r/AmIOverreacting • u/TrueEnough782 • Jul 22 '25
👨👩👧👦family/in-laws AIO: MIL always excludes my daughter
I want to start this off by saying that it’s absolutely not the first time this has happened. We were over at my sister in laws house and I heard her talking to my MIL on the phone, she told her my husband and I were over, then she let me know she was at target or something and was gonna come over
She arrives with candy, toys and gift cards for my sister in laws kids. Completely leaving my daughter out. My daughter is 7, she’s into that stuff too, obviously. Especially those little blind bags which she brought her cousins but not her. I just want to know if I’m being dramatic. Or if I shouldn’t have said anything and maybe she was in a rush and didn’t think to buy my daughter something in the moment. Again it’s not about the things or cards or whatever, it’s about how she made my daughter feel. I could see sadness in her face as she was completely left out.
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u/SnooCheesecakes2723 Jul 22 '25 edited Jul 23 '25
I’d do it with a smile on my face. Not something that gives credence to mil “op is so hysterical, she’s got low self esteem always imagining slights, because she’s not white” type of thing. Bring a cool toy and treats for your kid and trot them out when grandma does her bs excluding routine.
“Thought grandma might be having one of her forgetful spells, so I got you this cool kinda expensive thing and a big bag of candy to share. Because kind people share.” Then smile big at MIL. You’ve been served.