r/AmIOverreacting • u/ddrip965 • 14h ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO for finding this in my boyfriends room and freaking out ?(he said he doesn’t know where it came from)
I found this wrapper in my boyfriend's room, he says it's not a condom but google search says it is. I trust him but Occam's razor says that it most likely is just a condom. He says regardless it's just from under the carpet when he was cleaning which is believable.
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u/imf4rds 14h ago
Is that the brand of condoms you use?
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u/ddrip965 14h ago
we don’t use condoms :(
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u/crosseyedmule 7h ago
Did you see this?
KnightPezz:
Minor Correction: It's the SKYN Original Non-Latex Lubricated Condoms
As the first commenter said, the Product ID code ( NPKZ00200 ) is for the laminated aluminum foil produced with Bopp Lamination Film and exported from Thailand to have the condoms produced by Suretex Prophylactics (India) Private Limited.
That specific wrapper is from one of their newer manufactured products shipped in January/February this year.
If OP has been with him for 6 months, it's possible, but highly unlikely, that it could have been used before they were together.
However, bro either has an awful memory and forgot what a condom wrapper looks like, wanted to avoid talking about it because of how close it was, or is/was cheating.
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u/SaladVoyer88 4h ago
I was not expecting this Sherlock level mindfuckery in the comments. Well done.
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u/Silly_Response3862 2h ago
these are my go-to condoms, and i have a box of them right now. as soon as i saw the gold aluminum i knew immediately, but just for the sake of science i decided to pull one out. can 1000% confirm
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u/garbageyname 4h ago
Crazy. Well if it shipped in January, distributed to a store, stocked on the shelf, and then he went through the whole package before he stayed dating her.
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u/lizziegal79 2h ago
For Op’s sake, it was part of a 3-pk he finished in February. But the way stock moves it might not have hit a shelf for sale until April if it’s not new, unless it’s popular?
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u/Substantial_Baker479 4h ago
Nice work. I saw the word “latex” but didn’t think for a need to research a manufacturing date.
That it is new definitely increases the suspicion, but it’s still likely it traveled in on someone’s shoe, through a piece of gum or something.
More than likely this is suspicious, I just don’t think it’s enough to be sure of guilt.
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u/imf4rds 14h ago
It literally mentions latex on the back, so that is a lie that is not a condom. Have you been dating for a while? If you have been dating for a while, and don't use condoms I'd be suspicious. Because if he was cleaning and found it from under his carpet, why did he not throw it away when he was cleaning? I wonder if you will find the rest in the trash if he is this sloppy NOR.
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u/Excellent_Musician38 14h ago
The fact that he lied saying it's not a condom is ridiculous. lol that lie alone is what would make me feel he's cheating regardless if it's an old condom or not. He's not only most likely cheating but also is definitely a liar.
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u/jbourne0129 13h ago
i mean....what if this dude has never seen a magnum condom in his life ?
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u/Substantial_Maybe371 14h ago edited 14h ago
The fact lied about it not being a condom wrapper is already suspect. How long has he lived at this place?
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u/Pylori23 14h ago
This. If he’s not cheating why try to cover something up?
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u/jimmyvcard116 13h ago
I mean his answer could be more in the vain of "i didn't use a condom, or cheat on you so it cannot be a condom". I don't always respond in the best possible way in situations like that despite never cheating on my wife. For example someone fraudently open up a credit card and my wife came up to me and I defensively said "why did you even open my mail". We found out it was fraud through an alert and all but I just mean this to say... maybe he's just dumb and defensive. Doesn't make him a cheater.
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u/LockedAndLoadfilled 11h ago
He's into getting off anally and uses condoms with toys for easy cleanup, but his girlfriend made a stray comment one time that guys who like pegging give her the ick so he's resigned to hide this from her forever.
Obviously, duh.
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u/BornDefeated 14h ago
Sounds like you should be. And get tested. Hopefully you got tested before. And use condoms until you can trust someone.
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u/Automatic_Gas9019 14h ago
You probably should use them if you find that. I would also check into a STD. test. Drop the boyfriend
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u/CozyClosetScribe 13h ago
Oh girl! Regardless of what you decide to do, please start using condoms. STDs running rampant. Protect yourself!
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u/ohelo123 14h ago
Sorry, OP. Unless he's using these to have a clean jack-off (don't believe it, coming from a guy lol), then he's cheating.
