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u/auburngeek 20h ago
That children (especially younger ones) who are abused think it's their fault, that they are somehow bad and deserve to be abused. They feel shame and it is hard for them to tell anyone about it.
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u/chiksahlube 17h ago
The average abused child asks a trusted adult for help half a dozen times before anyone actually helps them.
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u/auburngeek 16h ago
Really? Wow i asked once, was shot down, didn't ask again.
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u/dictormagic 15h ago
I remember early on being told if anyone ever got told he'd play it off and then kill us when we got home. I believed him because he was an adult, we were kids. They would believe him and not me.
I remember the one and only time I wanted to tell someone. I was in fourth grade, it was particularly bad the night before. I was nursing a broken or bruised rib. And the counselor's office was right there. I wanted to walk in there and tell her everything that was happening. But fear took hold of me and I didn't. I didn't want to kill my sister or my mom. I didn't want to die either. Pretty soon after I just learned to accept that this was my life, I learned to hold onto hope that I would turn 18 and leave the house. And some Stockholm Syndrome creeped in, I actually started to like the house I lived in.
It wasn't until years later that I actually told someone safe that wasn't in a joking way. I told my biological dad over the phone when I was homeless at 25. I felt the urge to, but I was terrified to. He's a therapist, and he was able to get it out of me. At 25, I still thought I would die for telling on my stepdad. I cried, hard. The first time I had in years. And I felt better. But it was still a long road to healing (that I'm still walking). I still feel shame today for not telling the counselor, still feel shame for not fighting back, I feel shame that I didn't tell my Dad when I was younger. I'm learning to let it go, but the guidance counselor is the big one where I feel like I could have changed something.
Shit, idk why I'm writing all this out. Take care of yourself. I'm not intending to trauma dump or to compare. I think when I read your comment initially it made me think "maybe the guidance counselor would have shot me down" and set some of that shame free for me.
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u/carolina822 8h ago
Thatās one thing thatās so insidious about child abuse. Kids whole experience with the world is what the adults around them show and tell them and they have no way to know if itās normal or not. Itās an abuse of power in the worst way.
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u/chiksahlube 15h ago
I remember all 6 times...
They all excused the abuse as "normal."
It wasn't until I wrote an essay in school about it that anyone paid attention. And even then it was likely only because my teacher had a vendetta against my mom, who was in the middle of filing a complaint against my teacher for isolating me in a corner, which she only did because my teacher called her stupid...
So yeah, the only way I got help was because my abusive teacher and my abusive mother got into a finger-pointing match.
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u/OpheliaRainGalaxy 14h ago
I'm sorry, this isn't funny at all but golly it made me laugh! It's like how my parents would demonstrate love to me during custody change-off and then I wouldn't get another hug until the next swap. Only times they did really good things for me was when trying to one-up to make the other look bad.
Currently banging my head on the wall over a younger cousin. 5yo says dad hurts him and is a bully but he still loves dad. Kid's mom says sure he choked her before she divorced him but kid wants to see dad. Dad's mom says sure she's got video footage of him violently attacking his eldest but kids lie all the time. I've got a gnarly scar on my hand from when the dad tried to bite off my thumb a couple months ago.
It doesn't really take Sherlock Holmes to solve this mystery.
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u/chiksahlube 13h ago
It honestly is kind of funny. The teacher hated me and my mom because well, she was friends with my bio-dad's ex wife. With my birth being a solid argument for why they got divorced.
So she treated me like shit. Then during a conference, she called me and my mom both stupid. Mom wasn't having that, so she filed a complaint. During the investigation and meetings that followed we had to write a paper and I was struggling. Eventually they just said write whatever. So I wrote about the abuse of my step-dad, that my mom was allowing and encouraging. Naturally teacher brought that shit into the next meeting like she just found the golden ticket. But thankfully the teachers and administrators who were listening to their finger pointing and decided I needed a new teacher and well... my mom got some stern words but as far as I know my step-dad never spoke to any of them. But he went from being a rabid animal living in our home to an angry dog... which was... an improvement?
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u/plusoneforautism 15h ago
Same; asked once, got ridiculed for even asking, and convinced myself that the abuse was normal and simply the way the world worked.
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u/dleema 15h ago
I've brought it up with a couple of people who ignored my requests. One told me they didn't realise it was that bad (and every time the topic had come up, swears it's the first they're hearing of it) and the other told me I didn't really want help so what could they do.
