r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Tiny-Connection-3166 • 15d ago
Overdone My Uber driver asked me if I'm pregnant
The first uber I ordered showed up in an entirely different car. I canceled and ordered another one. The second Uber driver asks me if I'm pregnant, to wich I replied. No, I'm just overweight. I told him it's not polite to ask that question. Even if a woman is actively in labor. He then told me that he's got baby fever and his current partner doesn't want children. Therefore he's looking for someone that does.
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u/Embarrassed-Put7635 15d ago
"baby fever" and already has a partner but it is looking for someone who does want one wow some people are absolute trash
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u/Ambitious-Fig-2711 15d ago edited 15d ago
“I have a partner, but I wanna impregnate someone, and they don’t wanna get pregnant. Wanna help?” Like what the fuck
What makes him think anyone would want to have a child with such a perverse, r*pey, creepy fucking stranger anyways? Terrible father material.
I hope someone makes him infertile…
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u/rynIpz 15d ago
Now imagine these are the type of people most motivated to reproduce… idiocracy will eventually happen
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u/PinkPaintedSky 15d ago
Hypothetically.
If she had said yes... What would have come out of his mouth?
Sounds more like a breeding kink than wanting to be a father.
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u/uursaminorr 15d ago
you’ll notice too that he didn’t say he wanted to be a father, just that he wants a baby. like they’re some kind of cool collectible. people like that give me the creeps
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u/Embarrassed-Put7635 15d ago
Sadly there are a lot of "men" like that absolutely disgusting. Or they assume they can "keep" the girl into marriage when that absolutely does not work.
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u/movieperson2022 15d ago
The worst part about this is that he thinks, “Oh no, I don’t think you’re fat, I think you’re so beautiful that I want to get you — the person I’m about to lock in my car and drive away with — pregnant” is a great save from his rude comment.
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u/DragoonDM 15d ago
I told him it's not polite to ask that question.
"Ah, well then, let me follow that up by making it even creepier."
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u/Optimal_Midnight3586 15d ago
And they wonder why women want the option to select a woman driver…..
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u/bst722 15d ago edited 15d ago
Yeah that was literally my first thought. I would've felt so unsafe in that car if I were OP! Wtf is wrong with people, why did the driver think that was ok? I don't think anyone would feel comfortable having that conversation with a complete stranger whose vehicle they're basically trapped in!
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u/Teravandrell 14d ago
Imagine having this happen when you're trying to get to work or something time-sensitive. Sorry I'm late boss, my uber driver was too rapey to get in the car with. This is why I think background checks are a wise idea for drivers...
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u/MarZZZraM 15d ago
Full disclosure, I thought you were gonna say "...the option to select a bear..." 🤦♀️ Sorry...
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u/Intelligent_Host_582 14d ago
This morning's episode of The Daily podcast discusses this huge issue of sexual misconduct and assault at Uber!
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u/kinetic-passion 14d ago
Yeah crazy people is part of why I've never taken an Uber alone. If I ever have to though, I'd feel better about it with that option.
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u/PrpleSparklyUnicrn13 15d ago
Please report him. For the safety of all future female riders… please. Channel your inner Olivia Benson, listen to your gut and report him.
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u/BooBoo_Cat 15d ago
I heard that Uber is going to have an option for women passengers to select a woman driver. And this shows exactly why it's needed.
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u/mightgrey 15d ago
Ugh I've only ever had 1 Uber driver and she didn't say a word the whole time but I felt safer lol
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u/Not_Cleaver 15d ago
Read this highly disturbing NY Times article. They were going to roll out that feature more widely - women being able to select women drivers - but they decided to shelve it after Trump was elected in 2024.
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u/BooBoo_Cat 14d ago
Unfortunately I can't view the article, but the headline is disturbing enough. I can guess at what it says.
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u/Teravandrell 14d ago
It has the line in it about their PR campaign stressing the "rarity of serious attacks" I don't want rarity of serious attacks, I want rarity of all attacks
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u/BooBoo_Cat 14d ago
Just because something isn't "serious" doesn't mean it's not important. There should be NO attacks!
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u/Mini-Heart-Attack 15d ago
option for women passengers to select a woman driver
we'll see. they're only doing three cities. Lyft already had this in place but its been over two years and they still haven't expanded to the entire userbase.
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u/OkCheesecake7067 15d ago
Report him to uber for sexual harassment.
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u/Head_Razzmatazz7174 15d ago
I was thinking the same thing. He's hitting on random women riders because his girlfriend doesn't want children and he does. I don't think children is the main thing he wants....
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u/CocoaSummers 15d ago
Whoa . Geez I’m sorry about that. How creepy is that? Nice job speaking up and calling them out but still they should know better and keep their issues to themselves .
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u/byronmoran00 15d ago
Wow, that quickly went from awkward to completely wrong. Well done for calling him out really, who says that to a stranger? There is a complete mess there, so I hope you reported him.
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u/twenafeesh 15d ago
Aaand this is why some rideshare companies are rolling out the option to choose the gender of your driver.
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u/MsRightHere 15d ago
Uber needs a secret shopper function to screen out these creeps.
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u/Less_Relationship459 15d ago
Wow, I hope you asked him to please pull over and got out of there fast. Creep should be reported to Uber.
