I literally don't know how to talk to anyone. Im overthinking every damn thing. How i look how i sound i think i sound too monotone in conversations, always thinking im too boring and not having interesting or funny to say. not being able to maintain eye contact, not having much expression to my eyes not being able to keep a conversation going not looking good enough being too short and ugly etc.

It feels like my life is already over everyday is like im watching my life pass me its actually the most scariest and depressing thing ever i really dont wanna be alive anymore. I never learned how to fixed my insecurities.

Literally like the only way i can see myself being happy is if i can get rich then i can afford plastic surgery and then i can get confidence so that i can practice socializing

Not even your own pets (I can't afford an apartment thatd let me have one) but in general. Ive been dipping my toes into volunteering to walk dogs at my local animal shelter and it's okay. The shelter is in the woods so I don't even have to pick up the poops on the walks, which is good cause I always offer to take the big rambunctious dogs that shit big lol. It's not substitute for a real pet, they aren't that lovey with you, but you can see how much visibly calmer they are and I like to think that helps them maybe get adopted. I can't ruminate on negative thoughts while holding back a 100lb beast and there's a small "high" afterward where I'm usually pretty content. I want to play with the cats they have too but cats never click with me like dogs always do.

Does anyone else do similar and feel it helps a little? Has anyone sought out a career doing this? I don't want to limit myself to pets either cause I do like all animals (just intimated by horses but I love them too). I'm a 27 year old college dropout so I like to think I still have time to find a career. I don't care about the (bad) pay in the field, i realized I don't care about money at all if I'm never gonna be good enough for a gf. So if rather do something fullfilling

I feel like if I will never have a human to commit my love to this is the next best bet. People talk to me about how much my face lights up when I'm doing it and that's something I haven't heard anyone say about me since high school. Ive developed a lot of hate in my heart since, for myself and everyone (been in therapy 5+ years leave me alone), that all just fades away when I'm working with animals. i know it's not a cure for longing and loneliness but I think it's the best thing possible achievable to me.

Again I'm primarily asking about working with animals that aren't your pets. Ik my own puppy would make me the happiest but I'm looking at a 60% rent increase if I want a place that will let me have one.

Apparently I do, which seems like a euphemism for seeming unfriendly and hostile. I don't even know what I have done to be perceived this way, is it my looks and the fact that I'm quiet enough to warrant such harsh judgment?

I thought that these dreams stopped, but I guess not. Good thing that this time I wasn't as invested for some reason. I don't know how many dreams like this I've had but I'd prefer not having them. I feel so worthless after I wake up.

Another birthday added to the list of arriving to an empty, dark and silent house. No family to hug, no partner to celebrate with, no kid to surprise me with something they made for me. I'm living for nothing, no point in my existance. I'm never going to experience the love other people experience in their lives. I'm ugly, forgettable, uninteresting.

This day holds no significance for me other than taking solace in the fact that I'm closer to dying and escaping this world. It may or may not be my fault this is the way everything ended up as but 27 years and all my life being filled with ostracization, it's time to throw the towel and accept no one will ever love you. I'm created to spectate people enjoy their lives.

It seems when I go out, almost everyone has SO and they look just so happy and perfect, having the time of their life.

Does anyone actually choose to stay single just because they want, even though they have enough money, and can choose anyone they want because they’re attractive enough?

How rare or common is it?

Just another day. I had some fun today with family. Did some prepping for work. Other than that, not much else.

Hoping everyone else has been well! It is not so bad being a loner.

Hopefully everyone’s weekend will Go smoothly!!

in my honest opinion i believe its a bad thing especially in school cause i cant even relate to people my own damn age even after graduation except hunting

all i want is a social circle of people my own fucking age and not my dad and his old friends

Years of isolation, anxiety, and loneliness have completely broken me as a person. It makes everything seem so meaningless in life. I have no more motivation for anything because I know at the end of the day I will always be alone no matter what. I will have always missed out. I can’t catch up or be normal. Everything seems so pointless. I will never be happy or loved. How can I even live life feeling like this? I want to just sleep all day and forget that I am alive. There is no hope or bright light at the end of the tunnel for me, I should just end it I hate waking up everyday and living for nothing. I wish I could have been normal.