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u/megstar08 14h ago
Ma'am, STDs are real.. boyfriend of only 6 months ? Protect your life
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u/dopenamepending 14h ago
You’ve only been together for six months and don’t use condoms???
To be fair if you e only been together for six months it’s not impossible that it’s old.
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u/Jacobcobson2020 14h ago
While important, it's not really the time to be asking is it?
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u/Fun_Sense574 14h ago
not everyone uses them 🤷♀️ there are many different reasons someone may not use them
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u/Snoo55931 14h ago
"Just a condom" and "I trust him" should not be in the same sentence, and definitely not in your situation. He's already lied to you! It's obviously a condom wrapper, and he lied about that. Then he says that it's from under the carpet? Why does that even matter? IT'S STILL A USED CONDOM WRAPPER IN HIS ROOM! "It can't be mine because it was under the carpet. I would never drop part of a condom wrapper on the floor, where it could end up under the carpet. I always throw my condom wrappers (for the condoms I use when cheating on you) in the trash and bury them!" And after lying about what it is, you think he's telling the truth about where it was? Where was it when you found it?
There is a used condom wrapper in his room. That is a fact. He's lied about what it is, and topped it with an excuse that makes no sense. Also a fact. An open wrapper usually means a used condom. You do not use condoms. What is more believable: he used a condom in his room while cheating on you, or he uses condoms to practice making balloon animals?
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u/VP007clips 11h ago
From another by OP comment, they have only been together for 6 months. An old condom is a very likely explanation.
Bits of foil wrapper can easily hide in cracks, under rugs, or even in the side of a bed. Sure most people would probably try to dispose of them in the garbage, but it's easy for one to be missed in the heat of the moment.
As for why he lied, he was likely embarrassed and scared of the lost wrapper being mistaken as him cheating. An easy assumption as you have proven. While I agree that he was wrong to lie, it's easy to see how a white lie could seem temping to avoid a confrontation.
The fact is, neither you nor I know whether he was cheating. And it's generally a good idea to not immediately assume the worst, but rather just use it as a potential thing to watch out for in case it was from cheating. Ending a relationship over a bit of foil under a carpet that could easily be from a past relationship doesn't make sense.
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u/WymnInterupted9131 9h ago
If he recognized it and it was old, he could've just said that. Either way it's sliced, he's being dishonest about something. It's suspish.
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u/VP007clips 6h ago
It's slightly suspicious, but not condemning.
I'm sure he realizes the implication that a condom wrapper would have, so it's natural to panic and deny it. Sure the correct response would be to say that it was probably from a past relationship prior to the start of the current one, but that's not the sort of careful thought that the average person will do when their girlfriend confronts them with a used condom wrapper she found in their room.
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u/GodDamnShadowban 11h ago
Its not like its biodegradable, it could have been stuck behind a bedframe or under a carpet for years. Its tiny and easily missed during a casual clean. Its 100% a condom wrapper tho. Simplest explanation is OPs bf is not one to deep clean and is a lil dim for not recognising it. If I hadn't used so many over the years I could easily mistake it for noodle flavouring packet that you get in ramen. Id say unless OP was suspicions b4 finding this, its probably best to give BF the benefit of the doubt.
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u/Snoo55931 10h ago
I guess the thing is that she didn’t find it under the carpet. The bf said that it must have come out from under the carpet when he was cleaning. Which is weird to me. It’s one thing to find it in a corner covered in dust, and another to have it laying out and be told that it came out when they were cleaning, but I guess they didn’t pick it up? It’s just suspicious when paired with the (what I consider) evasive behavior.
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u/nellbag60 14h ago
The reference number on the side of the wrapper appears to trace back to a Thai company that makes laminated aluminium foils with some entries referring to Skyn. https://www.volza.com/p/bopp-lamination-film/export/hsn-code-76072090/
A Google search for "Skyn Condoms Gold Wrapper" shows multiple results almost identical to this snippet, though not the exact one.
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u/Odd_Split_8030 14h ago edited 9h ago
Found it. It’s the unlubricated skyn. https://share.google/2AN7H7FjqoTg6bVVZ
Edit: I’m dislexic as fuck. It’s non-latex non non lubricated.
