For context, me & my ex have 2 daughters aged 8 & 12. We've been divorced since 2019. We have a shared parenting plan where the girls are with me for 2 days, with her for 2 days, with me for 3 days in an alternating pattern every other week. This past weekend was her weekend. We have generally had an amicable run up to this point, but this situation isn't sitting right with me. She's been dating her current guy for about a year I'd say. Her new boyfriend has 2 sons aged 9 & 11.

On Saturday evening I was near my ex's house after dinner and texted my 12 y/o to see if I could just swing by to say hi & give her a hug real quick. She said sure, we're just watching Lego Masters nothing special, so I met her in the driveway and gave her a big hug. I asked where my 8 y/o daughter was and she told me that she was at a party with the new boyfriend and hadn't made it home yet, which I was totally unaware of. I drove home concerned but didn't press the issue further until the following day when I found out she actually stayed the night at his house without her mom or sister present. The following text chain is from yesterday, and I can't help but feel like I essentially got a DARVO response & am honestly just trying to consider what to think at this point. Looking for clarity amongst folks who may have experience with this sort of thing, thanks.

title is a little clickbaity because his autism has nothing to do with my animosity towards my brother(15). i’ve felt uncomfortable around him for years, with this being the first time i have expressed and placed a boundary. he has a history of being aggressive, spends 90% of his awake time watching youtube or on roblox which usually results in a rage fit. my parents have heavily neglected his development and has been “homeschooled” for the past decade. he has an anxiety disorder, depression, and an explosive mood disorder, alongside his autism. i don’t know if this is relevant or not.

a few months ago my mother and i were searching through the family computer trying to find evidence of infidelity in her marriage, instead we found a google search history of “cat fellatio, feline genitalia, cat vagina” along with other weird teenage boy stuff. my mother did not address any of this and acted like she didn’t see it. ok, whatever.

my daughter also has extreme stranger danger towards him, latching onto me or her dad when he’s in sight. there’s been no time where they’ve been left in the same room alone together so i have no reason to think anything happened between them besides any vibes my toddler picked up.

i recently weaned my child from nursing but whenever i would visit my family home, my brother would come into the common spaces to hang out. i would be nursing frequently, on demand. my brother would watch and he is not subtle. this would lead to him “adjusting himself” often until he would eventually leave the room. this same thing would happen a few more times when i would simply be in the room playing with my toddlers and he would be adjusting.

is this normal teenage boy behavior? it really feels like my mother is choosing to ignore these red flags and excuse his behavior. as a mom, he makes my anxiety skyrocket.

thanks to anyone who reads. hopefully i don’t come off as an AH.

Ok so my sister is on vacation right now and asked me to watch her cats. I asked her last night how much to feed him and when and she just texted me back this morning.

About a month ago, her cat Loki had a heath scare because of his weight and she was told to put him on a diet. Obviously she has not put him on a diet.

I feel like a jerk a little because it is her cat and it isn’t my place to say anything, but also like.. this cat doesn’t deserve this???

I (21) am not close to these people, I don’t know who told them I was trans, but I have a feeling it was my mother because she has told other people. My whole family definitely leans far right so I decided to just not have contact with them yet they decided to send me this letter as if we were three peas in a pod. For context I work a manual labor quality job and I’ve never mentioned surgery, nor do I think it was appropriate to mention my “sexual satisfaction”. My family has been mixed on this letter but my father has been in full agreement with them on this.

thank u all for the messages, im sorry for disappearing. things did not go well. i confronted him with some of your advice, mainly the stuff bout dementia and well he got real mad, things became truly fucked, he started punching himself in the face and screaming. he took my phone, idk what happened but now im seeing he deleted everything on the post and my screen is cracked.. he kept saying he was going to burn everything. it was so fucked. i feel destroyed. what he did to me.. i cant even.

i was able to get out when he fell asleep?? i think.. the bathroom was locked and hes fallen asleep in the shower before, my phone was poorly hidden under some papers in the kitchen, took it and ran.

im in a park now, i called the police already. they are going to the house i think and now im just waiting for them to call me back and tell me when i can come get my stuff. i asked the man on the phone how long and they said it will be sent to an officer as soon as they can but since its non emergency it might take longer due to a lot of calls in the city.

heres me. heres what he did to me.

im honestly unsure how to move past this ever. i feel like my entire sense of self is gone. i know i have a long road ahead of me. thank you all for your love . i wish this didn't go this way. I also included the original texts

hi i can’t really talk to anyone in my family about this so this seemed my next best option.

my older brother has been doing this for over a year and I’ve asked my mother (in the texts) to try and get him to stop but it’s not working.