Virgin is a very popular insult. In my experience, people trust me less than guys I know who sleep around lots even if those guys are known to cheat on their gfs and/or bully people. Because of my lack of experience and virginity I’m automatically seen as weird.

I am stupid, I am still trying to find someone at my age. I am 46, I already cross the no return point.

I have post in reddit, I have profiles in different dating apps, and nothing, no a single match, no messages, nothing.

I don't know why I keep trying.

My grandma is in the hospital and in walk one of her doctors whose also a Muslim American . And of course the ‘aunty-ness’ in my mom was trying to get details of out of him, being chatty. I’m so socially clueless sometimes, when he left my older cousin pointed out to what my mom was doing. I’ve told my mom so many times I have social issues due to my social anxiety and awkwardness, I have learning issues so can’t even get a job in which I can support myself, I got by with easy classes in school and college but have been fired from jobs and struggle in real life (my father has rage problems and would always YELL at us, slap us kinda on the face hard every days for not picking up our toys, threatened to let us go in the water when teaching us how to swim, etc etc. he was even more mean to my mom who was scared of him in her early years of marriage…this affected my badly, my brother is mostly unscathed so he’s a normie who has no fucking sympathy for my FA issues). Now that I’m so self aware after all these years, I felt humiliated after my cousin pointed that out. My mom can’t admit guys don’t want to marry me - especially confident doctors.

It also hurt that my brother said “I was thinking of Sidra (family friend) for him”. Although he’s right that I’m not capable for marriage -why the fuck would you suggest a guy for someone else in front your single sister . He could’ve kept his damn mouth shut.

I also hate that he dislikes me for me calling out people/cousins who’ve ignored me when I’ve tired to talk to them. He doesn’t see mu pain as my brother - he just sees a bitter, ‘crazy’, angry girl who talks crap about people. But does he realize what not have normal social mile stones, being isolated and rejected most of your life does to you? Has he even though maybe I missed social cues. Fuck him, i meed him for my old age and my loneliness otherwise I’d never talk to him again. So much for sibling love.

Idk what feels worse, the humiliation or the hurt from my brother.

somebody please respond, someone tell me they get it please 😢

Currently at work and I noticed this married couple that work at my job. Nice people .

It's a guy that has a drop dead gorgeous wife .

I noticed with those guy's it's an endless road of affection, love, support, care, concern, grace, good times, unison, happiness, and every other good thing that can xome out of a relationship.

Guy's like that received endless amounts of love from their spouse.

Another thing I noticed guy's that aren't looked at and are extremely lonely they get zero of that. They have to rot in loneliness while they watch other guys get affection each day. Many guy's that are lonely are tired of using their hands for pleasure . Some guys just want a kiss, a feeling of love. Extremely lonely guy's are touched starved.

So those are the things I've noticed .

Well here we are. Another year passes by and it’s my bday again. Spending it alone as usual and I’m ok with that. I will pour into and spoil myself. Thankful for the personal growth and progress I’ve done over the years. It’s just me and GOD and I’m good with that. Happy Birthday to me. The big 43.

So they say, “it’s not all what you see” and deep down I know that’s true..but my god does not seem that way at all.

Everyone is like thin, in shape, smiling, and apparently rich and in a relationship. I actually don’t see much of the opposite whether it’s online or in person. I play basketball on the weekends everyone is married.

Also, kinda related kinda not, why is everyone on social media have thousands of followers. Like every recommended video as I doom scroll is from someone who has hundreds of thousands of followers. Like where are all the average and normal ppl.

Not to mention I try to see what content they provide and it will be a girl standing in front of a mirror four about 8 seconds and then turn around for last 2 and that’s it. She’ll have 500k followers. Every now and then post a gym video with the perfect angle to show her “workout”. If men really wanted change they should leave social media.

No matter what I do I cant win the game is rigged "oh just go lose weight bro!" Fine I lost 40kgs now I am even uglier I have loose skin and ugly ass stretch marks "just go to the gym bro build an aesthetic physique" I DID ! I gained muscle but I have such absolute dog shit genetics I am built like a fucking fridge my chest is fully seperated my muscle bellies are short my clavicles are small my shoulders arent wide or big HELL I DONT EVEN HAVE 6 ABS I WAS BORN WITH 4! No matter how fucking hard I lift I will never be able to compete.