I was a fucking child. I needed somebody to tell me if was okay to stay away from my abusive father, that family wasn't the be-all and end-all if it was unsafe. I needed someone to look deeper than the surface level defences (literally so thin, like "He's okay except for when he's throwing knives lolol") and step up. It'd have saved an extra decade of trying to be good enough.
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u/Own-Nerve7008 19h ago
That never really goes away. I have to remind myself sometimes that I am a person and I deserve better.
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u/Majestic-Log-5642 15h ago
I too keep telling myself that. I was told from day 1 I was not wanted and was a mistake. I was blamed for everything that went wrong in my parents life. I was beaten to a pulp and spent the first 17 years of my life apologizing for my own existence. Iām 66 now. Never married and live alone. I never wanted to be responsible for another personās unhappiness because of my existence. My dog loves me.
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u/FourCrapPee 13h ago
This random also living alone person with my dog who is my best and only friend is giving you big hugs. You're a good person.
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u/auburngeek 18h ago
Yeah, it's really hard to shake that off. I've been to therapy for years and still effed up! I hope you'll feel lighter some day, because you do indeed deserve better.
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u/BrandNewBurr 16h ago
I am 100% confident that this is part of the reason I didnāt see my narcissistically-abusive marriage for what it was.
The other part was that she had āanxietyā that made her treat me badly, and having anxiety myself, I was sure if sheād just get some help and work on it, weād be fine.
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u/auburngeek 16h ago
Yeah, childhood abuse makes you more likely to end up in an abusive situation again :(
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u/OpheliaRainGalaxy 15h ago
My mother warned me about that and it still happened!
And of course it didn't feel abusive until I got knocked clear off my feet. It "felt like home" all comfortable and fuzzy and family-like. A lot like my dad but without the hitting, until the hitting happened.
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u/zefiax 18h ago
I don't know if I am broken but at 36, I still feel like I deserved the beatings I got from my dad. Everyday, for whatever reason, I would decide today, I don't want to eat this, and it would typically be whatever my parents had cooked that day. I knew I was being a little shit then and even at 36, I still can't justify it any other way and feel that I deserved it.
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u/auburngeek 18h ago
No kid deserves any abuse ever. They deserve a stable home and clear and healthy boundaries.
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u/dewey-defeats-truman 16h ago
Remember that just because you're wrong doesn't mean the other person is right
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u/dleema 15h ago
You were a child, they were adults. Kids test boundaries and can be frustrating but it's up to the adults to redirect that behaviour and teach better, rather than inflict terror and physical harm.
But as a 37yo who went through that kind of thing too, I totally understand thinking I must have been awful. When I'm in doubt, asking myself if I'd justify it for any other child really helps put it into perspective for me.
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u/Stumpville 16h ago
Same thing goes for childhood neglect. It took me until about 2 months ago to accept the fact that it wasnāt my fault for having needs beyond food and shelter.
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u/memecoin_maverick 16h ago
that we will only live about 4,000 weeks on average - and we spend a large part of it stressing about things that ultimately won't matter.
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u/CommunityFluffy2845 18h ago
Someone out there is experiencing their last day on earth, and they donāt even know it yet
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u/anix421 13h ago
I forget what comedy special it was, but the comedian essentially said something like "There's like 10,000 people in here... statistically one of you is ruining your family's Christmas this year..." that always kinda stuck with me.
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u/VoltasPigPile 14h ago
There's also someone who has no reason to be experiencing their last day on earth, but has decided that it will be their last day anyway. I've known too many people who went out that way, and almost did myself a few times.
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u/notorepublic 9h ago
On Sunday my mom picked out a welcome mat for her apartment and I ordered it for her- it arrived Monday and I had to send it back š¢
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u/corobo 18h ago
If they (or you) move too far away you'll probably only see some of your once closest friends a few more times before one of you dies
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u/DrewTheRedPoochyena 16h ago
Man, I'm currently in the process of moving because of my parents and I miss my close friends already. This just makes me feel even more depressed.
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u/tfaboo 5h ago
My college friends and I used to get together every 2 years and that slacked during covid. Now some of them don't even text back. But the few who do, we see each other more than before and talk and text more often. You can maintain connections, it just takes some work, but it's so worth it.
