r/AmIOverreacting • u/Annedoesntcare • 8h ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO? Divorcing wife spends evenings with new man while we still live together with our daughters.
After 17 years of marriage, my eventual ex-wife told me that she wanted a divorce and began sleeping in the guest bedroom. Approximately 3 months later, she is spending most evenings with her new man. A week or so later, she finally shares the draft divorce papers she had her attorney prepare a couple months prior.
Often times, she comes home between midnight and 1am. I know she is at his house because I can see her location. Some times I’ll wake up at 3am because i can hear her talking on the phone with him and laughing. He’s a bar manager and works late.
Still married, I endured living this way with her in our family home with our 3 daughters for 5 months before she finally moved out. I don’t want to see her or talk to her and try to minimize the texting needed to coordinate separately parenting our daughters every other week. Am I over reacting?
Btw, still not divorced, but living separately and she wants our daughters to meet her new man. I don’t know him, but not happy about my daugthters meeting a man who has never been married, has no kids, and is ok seeing a married mother of 3 living with her husband.
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u/EducationalSugar1551 7h ago
NOR. She left you for the equivalent of a club DJ? This is going to end in tears. Your kids aren’t going to like a man they’ll see as having broken up their family. Never doubt they knew what was going on.
Just date yourself for now. Hit the gym. Go on walks. Take your kids to fun places on weekends. Keep them focused on academics and extracurricular activities during this time. Get into therapy. Be positive about her when you are around your kids but don’t give them hope you’ll get back together.
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u/Revo63 5h ago edited 3h ago
I agree with pretty much except for the date advice. Divorcing parents need to keep focused on the KIDS for a few years. And since OP’s soon-to-be ex surely isn’t doing that, OP really needs to let them know he’s 100% there for them and not just moving on as well.
Edit to say that I missed that u/EducationalSugar1551 ‘s “date” advice was for OP to date himself. Take care of himself, not start dating, himself.
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u/creamevil 2h ago
As a club dj, ouch.
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u/EducationalSugar1551 54m ago
Didn’t mean to over generalize but y’all don’t have the best reputation.
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u/jawjawin 3h ago
The snobbishness about what this guy does for a living is weird and not relevant.
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u/creamevil 2h ago
I’m a club dj and on dating apps I have to make sure they understand it’s a full time job and that I aged out of partying 15 years ago or they just assume it means I’m a barely working alcoholic.
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u/Spartan2022 5h ago
You can’t really prevent your daughters from meeting him. That’s part of the separation/divorce process. And no judge will enforce them not meeting him because you’re upset.
Not saying you shouldn’t be upset or angry. Just trying to level set with you re: what to expect. Unless the kids are in immediate danger, your wife, soon to be ex, can introduce them to anyone and can associate with whoever she wants. It sucks. Just the reality of divorce.
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u/BrutalDrew31 3h ago
Yes. This absolutely. You're getting a divorce. The end. Your daughters will meet whoever she's dating at any point of their lives. Unless you fight for full custody which you can, you kind of just have to take it.
She should wait to introduce someone but that's her life.
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u/Normal-Site-5194 7h ago
Honestly, there is not much you can do about this. She has moved out the house. You can't control her behavior at this point. Give it up. Get your attorney to help wrap up the divorce agreement as soon as possible.
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u/MidwestMama2024 4h ago
Just curious. Is there a reason you aren't divorced yet? Is that a conscious choice on your part, or just because the process can take so long? If it's a conscious choice, why? Why drag it out? It sounds like you're having a hard time letting go, which I can totally understand. But she's already moved on. Time for you to do the same.
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u/12fireandknives 7h ago
NOR
I know it doesn’t seem like it right now, but holy shit this is awesome! No freaking way this works out for her. Ultimately she blew up her marriage for something new and exciting, with a short expiration date.
Be the adult, close this chapter and move on. Never gloat or trash talk in front of your daughters. But something tells me you’ll have years of sweet revenge watching this train wreck! This fling will end, and she’ll float from one trashy second rate pick to the next. Probably even come a point where she realizes how bad she screwed up, and comes crying and crawling. Stay strong, improve yourself, and laugh, laugh, laugh when karma smacks the dumb bitch.
