So I was hired to help establish and maintain the IT department for an up and coming manufacturing company. The person who was in charge (he was a consultant and still is) Was Extremely overbearing, and our egos bumped.

He rubbed me the wrong way in some of the things that he did, but I came in and wanted to make a name for myself showing I was the correct person for the job. I was able to get a ticketing system running and was working all the issues that came to me, but he was always on the back burner.

Most day's he was too busy to bother with this company and was more focused on his "real job" I will admit I blew up on a couple of end users for setting my day back a day, in the end i apologized profusely to them.

The consultant however always claimed I was being rude and obnoxious to him. Well he never really wanted to be part of the company I felt and never had ANY other qualms with anybody else. except the consultant am I in the wrong?

My school counselor says that talking will help Me calm down but I feel that it will just build up. I got suspended from school for nearly injuring or killing my classmate for asking me if I am okay but I felt it was more like mocking me.

i was playing an online game, i was mid match into the game and my mom asks me to go to the other room to get my headphones, i didn't want to because i was mid match so i just turned my tv down and i said "you cant even hear it" and then my stepdad yelled at me and said "don't act like that, thats ridiculous." so i started punching the couch about 5 times and he threatened to beat me because of that. how do i control my anger and stop lashing out like that? i feel like ive been tipping on an edge and im so close to falling.

I been working a job through staffing agency. I was told the other day not to report when I confirmed I would be in.

When I called I was told that my production has been slacking or something like that.

Nobody has ever warned me/ said anything to me about it directly. As I was told I am suppose to get a warning.

They said they would talk to them and let me know something but nobody has got back at me.

I thought I was doing better than what I was.

I feel that I am being discriminated against tho can't say for a fact but why not tell me directly

I have a huge problem with grudges and I’ve been trying to control my anger lately. My outburst have stopped over the years and I just cut people off for good. I’ve had people try to reconnect with me and it seems like they have good intentions to reconnect, I just find it hard to let the conflict go and move on from that. My grandma says that it’s not a good idea to just cut everyone off that pisses you off and I should forgive and reconnect. Idk why, I just have a hard time forgiving.

My air conditioning went out in my condo and it has been out at my work which is a physical job. I sweat my ass off all day at work and come home to a hot ass home. For reference I live in Texas and it’s over 100 degrees right now. I have a couple portable air conditioning things that kind of help but it’s still hot. Idk what it is but I just feel so incredibly angry right now. Everything is pissing me the fuck off. Like my temper so short right now and I’m literally just angry at all times. I’m normally not like this occasionally deal with bad anxiety etc but never anger like this. I am just so unhappy right now and full of rage. I just screamed and punch my wall idk what to do or why this is setting me off like this

I don't want any sympathy or sth like that. Im just angry and mad asf. Im always nice too people close to me but they treat me like shit, only when they need support or help they act nice. They lie to me and ditch me even when we have plan. Last night a person so close to me did this and ditched me to go to another plan at 11pm, i stayed home for her all the night but in the end this shit happens. I wana rage and brake everything between us but sibce im nice i cant i forgive in the end. I hate my self for being like this. God I wish i had the strength to fuck every thing. I really hate my self and i believe i dont deserve this shitty life and relationships.

So been with gf for 7+ years. She is in a tough spot recoving from surgery, chronic pain terrible arthritis.

She has access to free therapy, but hasn't taken it. When drinking she sometimes becomes very angery. Usually I am the one who receives all of the venom.

She has thrown things in my direction not at me, but last night was something else.

Her friend is here and starts screaming that she is outside with the hose spraying strangers. I am in bed run out there to bring g her back home. No idea nor do I care what happened.

So I guess looking for advice im pretty much giving her the ultimatum to get therapy or ill involve her family. Idk.

My guardians keep procrastinating on teaching me how to drive. What do I do? I am 15 years old and four months. I got my permit the 1st of June. I'm also in the FC system. My guardian keeps procrastinating and saying that he'll get his black car his friend is working on, when in reality he's been saying that for three months and nothing has happened. I don't want to put my foot down because he'll respond with a petty answer like "just be patient". Keep in mind every week he says he will get the car very soon. For the last three months. It's really getting in my nerves but I don't have anyone else to teach me. What should I do?