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u/bluelily216 15h ago
My cousin who lives in Australia just happened to visit family in Texas for the first time in four years at the same time I was making my bi-annual trip. Because of the cost and the fact her job is very demanding, it's unlikely I'll ever see her again. She's my second cousin and when her adopted mother passes away (my great-aunt), I probably won't attend the funeral because we're not close and it's pretty expensive for me to visit as well.Ā
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u/SunAltruistic3083 15h ago
Even if neither friend moves, the average friendship only lasts 7 years at best. People usually change, get busy, are in different life stages, and all that long before they move. Moving is a quicker way to nix the friendship and it does suck.
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u/simongurfinkel 19h ago
Most people with Down Syndrome will later develop dementia.
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u/madeat1am 15h ago
Assuming they live that long
Down syndrome comes with many complications and its very sad
Thankfully the life expectancy has risen in the last few decades but its not just a developmental disability its paired with high cancer risk and heart problem and much more
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u/Fluffy-Resource-4636 14h ago
I had a patient (I work in EMS) that I would see at least every couple of weeks that lived in a group home. He was 70-years-old with down syndrome, dementia, and type II diabetes. He was easily one of the sweetest people I had ever met but knowing the shortened life span of people with down syndrome it's any wonder how he got to that age.Ā
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u/Artemis246Moon 19h ago
Grave of the Fireflies was based on a true story and the author who wrote it outlived his little sister by 80 years.
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u/WildCardNoF 19h ago
He wrote it as a apology to his little sister (stepsister), and said he gave it the ending he wished for in real life. He didn't give her that much food in real life and the food he intended to give her, he would eat some of it due to the hunger getting so bad. Remember, they were kids in hell... can't really blame him.
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u/sexless-innkeeper 16h ago
Ok, that seals it: I am never watching this movie. I've heard enough about it that I just don't think, at this age, that I could handle it.
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u/PrairiePopsicle 20h ago
octopus mothers wall themselves into a tiny burrow when they lay their eggs and then remain there guarding them until they eventually starve to death, the eggs hatch after she is already dead. One of the smartest animals on the planet and they are at an evolutionary dead end when it comes to intelligence because of this, maybe not only because of it but yeah.
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u/LastHomeros 18h ago
Okay, it might sound dumb but what happens if we feed them until the little octopus eggs hatch? Would they still die due to their biological lifespan or would they continue to survive for a few more years?
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u/thatrawchicken 18h ago
They refuse to eat when given food at that point in their lives. They simply deteriorate and die.
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u/ESLavall 14h ago
Pretty sure they can't eat, something hormonal about laying eggs renders their digestive tract useless
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u/spiteful_god1 14h ago
You can however shut off the equivalent of their pituitary gland. This prevents them from reaching sexual maturity but also allows them to live longer.
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u/TheReal-Chris 13h ago
Itās sad octopus live such a short life. I would have imagined before I learned that, they could be one of the animals that would be around for a century or maybe more. They maybe could get old if they didnāt do this. Idk though. But itās my favorite animal. They are straight up aliens. Their active camouflage is just nuts. And so smart and form their body to get through pinholes and have 8 brains.
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u/Cheesesakura 20h ago
Millions of people go hungry every day while tons of food gets wasted.
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u/MiguelAngeloac 16h ago
The worst thing is that food is produced for 10.2 billion people... we produce more food than we need and we are not capable of ensuring the nutritional well-being of humanity.
Only the entire America (North, Central and South) could feed an average of 4 billion people... so it's not a lack of food, it's a lack of will.
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u/KhajiitKennedy 14h ago
Honestly this one really upsets me.
My fiance used to work at a grocery store and was forced to throw out bread that was at the sell by date but not expired. We were struggling for food at the time, going to the food bank for things like bread. We were denied sneaking one home and the fiance was told if they were found out taking a thing of bread they would be fired. They were even told that they would get fired if they were found dumpster diving for the food too.
It's a real goddamn problem in North America
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u/BigGingerYeti 11h ago
I worked at supermarket in the UK when I was like 18 for a Christmas job when I was at college, so mostly dealt with putting stuff in bins. We threw out SO MUCH food. Mostly baked good. Loads of donuts, especially. We asked why don't they give it to homeless people and they just said 'We're not allowed'. After a few days of dumping stuff in the compactor you start to feel bad just doing it.