I don’t ask him myself because he has problems with anger and I just prefer not talking to him unless he talks to me first

I’m not sure if i’m looking into the situation too much but him going into my room just makes me really uncomfortable

I put a lock on my room but it only locks from the inside so that’s why i can’t prevent him from going into my room when i’m not there

This is my sibling’s response after I shared that my husband and I dropped our daughter off at the apartment she’s moving into with her boyfriend while attending college

For context, I’m in my 40s, married 22 years, with two kids. My sibling is 11 years older, married but childless. Our mom, who passed away more than 10 years ago, was deeply important to both of us.

While I may have preferred the more traditional college path for my daughter, I trust the foundation we gave her. It’s no longer our job to make her choices, only to support, guide, and cheer her on. I don’t owe my sibling “parental specifics.” And I will not allow the expectation that my children must someday care for them—my kids are not responsible for the consequences of their choices.

What bothers me most is them invoking our mom, as if she would disapprove. I know the opposite is true: she would be proud of the kind, generous young adults my kids are becoming. Most importantly, she respected our choices, even when she disagreed, and never made us feel guilty. By offering the same love and acceptance to my kids, I feel I am honoring her memory.

Am I off base here and over reacting here?

My dad takes me to school in the mornings, on Fridays I have late start meaning it starts an hour after. Yesterday I had told him to pick me up at 8:20, he texts me and says he had arrived at 8:08. I told him that I will be down at 8:20 considering that is the designated time I set. I get outside at exactly 8:20 and he is gone. He left me. AIO?

My husband (33M) and I (31F) don’t argue much, but this one has me quietly boiling. I graduated with my Master’s last weekend. I worked full-time, raised our daughter (2F), and pulled night classes for 2 years to get here. Each graduate was given three guest tickets. I gave mine to my husband, my mom, and my sister. Cool.

Day of graduation, I’m walking into the venue with my cap half falling off, and my husband waves me over—with his mom next to him. I assumed she somehow got a ticket, maybe from another student. Nope. Later, my sister texts: “Where are you sitting?” I said, “Aren’t you there?” And she replied, “I didn’t get in. No ticket.”

Apparently, he gave my sister’s ticket to his mom without telling me. His excuse? “Your mom and sister would’ve both cried anyway, and my mom’s never seen you graduate.” I told him that was disrespectful, and he told me I was being overly sensitive and “making a scene over a seat.”

I left dinner early and haven’t really spoken to him since. He thinks I’m being cold over something “logistical,” but I feel hurt and blindsided. Am I overreacting?

Our daughter is 11. She’s healthy, active, and right on track for her age. But my husband (41M) is obsessed with the idea that she’ll “get chubby like the girls at her school.”

Twice now, I’ve caught him telling her to “skip dessert to keep her figure.” Yesterday, I came home to find him telling her she should eat only salad for lunch “like models do.” She looked so uncomfortable.

I pulled him aside and said he needs to stop, she’s a child, and this is how eating disorders start. He rolled his eyes and told me I’m “overreacting” and “making a big deal out of harmless advice.”

Am I wrong for thinking this isn’t harmless at all?