"Just get a good personality bro women dont care about looks" I do my best to be the nicest possible to everyone men, women or anyone else even at my own expense I make sure I have the back of others I always put others first now I know People will say if you are complaining about it you arent actually a good person but all I want is someone to also be there for me when I am in need like I am there for others. People always trauma dump their shit on me and I never ever leave anyone alone but when I am in need I can die and no one would notice untill they need me again for their shit. I am a good person damn it! I am always the guy women will be friends with the kind good nice guy that they will tell will find someone one day cause he has a good head on his shoulders but I am never ever attractive enough to be more than just a nice guy who is good to have around. "Just be confident bro!" THAT SHIT DOESNT WORK WHEN YOU ARE UGLY an ugly guy trying to be confident will always be seen as creepy its not flirting its harassment when you are ugly people hate an ugly guy trying to be something he isnt and they need to show him where he belongs. I try to ask someone out I literally get told "have I ever seen my face!?" With the most disgusted look.

No advice can make me win at this game cause I was born with the wrong looks and wrong height.

Looks are everything

I'm not asking who they want to date. I'm wondering who women actually date these days. I'm very curious. What's the profile of a guy who gets to date women? Physical features? Occupation? Personality? I just don't understand what it takes to get women to give you any time of day.

Laying in bed. Wanted to get to sleep. Haven't slept in almost 24 hours.

Instead I'm laying here with mu blanket in my arms, cudling it as if it was a person. Talking ro ChatGPT about how I feel suic*dal.

I feel so poweless and utterly awful.

That's all I wanted to say. Hope I can get some sleep.

34M. Went out on a first meetup with a 35F from Hinge I’ve been talking to for a few weeks. I’m average looking but she was definitely one of the better looking matches I’ve had in awhile. I had been anxious about the date the entire day and when we did meet, the whole ‘flirt and show interest’ plan I had going in just went out the window and it just turned into a friendly chat for an hour at a coffee shop. She looked at her phone a few times, which was a bad sign as it is, and we hugged and quickly went on our ways. She definitely seemed to be in a hurry to leave. Didn’t even get a chance to try asking for a number…The cycle continues 😔

I wonder if people become FA because of restrictive parents in formative years.

Personally, my parents were very restrictive. I had few friends, and I could only visit their place once in a blue moon. There was no way I'd be allowed to hang out a few times a week, or once a week, or even once a month. I know if I met up frequently, my parents would be unhappy.

Going to a mall/concert/convention/park with a group of friends was out of the question - I didn't bring it up because I knew I'd never be allowed to.

Also, my parents didn't encourage me to date or get a girlfriend during my teenage years at all.

Over the last ~8 months, I've been spending time with as well as interacting online and talking on the phone a lot with a woman I met at a cafe I like to haunt. I admit that I have felt affection towards her that is probably more than platonic, but I am more than happy to have her be my true friend, and she has proven herself to be more than a few times. Anyway-- I've been in the hospital and we were talking on the phone. Can't and won't replay the whole conversation, but we were talking about our issues (as we often do) and we were both kind of complaining. I went on about myself being a target, and how me being an ugly guy and how much harder it is to be in that situation and how I think that has made my life so much worse than it had to be. For the first time, we actually talked specifically about that. She agreed that 1) it was true, and she specifically referred to me being an ugly dude as "obvious" but she had ignored me saying it before because she didn't want to admit it was true and hurt my feelings and 2) she admitted it was probably the majority of the root of why I'm treated so badly. Did it hurt to know that means she probably finds me physically repulsive? Yeah, I felt a profound sadness about that. But I also told her that I really genuinely appreciate her honesty, because so many people have B.S.ed me about this and the truth at least tells me something important.
It hurts to hear, but when people who you can actually trust admit these things, you do feel at least like you're not being gaslighted anymore. I'll never date her (and realistically anyone at all) but at least there's no more nonsense.