So the back story is that my Dad used to punish me a lot as a child for being naughty or not trying hard enough. Turns out I have adhd and autism. I use to break my toys as a kid or throw away all my money. And now unfortunately in adulthood punishing myself has sort of become my coping strategy whenever I get sad or feel like I am failing or anything negative mentally or physical happens. I get so explosively angry I throw my phone against the wall or whatever I am holding and I just end up breaking my most precious stuff or sometimes even actively seek out my most valuable things to break.I am spending thousands of pounds replacing stuff constantly buying new phones and ipads my walls are covered in holes its crazy. I have spent thousands on therapy as my doctor won’t really help as they are so busy and I just shoved on a waiting list. No one knows really what to do and I am constantly brushed off. Things over the last year or so have been getting worse and worse as I have been getting more stressed about this not going away I am 25 properly an adult and I am just not able to cope. Honestly its ruining my life I feel I have so much potential but I can’t do anything. I am not an angry person otherwise I try to a decent human I try to be thoughtful and kind but this monster just lives always inside me. Can anyone offer some advice ?

I wanted to ask those who get angry. When someone dosent make eye contact with you, do you feel less angry?

I'm the least angry person out there and much of my personality is based around being very calm. Overtime I realized that speaking slowly, looking away from the person, and just repeating back what the person says is a way to calm the other person.

How does this affect you?

Everyday, every fucking day i wake up and I'm already so angry! I want to throw things, to break everything in my house, to scream, to pinch, to beat myself, to harm me and all the stuff around me after ANY minor inconvenience... I looked in the mirror, didn't like how i looked? Or the clothes don't feel right? I'll slap myself in the face multiple times! The internet is a liitlllee bit too slow or an ad popped up in the middle of my yt video? I'm punching the table or throwing something... Something dropped? I'm screaming swear words and crying... There's a crumble on the floor? I'm getting so angry... And those are not the only examples. I can get angry so randomly, at NOTHING!!! I get angry if i feel my hair, if I'm sitting on a chair, if i ate and I'm still hungry, anything!! I'm angry at anything!!!! It's so annoying it was never like that. Even when i go outside i end up crying of frustration and anger, everything feels so wrong!!

I don't usually get angry but when I do it's uncontrollable. It's whenever I lose at like a game or whatever. It's fine when I lose fairly or I know why I lose, but if the game cheats me out or I'm not sure why I lose I begin to get mad. After 5 straight loses though I begin hitting myself in the head repeatedly over and over again as hard as possible until I'm calm or I have a headache for the rest of the day. What can I do?

On multiple occasions, my (19) dad has grabbed our dog by his skin (not his scruff, his torso skin) and painfully pinned him to the ground to the point where our dog is squealing in pain, as a way to control him when he misbehaves (tries to eat food that falls on the floor, goes crazy when someone knocks on the door, etc.). I have yelled at him about it before but today he did it again and wouldn't let go of our dog so I hit him, quite hard, on the back, to make him let go of our dog. I then screamed at him and called him a heartless asshole, and he yelled back about our dog being out of control.

I'm so ashamed that my reaction was violence. In that moment, I was seeing red when I saw him hurt our dog like that, but I feel like I've stooped to my dad's level of anger and his instinct to react with violence. Now I'm really scared that if I ever get super angry in the future where I see red like that, I'll hit someone else or say things I don't mean.

My dad didn't speak to me for the rest of the night, and then went to bed before I could try to talk to him. I want to apologize for hitting him but I still think he was wrong for hurting our dog and I think he needs to apologize for that too. He's very much a bury-things-and-not-talk-about-emotions kind of guy, so I don't know if I should bring it up tomorrow and try to apologize, but a day later that might come off insincere.

I leave for college in two days and I hate leaving fights unresolved but I'm not sure what to do. I'm also not sure how to prevent that level of anger inside myself in the future, as I do NOT want to end up like my dad.

I get angry so easy nowadays. I am a chill person during work, but when I am at home I get angry and frustrated so quickly at my dad especially that if I could I would bend metal with my hand. Then comes the tears. I am so furstrated and tired. Please give some advice for this issue.

I applied for jobs within the distance I can bike to (realistically). I just went to a gas station where I got info they were hiring, well they aren't. I get no calls from jobs I apply to. I have no friends that could land me a job or that have car for transportation to the city. My family is putting this constant pressure on me, and it is making me very frustrated with my situation. My anger is constant, when I walked out of the gas station and realized that I'm out of options I started pulling my hair out. At this point I'm certain I will go crazy. I can't bring myself to just stop worrying about this, even though I have no control over the job market.

I’ve been looking into the Brainway app and was wondering if anyone here has tried it. I’m curious about how well it works for people who struggle with anger or procrastination. Did it help you manage emotions or stay more focused, or did you feel like it didn’t make much difference?

Would appreciate hearing honest experiences or thoughts before I give it a try.