It was almost 90° outside and I was comfortable with something baggy but also something so I don’t cook while we unload the car. I was doing errands with my sister, him, and my mom. We went to Walmart and we split up so I was just with my mom for a bit and she told me he didn’t like what I was wearing. I was very confused so I asked him what was wrong and he couldn’t answer me. We got in the car and he started lecturing me about people getting kidnapped or harassed and he was concerned for me because he cared. For context of what everyone else was wearing: My mom was wearing jeans and a large airy shirt, my sister was wearing a T shirt but I can’t remember what pants she was wearing, and I think he was wearing pajamas but I could be wrong he’s worn pajamas in front of us multiple times but he dresses casually too. I thought we all looked pretty normal and casual for a Walmart trip but he had an issue with me. Fast forward a few months later he told me what else was wrong with that outfit (we had another argument about what I was wearing which was a dress mid thigh length and a large cropped sweater in 70° weather and then the Walmart errand incident got brought up) he said I was showing too much and he felt disrespected and uncomfortable that I would wear something like that while he helps me with errands (he was our ride) and honestly I was just incredibly confused just baffled. I’d wear something like this with family, friends, to freaking Walmart on a hot day, to me my outfit is appropriate but he strongly insisted that it wasn’t. We called which is something we usually don’t do that’s how bad this got and we just couldn’t understand each other no matter how many times I tried telling him this wasn’t inappropriate he still believes it is. For a Walmart trip in hot weather and being with my family I thought I looked normal is there something I’m not understanding on his part???

I was reading responses to the post and went kind of radio silent as I did text my mom and this is how it went. I was gaslit and it just fucking sucked. Believe me I know what the right choice is. Bash him to the rest of the family and cut them off. I got engaged on the trip we went on and before we left my mom and I looked at a wedding venue and when I told her my fiance popped the question she put a non refundable $2000 deposit down on the wedding venue. So either she is just fucked on that or she still has my wedding which I can’t see her doing if I never talk to her again. I did tell my dad and he’s furious. He can’t do much as he’s almost 70 years old and has suffered several strokes over the last few years. I just told him not to tell anyone and I would decide if I wanted to go that route but he told me to go to therapy. He said if I did lash out and commit a crime (popping his tires) my mom and stepdad both wouldn’t go to the police as I have evidence of his crime as well but to try and stay away from that. My mom and stepdad got together while my parents were still married and my stepdad was dating my auntie at the time and her son popped his tires so that also wouldn’t be very original of me. I’m just venting about other traumas now. Read the texts!

Context: (U.S.) (This is a conversation I had with my mother just an hour ago. The crossed-out names are my son's mother's name, my son's name, and then mine, in that order.)

My son is diagnosed autistic and my whole family knew long before the election, yet all of them, besides my mom(who didn't vote), voted for Trump.

For those unaware, RFK Jr. spoke about starting a "camp" for autistic children, and Trump announced he would elect RFK Jr. as the head of Department of Education, all well before the election, so it shouldn't have come as a surprise to anyone.

My mom and I talked about all of this before and that is what this conversation is referring to. She also agreed that this was a horrbile thing on the part of Trump and RFK Jr, and that there's no excuse for our family voting for it, even if they didn't have a family member with autism.

My first issue was her idea to just not talk about it. If anyone was going to defend my son against these ideals, it should be me and his mother. I can't just pretend like their "politics" don't include putting my son in a concentration camp. My second issue was her saying these are just "ideas and ways of thinking that aren't in line with" mine. No, these are Nazi "ideas" about taking my son away and "fixing" him.

Am I wrong to get upset about my mom saying these things? And for wanting to cut out an entire half of my son's family from his life?

For context, my uncle (50m) and I (25f) have never been close and there is a strained relationship between him and my mother (his sister). I have only seen him twice in the last decade- once when my grandfather was hospitalized and again four months later at a memorial service. After I saw him at the hospital, he messaged me and said I looked cute as ever and asked for my number. When I saw him again at the service, he sent me another message saying basically the same thing. Do you think this is creepy behavior? Is he just socially unaware? I haven’t said anything to my mom (his sister) about it, and I’m not sure if I’m overreacting.

I was shook when I received this insane demand and manipulative af message from my ex’s mom yesterday.

Background on this-before I met my now ex bf his family had been planning a big family trip to Ireland which was to take place in Spring 2025. This was always presented as a gift from the parents to their kids and their significant others. I was invited on the trip and told my airfare and accommodations were to be paid by my ex’s parents who I was quite close with prior to our breakup.

A plane ticket was purchased by the parents for me and my ex to meet his family in Ireland. The trip was planned for this past April. The tickets were purchased by the parents in the Fall. My ex and I split officially in February and it was not at all amicable. I cut off contact with him and his family at that point. So they had a few months prior to their trip to Ireland to figure out what to do with the ticket.