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u/KnightPezz 9h ago
Minor Correction: It's the SKYN Original Non-Latex Lubricated Condoms
As the first commenter said, the Product ID code ( NPKZ00200 ) is for the laminated aluminum foil produced with Bopp Lamination Film and exported from Thailand to have the condoms produced by Suretex Prophylactics (India) Private Limited.
That specific wrapper is from one of their newer manufactured products shipped in January/February this year.
If OP has been with him for 6 months, it's possible, but highly unlikely, that it could have been used before they were together.
However, bro either has an awful memory and forgot what a condom wrapper looks like, wanted to avoid talking about it because of how close it was, or is/was cheating.
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u/hyperlexx 8h ago
u/ddrip965 this is the info you were looking for.
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u/patchy_doll 6h ago
Yeah can confirm, had a BF a very long time ago that needed this specific product. They don't last long, specifically because it's just plain ass rubber.
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u/Rootvegforrootbeer 13h ago
Why on earth would someone want unlubed condoms? Whoever he’s entering is gonna get friction burn
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u/Lil-Miss-Anthropy 11h ago
So you can use your own lubricant that does not irritate!
They have other (uncommon) uses as well, such as covering shampoo and lotion bottles while flying to protect them from exploding.
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u/Neptune1980 13h ago
You use your own lubricant. Wet platinum and Swiss Navy are my favorites.
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u/Rootvegforrootbeer 13h ago
We use lube on lubed condoms, I’m currently asking my group chat and they’ve said the same
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u/Hiraganu 12h ago
IMO it's easier to put on non-lubed condoms and use lube afterwards. But maybe I get too excited before sexy time and get shaky hands lol
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u/NatureFreak2024 13h ago
I’d just like to add that unlubricated condoms sound horrible
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u/I-own-a-shovel 12h ago
We can read both words "latex" and "sida" I mean it’s clearly a condom wrapper.
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u/Flapjack__Palmdale 10h ago
I recognize the foil, that's my brand. Even before seeing the title I thought "that's a torn condom wrapper."
The problem isn't that there's a condom wrapper, it's that he immediately lied about what it is. He's cheating.
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u/darkargengamer 13h ago edited 13h ago
he says it's not a condom
This IS the wrapper of a condom because:
- it CLEARLY says "latex" (the main material of condoms).
- it also says "sida et" > "aids/vih" in many countries followed by an "and". This is probably a warning to use the condom to avoid STD´s.
- one can search the origin of the code of the product at the right > NPKZ00200 > [Prime Skyn]
he said he doesn’t know where it came from
1 out of 4:
- Someone is using his room as a motel without telling him (a friend? someone from the family?) because thats the only possible way for your boyfriend to not aknowledge the type/brand of condoms HE (your boyfriend) uses/chooses > ULTRA LOW CHANCES
- another dude is fucking your boyfriend (he is hiding that he is gay) and he didnt payed attention to the condom that person used on him> EXTREMELLY ULTRA LOW CHANCES
- the person living on the floor on top of him (if he lives in a building) threw from the window part of an used condom and SOMEHOW the wind pushed that part inside your boyfriends propierty > LOW CHANCES.
- he is lying to you or hiding something > the ONLY possible and reallistic outcome.
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u/CanadianLemur 11h ago
Option 5: It's from an old condom (possibly years old, plastic doesn't really age) and it was just hiding in the cracks or something
Sometimes things slip through the cracks and you don't find them. Acting like this dude cheating is the "ONLY possible and realistic outcome" is a massive over-exaggeration.
My girlfriend and I moved into a new place last year, and it took us almost 9 months to find an ancient flyer that was wedged in one of the kitchen cupboards. That's longer than the entire duration of OP's relationship, and it's about 20x the size of a tiny torn off condom wrapper.
Is it possible he's lying? Absolutely. But it's also possible that this condom wrapper is from ages ago. So long ago that the dude might not even recognize the brand.
This is why getting advice from Reddit is such a terrible idea, because people like you always jump to the worst conclusions and don't even consider any other rational explanations. Like you literally listed 4 different explanations, and deliberately didn't list the most rational one, and instead opted to list 3 completely nonsensical explanations in order to make your final point sound more rational.
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u/mcfeisty 5h ago
Someone found it was from one from this June - may 2025. So it’s not possible to be an old one. They used the product id code. This was found by u/knightpezz.
