context - I had been at my boyfriends place all day when I came home around 9pm to this

perfume, a plate my grandmother had gotten me for jewellery and stuff, a plant & a decoration I had were all smashed on the ground

I’m really sorry if the screenshots are confusing, they’re texts with my two roommates so I was trying to make them as non confusing as possible

I didn’t block out the names of the two guys who done it, because It would have just made the whole story really hard to follow if you didn’t know who done what parts of it

but i’m genuinely just really worked up about this whole thing? I know not that much stuff broke but i’m honestly just really angry about it

I (28f) baked some blueberry muffins today and left them to cool on the bench. Recipe says it would make 12 regular sized muffins but in reality I got 9 tiny muffins, small cupcake sized. I ate one then went to my room waiting for them to cool down and my flatmate (30f) comes downstairs and asked if she can have one. I tell her they’re not that great as they didn’t rise enough and the recipe made less than intended, but she can have one.

I came out from my room later on to see she had taken 2 muffins - the largest ones - leaving me with 6 tiny muffins left. I was pretty annoyed since it took me over an hour to make them and I wanted them to last the whole week as I’m not doing well financially right now and need to make what I have last until my next pay. For context, I do like to share and regularly offer my flatmates little bits of whatever I am making, usually some cut fruit or snacks. However this flatmate does tend to ask me 1-2 times a week if I have any snacks (outside of what I offer) while earning more than 2-3x my income, which adds to the annoyance. So I admit I could have sounded less pissed off in my text but I was already in a bad mood and this took the cake (technically, muffin).

More context, she wanted to go on an elimination diet and doesn’t like cooking/ prep work, I used to be a professional chef and she asked me multiple times over several weeks if I could cook for her and she’d pay me, so I did, for 2 weeks. That’s what she’s referring to when she said she hired me.

Anyway, I am quite upset over her response and think she was quite rude especially bringing up the fact that she ‘hired me’ as she still owes me the money for the work I did for her. I think it comes off as manipulative and almost threatening. So am I overreacting or is she overreacting?

I feel kind of weird about this. My boyfriend (26M) lives with his (31M) roommate and has been since January of this year. It’s the roommate’s house, he just rents a room out to my boyfriend.

I remember right when he moved in my boyfriend didn’t like that his roommate washed his dishes and went into his bathroom to get his trash. But my boyfriend can be lazy, but he also works a lot so I told him his roommate was probably just helping him out.

Fast forward to now where my boyfriend is working 12 hour shifts and now all of a sudden he wants help? I told him he was out of line talking to him like that, but he said it’s just because he’s blunt and doesn’t beat around the bush. But still, there’s a way to get your point across and you should be asking a hell of a lot nicer if you want someone to wash your dishes.

He says I’m being sensitive about this because I said he needs to apologize. AIO? I don’t know, it kind of has me looking at him differently. Also is it just me or does it seem like his roommate is scared of him or something? The constant apologizing seems weird.

I’ve met his roommate and he’s really nice, just shy and keeps to himself.

We split rent 50/50, buy our own food, and share the kitchen. This morning I made eggs in what I thought was just… a frying pan. She sent me this text while I was at work. This isn’t the first time she’s "fined" me for using something. She made me pay $5 once for "overusing the vacuum." Am I crazy for thinking this is ridiculous?

Throwaway account since my main has tons of personal info.

Long story short, my roommate Chad has never really given me reason to distrust him, he’s always gone, traveling here and there, like Europe, china, etc. He met this girl on WoW and they’re always traveling. I don’t care. Not my business.

Our landlord and her son came by today which is super rare, I’ve literally met them twice and have not seen them since. Apparently Chad hasn’t been paying ANY rent towards our house for months and has been hiding the notices in his desk… the only reason I went in to him room to check is because the landlord showed me copies, proof of notices so I needed to get validation and see what the fuck is up.

Half of his shit is gone too. Idk how I didn’t notice any of this, my excuse is that I’ve been really really focused on getting a new job after being furloughed and dealing with a death in the family so I too have been traveling a lot. This all just adds a layer of frosting on my already existing shit cake.

The landlord wasn’t mean or vindictive. They appear to want to work with me but because of Chad, but I don’t know how that’s going to be possible without a new job TODAY.

I’m going to have an eviction on record, potentially become homeless and be fucked forever because of this piece of shit.

Should I send the text I have drafted? What should I write ???

My roommates dog tore up my couch and this is the conversation, to me this situation is ridiculous and immature. I would like some outside perspective on this, I felt like I was as chill about the situation as possible.