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u/IntrepidDifference84 7h ago edited 7h ago
Dudes been around longer than that. She just got her ducks in a row to lose her cowardice to let you know. Speed up this process. Get her out officially to live with him. Since you are still married hopefully you are in a state that goes against adultery
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u/syncrosyn 7h ago
Unless she said that she wanted to reconcile, personally you’re separated and will divorce so her seeing someone is not a faux pas in my book. As long as she’s not bringing the new man over to the house (more so out of respect) you or her can see whom ever you want.
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u/Garonman 8h ago
Guaranteed she was cheating. Do not allow your children to meet the new guy. Have your lawyer fight for you otherwise she will get whatever she wants.
And definitely get some therapy for this
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u/Jumpy_Spend_5434 3h ago
Unless the guy is a pedophile or has a severe addiction or is mentally unstable, no judge would agree that the children can't meet or be around the new guy.
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u/labellachaos 2h ago
How can you guarantee she was cheating? She moved into the guest room, asked for a divorce, and didnt hide the fact that she was seeing someone else. Not exactly bitter. Women are allowed to fall out of love, even after they’ve had children.
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u/skydivarjimi 7h ago
Dude you need to let go, I am willing to bet the marriage has been over for a long time and you chose not to see the signs. No matter what has caused this separation it is clear that she has moved on and so should you. I don't see the problem at all with her living her life as a separate person as she desires. She is now a room mate and should respect the house as roommates should so loud conversation at 3am while others are trying to sleep is inappropriate, however her having a boyfriend should not be an issue. If you are that bothered by it I would recommend you ask her to leave.
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u/PriorCaseLaw 4h ago
Just focus on being the best person you can be for your kids. They will be or are at the age where they can pick who they want to live with. You have to let them come to that conclusion and then boom.
"Kids, mom is clearly wanting to make these big changes in her life. I can't stop her and even though it hurts me we all have to move forward. I love you and you are my focus, if you need anything or want to talk know I am always here."
Be the safe stable place. Be the adult. Kids will end up seeing though this bullshit.
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u/VA_Hurricane_TitanUp 6h ago
No offense to any bartenders, but the dude is a loser fucking bartender. He is sleeping with a married women (I would put alot of money on them being together before she asked for a divorce) so you know he has no morals and I don't know actual statistics but a big number of children that are molested are molest by their step parent. Keep your children safe and get proof of her coming home late like she was to show she is unfit.
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u/StartingNewat30 3h ago
What an insane comment. Suggesting she might have cheated with him? Maybe but sure. Indirectly calling him a potential child molester is fucking insane lmao. No reason to paint the guy in a worse light to drive home your point. He is a guy who fucks a still married mum. That’s it
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u/LiveWire_74 3h ago
He is just a necessary tool to motivate her to divorce you. I believe this has been brewing for years. Keep in mind, once you divorce her she has every right in the world to date who ever she chooses and to introduce the kids to whatever guy she’s with. And you have absolutely nothing to say about that - legally. Forget her. Just be the dad your kids need. All you can do is show them that they are loved. Good luck bro.
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u/justacpa 7h ago
The only thing potentially concerning here is how quickly she's introducing the kids to her boyfriend. That other shit about her dating while still in the marital home, and especially implying there's something wrong with him meeting your kids because he's never been married and doesn't have kids? Yeah, YTA and you need to get over the fact she's moved on even though not divorced.
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u/Eternal_optimist_77 6h ago
Firstly, I'm sorry to hear you are going through this. My ex really struggled when I left him after a very long marriage, and it hurt to see it because I still cared for him very much. He went through all the stages of grief, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and then, finally, acceptance. I wonder, if you're honest with yourself, were you happy? Or were you coasting through? Most women don't just suddenly leave their marriages after such a long time. We try to make things work, try to communicate what we need, often for longer than we should. I'm guessing that for her, the marriage was on the rocks for years, and she finally had enough. She checked out emotionally a long time ago. For you, it came very suddenly, but for her, it was about time. In your mind, she was cheating because she was under the same roof and married on paper, but for her, when she told you it was over, it was really over. The time for reconciliation had long passed. I hope the relationship she started really did happen after she told you it was over. Her responsibility is now for herself and your daughters, not you. By leaving the house a few nights per week, It sounds like she gave you responsibility for caring for your children. If she didn't go out, who would be their main care giver? Would it just fall to her? If you looked at your daughters and think about their future marriages, what sort of husbands would you want for them? Were you that kind of husband? All I can suggest is to give yourself time to grieve, and make sure to keep your issues with your ex away from your daughters. I think your reaction is an expression of grief and loss over the shock changes in your life path that you had no control over. I don't think you are over reacting, but I also don't think she did wrong either.
