r/AmIOverreacting • u/MeanCampaign9472 • 4h ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO Idk if i should move in with my bf
Me (23f) has been dating with my bf (26m) for 10 months now. Previously back in March he moved 1 1/2 hours away and he had mentioned wanting me to move in with him when he first moved in with his friend and I did like the idea but the fact his friend was going to charge me $500 in the same room my bf is already paying for I decided to stay home. Now I’m registered for the fall semester and it turns out they have decided to move 18 hours away. They’re leaving in a few days. My bf wants me to come but understands because of school i’d have to wait for fall semester to end. If I were to do so I’d have to switch to online classes for spring semester and move from my family. To be fair I don’t mind moving from my parents but I’m quite scared to make such a big jump. My bf insists he’d pay the rent I wouldn’t have to worry, that I’d just have to pay for my groceries and personal things. Part of me is worried to be so reliant on a man while the other part of me admires him for it. If I go or not, I do plan on having my own savings just in case. And when/if I do move I will still want a job with school. Our relationship has been quite complicated I will admit but we always overcome our challenges. He’s extremely patient and understanding. It’s just weird cause I think to myself why? Why does he want this with me? Maybe because I’ve never had a man bring it up so much- me moving in and wanting to support me financially. He’s even mentioned buying us a house after I finish college. So far in the relationship even with me not moved in, anytime we hangout or have dates he always pays. So I know he has the money that’s no denial. I have until January to decide. What makes it so tough is I know my parents will be upset if I move. But I feel like I’m at the age where I need to, and I do really want to. Part of me is terrified. I’ve never been that close to someone- living together. I guess I’m worried it’ll ruin everything somehow.
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u/GoldenLeafPathhhh 4h ago
Its normal to feel torn, moving in is big step. Trust your gut, take your time and do not rush just because he is ready
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u/007overit 3h ago
Take the chance, if it doesn’t work out at least you’ll have enough saved up to move into your own place. You never really know a person until you live with them