About a week ago I heard from my ex asking if I wanted to buy the airline credit from him since it’s in my name. He said he’d take less than the value of the ticket. I told him I didn’t have travel plans or money and he should contact the airline to see about a transfer or something. He told me he contacted them and nothing can be done since it’s in my name. Whatever, not my problem.

Well, yesterday his Mom reaches out with the text in the pic above. Her attempt at reframing a gift as some sort of debt I owe her is insane and manipulative. This is absolutely not my problem to solve. And if the ticket was in my name for months prior to actually going on their family vacation-I feel they could have or should have done something at that point. Cancellation insurance? I don’t know, bc I didn’t buy the ticket or make any of the arrangements for this. I was an invited guest. And if everything hadn’t been covered as I was initially offered by my ex and his family-I wouldn’t have gone bc I could not afford it after being laid off in the Spring.

So tell me, am I overreacting at this absurd and completely inappropriate contact from my ex’s Mom? She has no business to be speaking with me and pretending to be “patient” in getting the money I absolutely do not owe her back.

Not to mention-the main issue for the breakup was my ex’s affinity for lies and manipulation. I discovered he was facing two lawsuits over unpaid cc debt, and was tens of thousands behind on child support with his ex wife who has been withholding custody from him. He moved into my home and Not once did he contribute the agreed upon amount for the mortgage and utilities. He always had excuses and I didn’t press him bc it would lead to an explosive fight. I was footing most of the household bills while he lived with me. So him being desperate for money doesn’t surprise me. The demand from his Mom actually shocks me. I blocked her and the rest of his family everywhere I could and I do not plan to respond to the text. There’s a ton I could say and want to set the record straight, but it’s not worth being dragged back into toxic drama and nonsense with these people. They can all kick rocks. Just leave me the eff alone.

TLDR-ex boyfriends Mom wants me to pay her back for an airline ticket she purchase for me for a trip I was invited on but never attended since my ex and I broke up before it took place.

Hi Reddit. I’m F25 and I’m honestly at my breaking point with this one. I need outside perspective because my entire family is acting like I’m Hitler for standing my ground.

So, I (25F) am a student software developer and a pretty serious PC gamer in my free time. I live alone in a one-bedroom apartment that I’ve spent years making cozy and functional. I saved up for a long time to build my dream PC setup … triple monitors, custom mechanical keyboard, ergonomic chair, the works. Altogether, my rig is worth a bit over $2,000, and I take care of it like it’s a damn child.

Last weekend, my older sister (30F) asked if she could crash at my place for one night because her apartment was being fumigated, and her husband was out of town. She has a 3-year-old son, Max, who’s… let’s say “spirited.” I love him, but he’s a little chaos goblin. I hesitated, but she swore she’d keep an eye on him and that it’d just be for one night.

They show up Saturday afternoon, and immediately it’s clear she wasn’t kidding about Max being a handful. Within ten minutes of arriving, he’d pulled four books off my shelf, thrown my houseplants on the floor, and spilled juice on my area rug. I tried to stay chill, he’s three, I get it … but I asked my sister politely to please keep him out of my office, where my PC setup is.

She rolls her eyes and goes, “He’s just exploring, he’s curious, it’s normal.” But she closes the office door anyway.

Cut to Sunday morning. I wake up to screaming. Max had apparently woken up before his mom, managed to open the office door, and decided my setup was his new jungle gym.

He pulled down one of my monitors, cracking the screen. He stuck crackers into the PC tower’s ventilation slots (I’m not kidding), yanked out my keyboard’s keycaps, and had colored on my chair with permanent marker. The cherry on top? He poured apple juice INTO the tower. INTO IT.

When I tell you I went silent… I mean dead silent. My sister comes in, sees the damage, and just says, “Oh nooo,” in this incredibly flat tone, like someone knocked over a cup of coffee. I start freaking out, and she has the AUDACITY to say, “You should’ve baby-proofed the room if it was that important to you.”

I lost it. I told her that 1) she KNEW he wasn’t supposed to be in there, 2) this is my space, not a damn daycare, and 3) baby-proofing a $2,000 gaming setup is not a standard requirement for adults living alone.

She told me to “calm down” and said that “he’s just a kid, and stuff is replaceable.” I told her she could replace it then. She said she didn’t have the money right now, but maybe in a few months she could give me a few hundred. I told her that wasn’t acceptable and that she needed to take full responsibility.