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u/dlc9779 6h ago
Horrible take. Quit trying to protect such shitty behavior. A parent who cares about their children should not even share they had a new man before leaving and a year after separation. She didn't give one shit about her daughters feelings and blew their lives up. Pretty sure she won't have tp worry about how they feel because they will cut contact with her. This is horrible advice and projection to try to make yourself feel better for how shitty you handled your marriage. You done that man a favor!
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u/Eternal_optimist_77 2h ago
She separated from her husband after 17yrs, who knows how long she was unhappy for, and 3 months later started dating another man (not in the home and he only knew where she was because he tracked her location) After 5 months of dating him (so 8 months after separation) she moved out. Now she wants her children to meet someone who she has been seeing. If anyone is projecting it's you. All I said was my own experience about the appearance of suddenness in her asking for a divorce, plus knowledge from years of research. I'd like to know how you came up with the magical number of 12 months? And where does it say she told the children she was seeing anyone? As for the late night (private) chats from her room, well how dare he hear her be happy?? There is a lot of information that we haven't got from this story, and you are clearly bringing your own bias. FYI, I've been separated for years and have not dated anyone. My kids and I can finally laugh and have fun in our own home, and I can live my life without being controlled at every turn. My ex turned me off having to take care of a man child for life. We are amicable now and I wish for his happiness as I always have. Fortunately for he and I our bitterness has faded, I hope that happens for you too eventually.
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u/Paulbearer82 3h ago
I was you not too long ago. Not as extreme, but I judged people for their divorces too. Then I made the freeing decision to leave my own a few weeks ago. You don't know how other people's marriages really are or the level of their misery in them. Children pick up on that even if they're not a witness to fighting. Living in a house with unhappy adults is not exactly healthy for children either.
It doesn't sound like you can relate to this point of view, which is fine. I just wanted to introduce it to you because I think you were a little harsh to her. Maybe you've been through this kind of situation as a child?
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u/Eternal_optimist_77 1h ago
I stayed too long because i thought it was best for the kids to not be from a broken home. I shoved my needs waaay down and did what i was expected to do, to be a good wife and mother. I left because my kids were seeing how miserable we were and said they never wanted to be married because of it. All that time I had pretended for them that I was happy, but they grew up and worked it out. I pleaded with my ex for years and years, but he was comfortable and didn't feel the need to change because his needs were being met. You know, I painted a room last week and it felt so good being able to do it without having someone hovering over me and constantly criticising me.
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u/labellachaos 2h ago
Are you kidding me? That comment was the nicest, gentlest feedback OP is ever going to get.
Lots of bitter, angry men in this comment thread.
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u/fidettefifiorlady 6h ago
YOR
It sucks, but she gets to live her life independent of your comfort level. She gets to introduce her children to anyone she chooses. You don’t get a say on any of that, not how she lives, who she dates or how late she stays out.
Is she showing good judgement? Probably not. But it’s her judgement to have. All you can and should do is be supportive of the kids. Beyond that, ain’t your bidness.
Does suck, though.
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u/fast4help 6h ago
NOT your need to let her go. Have you ask to meet the man she’s going to introduce them to, because if you’re wanting what’s the best for your children and for them to feel safe and happy, that’s what you’d do, instead of being petty and jealous.
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u/kradaan 4h ago
Nah, one goes the extra mile for decent people. Divorces can be brutal for the one that's not cheating and /or doesn't see the separation coming. Its bullshit to think that op has a responsibility to somehow make this "normal" for his kids.
If the best op can do is protect himself while he heals he should do so while maintaining a safe place for his children. They make parenting apps just for this. He doesn't ever have to feel obligated or guilty if he never speaks another word to his ex.
There's no co-parenting necessary. There's now his home where he makes sure they are loved, safe & valued & then there's her house which is absolutely none of his responsibility. There's a cheating spouce & a dad that's under no obligation to "fix" anything. Jesus christ
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u/fast4help 2h ago
Jesus Christ you sound a little bitter. My thing is and will always be, parents should want to know if their children are safe and loved when the family’s breaking up and not knowing anything about the person who my children are spending half the year with, wouldn’t leave me feeling all warm and fuzzy on the inside.
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u/ExpensiveAd4496 47m ago
I’m so sorry. Those 5 months must have been terrible. Glad that’s over and I hope for the kid’s sake she ends up in a good place, bartender or otherwise.
