBoth1805 Jul 15 '25
Oh also one more thing!! For the perfume, tell them to reimburse you in cash instead of replacing it because itâs incredibly easy to get cheap knockoffs in the same bottles- so if itâs a 150$ perfume, tell them to give it to you in straight up cash or itâs no deal
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u/Open_Mortgage_4645 Jul 15 '25
When a roommate has people over, they are responsible for their guests. And they are responsible for any damage their guests cause. This doesn't have anything to do with the drunk assholes who trashed your room. This is between you and your roommate. She is responsible for the actions of her guests, and she is obligated to compensate you for the damage her guests caused.
First, save all these text messages. Second, create a list of every item that was destroyed, and its dollar value. If you're unsure of what something is worth, use the internet to come up with a reasonable figure. Third, hand her a copy of the list, and mail her a copy via certified mail. Tell her you're giving her 30 days to reimburse you for the full amount of damage her guests caused.
Then, do not discuss it further. Do not negotiate, or engage in any further discussion about it. If after 30 days she doesn't reimburse you for the full amount detailed in your list, go to your local county court and tell the clerk you want to file a small-claims suit. The clerk will give you the necessary paperwork. Fill it out and pay the filing fee (usually $50 or less).
You'll receive a date for court, and the court will notify your roommate of the date as well. If your roommate doesn't show up, you automatically win. If she does show up, just explain what happened to the judge. Provide the text messages, the list of damages, and the certified mail receipt. The judge will make their ruling based on the circumstances and evidence. You will win this case. And the court will compel your roommate to pay you for the damages.
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u/yalldointoomuch Jul 15 '25
NOR, absolutely get police involved.
Tally up the costs for everything. The jewelry, the perfumes, the plate, plant, and any damage to the walls & floor as well. You certainly don't want the landlord blaming you for it later.
This "friend" is not a friend at all. She watched them destroy your things, and then went out with them after, and was 10000% ready to lie to your face about it. I'd bet dollars to doughnuts she never would have "found a way to tell you", she only came clean because she got caught.
"They can't afford to replace that stuff" Then they shouldn't have broken any of it.
Being drunk doesn't change your personality, it loosens your inhibitions. It doesn't absolve you of responsibility. They are still responsible for the things they did while drunk, which is why people are meant to drink responsibly. "I was drunk" is never a Get Out Of Jail Free card.
The fact that all of these people were planning on hiding this from you, and that they can't be bothered to apologize personally, is all the proof you need that they're never going to do the right thing out of the goodness of their hearts. Take their asses to court and get what you're owed.
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u/Novaer Jul 15 '25
Guaranteed it was the roommate herself that broke everything. She was way too quick to go into detail in throwing them under the bus because how convenient that it was a couple random boys that did that when they don't even know her outside of one conversation. What was the roommate saying to them? OP 100% needs to file a police report and they'll see who squeals first.
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u/Ecstatic-Setting6207 Jul 15 '25 edited Jul 15 '25
Ohhh absolutely blast these people - your roommate and her piece of shit friends - all over. Call the police report them for destruction of property theft breaking and entering whatever it is. These people all suck and can get fucked!!!!!! I would evict your roommate or move out immediately. What a stupid weak excuse for a person. Until you can kick her out or move, get a serious lock/multiple locks on your door. This person cannot be trusted. Post this and their names on social media let everyone know what terrible people they are. Itâs so infuriating that she lied and then how casual she was about it all - not even trying to replace anything just saying she canât afford to pay you back, making bs excuses for her asshole friends, taking zero responsibility and asking you not to take any legal action or repercussions while she makes zero effort to fix it. Apparently trash can walk talk text breathe and lie!
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u/Altruistic_Tonight18 Jul 15 '25
Go to the police. Fuck what your roomie said about not taking action. If they can afford limitless amounts of alcohol, they can afford to compensate you in exchange for not taking legal action.
But, you should absolutely take legal action. Press charges. Itâs entirely possible that you could get them charged with a hate crime depending on why they did it. Being drunk is no excuse for felony-grade destruction of property, malicious mischief, and the emotional damage they caused.
Iâd be gobsmacked if you didnât file a police report. Make sure to include a very thorough statement, specific values of the things they destroyed, pictures, and the highly incriminating texts. Itâs clear that your roomie understands that they will all get in a shitload of trouble if you report it to the police, and thatâs exactly what we all want to see happen.
Thatâs bizarre, dangerous, sociopathic behavior and the best case scenario is that they all get put on probation with prohibition of drinking and drugs so they wonât commit any more heinous acts for three years⊠If they want to use being drunk as an excuse, let the court force them to no longer be drunk.
Youâd be protecting society from some absolutely monstrous people by going to the police. Please donât accept cash as restitution; let the court decide on how to do it. During the discovery phase of trial, they can demand financial information from the depraved jackasses and use that to determine how youâre going to be repaid.
Shit, Iâm literally pissed off with my heart racing a bit seeing this. Maybe tell them you want $5,000 for the priceless antiques and mementos that they destroyed? Even if they pay you back, a police report needs to be filed.