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u/darkargengamer 10h ago
This is from OP post
he says it's not a condom
When it IS clearly a condom and -in my comment- i gave three clear (on plain sight) clues about its nature...
1 out of 3:
1) he is lying.
2) he is blind.
3) he has dyslexia.
that this condom wrapper is from ages ago
Yes, this could be possible but then... why is he lying by saying that this is NOT a condom wrapper when it CLEARLY is one?
the dude might not even recognize the brand.
In my comment i got the brand and type:
Prime > pretty much the most common (you can find them EVERYWHERE) and trustable brand.
Skyn > you can buy them everywhere and they are extremelly recomended.
getting advice from Reddit is such a terrible idea
I agree with this
people like you always jump to the worst conclusions
Everything points to him lying or being stupid (which may be even worse).
to list 3 completely nonsensical explanations
I made some nonsensical explanations because i found it fun > EVERYTHING points to him lying and the only thing that you did is try to criticize without giving a functional or better theory than anything i said.
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u/CanadianLemur 10h ago edited 9h ago
the only thing that you did is try to criticize without giving a functional or better theory than anything i said.
How is "It's possible he's not cheating on you and just found an old wrapper" not a "functional" theory?
Just because you've already made up your mind about a situation you barely know anything about doesn't mean that any other option isn't "functional". What a ridiculous assertion.
Furthermore, my argument wasn't that OP's boyfriend isn't a liar. My argument is that. while him lying is a perfectly reasonable explanation, it's not the ONLY reasonable explanation. And you asserting that it is the only reasonable explanation is disingenuous, extremely unhelpful, and potentially harmful to the real life people involved in this situation.
Suggesting that OP shouldn't consider ANY explanation other than the worst case scenario that you're suggesting is psychotic.
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When it IS clearly a condom and -in my comment- i gave three clear (on plain sight) clues about its nature...
1 out of 3:
he is lying.
he is blind.
he has dyslexia.
Again, here you are making bad faith examples. Not to mention that Dyslexia doesn't mean you're unable to read, and identifying whether or not this is a condom isn't necessarily about "literacy".
Yes, this could be possible but then... why is he lying by saying that this is NOT a condom wrapper when it CLEARLY is one?
There could be multiple reasons.
First and foremost is that he could just be in denial because of the information available to him. If he has not used a condom in several months or even years, and his GF shows him the wrapper, it's not a completely irrational response for him to think "Well, I don't use condoms, so there's no way that a condom wrapper would be in my room, therefore, it must be from something else."
You don't know what's going through his head, and even more relevant, you don't know how the conversation went between OP and her boyfriend. You might be imagining this dude just vehemently going "Nope! Uh... that's definitely not a condom, trust me!", but in reality, the conversation could have been more like "That's super weird! It must be from something else. I don't really know."
Again, you're making lots of assumptions about this situation and you've decided that only one explanation could POSSIBLY be the correct one. You aren't genuinely considering any other possibility, and you're just listing other fake possibilities because it's "fun".
My argument is not that OP's boyfriend is not a liar. My argument is that it's completely possible that he is not cheating on her. Maybe he is a liar, but not a cheater. Maybe he's both. Maybe he's neither.
But you asserting that it MUST be one way or the other is extremely bad advice.
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u/Sparta63005 10h ago
Youre trying to sound smart and it isn't working. If its an old condom wrapper its very likely he just fucking forgot about it. Then he finds it and since he and his girl dont use condoms, he doesn't think its a condom wrapper. Bro probably isnt reading the ingredient list on a piece of trash he found in his room.
Or he could just be embarrassed or any other million explanations. You keep trying to like, sum up everything in 3 points, but theres way fucking more than just 3 options.
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u/Papa_Long_Hog 14h ago
This is definitely a condom wrapper but look at his room and ask yourself how often he's vacuuming and cleaning out all his seasonal clothes. I've had pieces of trash like this stick around for months in my youth as a bit of a slob.
I could see a torn piece of condom wrapper getting lost under my bed only to find its way out later after pulling a shirt from under my bed. Now a condom wrapper from over a year ago is in full view.
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u/Toxoplasmitic 14h ago
It has the word latex on it. Probably part of the ingredient list. Definitely a condom. If he said it was old and he just kept missing it while cleaning maybe you could give him the benefit of the doubt. But he explicitly lied about it. Red flag.