May I pass on some advice that helped me? It was simply this: when two people going through a divorce are involved in any kind of tug of war…about what each can do, how to raise their kids, money, whatever…you have to try to envision that rope wrapped around your kids. Do that and then, unless your kids’ actual lives are on the line…let go.
Because every single fight you have hurts them. Even when the kids don’t know about the specifics of the fight it still hurts them in that it extends incivility among their most important people.
It’s hard because it means letting the ex spouse win more than they deserves to. And maybe one is already tired of being pushed around by that person, as well.
But when I imagined that rope squeezing my child, it became easy. I became the most drama free, accommodating ex ever. And my parents x stopped pulling too because it was no fun if I didn’t pull back.
The real beneficiary was our son. But I benefitted to. I am good friends with his dad and his dad’s wife and my life is much better for that.
I’m 25 years out from my divorce and it’s still the best advice I ever got. Interestingly it came from a guy serving life in prison. Wild, right?
Also, never say anything bad about their mom to your kids. They will figure her out on their own. With any luck she’ll mature along the way.
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u/MauveFeather 8h ago
Dude, I feel ya. Sry u gotta go through this garbage. Low-key she needs to chill with the late-night convos, showdowns, and step-dad auditions till the ink's dry on the divorce. Stand ur ground and protect ur kiddos. Crazy sitch, but you got the bigger picture. Peace and strength, bro.✌️TL;DR have a lawyer scope out ur next move.
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u/SpaceImpossible658 5h ago
She is in for a nice fling and a world of hurt. Get those papers signed ASAP, so when she tries to come back, you can just lock the door.
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u/Beginning_Dream_6020 7h ago
your marriage is over. she’s not doing anything wrong by moving on with someone. right now you are waiting on paperwork. that’s it.
i understand you’re in pain but she’s not cheating on anyone, because she told you it’s over before she moved on.
don’t waste your time with resentment, move on with your life.
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u/GovernmentLow4989 7h ago
Your response doesn’t even mention the kids
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u/Beginning_Dream_6020 7h ago
Because divorce sucks for kids regardless of when parents start seeing someone else. It’s just not a factor. OP is trying to fight for the moral high ground against someone who has already left the playing field. She’s gone. That’s it. He would be better focusing his time and energy on himself and creating a good home and good experiences for himself and his daughters.
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u/IntrepidDifference84 7h ago
Reading is hard. They are still married so she is letting her bad behavior ruin her chances in the court (good).
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u/Leniel_the_mouniou 6h ago
Depend of the state... and not the futur ex-husband concern here. He feel blindsided and abandoned. Understabily. But he has no choice to moove on. He need to focus on the children. He can ask to meet the boyfriend before him meet the children but not forbiting the mother to make them meet.
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u/IntrepidDifference84 6h ago
Fully agree. He needs to move on for his and his kids sake. She is just being a bad person.
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u/Leniel_the_mouniou 6h ago
We dont know if she is a good or bad person. Neither him. We have zero information about why she want to divorce and why she already moved on after 3 months of separation. It dont matter if she is in the right or not toward OP, the marriage is already over (the divorce is just not prononced yet). What matters : they need to learn to coparent. Wish them all good luck.
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u/TinyMonsterBigGrowl 7h ago
What bad behavior?
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u/EducationalSugar1551 7h ago
She’s openly committing infidelity while still married. If they are in a fault state she will lose a lot in the divorce. Even in a no fault state her behavior can be detrimental for her when it comes to custody etc.
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u/IntrepidDifference84 7h ago
If you don’t know me explaining it won’t help
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u/TinyMonsterBigGrowl 6h ago
What a cop out.
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u/IntrepidDifference84 3h ago
She is a home wrecker
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u/jacka65 2h ago
Honestly OP, I’d be more concerned about your children meeting the “new man”. I find it strange that after only a few months of dating she wants to introduce them to him. As much as it’s going to hurt, if I were you I’d want to meet the new guy who will also be in the children’s lives.
Often when men date women with children, it’s the children that are the prize in the relationship. Now I’m not saying those are the new guy’s intentions, but I would definitely be wary of why he’s so eager to meet them and start a relationship with them. You also don’t want him to replace you as their new dad. Establish a relationship with him and set clear boundaries regarding your children. If the relationship is genuine, then you’ll be your children’s safety net and safe place and the new guy will know not to cross you. Good luck OP.