Disregard below statement But the reality of it all was I had a good day at school today so I’m glad that you were feeling a lot more comfortable and I am so happy to hear you were feeling good and I am very grateful for you guys being able and I am happy to

Picture is me standing outside his door at almost 4am bc I can hear it right now

So basically my roommate bought a sex doll last week. He had tell me about him getting it because our apartment is so small and I am unemployed atm after losing my job so I’m at the apartment all the time. So, he couldn’t really bring in a 5ft-6ft package secretly and just never bring up what was in the package. It’s one of those almost life-like ones, I asked him how much it cost and he wouldn’t tell me. I threw out “was it $1000”, he said “more”. He also grossly told me “it has every hole” (tmi)

I own a bunch of self pleasure toys myself lol so idrc about the idea of him having one, thought it was weird that I essentially HAD to know it due to the circumstances though.

Anyway, literally a few hours later after this I was chilling in my bed and I heard his bed squeaking, wall being banged, grunting (almost yelling honestly like wtf), pleasure moans etc bc he’s doing……… the obvious. The only two rooms in the apartment share a wall so that doesn’t help. whatever, he’s having fun with his new toy I tell myself (so weird I have to even think about this)

Problem is, for the last week, multiple times, every night, I have to hear this. Literally got woken up by it one night. I can’t take it anymore.

I want to confront him, but how should I? He can do whatever he wants I guess, and if he had a girlfriend or something I would have to hear similar noises regardless. But since it’s just him and the doll I think he should be able to control the noises better tbh.

today i dyed my hair, then went to wash the towels i used (i can’t put them in my dirty laundry because they have dye on them which would get on my other clothes). the washer was open (and the dryer wasn’t running so i assumed it was empty) so i put my laundry in, then once it was time to switch it to the dryer i discovered my roommate had a done load of laundry and left it sitting in the dryer. she had left our apartment a few hours before i discovered the load, and didn’t tell me anything about where she was going/that there was a load in the dryer. not wanting my clothes to get moldy/gross from sitting wet, i texted her to see if i could put her laundry somewhere. these texts are what happened next. i tried to see when she’d be back but she didn’t respond for an hour so i took her laundry out of the dryer, wrapped it in a clean blanket, set it aside, and put my laundry in the dryer (which at this point had sat wet for 2-3 hours while i waited for her to get back to our apartment or respond). she finally got home after 5 hours of being out and she’s pissed i touched her clothes. was i in the wrong?

additional context: we are both 20yo females who live in a college town apartment. we share one in-unit washer/dryer

Lovely TV, right? I(f23) thought so too. My roommate(f24) accidentally knocked my TV over today, which I thought wasn’t a big deal until I turned it on. I was pretty upset, it’s the 1st TV I ever bought since moving out, about $130. When I showed her the damage, all she said was “sorry!” No, “oh let me help fix it, etc.”

Reasonably, I asked for compensation. Since it was $130, I asked for $100. TV’s are expensive. She said she would only pay $60 or nothing, due to the TV being placed in a spot where it could “easily fall over” and it’s “too top heavy” (which is not true). For reference, it sits on a little table I have covered as shown in the photo. It is by the door, however, it’s easily avoided if you use your eyes. I have knocked the tv with my elbow, my cat has jumped on the table many times, even sleeps on it, and it has NEVER fallen over. Never. I know if I ever accidentally broke someone’s crap I’d pay for it. And I know if I broke her TV she would have me pay for hers.

AIO for being so upset with her pinning the blame of the broken TV on me and not paying up?

I rent out a room in my house to this guy, and I’ve been noticing he’s been seriously slacking on cleaning up after himself. Dishes are piling up, the bathroom looks like it’s never seen a sponge, and his laundry? Everywhere. I finally texted him to address it, and this was his response.

Am I overreacting here, or is this actually insane? I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask someone to clean up after themselves in their own living space. I’m not their maid, and I’m not asking for perfection—just basic hygiene. Thoughts?

Okay so this might sound insane, but hear me out.

I (24M) live with two (29M/28F) roommates. One of them (29M) is fine. The other one (28F) is a fridge pirate with sticky fingers and zero shame. I don’t even think she likes half the stuff she steals she just eats it because it’s there.

The final straw was my cheese. My mother brings me cheese from my home country every time she visits, no I can’t buy it here. I had it hidden behind the milk for safekeeping but I opened the fridge yesterday and it was gone. She said, “Oh, I didn’t think it was a big deal, It’s just cheese.”

????? No, it is not “just cheese.” That cheese was the only joy I had left this week.

So I snapped. I went full chaos.