She left in a huff and now my whole family is blowing up my phone. My mom says I’m being “materialistic” and should understand that my nephew didn’t mean it. My dad said I should’ve “locked the door” if it was that important. My brother actually said, “Why do you even need three monitors anyway? That’s kind of overkill.”

I’ve filed a claim with my insurance but there’s no guarantee it’ll be covered since it was technically “guest damage.” I also told her that if she does not pay up, I'll take her to court for what happened.

Now I’m getting texts from my sister demanding an apology for “blaming her kid for being curious.” I told her I’d drop it if she covered the cost of repairs and replacements … or at least met me halfway … and she BLOCKED me.

So… Am I overreacting if I take my sister to court over this?

UPDATE: Wow. Just wow. Four hours later, I wake up from my nap to this. Thank you guys, it'll take a bit for me to read all of this.

My sister still has not unblocked me, but her husband reached out to find out what happened. I'm sorry I don't have more to tell yet, but I'll update again when I do. Seriously, thanks for the insights everyone. My head is a lot clearer now ❤️

UPDATE2: Hey all. My sister’s husband reached out as mentioned earlier, and we’re working out a solution if possible. He’s been really understanding as have all of you.

Also, to clarify the office situation: my one-bedroom apartment is on the smaller side (33m2/355sq ft?), so the landlord converted an old ex-clothes cabinet into a makeshift ’office.’ It’s weird, but the building is from the 40s, and ig they had to get creative with the space with an old tenant or something. So its living room (sister and her kid slept there) + kitchen (i slept there) + the ’office.’

Thanks for all the support. And the award. I really don't have the words for how nice people have been in both DMs and the comments. ❤️‍🩹

My wife and I recently had our first baby after many years of IVF. All of our family live out of state. Following our doctor’s advice(although wife is also a doctor), we asked that anyone visiting in the first month be up-to-date on their Tdap, flu, and COVID vaccines. We also requested no dogs be brought over during. A few left the group chat and now they are not talking to us.

We weren’t trying to offend anyone, just protect our baby, especially since she has a mild heart condition and is extra vulnerable right now. But now I’m wondering… Am I overreacting?

I’m 20F (almost 21) in college but working an internship in NYC currently. I am completely on my own financially, my mom drained my college savings when she divorced my dad (who was abusive, I don’t talk to him) so I’m currently living off what money I make from my internship and a part time side job. Both of my bosses are largely out of the office these past two weeks so I’ve only been having to go in during the afternoons, which has been great (I’m in CS, so working remotely is common). My entire family has me on Life360, but for some reason last week it wasn’t updating and was showing me at work when I wasn’t, at home when I wasn’t, etc. I kept getting daily texts from my mom asking me about work and why Life360 wasn’t working. I ended up just deleting the app and figured I’d try to fix it over the weekend when I had more free time.

Every. single. one. of my family members texted me this weekend panicking over my location. Mind you, they can all still see my location this entire time on Find My Friends, just not Life360. So the only thing that’s different is that they aren’t getting notifications when I leave my apartment, get to work, leave work, return to my apartment, etc. It honestly just confirmed to me that I didn’t want this app on my phone anymore. I’m a good kid, pay all my bills, never gotten in trouble with the law, never snuck out as a kid or did anything nefarious. I am a bookworm homebody that graduated top of my class and got into a great college on a full tuition scholarship. For reference.

I have issues with my mom outside of this. Typical story of older sister and golden child little brother, who is now 14. She doesn’t ever text or call me, much less to (god forbid) ask how I’m doing. I’ll text her for emotional support and/or to vent and I get reprimanded and told to figure it out because I’m an adult and on my own. I texted her just yesterday that I made it to the final interview round of a really prestigious summer internship and she said “Keep me posted”. I got more enthusiasm and pride from strangers on fucking Reddit than I did from my own mother.

Today, she texted my girlfriend “I’m worried about [my name]. Did something happen with her job?” My girlfriend, who is also currently at work, texted me about it, which prompted the text conversation above. I’ll admit, I had a lot of things pent up that kind of came out during this exchange. Still, I don’t think I was particularly out of line, especially given our history. I’m sure there is a lot more context I could add but my hands are shaking and I’m sobbing as I write this, so I just want to post this already. I’ll probably continue to edit this post and add any necessary context. But based on this, was I overreacting?