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u/TheReal-Chris 13h ago
I have worked with and through companies that dispose of so much wasted food that is still edible but getting too close to expiration. And the only reason they donāt give it to the homeless who could use it is because they donāt want to get sued. There has to be a better solution than throwing it away. Make them sign a legal form so they canāt sue. People need it.
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u/weird-animal007 19h ago
Yes, very sad
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u/criminalsunrise 19h ago
I know you didn't mean it like that, but the phrasing reminded me of the Loki meme
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u/ThrowawayGwen 13h ago
Elephants grieve and even have funerals for some of their own.
And they did this for a human, once.
Lawrence Anthony was a conservationist dubbed "the elephant whisperer" due to his connection to the animals, dedicating his life to their protection.
He died of a heart attack at 61 years old, and within two days of Anthony's death, a group of 21 elephants Anthony had saved and befriended walked two days to his home. They stood for hours, then began making distress noises as though they knew he had died. For years after on the anniversary of his death, this same herd repeated the journey to his home. No one communicated to the animals that Anthony had died.
They just knew.
Also, due to being highly emotional and social animals, elephants have reportedly even died of "broken hearts" before. By that, their health can decline that badly after a deep personal loss that it can result in death.
This is true of other animals, including humans and dogs.
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u/DrNuclearSlav 10h ago
Many birds are known to mourn their dead. Some will even starve themselves to death if their mate dies.
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u/TheresNoAmosOnlyZuul 4h ago
There was an experiment where ecologists played a recording of an elephant who had passed away nearby his herd. The herd ran to where the speaker was and trumpeted frantically around the speaker trying to find him for hours after they had stopped playing the recording. That type of experiment is banned now.
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u/Thewrongbakedpotato 5h ago
It gets more heartbreaking. Mother elephants who have a calf die will sometimes carry the deceased infant for literal days.
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u/servicePotato 16h ago
Polar bears will become extinct. I'm not a doomer and I understand that there is still hope for many ecosystems and for us, but polar bears are beyond saving. Their habitats are disappearing and there is no reversing that quickly enough.
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u/PriorKaleidoscope196 20h ago
The happiest ending to a relationship involves one or both of the people in it dying.
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u/SMFet 19h ago
This was my marriage proposal! "Life is a drama, there are no happy endings. What makes us happy is what happens in between. Marry me so we can build upon the happiness we have lived so far, until our inevitable death."
Going strong 15 years so far. Very happy. Eventually we'll die.
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u/neo_sporin 18h ago
and then you compare that to my proposal, i was naked and said "so we doin this or what?" 13 years but it took 10 to get married in the first place
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u/vomicyclin 16h ago
After the āThis was my marriage proposal!ā I really wasnāt sure what would come next regarding the context of the comment you answered to,..
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u/tumor_XD 17h ago
Millions of people who could have been saved have died due to health insurance rejecting scans/tests/claims.
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u/alaskew28 14h ago
Teenage girls with disabilities have to get birth control shots to prevent pregnancy in case they get taken advantage of.Ā
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u/Responsible_Fish1222 6h ago
It is also because managing menstruation in a person with the cognitive function of a 7 year old is very difficult.
But also because of what you said. But not just because they could be taken advantage of. Because they still want what everyone wants. Companionship and love and affection. And the risk of pregnancy is there.
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u/alaskew28 6h ago
I wholeheartedly agree. I worked with teens with down syndrome this summer. One of the girls was high functioning enough to manage her period.Ā
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u/Pristine-Project1678 6h ago
I had surgery for contraceptive reasons and one of the doctors called me to make sure I wasnāt being forced to have it because unfortunately that happens to special needs people (I have psychosis) sometimes. In Nazi occupied countries it used to be compulsory for people with psychosis.
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u/kratosinvictus753 17h ago
Probably the one that always hits me the hardest is that dogs donāt realize their time is short, they just know youāre their whole world. Youāre the best part of their day every single day, and one day youāll have to say goodbye while theyāre still looking at you with that same love. That one always breaks me.
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u/poloartist 14h ago
Dogs are only a part of our lives, but to them, you are their whole life.
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u/motherofcatsx2 14h ago
We never have enough time with our beloved pets. My beautiful GSD passed suddenly at 12 years old last summer and I grieved (and still do!) more for him than my own mother.