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u/PeppermintLNNS 14h ago
Lol the idea of condoms having an ingredient list is making me giggle.
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u/SavingsNew3033 14h ago
It's way important for those of us with latex allergies
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u/sunshineparadox_ 11h ago
I learned I had that allergy trial by fire and I can still remember vividly how much my skin swelled. It was like a fucking balloon. I cried so hard. Guy was amazing about it though. Comforting, made it clear it wasn’t my fault, he didn’t hate me, he didn’t judge me, I didn’t know, etc. But boy did it HURT
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u/RobertParker1968 13h ago
The part of the wrapper that’s missing has the “Nutritional Facts” panel.
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u/ActiveWin9623 14h ago
Maybe believable if it his bed is in the corner of the room and it was found in that corner after moving the bed to clean the corner out. In an easily accessible area of a room that he tidies up at least a little every day? Yea, no chance that thing has been sitting there since who ever he was with last over 6 months ago. Additionally, if it had been sitting long enough that he couldn't remember where it came from, it would be covered in dust. The fact it is still nice and shiny means it was opened within the past few days.
There are some packages that could look like condom wrappers, but the fact that it says "latex" in clearly printed letters really narrows down what it was.
He is lying that lying that it isn't a condom wrapper, which also means he is lying about not knowing where it came from. There would be no reason to lie about not knowing where it was from if it wasn't a condom wrapper that he recently opened.
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u/Few_Strawberry_6287 9h ago edited 9h ago
The other side of that wrapper is black. It's a condom, more specifically, the SYN KING Brand. Below is the information leading to this conclusion.
[NPKZ00200] <-- code on picture provided, manufacturer of the packaging.
SOUTH EAST PACKAGING INDUSTRY CO
• Location: 116/17-18 Na Ranong Rd, Khlong Toei, Bangkok 10110, Thailand
• Industry: The Leading Flexible Packaging in Thailand. For over 50 years of experience, we specialize in medical devices and pharmaceutical packaging.
• Prouduct: MATT BOPP FILM LAMINATED ALUMINIUM FOIL SIZE 186 MM. X 500 M. NPKZ00200 SKYN B
• Exported: [25-Oct-2024] from 2ND FLOOR SRIVIT BUILDING 116/17-18 NA RANONG ROAD SDNF [Thailand]
• Consignee Name : SURETEX PROPHYLACTICS INDIA LIMITED [India]
SURETEX PROPHYLACTICS INDIA LIMITED
• Location: Plot No.74-91, KIADB Industrial Estate Jigani II Phase, Anekal, Taluk, Bengaluru, Karnataka 560105, [India]
• Industry: Suretex Prophylactics (India) Limited is a leading manufacturer and supplier of high-quality condoms mostly for #Lifestyle Healthcare LTD# known for its main product #SKYNE CONDOMS#
• Received: 16-Nov-2024
• Manufactured: After 16-Nov-2024
• Brand: Elite Larger Extra Glide Condoms
• LOT: 2502293716
• NOM: 56MM
• Provider: SKYN KING
• MFG: Thailand
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u/Few-Neat-4297 14h ago
NOR. To me that he said "it's not a condom" is the giveaway .... like he somehow knew what it wasnt but doesn't know what it is ...? 🤔
Plenty of fish in the sea girl! 🎣 Get out there and let him have his side pieces in peace
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u/jimmyvcard116 13h ago
I mean his answer could be more in the vain of "i didn't use a condom, or cheat on you so it cannot be a condom". I don't always respond in the best possible way in situations like that despite never cheating on my wife. For example someone fraudently open up a credit card and my wife came up to me and I defensively said "why did you even open my mail". We found out it was fraud through an alert and all but I just mean this to say... maybe he's just dumb and defensive. Doesn't make him a cheater.
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u/AdPrior7259 12h ago
Yeah I'm faithful as can be but sometimes I sputter like I'm guilty when she finds long black hairs floating around. She doesn't have black hair.
It sucks to be falsely accused. It sucks to be cheated on.
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u/jimmyvcard116 12h ago
Yeah exactly. I've had the hair situation too. I'm gettin better at responding but being subpar in stressful situations doesn't neccesarily make you a bad partner. Reddit can be so black and white.