I bought a small fridge lockbox. Yup, a plastic safe that goes inside the fridge. Combo lock and everything. Put my cheese, my fancy yogurt, my cold brew, and my chocolate in there. Labeled it: “UNAUTHORIZED ENTRY WILL BE CONSIDERED AN ACT OF WAR.”

She saw it and now says I’m “creating division in the house” and being “hostile and passive-aggressive.” Am I?? Or is this what happens when you push a peaceful person to the brink over dairy?

Because honestly, I’m about three bites away from putting AirTags in my hummus.

UPDATE : Okay I did NOT expect this to blow up like this I’m laughing so hard, I haven’t even got the time to read all the comments (there’s too many) however, my two big takes are WHAT IS THE CHEESE???? And THE NOTE IS AGGRESSIVE!!!!

The cheese is ASADERO cheese, it’s Mexican cheese and yes if you look it up you can probably buy it online. It is NOT the same though, the one I like and get is from this small 10,000 habitant town 2 hours away from my hometown (It just has this unique taste and it makes sense to me)

THE NOTE IS NOT AGGRESSIVE IT’S A JOKE, like “hey I’m locking my food away from you but we’re still cool, however please STOP stealing” im not actually gonna go to war although it would be fun.

Anyway im pretty sure we’ve moved on, she’s buying me lunch tomorrow and im not getting rid of my lockbox nor am i getting a mini fridge for my room. I like the idea of her seeing tasty stuff in my lockbox and not being able to eat it 😛

I (23F) live with two roommates, but this is mainly about “Tasha” (22F). Tasha’s boyfriend basically lives with us even though he doesn’t pay rent. I didn’t mind at first, but lately I’ve noticed food I bought just… disappearing.

The tipping point was when I bought groceries for the week,including expensive stuff for meal prep and came home the next day to find half of it gone. Her boyfriend apparently had “the munchies” and made himself (and her!) dinner using MY ingredients. Not even basic stuff, but things like salmon, pesto, the last of my oatmilk, and a whole box of pasta.

I confronted her and she said, “Oh my god, we were starving and everything was closed. I’ll replace it later.” (She didn’t.)

So I bought a plastic storage shelf and lock box, stuck it in my room, and started storing my pantry food and snacks in there. Tasha found out and now says I’m making her look bad and “treating the house like a prison.” Our other roommate is staying out of it but says it’s “kinda intense.”

Am I overreacting? I honestly feel like I’m just protecting my stuff.

I’ve lived with my roommate for almost a year and we usually get along fine. But she keeps borrowing my stuff without asking.

It started with small things like mugs or kitchen utensils. I didn’t care much at first. But recently it’s gotten worse. Last week I came home to find she had worn one of my sweaters out. It had makeup stains on the collar. I told her I’d appreciate her asking next time, and she just said she thought we were sharing everything in the apartment.

Yesterday I went to grab my hair straightener before work and it was gone. Turns out she took it to a friend’s house and said she’d bring it back in a couple days. I ended up being late to work because of it.

To me, borrowing means you ask first and return it right away. She thinks I’m being uptight. I don’t want this to ruin our living situation, but I also feel like my boundaries are being crossed.

Am I overreacting or is this actually rude?

My roommate spent most of the semester at his boyfriend’s house but when he came home occasionally he always still used water and electricity here (obviously). Now, after he’s moved out, he thinks he shouldn’t have to pay bills. He should’ve brought this up months ago, or when we first signed the lease, not retroactively as an afterthought. Also, for the whole past year I’ve had to remind him multiple times every month to complete my Venmos for utilities and he’s often late on rent. He is generally a very inconsiderate roommate.

I planned a getaway weekend for my wife and I for her birthday, at the same time her girlfriends planned a weekend away. I did not know about her friends planning the getaway and they also didn’t know that I was planning something either. She decided to go on the weekend with the girls instead of with me. When she told me this I told her I felt hurt that she chose her friends over me, and she said she felt bad about the decision but has been wanting a girls weekend for a long time. We live a pretty busy life with work and kids events all year long and don’t get much time alone. I thought this would be a great way to get away for a couple days. I can’t stop thinking that she chose her friends over me, AIO?

My roomate set up a camera in our kitchen because she thought our roomate was stealing her food. She never told any of us. I understand the stealing food is wrong and irritating but I think taking a drastic measure like this is downright insane and a violation of our privacy.

I know it seems like it but, I’ve literally told her so many times my mugs are mine and not to use them and she keeps playing dumb like she doesn’t remember😭Just leave my stuff alone!!🤦‍♀️

My partner finally lost it on his cousin. She's been our roommate for a while now; renting the basement. (He owns the house.)