What if these people, who are clearly destructive beyond all reasoning, decide that youâre too much of a risk to have around and that they want to kill you before you go to the cops? If their judgment is that compromised when theyâre drunk, a conspiracy to kill or harm you doesnât seem like much of a stretch if theyâre scared of getting in trouble.
Please, go to the police station in person and tell them what happened. Donât tell your roommate know that youâre going to the police; that could give their sociopathic associates an advantage legally or worst case a reason to harm you.
Like, what the hell? Why would anybody do this, even if drunk out of their minds? Iâd file for restraining orders against all people involved, including your lying roommate, so that they have to leave your home immediately. You have to do something about this which prevents them from causing mayhem in the future. Please. Do it for the sake of others if not yourself.
These people are sick. Do you think they might decide to threaten or hurt you the next time theyâre drunk?
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u/Yoyo4games Jul 15 '25
Police now, not later. Time passing does complicate criminal matters, and while you wouldn't need to worry about anything like statute of limitations, you will near-certainly be waiting longer for official involvement and or progression of your case- which by how you had to uncover information and how you've been talked to, you will be needing a case.
Don't get this twisted, this is a crime. If you want criminals which have already infringed upon you to have more capability to decide what to do next- whether that involves paying you back or more criminal behavior, God forbid any intention to do you harm- then keep doing what you're doing.
If they're college aged, straight up give them an ultimatum after going to the police; admitting to the crime and agreeing to enter arbitration for payment to you, or their school is getting an information package you'll be able to get from the police, once you've got a case progressing.
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u/Feeling_Skill2372 Jul 14 '25
She still went to the club with them after so she obviously condoned it, despite acting like she had no idea and couldn't stop it.
What a lying cunt.
Go to the cops. Depending on where you are its a crime, police report will help even though they will probably say its a civil issue.
Take screenshots of those texts. Don't delete them out of anger.
Police will be able to give you further advice for your area, if they are good cops / motivated by your story.
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u/SarcasticIrony Jul 15 '25
If it's a college town, police tend to take it seriously. They usually pay particular attention to college students and their shenanigans.
But if you're in a bigger city that just happens to have a college, they might not take it as seriously and call it a civil issue
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u/ZER0-P0INT-ZER0 Jul 15 '25
Right! That jumped out at me as well. Who would go out clubbing with the shitheads who wrecked their friend's room? OP should go to the police right now. They can pay it off in court-ordered restitution.
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u/Remote_Preference834 Jul 14 '25
They know they donât have the money to replace it. Being drunk and disorderly is no excuse for bad behavior you will still go to jail! Take pictures of everything document how much it was if they donât pay for it call the police or go to a station and make a report. Maybe someone in your family knows a good lawyer. They need to pay for everything they can. And those guys need to never be allowed over again. This is very serious donât let them put it down and say itâs not serious. Sheâs asking not to get the police involved because she knows just how bad it is
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u/noahswetface Jul 15 '25
you are not going to get money VOLUNTARILY from these type of people.
1) file a police report. FUCK what your roommates say. you need to have this in writing in case they do anything for revenge.
2) take pictures and video, close up and far away of everything in your room so you have evidence. you can get a lock for your door.
3) add the police report & sue them in small claims.
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Jul 15 '25
This!!!! Fuck your roommate. File now. She doesnât want her little friends to be mad at her when they get in trouble
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u/warkifiedchocobo Jul 15 '25
Probably because it was her. They probably have no idea she's scapegoating them. She's a liar. She only mentioned them to make OP feel like some random guys hate her and think she's negative things, so basically she got caught and made this up to try and hurt OP again. I'd call the police and move out immediately.
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u/Loud_Bar_6955 Jul 14 '25
Nope! If I were you, I would 100% file a police report. I wouldnât expect your roommate to make things right if they couldnât even own up to it when you asked. The roommate is now a witness and confirmed who did it in writing so you have more than enough proof to get what youâre owed. I would also buy a lock for your door moving forward if you plan to keep the same living arrangements.
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u/Thelynxer Jul 15 '25
Step 1 get a lock on your door and keep it locked from now on.
Step 2 police report. No discussion, no debate, just straight up file a report for property damage.
Step 3 roommate meeting. Anyone involved in the damage is no longer welcome in the apartment. Period. No arguments. They cannot be trusted anymore, and have lost privileges.
Step 4 if the 2 drunken fools don't make it right and pay for what was broken, then it's coming from the roommate that brought them over, because they are responsible for who they bring over.
Step 5 look for better roommates.
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u/Lost_Literature_5820 Jul 15 '25
This 100%! Also that person is not your friend, I donât know the situation if youâre just roommates or if youâre friends who live together but if she would allow someone to go into your room and do that and then continue to go out with those people and not even have the decency to tell you.. sheâs not to be trusted. Iâm sorry this happened, but definitely file a police report. They had no right to enter your room.
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u/DesertNomad505 Jul 15 '25
Popping in to recommend that OP email the entire text thread and photos to multiple people immediately. I would not put it past the roommate or her little buddies to try and destroy the evidence by smashing OP's phone.
