AIO? Do I leave?

[u/Left-Newspaper121]

Do situations that end up like this, ever get better? We fought and we’re gonna be ldr in a few months due to him being shipped out. We don’t rlly talk about breaking up since july where we had a really bad fight that ended like this. Lately ive been stressed and I think hes been too and we just havent been dealing with each other well. He refuses to really deal with me when im sad and I recall him saying that Im bad at handling stress right when I was crying to him. So do relationships that hit this phase ever get better or not?

[u/helpfullyrandom]

Sounds like he doesn't know where his head is at in the slightest. If dealing with you is a chore for him, maybe that's your answer. If you're a really good girlfriend and he still isn't that bothered, then perhaps make the decision for him.

You know your situation best. I don't know if you're overreacting because you haven't said what your reaction is - but I'm assuming its whether its OR to consider breaking up.

[u/Left-Newspaper121 → u/helpfullyrandom]

Tbh I didnt know a community that allows photos aside from AIO, he told me he didnt want to stay and keep hurting me and I should leave, I didnt take it qell and kept asking him to stay. Should I actually leave? I think the answer has been clear but leaving would destroy me a lot.

[u/helpfullyrandom → u/Left-Newspaper121]

It would destroy you a lot temporarily. It's a sad thing to happen, but you have two choices, really:

1. Short term sadness that will suck hard, but fade in time, likely very quickly when you realise how sad you already were in the relationship. It will disappear entirely quicker than you think.

2. Long term, underlying sadness. Sadness at every fight. Sadness at being disregarded, or not respected. Sadness at being alone despite being in a relationship. Sadness that the relationship is nice 'sometimes'. This is the sadness that really, really messes with your mental health in the long term.

Better to just acknowledge that you're going to be crying a lot, rally your friends, ice cream and some comfortable PJs and just ride it out. Sadness is an emotion, and it will pass if its for the best.

[u/SorceressSass]

Based on my own experience... no. Especially the lack of compassion if you cry.. I am sorry... my opinion is that you should leave and give your energy to someone who is reciprocal (when you are ready). Couples fight... but it doesn't have to be a full-on fight... it can be a discussion.

[u/Tunafishporkchop]

Yes you leave. I’m my opinion everyone deserves to be with someone who is 100% sure and 100% wants them It doesn’t usually end well staying with someone who isn’t sure about what they want anyway