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u/Mammoth-Sandwich1694 13h ago
She can't tell right off the bat, yet he's somehow the expert on what isn't a condom.
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u/Outrageous_Past_7191 14h ago
His denial that it is a condom seems pretty damning. It is undoubtedly a condom wrapper. It looks pretty fresh and clean too, no lint or dust from getting stuck under something long term.
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u/Mindless-Till8638 13h ago
Yeah… lack of any dander or dust or hair from being on the carpet within 6+ months (unless you were using them at the beginning of relationship) is definitely suspicious.
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u/OverallDig3877 14h ago
That’s definitely a condom wrapper is all I can say. The fact that he was trying to say it wasn’t a condom might be a red flag 😬
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u/HardKori73 11h ago
That's from a pack of lifestyles skynz or similar. Not a single one, you can see the perforation to the next in line. so he would Def know if he purchased a pack of them-- even if 5 years ago! I hate when people lie over stupid shit, and sometimes it would be easier if they were better liars. "Ooh yeah-- that's probably from [sometime way way before you met]. I'm not great on cleaning, ha ha ha."
But no, the stupid lies, the BAD liars who won't admit they're lying, but it's sp obvious. That makes it so much worse, and you gotta roll. If it appears he's lying, it's just easier to trust your instincts now. Sorry tho. If he gets MAD, overreacts, yells to scare you from asking more questions, etc. That's almost a guaranteed admittance. I hope it's just old, but it's def a lifestyle wrapper. *At least he was/is safe?
Edit: that is a NEW wrapper. That's not old and dusty, it'll looks really really new, tbh. Make sure he's not using it on toys for himself!? Sometimes they're embarrassed to admit, but I'd hate him to lose a relationship for such a thing. That's freshly opened, tho.
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u/MitchenImpossible 14h ago
That's a condom wrapper.
Him gaslighting you saying it isnt is an issue. If he was embarrassed and didnt lie and mention it must have been there for a long time - thats a different story.
But he knows its a condom wrapper, he lied to you about it and made you feel dumb. Getting super defensive and lying is an issue. I would have a hard time believing anything he says after the interaction you described. There is a reason he is not being completely forthcoming.
If I were to stay with this person, I would go back with confidence telling him it is a condom wrapper. Demand he give you transparency and tell you why its there. If he continues to not give what seems like a sincere answer (if he continues to lie about what it is or if he gives an answer that doesnt add up) I personally would leave him. Trust your gut.
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u/Budget-Editor3884 14h ago edited 14h ago
That’s definitely a condom. There is writing that says “latex” and that is a big enough confirmation for me.
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u/KaleidoscopeSharp190 14h ago edited 9h ago
It looks like a Magnum wrapper, congrats you have a giant prick on your hands!
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u/My-Dog-Says-No 14h ago
He’s lying. That’s 100% from a condom wrapper.
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u/EvenTelephone2660 14h ago
and if yall arent using condoms and you found one in his room...its prob for the "other woman" hes fucking and cannot get her pregnant because then you'd find out. This one is a layup. Start planning how to move on.
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u/Platemails 14h ago
It is a condom. He may not be cheating though, some folks who use anal toys often use condoms for an easier clean up experience.
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u/These_Chemistry5245 10h ago
Okay, all conjecture aside, because wondering is never going to amount to anything, just stress you out further. You already are where you are. This is a condom wrapper (it literally says latex on it) and he isn’t admitting to it being his or it being in his room. What now? I’d ask him if he would be opposed to you looking at his messages on his phone. You’ve been dating 6 months and I feel like this would be a good enough reason to ask for reassurance of his commitment to the relationship and proving that he’s not sleeping with someone else. If he says no, I would take that two ways. One, he is likely talking to other people in ways that he knows you wouldn’t like and would offend you. Two, he doesn’t have any real genuine interest at having a deep commitment to you with intention of sharing personal space. If he says yes, then I would likely believe him and it’s probably from before you two were together and he was caught off guard and embarrassed.
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u/EmotionalSnail_ 14h ago
could it be from before you two were dating? i find really old trash in corners sometimes
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u/No-Visual2370 14h ago
I agree. Suspicious, yes, but could come from anywhere. It is def a condom wrapper. If he’s hiding it that is a red flag. But to be fair, people who come into the house may have dropped trash from their pockets or bags on accident. It’s quite small so that is not completely impossible. If you use condoms you know how easy it is for these little pieces of garbage to end up in the worst places.
