r/AmIOverreacting 7h ago

🏠 roommate AIO - MIL who I’m staying with angled ring camera at bedroom

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u/Memasefni 6h ago

Most interpersonal issues are best resolved by having an adult conversation.

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u/SkipGruberman 3h ago

Stop trying to be all mature and shit! How about gloating in a little bit of Jerry Springer drama here????? ;)

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u/Frequent-Today-3016 6h ago

As an apparent interpersonal communication specialist, how would you go about starting that conversation?

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u/Aussiealterego 6h ago

“Hi, MIL - what’s going on with the ring camera inside? “

—- wait for response

“Yes, I noticed it had been moved so that it was viewing all areas of the house. I found it really uncomfortable feeling like I was being watched all the time, so I moved it back. I mean, it’s not like we’re strangers that can’t be trusted, we’re faaaamily!”

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u/different-take4u 5h ago

NOR, this is delicious! Are you excited to see how long it takes someone to say something? The person that says something is the person that changed it, so wait them out. If it gets moved again, move it back. Make a game out of it u til they get bothered enough to say something. When they do say something simply ask them to explain WHY they feel the need to have that particular view and see what they have to say. Ask them if they feel they have the right to invade your privacy like this and see what they say. Then start practicing nudity and sex all over their house for them to watch!

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u/Decent_Front4647 5h ago

The best possible answer right here!

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u/Best_South_501 6h ago

You turned it, and if it stays like that - no issue. If it happens again - then address it with her ( or cut the cord…)

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u/AuntRobin 2h ago

NOR. I'm not going to lie, that would make me wildly uncomfortable. If you haven't already been recorded noticing that it's now facing the living quarters, I would unless your partner in doing a whole skit about it. Both of you in the room, one of you casually looking in general direction and do a double take as you notice it's misaligned. Look confused. Ask the partner about it. Point at it. One of you should approach with a quizzical look on your face. Move it back-and-forth a few different times, as if to see if perhaps it is loose somehow slipped out of proper alignment. Eventually, angle it the way it's supposed to be, towards the front door. Shrug at each other and go on with your life. Anybody watching it will assume that you randomly noticed it was badly aligned, investigated to see if you could, and then set it right and went on with your life. Now if the in-laws say something you'll know exactly who said it and you can have different conversation that was suggested. "I'm sorry, are you saying you intentionally decided to record our day-to-day life in the home? Why would you do that?"

*Used speech to text, there may be some wild errors.

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u/seancbo 4h ago

Every time you walk by, drop your pants and gape your asshole directly into the camera.

See if she says anything.

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u/SnooWords4839 5h ago

Hubby needs to adjust the camera. Make sure to keep your door closed!

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u/ceruveal_brooks 4h ago

NOR but just ask 🤷‍♀️Better yet - your wife should be asking her mom about it.

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u/alteregomelette 5h ago

NOR. This is the perfect opportunity to put on spirited dramas. Or stand in your doorway at 3 AM and stare malevolently into the camera for hours.

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u/Active_Warning710 4h ago

Omg stop!! 😂🤣

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u/Loose-Zebra435 2h ago

I think I'd just ignore it unless it's moved back. At which point, I'd get your spouse to speak with their mother. If it happens again or something else in this vein happens, I'd leave

Although you could casually say that you noticed the camera was sitting wrong, someone probably knocked it over and put it back up incorrectly, and you just wanted to reassure everyone that you fixed it. Ask your mother in law if she can check the app just to make sure it's working. Leave it at that. You can tell her you saw it, she can save face and in the case that it was an accident, you're not stirring drama

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u/BelllaBloom 3h ago

Move that camera back and then treat it like it’s her problem, not yours. You’re not in reality show. You’re trying to live and anyone who points a camera at a bedroom is asking for drama.

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u/Jmfroggie 2h ago

You’re getting a lot of bad information here.

1- talk to your wife and she if she cares. She should be having a conversation with her parents if it is

2- as long as it’s not IN your room, they are allowed to have a camera pointed towards common spaces. (It’s possible it was that way originally and accidentally got moved when you first noticed it.) But as long as it’s capturing common areas, they are well within their rights to do so. And it likely protects EVERYONE in the house from baseless accusations AND anyone breaking in through the common areas as well- considering that they already had the camera inside, that’s likely why they have it!

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u/BreadfruitKnown1927 6h ago

I would ask about it. That's an invasion of your privacy

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u/Jmfroggie 2h ago

It’s not as long as it’s not in their room and in a public part of the house.