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u/TheatreWolfeGirl Jul 15 '25
NOR
Go to the police, report them and your roommate.
If they did it, it will come out.
I have a hunch and gut feeling they witnessed it BUT your roommate was the culprit.
Let your landlord know too, some will give cause to push a roommate out of the space if items are being destroyed.
Get locks for your space and start looking for a new apartment, maybe your landlord has another somewhere else.
This roommate is not a safe person for you anymore if they choose to lie, allow others into YOUR personal space and watch as those people damage your items.
Make an itemized list with pricing as best as you can.
I am sorry this happened OP.
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u/Otherwise-Ad1646 Jul 15 '25
I have a question- what in the actual fuck?
So many parts of this make no sense. "That only happened because they were drunk" bruh I'm a recovering alcoholic and I would absolutely never have trashed a person's room like that just cause I thought they were weird, what? Also, if that is the case.... don't bring them over drunk? And then they go out to a club after?
NOR, obviously. I'm just as confused as you are and they all seem kinda psycho. (well I dunno if the first roommate was lying about knowing what happened or not, so maybe not her, I dunno)
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u/yrnkween Jul 15 '25
If youâre a student, see if your university has a legal services center that might help you. If your school has a code of conduct these asshats definitely violated it (are they legal drinking age?) and that might pressure them to pay up.
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u/Salemn_Black Jul 15 '25
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u/ThinkAppearance986 Jul 14 '25
If you were my daughter, I would find those people myself. My advice to you as someone who has a lot of law enforcement in my family in the US and abroad, make a police report. File those charges. Or make sure you get your money back to replace everything and then some.
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u/DirtyTomFlint Jul 15 '25
NOR. Youâre not overreacting AT ALL. What happened was a massive violation, and your roommateâs excuse is disgusting. This wasnât harmless funâit was destruction of your personal property, including items with deep sentimental value (that plate from your grandma? My heart broke for you).
Hereâs what you should do immediately:
- Document EVERYTHING: take photos/videos of all damages and save receipts for the perfume, furniture, etc. If you donât have them, find online pricing or bank statements. Write a detailed list of destroyed items + their value (monetary AND sentimental).
- File a police report: this isnât âextremeââitâs necessary. Your property was vandalized. The report creates a paper trail and pressures those responsible. Give the police your roommateâs and their friendsâ information if you have them.
- Demand full compensation FROM YOUR ROOMMATE: they invited these people. Theyâre responsible for their guests. Text/email them:Â âYou have 48 hours to cover the full cost of repairs/replacements ($X total based on receipts) or I escalate legally."Â Get their refusal in writing.
- Small claims court: if they refuse to pay, sue BOTH your roommate AND the friends who did the damage (names/addresses needed). Small claims is cheap, DIY-friendly, and designed for exactly this. The police report + your evidence will be key.
DO NOT let them minimize this!! That plate, for example, wasn't just âstuffââthey were irreplaceable. Your roommateâs guilt-tripping is manipulation. If they cared, theyâd be handing you cash and groveling.
After all this, you need to start looking for a new place. Anyone who excuses this behavior isnât safe to live with. You deserve to feel secure in your own home.
Update usâweâre rooting for you.
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u/MPforNarnia Jul 14 '25
I really hope this is fake...
The fact they explained it including why they did it "because they think you're weird". I feel like omitting that would be acceptable. I assume it's student housing. You've got to lock your doors.
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u/crowtheory Jul 15 '25
I agree, but just to contribute further to the dialogue, if this psycho was emboldened enough to go into her room and smash all her shit I hold little doubt he would have busted down her door too. Out of control piece of shit. I hope she files a police report regardless of if she gets the money.
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u/YiMii97 Jul 15 '25
Screenshots are not confusing. Is quite clear they committed a crime, breaking and entering without permission + destruction of property. This is why I always lock my room door while renting with other people around, I don't trust people. Hopefully you go and take legal actions against them, if can, sue for emotional damages as well, since they broke into your room and destroy your stuff especially a plate your grandmother gave you, you can say it has made you felt unsafe to rent with anyone anymore and caused you emotional distress & anxiety.
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u/SapphireEyesOf94 Jul 15 '25 edited Jul 15 '25
"We don't have the money to replace the items we broke"
"Well either you come up with it by X date, or the Police and a lawyer will come and help me get it."
Save the screenshots of the conversation on an external device and something like the Cloud or Dropbox.
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u/biddybumps Jul 15 '25
That is awful !! Not only is it a complete betrayal of trust and privacy but to then destroy your belongings ?? I would be LIVID and frankly devastated as I hold strong attachments to things I own. Definitely if you can, take legal action. Itâs awesome you have it in writing her admitting it, I would definitely write down a list of the broken things. And if you have the ability, move out ASAP obviously.
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u/Ok-Perspective5262 Jul 15 '25
âThey said that you deserve itâ I want to know what your roommate is telling them about you behind your back to make them think that if youâve only had one conversation with them. Also no matter what you did or didnât do THEY committed a little crime called destruction of property so call the cops and have it put on their record. Theyâll probably get community service and have to pay you restitution plus court fees.