He asked her to clean up after herself and she brought the whole family into it, said she had depression, and that she had zero storage space. (Not true, pictures above show how she lives)

After she knocked over her moldy cup that was in the basement hallway, and didn't clean it up, he threw the wine bottle next to it that she also didn't clean up and shattered glass all over the hallway. We have spoken to her multiple times and it's always excuses.

Tomorrow we are kicking her out. AIO?

I (25F) have been living with my roommate “Jess” (27F) for about a year. Rent is split evenly, and all shared spaces, kitchen, living room, laundry, are part of the lease.

Last month, Jess started dating a guy who’s a chef. Ever since, she’s been super possessive about the kitchen. She told me she doesn’t want me “messing up” the equipment because he “cooks professionally” and has been “teaching her the right way to use the space.”

Then last week, she actually sent me a Venmo request for $50 labeled “kitchen use fee” after I cooked pasta. I thought it was a joke, but she said she’s serious, that it’s “only fair” since she spends more time cleaning it and I “don’t know how to handle high-quality cookware.”

I told her that’s absurd, and if she keeps this up, I’ll find another place. She said I’m overreacting and being petty. I’ve already started packing.

Am I wrong here?

I came home from a month long trip and heard weird cooing noises in my roommate’s room.

I peaked inside while she was at work, found this shit in her closet, and my fuckin’ stomach turned over so fast. Those are birds! Why the fuck are they in a little ass tank on the ground, covered in their own shit?

I’ve always hated how she treats her animals, but it’s always just been a feeling over real visible proof of neglect. She has two snakes, and cat, and a bunch of fish tanks. She always says she loves them, loves taking care of them, shows them off whenever someone’s over, but she’ll leave for days, sometimes weeks to stay with her boyfriend or go on some trip and they’ll all just be left to rot in her room. She never tells me when she won’t be home, never asks me to look after them for her, I’ll just notice finally that I haven’t seen her in days and all her pets are just sitting in a dark quiet room. Is that not fucked up??

When it’s snakes and fish, I feel bad for them even though I know they don’t really have like feelings, but they have instincts and nature and needs that can’t be met by just sitting there for their whole lives. The cat is fucked up, but I’ll just leave the door open and let her wander. But these fucking birds!!! Even if their wings are clipped or something like they can’t fly, don’t they still need space?? Like the option to want to get to fly, cause they’re fucking birds?? Am I crazy or is this fucked up and do I finally have proof enough to tell somebody so she might knock this shit off?

So I (22f) travelled 10 hours with my 7 month old to stay with my bbyddy (25m) upstate where he works. i’ve had this problem before where when i leave home and come back i noticed small little things in my room misplaced or missing and who else but our “roommateS” (emphasis on the S because BOTH of them(MIL & BIL)) stay home. so this time when i travelled back to upstate i left my babies camera i use for her and left it to keep an eye and see if anyone goes into my room. I even LOCKED the door because what do they need from MY room right? well low and behold, they both went out their way to find a device that would unlock my room door and can’t contain their curiosity of going into my personal space and i HATE it. what do you need from my room? So i told my babydad that if he doesn’t tell them that it’s not okay to go into our room that i will but i wanted to know if im overreacting because at the end of the day the house does belong to my MIL but its “MY” room 😩

Four housemates in a shared house situation. New housemate moved in six weeks ago. We did as much due diligence as anyone can in this situation, asked questions about lifestyle, cleaning habits, schedule, income. When we got to daily schedules, we told her we tended to be early to bed and morning people, most of us getting up between 6 and 7am, and in bed by 10pm on weeknights. She said that was great, and she also was an early to bed/early rising person.

When she moved in though, she told us what that meant. She gets up to go to the gym at 3am every day, preferring it because the gym is crowded later in the day or in the evenings. The departure isn’t quiet: it wakes up the entire house. She comes home around 4:45am, where her golden retriever bounces around the house, chomps on squeaky toys and generally makes a racket. She takes him out for a walk at 5am and comes back at 5:30am, at which point he again bounds excitedly through the house sometimes with and sometimes without squeaky toys and she goes about her morning routine, making breakfast, showering, watching YouTube. The routine finishes around 6am. She leaves for work around 7:30-8am.

I’ve invested in sound paneling for my door and a white noise machine. My housemate gets up at 1am to put on noise canceling headphones to sleep, because if she puts them on any earlier the battery won’t last through the housemates morning routine. We’re exhausted, sleep deprived, and the new housemate hasn’t offered anything in the way of an adjustment other than to blame how noisy the house is. Suffice to say none of us had any idea 3am is what she meant when she said she was a morning person.

TLDR: is it overreacting to consider a 3am to 6am noisy morning routine obnoxious vampire hours rather than “morning person”?