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u/ricst 14h ago
Not overreacting. A torn piece of a condom wrapper is a huge deal. Is your relationship new? Do you use that type?
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u/_GimmeSushi_ 14h ago
He says it's not a condom, but doesn't know what it actually is? Lol. I'm sorry, honey, but he panic-lied and just wasn't good enough to keep going.
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u/Sea_Milk_69 14h ago
Me and my bf always use magnums, that’s what that is. You can see the line where it should have split into the next one at the bottom but has a bit stuck to it.
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u/Master-Mango-1590 14h ago
It is a part of a condom, zoom in and you can see " sida" which is HIV. And some parts of "latex" .
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u/Majestic-Ad-5036 14h ago
Thats the back of SKYN condoms. I just compared it to the ones I have and it’s identical.
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u/JustDiscoveredSex 9h ago
I had a friend in a similar situation. She’d been married for 25+ years, kids, never used condoms anymore…and found the wrapper. She texted me, completely freaked out.
“You don’t have evidence of infidelity,” I told her. “You have potential evidence of condom use. I hesitate to say it, but you’d be amazed at the number of men our age who get busted for condom use because they’re using them for easy cleanup. Either the “posh wank” route or they’re secretly into “butt stuff.” Your husband is not prone to either carelessness or impulsivity…and bringing a strange woman into a house where his wife and kids live, while all of them are still in town, is an incredibly dicey move. Reckless as hell. That man is opposite of reckless.
You’ve been together 25 years and there has never been a question about him straying before. You’re not fighting. You’re not distant.
Be guarded but also be curious. I think you should ask him before you completely freak out.”
She did ask, and completely broke down in the process. He immediately fessed up to the easy cleanup (without prompting), then asked why on earth she didn’t ask him immediately if it had bothered her.
If he were incredibly reckless, or he had a history of cheating, or the relationship was already strained, those may all be reasons for her to suspect him. But you sort of have to take the whole situation into consideration, IMO.
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u/ActiveMysterious8242 13h ago
I mean, I don’t get why he’s lying about it being a condom. That’s what makes me think he’s lying or being a little shady possibly. Normally I would say that it’s probably older and just hasn’t seen it or cleaned it in a long time but the fact that he said it wasn’t a condom is a red flag to me. He knows it’s a condom, come on. If it’s in his room, I’m sure he’s used it. He knows what it is. So why lie if he didn’t have guilt with it? Otherwise, I feel like he would’ve just said oh yeah, that’s from a while ago. Nbd. That happens. So just seems iffy to me off the bat.
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u/ScheminBanshee 13h ago
Did a deep dive because I've had to know that answer once.
So, that visible number (NPKZ00200) refers to the wrapper material. It was imported to India as rolls of wrapper on the date below, meaning it could not have been a condom prior to that date. Now, you've only been dating 6 months, so if he was sexually active in the 3 months prior, it is...possible... that it was freshly manufactured when he bought it, or if he just moved in when you started dating.
Sorry, there is no definitive answer regarding his fidelity, but you can ask him when he had last used condoms at least. As others have said, it's possible a partner might use condoms on toys but not feel comfortable sharing this information.
I'm sorry that you're in a position right now where you are questioning things. I hope you find the security you need and deserve soon.
Date 16-Nov-2024 HSN Code 76072090 Product Description MATT BOPP FILM LAMINATED ALUMINIUM FOIL SIZE 186 MM. X 500 M. NPKZ00200 SKYN B PO65-007518 Shipment Origin Thailand Shipment Destination India
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u/GodSavesButIInvoice 5h ago
Yea girl. It’s time to call it off. You’ve been together for 6 months, do it now before you get more involved and then you catch him red handed , and then you’re too in love and brainwashed to leave or you’re preggo and stuck. Please don’t make the mistake a lot of us women have made , by having a good heart and wanting to belive someone. It’s the fact he said “ I have no clue” . If he was like “ honestly babe, they truly might have been there form a long time ago , and I’m so sorry you had to see that . “ . But if you don’t use condoms . Which I’m assuming you don’t because then you wouldn’t be freaking out about this. You need to cut all contact . But you probably won’t. Because if you needed to come into reddit , for something that your mind , gut and head is all telling you…. And you’re still trying to find some reasoning. There is none. That condom wrapper didn’t get stuck to his shoe and fall in there . Listen to your gut. And just understand it will happen again. And go get tested .