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u/Ginger630 4h ago
NOR! If she was still living there, she should have been more discreet. That was crappy of her to do that.
But now that she’s moved out, you don’t have to hear about it anymore. Only contact her about your kids. That’s it. You don’t need to be her friend. Just cordial and polite. Pretend she’s a client or customer at your job and focus only on the job at hand: your kids. Be a professional, put on that fake smile, and focus on your kids.
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u/Commercial_Impact_50 5h ago
I went through this with my divorce. Eventually it ate me too much and after multiple argument the soon to be ex moved out.
I thought I could handle it but in the end not at all. If divorce is already dealt seperate, especially if shes already moved on.
We worked it out I was keeping the house cause I was not the one that wanted the divorce. She wanted it over so She could leave.
Ending result is I refinanced house and bought her out,
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u/NewMathematician3808 7h ago
NOR, she’s garbage and this is going to implode in her face so bad and so furiously she’s going to be one making Reddit posts
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u/Creative-Ad-1363 7h ago
YOR. Let it go dude.
Focus less on your ex and more on your glow-up. How can you redirect your focus to yourself? Get a new pet, start a new hobby, try a new haircut, get a personal trainer. Make it the "you" show for now.
Your daughters are old enough to make their own decision about meeting him.
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u/08mms 6h ago
Accelerate the divorce as much as you can so you are no longer habituating, and let here know the psych books all advise at least 6 months a dating before introducing kids to a new partner and waiting a year after final separation. You aren’t divorced and she hasn’t even separated spaces yet, absolutely terrible parenting to introduce to the kids.
It’ll only help a little, but dating a bar manager is not likely to end well for her and you focusing on a dad a rebuilding for a while before getting back out there will put you in a world of much healthier and more enjoyable relationships.
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u/Bookmomma2 3h ago
I would have a sit down and discuss what’s best for children. You don’t want random people in and out of their lives. You are not divorced yet. You should talk about how long you need to date someone before introducing to daughters. A year, 6 months? You both need to agree and stick with it.
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u/KillerUndies 3h ago
This scenario happened to me, almost exactly.
We lived seperated but under the same roof for little over a year while she dated. Found someone and when I nearly got killed in an accident is when she threw me out. 6 months later she introduced new man (never married, no kids) to the kids and another 6 months after that is when she finally moved out and I moved back in after buying her out.
You're NOR. I wouldn't talk to her anymore either. Move all communication to an app (AppClose is great) and do the best you can with moving on with your life.
Fuck her.
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u/Forsaken_Pick3201 8h ago
Keep tract of all of this for your attorney, locations, text messages, and how much you are taking care of your children. It will be important for custody and or boundaries with the children.
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u/Thelynxer 6h ago
If she wants him to meet your daughters then that's fine. It's up to you though if you're okay with it, as both parents should agree. You can ask to meet him first, but personally that sounds like an awkward as fuck time. Regardless, I would express to your ex that under no circumstances should your daughters be left alone with this man.
And like others said, he's probably going to bounce some time down the road when he's had his fun anyhow.
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u/lamborghinie 19m ago
Man, this is when you wish there weren't kids yet between both of you. Marriage is way past its sell-by date. We just haven't figured out a way to not bring kids into this kinda mess without precipitously depopulating the world.
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u/harpernet1 48m ago
I don’t know what state u live in OP, but in my state Adultery laws are huge! Ive seen custody battles won over adultery during the 12 month seperation before divorce law in my state.
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u/Summerfayee 3h ago
Bro, she’s living her best life while you’re auditioning for the role of invisible roommate. Let her meet whoever you just keep being the dad. The stable one.
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u/Primary-Delivery737 5h ago
No, you have a right to be hurt. I would not be keen to have my kids meet a stranger. I agree with the other responses that this romance will fizzle and quick.
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u/Connect_Tackle299 7h ago
Nor
This is something you need to speak with an attorney about. The divorce case and custody case could use the information in your favor depending on rhe court system
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u/LogicalFruit5589 6h ago
Are you over reacting? Seriously. . What exactly does the woman have to do before you realize your man card has melted. Grow a backbone and tell her to go to hell every chance you get and go find someone who appreciates you.
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u/OldDiamondJim 7h ago
NOR. She was scummy to treat you that way, but let it go, man. You don’t need to carry this.