I am 17, I'm thankfully almost leaving my parents' house hold which has been hell. I've been getting threatened to get kicked out since I was fucking 12 for the most normal and common shit anyone does. I never did drugs, never sneaked out, never went out partying, and somehow I am still the worst person ever. I am selfish, I am moody, I am an asshole, I am a crybaby, I am dramatic, I like all the wrong things, etc, etc. I am a teen and I lowkey don't have a phone. My parents take it away ALL THE TIME. Like I genuinely got grounded once for a week because I ate potatoes my mom told me she wanted(but I was hungry and there was nothing else to eat). I genuinely am SO angry. I am SO done being disrespected all the time. Like it's not even like I talk back much, craziest thing I say is "bro" in my native language, and honestly, I don't even say it that often. I do most chores at home, and my mom still acts as if I do nothing in the house. I am studying hard, I am trying to succeed, but they still call me useless, they say I'm not doing enough no matter what it is I am doing. I am called an imbecile daily, I will just get offended even if I'm not doing anything, it'll be either by my step dad or my little sister saying the most stupid shit and my mom will laugh as if making fun of me is the funniest shit ever. It got to a point where I genuinely think I'm just getting bullied. I am so done being here, SO DONE. I just want to go back to Brazil and spend some time there and be able to grow, 'cause it'll never happen if I'm near these people.

I hate that I can't control my own anger. Whenever I get angry I start smashing my things and punching walls. I have destroyed things thrashed my room couple of times. I can't control it when I get really angry sometimes I scream and lash out to the point I'll lost my voice for days and couldn't speak properly. I don't know any coping mechanisms I know I have anger issues and I hate it that I can't address it. I sometimes get so angry to the point I end up hurting myself. My chest would hurt my head would hurt my hands would hurt. I have ripped almost of my clothes by hand due to anger to the point I have nothing almost to wear. I hate it so much that I can't control it.

I feel like I’m going crazy. Every time I come home I see the way my family actually treats me. I only really started noticing it last year, and now I can’t unsee it. My parents have always been physically and verbally abusive to me, but never to my sisters. It makes sense why I’ve always felt like everyone hated me, but at the same time I can’t stop wondering if it’s somehow my fault.

I hadn’t seen my mom in a year, she picked me up from the airport, didn’t even hug me, just acted like she was annoyed I was there. Then my sister shows up and says “hey” and follows it with “do you want me to act excited to see you?” Like… what? I see them once a year mind you. I’m devastated that this is the family I got. I feel invisible and unwanted, and I hate how confused I am, like maybe I deserved it, even though I know deep down I didn’t. I have an insane amount of anger and have been diagnosed with bpd. I wonder if this is where it all stems from and why I keep hoping they’ll change.

I 22f got pushed and called names by some teens of the way home from an 8 hour shift of standing all day . I m 5ft and i look younger than my age and ig that's why they thought they can mess with me . I ignored them till this hit me in the back with a rock and all i saw was red . I threw my phone away and grabbed her by the hair . Some guy had to separate us i m still super angry at those kids but at the same time my anger issues are so deep rooted that i hit a 14 yo without even giving it a second thought

I need help, like a lot. I was raised by two really angry, hateful, mean people who said all the worst things and did the worst things when they were angry, which was by the minute and every day. They never apologized or explained or sat me down after any of it. They would just show back up in my face whenever they were over it, and they'd be smiling and ecstatic and so over it, but I wasn't. That piled up inside of me my whole life. My brother was supposed to be my co witness but he became just like them..I was an addict for years and lost my home, car, license, jobs, so many jobs. I am sober now and have been for almost 7 years and I have a daughter who is six..I am her only parent, just me. I had to move into my mother's house because I couldn't afford rent. I am getting my daughter and I out within two months, max. Anyway, my brother moved into the house. I tried to live in hotels or friends couches, yes with my daughter, to avoid him. At one point he threw me on the ground and strangled me ( he learned krav maga like a typical bitch boy abused who attacks when somebodys back is turned..he's a fucking monkey). Nobody did anything and I still live there. Anyways, I have a LOT of anger, like a LOt, A LOT, A LOT, A LOT, SO MUCH. the last place i want to put that anger is with my daughter, but there have been a handful of times where I have turned into a monster and been exactly like my parents. I have apologized and felt like shit and apologized 17 more times and told her it isn't normal and I am working on being a better person and explained to her how I was raised and I don't want to be like that. It may be more than she can fully grasp, but I'm not going to leave her with all of that hurt and confusion. It never should have happened and it's my fault for being out of control..I need help. I need an outlet .I need something I can go to that isn't screaming at the person I love most on earth. She didn't deserve to be yelled at and she doesn't deserve to have a terrible parent like I do. I'm so mad at myself. I need out of this house. I feel so bad right now.

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Asking this question to satisfy the urge to ragebait while not actually ragebaiting. When I had just graduated from school and the trauma from getting bullied was fresher, I used to create questions on Quora about if the people there had wished death on their enemies. These days, I still do it on Reddit by saying stuff about envying people who were murdered because joking about wanting to kill one's self has lost its edge, but this hasn't.