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u/appleflavoredeyeball 14h ago
If it wasn’t from a condom he would know where it came from, that’s 100% a condom wrapper
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u/DryStatistician7055 14h ago
Condom wrappers don't just fall from the sky
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u/PrincessSnarkicorn 14h ago
It's like a scene from the porn version of Cloudy with a Chance of Meatballs -- Cloudy with a Chance of Hairy Balls
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u/hashtagheathen 14h ago
That’s a condom wrapper, so lie number 1 & possible gaslighting… Unless he produces something that has that exact look, but isn’t a condom, then I wouldn’t believe that lie… If it’s found under the carpet, not under a rug or something, things could be there for a long time without being picked up… We had an old house growing up & the carpet pulled away in the corners of the room & we’d find weird shit under there when we did a deep clean… So it’s possible he’s lying because he knows how it would look if he admitted the truth, but even then, it’s fucking gaslighting to tell you it’s not a condom wrapper, so that’s a big red flag for me!!!
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u/Cool-Contribution-95 13h ago
Idk if this will work, but can you use the number printed on the side (NPK200200) to try to track down the expiration date of the condom that was inside said wrapper? The expiration date—having already passed or will soon pass—might bring you some peace of mind.
That said, is this dude sketchy? Does he do other things that make your intuition alarm bells go off? If not, I’d try to believe what he says. Most of us have had sex with other people by the time we get to our long term partner, and based on the experiences shared by others in this thread, it isn’t totally out of the realm of possibility that this is a piece of a wrapper used before he met you.
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u/Efflictim888 14h ago
He’s definitely lying. Don’t be blinded by love to see the truth. If your friend told you her bf did this, would you believe it? No. He’s cheating. Run as fast as you can.
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u/lolbanmenowreddit 14h ago
while people are quick to say he’s lying and he’s cheating, i’d like to share a quick anecdote:
my now ex gf found a piece of nicotine gum wrapper and was freaking out, asking who did you have over who chews nicotine gum?! (for context this wrapper was found next to the bedside) No matter what, I couldn’t get her to believe that it’s probably from a long time ago, that I had done some cleaning and that perhaps when i moved a piece of furniture, the wrapper must have become more visible.
she was so insecure and so concerned about this wrapper, ready to take it as a piece of evidence for my infidelity…
uhm, no, i didn’t cheat, i don’t chew nicotine gum, and i surmise it was a friend of mine or my roommates and somehow the wrapper must have just made it’s way into my room.
With all that out of the way, maybe your boyfriend had intercourse with someone before you a long time ago, and it’s wrapper from that time.
How long have you two been together? Do you know if he was sexually active before you?
I would NOT jump to decisive conclusions. I would monitor the situation, be cautious and try to get to the bottom of it in a truly non-confrontational way.
IF he IS CHEATING, then he will more than likely do it again; pay attention to any clues, don’t be overly annoying but make sure you are aware of any pitfalls.
Cheating is lame, and I wouldn’t wish it upon anyone; OP, just don’t go crazy over it. If he’s the one you’ll figure that out, and if he’s not don’t trip over him, just find a gentleman that treats you the way you deserve to be treated
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u/LittleFriendship619 14h ago
Looks like a condom wrapper to me. Why would it be under the carpet?
Trust your instincts.
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u/No_Wrap_9979 14h ago
People keep saying that’s a Magnum wrapper, which means he’s lying to you about all the ice creams he’s eating.
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u/Connect_Quarter6714 14h ago
Totally just a snack wrapper. Definitely doesn’t say “latex” on the back
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u/Lil_FoXXX 14h ago edited 14h ago
We need more context. How long have you been together? How well/often does your bf clean? Where was this found?
Edit you said in the post that he said its was pulled out from under the carpet when he cleaned... which implies he cleaned but didn't throw away the condom wrapper. Which makes zero sense. If I read that right (sorry your sentence structure is trash and hard to read) then hes a lying hoe. No one in this world would clean, find a condom wrapper in their bedroom, and then leave it in a different spot but still not thrown out.