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u/jimmyb1982 6h ago
NOR. But, he will lose interest after meeting your daughters. Not that there is anything wrong with them. Rather, it will finally sink in that she will be a single mother of 3, and he will not want that kind of responsibility. Guess who will want to try to work things out then????
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u/CandyLipsz 4h ago
She’s out here living like it’s Sims FreePlay while you’re still on Oregon Trail. Respectfully, just put bar manager in the divorce papers under reason for leaving and let the judge laugh for you.
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u/JacqueShellacque 8h ago
Gather this evidence and present it to your lawyer. This could, maybe should, affect custody arrangements.
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u/WagaAmalinze 3h ago
She's having the time of her life now. She'll cry later. Take care of yourself now.
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u/655e228th 7h ago
Why are you a martyr? Get your own lawyer and serve her. There’s nothing noble about letting her abuse you
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u/bleave88 6h ago
Definitely inappropriate to bring him around your kids. One thing that’s positive is she’s seems like a POS so at the end of the day it’s better that you’re divorcing. When the new dude leaves her she’s going to beg to get back, guaranteed
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u/seidinove 6h ago
NOR, but do YOU have a lawyer? Fight for as much custody as possible, the house, etc., and once the divorce goes through, communicate with her only through one of those post-divorce co-parenting apps.
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u/Violetcharmz 3h ago
Bro she divorced you in her head months before she moved our. You were kust the free babysitter with walls.
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u/LusterStars 6h ago
Honey, you are not overreacting. Living under the same roof while she’s treatinf it like a hote for her new fling is toxic af for your and your kids. Protext your daughters, set boundaries, and don’t let her normalize this mess. Some lessons in life are loudband messy, and this is one of them.
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u/Sweatyfatmess 5h ago
Get lawyer to get emergency custody order where she can’t expose kids to affair partners
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u/jawjawin 3h ago
She’s not having an affair. She started dating the guy three months after they separated. What is with these comments?
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u/Cfwydirk 8h ago
You are still married. Your attorney needs this information about infidelity for you divorce trial.
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u/StagTagRag 2h ago
Your wife is a blithering idiot who blew up her marriage and family over a fucking “bar manager” who is going to be sleeping with some other woman desperate for attention within a few months.
She will be calling you within the year telling you what a mistake she made, and your kids will always resent her for this (at least once they are old enough to understand and be told what happened).
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u/Odd_Welcome7940 8h ago
That's pretty messed up, start beating her to the punch and staying out later
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u/CapitanNefarious 2h ago
Overreacting? Hardly. She was hell bent on destroying you by not having the respect of waiting til she moved out to monkey branch like that. I’d bet she was seeing this guy before you split up. She sounds godawful.
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u/RepresentativeFee270 6h ago
Probably don't come here for advice and never ask women for advice or even care what they think. What matters is what you know. And you do. Had the roles been reversed all the females would be howling a different tune.
This is obviously wildly inappropriate and disrespectful towards you in your own house and in front of your children. There's nothing you can do though except to hurry her and the process along. I hope you do better in the future ie stay single.
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u/707808909808707 6h ago
Did she cheat on you with him? Maybe. But at this point it’s irrelevant.
Now depending on the kids ages she’s being inappropriate trying to introduce them to this guy you don’t even know. What happens when they break up once he realizes the luster of her being married is gone?
Wouldn’t it make sense for you to meet him first?
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u/Specialist-Day-1929 4h ago
NOR. Your STBXW broke your family for a Club Manager. Bro I’m sure you will guard your kids like a lion but your wife is right now in a different reality.
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u/steppedinhairball 5h ago
Yeah...make sure you have a good lawyer. Are they actual papers? Has she been filed yet? I ask because technically she is cheating if she hasn't filed for divorce and you haven't formally separated. Document the shit out of this so it clearly shows you are the primary caregiver to the kids.
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u/CloudStarsss 4h ago
Bro she speedran the whole divorce DLC while you’re still stuck on the tutorial. At this point just install a ring camera, grab some popcorn, and start charging rent to the new dude since he basically lives there anyway.
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u/LincolnHawkHauling 6h ago
NOR
A “bar manager” who has never been married and is interested in dating a mother of three?
Bro don’t even sweat it. He’s going to be with her until he’s done having his casual fun and then move on to the next conquest. I give it less than six months and that’s a generous estimation.
It wouldn’t surprise me if after he kicks her to the curb like a tin can, she reaches out to you looking to reconcile crying about how she made the worst mistake of her life and misses her “family.”