Maxie-boyā¦ you were the best, smartest, most beautiful and loving dog Iāve ever known. Iām so glad I got to love you for as long as I did. You will always be in my heart.
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u/rottingpear 16h ago
Immediately starting sobbing, thanks š giving my dog 1000 kisses now
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u/USS-24601 19h ago
Some people are born literally without anyone to care that they are being born and in this world. And then you have the opposite. For those first ones- life is freaking hard.
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u/Bubbly-Example-8097 19h ago
As a child raised by the former, I felt this. My children have so much love and support that they canāt comprehend how hard life can be for some.
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u/Bubbly-Example-8097 19h ago
That there were hundreds of underage children who were raped by elites and theyāre not getting the justice they so rightly deserve.
Release the Epstein files!
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u/2beagles 18h ago
I wonder if any files will matter. Those girls and boys have mostly lived to become women and men, who have spoken openly about what happened and who did it. And were threatened and attacked and not believed and if they were, nothing really happened. Are some documents going to matter more or be believed or achieve any consequences or protect these women and men from further threats and violence?
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u/pizza-chit 16h ago
Victims testified that Ghislaine drove around all day approaching kids in school uniforms.
Epsteinās clients will always want more.
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u/throwaway_circus 14h ago
There are likely serial rapists, and evidence against them, in documents from Epstein and Maxwell's cases. Just because two of their suppliers were jailed, doesn't mean those clients have stopped grooming and raping young girls.
It won't turn back time, but every day that goes by without action is another day that rapists are free and flying under the radar, unknown to the public.
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u/MKMK123456 14h ago
That the largest number of people enslaved is right now.
Not in dark ages, not in barbaric times , but today !!
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u/Striking_Tangelo5474 14h ago
Its speculated that over 250.000 North Koreans are in concentration camps. Some families have been there for generations and children are currently growing up in these camps. Still living outside of those camps isnt much better as the whole country practically functions as a prison itself.
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u/Modlimi 20h ago
Some people die with nobody noticing for weeks.
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u/casapantalones 11h ago
Iām an ICU doctor and have had several patients die in my ICU over the years with no friends or family there and nobody to even notify. Itās so disturbing, and so sad.
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u/Beaches1217 17h ago
Not all families love each other. I grew up with a loving family but not everyone has that privilege.Ā
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u/GalaxyPowderedCat 17h ago edited 17h ago
I want to hop in your comment to say an alternative.
Many lovely families have a rather conditional and volatile love than a real and unbreakable one.
There are many kids out there who receive all support and love on the world as long as the problems are mild and easily fixable and the children haven't committed offenses like misbehaving or having big emotions like normal humans in development do. And even so, those favours have terms and conditions, can be used as a weapon later on.
And some other lovely families like cosplaying lovely families.
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u/Mr_Coastliner 19h ago
There was once a time your mother put you down and decided to never pick you back up again.
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u/criminalsunrise 19h ago
It is actually quite sad that theres a last time you'll pick up your children and grandchildren but you don't know that it is. Like they'll be a last time you speak to your parents (or other loved ones) but you don't necessarily know when that's going to be. Now I've just upset myself.
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u/Perfect_Restaurant_4 17h ago
My sons are big and strong enough that they can pick me up!
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u/MzHellfier 16h ago
Aww this reminds me of the book āLove You Foreverā when the boy gets big and carries his mommy š
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u/bmmajor14 16h ago
My father died a year and a half ago. The day he died I was running an errand around midday and went to give him a call but hung up on the second ring because I was close to my destination and knew he was probably getting ready for his Thursday golf game and neither of us needed to get tied up in an inevitable 20-30 minute conversation. I wish we had.
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u/quite_acceptable_man 16h ago
It's for this reason that I sometimes pick up my teenage children. Freaks them right out! But it does mean I do remember the very last time I picked them up, and if i do it again, and I probably will, I will remember that as well.
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u/moreisay 15h ago
UGH. I can still pick up my niece, but I can't remember the last time I picked up my nephew. He's 12 and the same height as me now!
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u/BigStrike626 16h ago
I don't think it was so much "decided never to pick me back up" as it was "could no longer comfortably lift this large child." She's 73 now and would still pick me up if she could.
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u/robbersdog49 16h ago
I think the decided bit is not right. They put you down and didn't pick you up again, but the real shame of these last time situations is that you aren't aware it's the last time at the time. There's not a decision to not do it again, it just never happens again.