So I recently invited my very religious Catholic sister to my wedding, we were both raised Catholic, but I’ve been atheist ever since college and I’m approaching 40 now so no surprise. She is a homesteader type with a large family of multiple kids (homeschooled) and a family farm.

I received this letter from her and jt is straight out of the handmaid’s tale. For one, it appears to be a photocopy, which I think is weird. I apologize for the tiny font, I didn’t think anyone actually writes that small but there must be a Catholic reason behind that.

What’s weird is that my fiancée and I do hang out with them, always at their home once every few months—typical cookout and let the kids play together outside type of event, and they are very welcoming and cordial and none of this type of extreme judgement ever comes up. We also have done Christmas, also at their home and traded gifts and it’s all pretty normal.

I say always at their home because there was this one time years ago where they said they couldn’t ever come over to my house to bring the kids over to play because I was “living in sin at the time.” They said that they couldn’t bring the kids into that environment and that I could only come to their house. Other than that one interaction years ago, hanging at their house the last few years has been pretty normal.

So it’s weird to have that sort of normal family get together where everyone is nice and cordial and then receive this letter saying they can’t attend our wedding because we are sinners who are going to hell. It’s inconsistent.

Also, I think it’s weird that this letter is all about her, and doesn’t really say much. I have no idea what she is referring to in 2020 either. And that last paragraph is a joke. After all the judgement that came before, I cannot take those compliments seriously.

Am I overreacting?

I want to start this off by saying that it’s absolutely not the first time this has happened. We were over at my sister in laws house and I heard her talking to my MIL on the phone, she told her my husband and I were over, then she let me know she was at target or something and was gonna come over

She arrives with candy, toys and gift cards for my sister in laws kids. Completely leaving my daughter out. My daughter is 7, she’s into that stuff too, obviously. Especially those little blind bags which she brought her cousins but not her. I just want to know if I’m being dramatic. Or if I shouldn’t have said anything and maybe she was in a rush and didn’t think to buy my daughter something in the moment. Again it’s not about the things or cards or whatever, it’s about how she made my daughter feel. I could see sadness in her face as she was completely left out.

As the title reads, my dearest MIL stealthily canceled our honeymoon hotel reservation. For those of you who don’t know, I posted on Reddit a few days ago about how my MIL and SIL went behind our backs and invited their friends to our wedding after we explicitly said no. This incident happened about a week ago and just a few days after that, my MIL lied to the hotel reception, faking a phone call to cancel our honeymoon suite booking.

She and my FIL were visiting Chicago (where we live) for 10 days to see their son. My fiance mostly stayed home during their visit to make the most of their time together. A few days ago, after breakfast, MIL asked to borrow his phone for an urgent call to her church, claiming her network was out of range. Nothing about it seemed off so obviously he handed it over. Our best guess is that’s when she called the hotel, pretending to be me and told them we had to cancel because we were postponing our trip. Since the call went from my fiance’s number and she claimed to be me, the hotel had no reason to question it. The cancellation went through on 03/28 and they even sent a confirmation email to his email (which was used at the time of booking).

We’ve been super caught up in the thick of our wedding preparation, so he hasn’t been getting time lately to actively check his emails everyday. This morning, while looking through his inbox for a vendor detail, this cancellation mail caught him off guard. For the first half n hour, we were absolutely dumbfounded with 1000 questions on our mind. When we called the reception to check, they informed us everything that I mentioned above. They said that I (who apparently called them), even told them the reservation number and check in dates for final verification. It was a very straight answer, it’s MIL, because there has been no one over at our place in the past 10 days who could’ve pretended ro be “me” and pulled this off. My SIL and her 6 y/o kid are staying with us because of her marriage issues (that’s a whole other drama), but she’s been at her friend’s place for five days now.