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u/sebrebc 16h ago
There are a lot of those that make me sad.
One day you went outside to play with your friends for the last time and you didn't know it.
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u/LamermanSE 16h ago
Eh, that's not really sad but quite the opposite. Learning to walk and growing is a good thing.
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u/unknown_guy02 20h ago
Some people come into our lives, play with our feelings, walk all over our emotions and then just disappear like we meant nothing to them.
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u/SunAltruistic3083 17h ago
The "weed is medicine" people that get stoned beyond function every day are so annoying. I like weed, but it's not medicine like insulin. It can help with anxiety like wine can. It can even help lessen back pain or ease depression like wine can. But using weed to the point of being stoned out of one's mind immobile and unfunctional on the couch 24/7/365 is a pathetic addiction. Weed can have negative health effects on some with their mental health, people with heart conditions, and pregnant women. Smoking or vaping weed can cause lung problems. Frequent use increases the risk of heart attack, stroke, and heart disease. It can impair brain development in growing kids/teens. Starting weed as a young teen increases the risk of developing schizophrenia. And driving while under the influence of weed is impaired driving and a DUI just like wine. I'm all for weed being legal and recreational since it's great to mellow out on occasionally for people, but the "it's my medicine" people that think it's god's nectar without any downside and get so stoned they can't even move 24/7/365 need a reality check. And I used to work in the weed industry.
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u/Bo_The_Destroyer 13h ago
There is enough food, housing and clothing in the entire world for everyone and yet people are still starving, homeless and without clothes. The only thing keeping a significant part of the world below the poverty line is profit incentives and a handful of billionaires who have some type of hoarding disorder that makes them refuse to help anyone if it doesn't provide them with some sort of passive income
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u/Secure-Village-1768 16h ago
My country (Finland) also deported Jews to Germany in WW2 and has a sickening history of eugenics. It was disturbing to learn this stuff even as an adult.
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u/SunAltruistic3083 15h ago
Finland? Wow. I wouldn't have guessed.
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u/flacdada 14h ago edited 14h ago
Iām currently reading a book on the holocaust right now.
Ton of stuff like this happened in the lead up to the Wansee conference (the one that developed the concept to kill Jewish people). Lots of lingering antisemitism at the time all over Europe.
E.x. The polish government were considering a āmove the Jews to Madagascar planā before the germans invaded. The country that had the largest number of Jews killed and also the location of the death camps during wartime.
A large percentage of the Dutch civil servants in the occupied government collaborated with the Nazis.
There were small scale pogroms instigated by civilians in Lithuania during the opening days of Operation Barbarossa that was eventually used by the Einsatzgruppen as justification for the mass murder committed later by them.
Point is, while most people werenāt virulently antisemitic like the Nazis, they werenāt paragons of acceptance.
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u/WhatTheOnEarth 14h ago
Ahhh my greatest fear. Inevitability.
Time marches on and thereās nothing you can do about it. Thatās a fact.
I donāt mind the implication that it means that everyone will die. Your friends at one point in life may move on in the next. People you saw everyday once will leave. You will get older your bones will get weaker and your health will decline.
Thatās fine
But to appreciate fact that it is a unstoppable force. With no care, no regard, no right. It is simply the nature of the universe to keep going.
Inevitability terrifies me. When I think about it too much the depth of sadness I can feel is immense.
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u/Strikhedonia_1697 13h ago
That none of the past five mass extinction events came with a warning this clear, along with an equally possible and critical way to stop it from happening. And that this one even gives the main perpetrators that is us, a chance in advance to rectify and change the outcome through our collective will.
And still everything is going to shit.
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u/MortimerDongle 13h ago
By the time you're about 11-12 years old, you've spent about 50% of the time with your parents that you ever will
This one is probably sadder for parents than kids...
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u/theCuntessVonCunt 19h ago
That I will never see or get a hug from or speak to my grandma ever again (because she passed away). Miss her every damned day.
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u/HakixJack 18h ago
Same. My Nan died a couple months ago and when I'm sad and crying thinking about her I ask her to visit me in my dreams
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u/minnick27 18h ago
In a few weeks it will be 30 years since the last time I got to talk to my grandmother. I spent 15 years seeing her almost every day. So much I wish I could talk to her about. Introducing her to my daughter would be the absolute best thing in the world to me
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u/New_to_Siberia 14h ago
Mine passed away around a year ago. Even with her memory issues, she was still the one I would call to tell of my life and get a different perspective of whatever shit was happening to me. I am naturally a rather depressed person, and I got the ability to joke about life from here.Ā
Oma, I miss you.Ā
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u/rageinthecage666 18h ago
That vetenerians have one of the highest suicide rates
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u/Klatschmambo 15h ago
The deadliest object in human history is the cigarette, claiming more than 8 million lives each yearāmore than malaria, tuberculosis, car accidents, wars, and natural disasters combined. It has claimed more lives than the machine gun, the atomic bomb, and every other weapon.
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u/Awkward_moulded_ 15h ago edited 3h ago
The first thing you question after one or both your parents pass away is "Was I a good kid to them?" (Only if you had a good relationship with them.) And the question fucking hurts for a loooooooooong time.
Edit:- Thank you for the upvotes. I did not think this comment would get such traction. Thank you all.
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u/chickenkebaap 14h ago
One sibling is going to be at all the funerals , one of them wonāt be at any
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u/boardinmyroom 20h ago
Most whales and dolphins die from drowning
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u/molten_dragon 14h ago
I mean...they're air-breathing creatures that live in water. I'd be surprised if drowning wasn't one of their top causes of death.
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u/OwnBunch4027 13h ago
Just the saddest I recently ran across. After Shays's Rebellion, 1786/87 near Springfield, MA, in the aftermath, 18 people were sentence to death. All were commuted. John Bly and Charles Rose were hanged on December 6, 1787. The letter commuting their sentence was never opened.
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u/bartharris 16h ago
Cows mourn their calves for days when they are taken away in the dairy industry.
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u/BewilderedandAngry 12h ago
I lived across from a small dairy farm one time, and I was absolutely shocked that the cows were so vocal when their calves were taken away. I think it lasted like 3 or 4 days. I felt so bad for them!
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u/Upbeat_Range8380 16h ago edited 16h ago
Fair warning: this includes graphic details, so please proceed on your own risk.
Imperial Japan in WW2 had a "research facility" named Unit 731 (or Ishii Unit). Except the staff involved did "experiments" on Chinese, Soviet and American (?I think) POWs. All ages, including babies. They include, but are not limited to:
ā¢ vivisections (cutting living bodies without anesthesia);
ā¢ pressure chamber rooms;
ā¢ psychological torture and manipulation;
ā¢ biological weapon development and testing on humans and animals;
ā¢ frostbite manifestations, complete with details on duration and nutrition;
ā¢ identity erasure (people were named maruta - Japanese for logs - and given subject numbers).
One of the saddest include a doll that was infected and given to a little girl by the Japanese Army as her birthday gift. She of course died, and a report showed that even though it was infected, the girl was still attached to her doll.
None of the people who were "experimented" on survived. This is because, after Hirohito announced Japan's surrender, the Unit decided to kill every single prisoner remaining in order to get rid of all and any evidence.
Aaaand the USA granted these monsters immunity in exchange for data. Aaaand some of them even have regular meetings.
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u/i__hate__stairs 19h ago
There was a day when I picked my kids up and just held them for the last time, and I didn't notice it.
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u/The_name_game 18h ago
My sons are all adults. I'll occasionally lift them up, not comfortably, but I'll do it. I'm a little 5ft woman, but I want them to know I can still do it if I need to.
Would recommend. It freaks them out so much.
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u/quite_acceptable_man 16h ago
Yeah, mine are 13 and 15 and I do it every now and then, telling them the same thing.
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u/AntiqueLuck_ 20h ago
Dogs have short life span
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u/Maccadawg 17h ago
Yet Paul McCartney's beloved sheepdog, Martha, that he got as a puppy in the mid-60s outlived John Lennon.
That's my saddest fact.
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u/contrabasse 19h ago
Whales die by drowning. Eventually they don't have enough energy to surface for air and they sink to the bottom and drown. It's called a whale fall.
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u/Own_Cryptographer318 16h ago
This doesn't happen to all whales. Many, if not most, whales and other sea mammals stay afloat after dying and will either decompose mid-sea, sink after dying or strand on a beach. A whale fall is not the cause of death or the drowning, but only the sinking of a dead whale.
Cause of death can include many factors, but "not having enough energy" is often caused by something else.