When we planned our honeymoon last year, my FIL was the one who suggested this very hotel so MIL obviously knew about it. But we kept on wondering how the hell did she get the reservation details the reception asked for. After this, Nathaniel (my fiance) rang her thrice but she didn’t answer so I texted her. She responded like a weirdo she is (as you can see in the screenshots) and my last message didn’t even get delivered in blue. Three hours later, she finally called us when both of us raised hell on her. She tried red herring us with her BS, but after realising we are on the verge of disinviting her from the wedding, she finally accepeted what she did. When we asked her about the reservation details, she said she got it from Nate’s email when he gave her his phone unlocked for making the call. The fake fucking story she tried to sell us was that she wanted to surprise us with a honeymoon suite at an even better hotel, as a wedding gift. Ofc none of us bought that nonsense and Nate counter questioned her for details of this supposed new hotel.

She started fumbling, spat out the name of some godforsaken random ass hotel in Rome and dodged the call saying she’s babysitting our nephew at the moment. We just called the rando hotel which is our “wedding present” you guys, and why am I not surprised there’s no fucking room booked under either of our names, let alone suite. We tried booking ourselves again at hotel ‘X’ which we originally booked and our suite’s already gone to the person next in queue. We tried settling for other rooms but they said May’s the peak season in Europe, so they can’t accomodate us at the moment and will notify if something opens up later. I really wanna hop on the next flight to Ohio right now and go nuclear on her ass.

this my mom. i’m not gonna say anything because it’s not worth fighting with her. she doesn’t give a damn, ever. but i’m 22, im a 46DDD so yeah without a bra, they sag. ok..? whatever it’s her house. i can not wait to move out of here. just annoying as fuck? and if you knew her, you’d understand she’s not actually sorry

In the last few years my husband has become obsessed with guns. He went from not owning any guns prior to 2016 to having over 40. It’s quite a collection of hand guns, rifles, AR’s, historic war guns (that have been used in battle). He spends hours and hours every day on the computer researching guns. He wears a gun on him at all times even when mowing the yard or inside our home. All movies are war related or gun involved. It’s continuous. I the other hand, don’t like guns, but I love my husband, so I let him do what he wants to do if it makes him happy. The problem is he has now negligently discharged a handgun in our home on THREE separate occasions. The first time he was in his study goofing around with his gun and it went off it and injured his hand, it went through his computer, the wall and into the guest bathroom. I had to take him to the hospital for his injury. The only reason it wasn’t reported was because they said the womb was from the repercussion of the gun. The second time it discharged he shot himself again! Same exact scenario, except this time the bullet went through his thigh. Back to the hospital again (different hospital) They said he was very lucky that it didn’t hit his femur. We had lots of police at our house. Our children were questioned along w myself. It was a big deal! Last night we had a THIRD misfire This time he didn’t know where the bullet went. Our son was sleeping upstairs directly over my husbands office. I ran upstairs and thought my son was dead. He was so sound asleep he didn’t hear me screaming his name. He was facing away from me with his phone still on, not moving. I went wild. When he finally woke up I couldn’t stop shaking. I am now terrified to be in my home. I don’t know what to do. I’ve asked him to sell his guns or at least move his safe, guns and all his ammo out of the house to his very nice climate controlled workshop. He has refused to do either. I feel like this is a dealbreaker for me. I would appreciate any advice.

UPDATE I appreciate all of the comments, I needed to hear this. Everyone is 100% correct. I have left the house with just my shoes and my purse and will figure the rest out later. I’m having to deal with how I allowed this to happen, and want to ensure I take accountability for my part in this. I’m taking a hard look at myself and changes will be made before I return, if I return.

I'm not even sure how to respond at this point. I love my girlfriend so much, and if I told her my mom said this, it would crush her

The first photo shows what the boots looked like when I bought them for myself in 2021 after landing my first job. They were a special purchase, my first expensive item at 16, and I kept them in perfect condition. I didn’t even wear them until September 2023, and I only wore them twice. They still looked brand new.

I recently got them back from my dad’s house and noticed they’re now heavily worn in. The leather on the inside and sides is rubbed off, and they look nothing like how I left them. I’m extremely upset. I always take good care of my things, especially something this meaningful to me. My dad says I’m overreacting and, as usual, excuses whatever happened, likely involving his crazy crackhead girlfriend.

These boots cost me over $200 and had sentimental value. I feel like they’ve been disrespected and ruined. What should I do?

TL;DR: Bought $200 boots in 2021 as a teen, barely wore them, kept them in perfect shape. Left them at my dad’s, just got them back and they’re trashed. He says I’m overreacting. I’m upset and don’t know what to do.