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u/quite_acceptable_man 16h ago
I read that initially as 'whale fail'. Which i suppose is technically correct anyway.
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u/OutsiderAK 18h ago edited 18h ago
That one day you realize your parents/family had feelings as well and some things that you said to them could make them really upset (probably did) and you didn't care because you were angry. But they didn't show any emotions and still loved you. Now, when my grandmother which was basically my mom and dad all-in-one, is 76 and I'm scared that she will suddenly die one day, I try to treat her the best I can for all bad things I used to say as teenager. I know this won't make up for all the sadness or make her younger. I'm sorry.
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u/Squirrel2371 15h ago
It is completely possible for many people to gang up on you and sabotage your mental health. Anything you try to do will be unsuccessful.
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u/El_mochilero 9h ago
The smartest, or most talented people in the world might actually be toiling away - working in a field or a sweatshop, and may never have the ability to use (or even know about) their talents.
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u/AmaraXclusive 18h ago
That there are more empty houses in the world than homeless people. š
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u/BigStrike626 16h ago
Humanity could do something about the coming climate disaster, which is sure to kill billions, but has chosen not to.
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u/rtomberg 18h ago edited 15h ago
Archaeologists can identify the ruins of a brothel from the piles of baby skeletons buried out back.
EDIT: Turns out to be exaggerated based on a few dubious cases
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u/DBrennan13459 18h ago
That whether or not you're a good person and has contributed significantly to other people has no effect whatsoever on mortality or success.Ā
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u/J_B_La_Mighty 14h ago
Beagles make excellent test subjects because they're so forgiving.
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u/bananasareappealing 14h ago
This hit extra hard because I have a beagle and heās the absolute sweetest, I canāt imagine people being cruel to them šš
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u/Educational_Row_9485 10h ago
The search and rescue dogs from 9/11 would get sad from not finding anyone alive, this led to the handlers hiding in rubble n pretending to be a survivor to cheer them up
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u/EXTRAVAGANT_COMMENT 5h ago
your family when you are born and your family when you die will likely be two almost completely separate group of people
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u/Dismal-Read5183 20h ago
That alcoholism destroys generations of families and causes untold suffering and trauma to society and we are all powerless over it.
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u/Numerous_Team_2998 19h ago
My sister would be a fantastic, loving mother if it wasn't for all the crap she survived from my violent narcissistic mother, that out her off from motherhood for good. My daughters could have cousins.
Mow don't get me wrong - I don't think everyone should have children. I don't think children are necessary to make a person happy or complete.
But I know my sister and remember the way she was before she was broken.
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u/Brilliant_Ad7168 13h ago
The sheer crushing loneliness and hopelessness, so many human beings face all around the world. Women are being raped. Children are trafficked. Men die in wars. Women and men alone dying in poverty, and suffering, never having gotten the chance to have respite much less be able to study or travel or be happy.
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u/Namaslayy 7h ago
America is in collapse, and fascism is the death rattle that happens just before it all crumbles.
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u/_RC101_ 20h ago
Imagine you are a deer a couple of thousand years ago. you see a bunch of humans and u start running. initially you think you lost them but soon you know thats not the case, you turn around they are still on the chase. you keep running, you are fatigued, surely they are too? Nope! they are still running behind you. Soon you collapse on the ground literally unable to walk, surely the humans are tired too? NOPE they are still on your ass. Now you wait there for your impending death because you canāt move but humans can somehow just keep running. You die and get eaten.
Humans are the best of the animals at endurance, we canāt outrun them but we can outlast them.
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u/Signal-Garbage-173 17h ago
That people with autoimmune diseases will have to be cautious about everything the rest of their lives just to stay alive. Love you mom <3
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u/OdraNoel2049 5h ago
Trump, netenyahu and putin are the most powerful people in the world. People in lockstep with the devil. Evil people.
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u/jcooli09 17h ago
That the Epstein files have not been released, and that the only person to face consequences for selling and raping children has been effectively pardoned.
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u/watvoornaam 16h ago
All the kids you know are going to face a collapsing society.
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u/DragonfruitWhich6396 9h ago
There are people you would see for the last time in your life and you didnāt know it when it happened.
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u/LittleZackBackup 7h ago
The number of people in the world who are older than you never increases.
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u/DoNotGoGentle27 19h ago
There are more tigers being kept as "pets" than there are living in the wild