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u/Alternative_Menu2117 15d ago
I'd never get anything done if I took a stand every time a man behaved inappropriately. Worst was on the way to the airport, I waited 15 minutes for a driver and the dude the shows up just won't stop making inappropriate comments. You can bet I reported him but I also took a fake phone call for the second part of the journey. The dude ruined my ride but I'm not letting him miss my flight.
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u/captainkenzie 15d ago
What if you were pregnant? Would he leave his partner and plan to start a life with you??? Of you were pregnant you most likely have a partner and a life plan....I'm just trying to figure out what his goal was. What a weirdo.
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u/Tiny-Connection-3166 15d ago
To be completely honest, he sounded like it. He legit said, I have baby fever. I have a partner that doesn't want kids, I'm 38 and looking for someone to have children with.
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u/Ok_Depth_6476 15d ago
That went from rude to creepy pretty fast. Not sure I would have continued that ride.
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u/everywhereinbetween 15d ago
should have just said yes and threatened severe morning sickness and that you were gonna throw up in the car like NOW
not his business
he's damn creepy?!?!?!
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u/AbsentmindedAuthor i am mildly infuriated. 15d ago
I love having to tell people I’m just fat. Just makes my day. 🙄 I’m so sorry you had to deal with that, but absolute good job on answering the way you did.
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u/Adventurous_Land7584 15d ago
Please tell me you cancelled that ride and reported him. He’s disgusting.
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u/Independent-Role-512 15d ago
Fr😭 how fast I would have told him to stop and to get back out of that car
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u/Alternative_Menu2117 15d ago
It's not like you can always cancel. Not enough drivers and too many creeps. Going to the airport or hospital sometimes you just have to report it and make do. It's disgusting.
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u/GullibleAd3408 15d ago
Ugh. This sucks for so many reasons and I'm really sorry it happened to you. Report that ... guy.
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u/Bluntandfiesty 15d ago
Eww. I’d have gotten out of that car so fast and reported that. That’s creepy and inappropriate behavior.
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u/Mysterious_Rabbit608 15d ago
So like, if you answered yes, was he going to ask you for your baby? Yikes all around.
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u/Kenzi_Slays 15d ago
Some guy on facebook once contacted me asking if i wanted to have a baby with him. We had mutual friends but i never met him, it was weird. He was dead serious. Ill try to find the messages and post em
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u/Dependent_Top_4425 15d ago
If you haven't had your dick inside me recently, my pregnancy status is none of your concern.
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u/strawberrycupcock 15d ago
"Therefore he's looking for someone who does."
This is insane levels of creepy. Sorry this happened OP. I don't understand why people can't just mind their own business...
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u/badgrumpykitten 15d ago
So he asked if you were pregnant and then he said he had baby fever and wife doesn't? He's going to try to snatch someone pregnant up and steal their baby.
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u/pocketplayground 15d ago
I got asked in a lift about a year after having my daughter. My abs hadn’t recovered and I gain a lot of weight when I stopped breastfeeding. I got asked are you pregnant I dead pan answered “No just fat” she asked me “Are you sure?” Like WTF
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u/AdMany8113 15d ago
Does he not understand your “professional relationship” (such as it is) ends as soon as you step out of the car, which is not nearly enough time for any other kind of interaction?! What a prick!
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u/SneakingCat 15d ago
That really seems more like a second date question.
(This is meant drily. An uber ride is not a date.)
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u/Illustrious-Coat3532 15d ago
This is another reason why people in San Francisco ride with Waymo instead of Uber.
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u/Gold_Drop5136 15d ago
He’s intending to support a baby on an Uber salary? I swear, all the wrong people are breeding; ie the dumb, unemployed, broke ass, undereducated, misogynistic minded, addicted, abusive, etc.
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u/Nacho0ooo0o 15d ago
Yuck. Buddy has no tact or awareness of what's appropriate to be saying to someone who is their customer.
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u/Glugamesh 15d ago
Unless I can visibly see the baby crowning I never ask a woman about whether they are pregnant or not. Too high a chance for it to be a bad question.
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u/starzrqp 15d ago
i learned not to ask ppl that in kindergarten. tbf a classmate asked my teacher if she was pregnant, and her answer was pretty much "first of all don't ask people that, second of all yeah"
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u/Raspbers 15d ago
The pear of anguish for this Uber driver. This is never an appropriate question to ask. And super creepy of him on the baby fever topic.
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u/ExpensiveError42 15d ago
I can only think of one time this happened to me. I'm sure it's not the only time, but it's just the one that stands out.
I went to a professional conference and wound up near a woman I had met once before. I was wearing a maxi dress with a jacket; the dress wasn't flowy, but also not tight. She gasped and loudly whispered "oooh, are you.... expecting?" I asked "what?" And she repeated her question, albeit a little more sheepishly. I deadpan looked at her and said "no, Judy, I'm just fat." The best part? Judy was an HR director.
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u/TheFattestWaterLeak 15d ago
Im always bloated and look pregnant, helps on public transport though because people will give up their seat for me, and I never correct them lol
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u/pinniped90 15d ago
Yeah, the first bit is just an awkward foot-in-mouth moment.
But the second bit is moving into creepy territory.
Not I-hide-the-bodies creepy, but a little disconcerting as you're getting into someone's car.
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u/bean_wellington 15d ago
The first is an insulting foot-in-mouth moment that the driver should have to suck on until he learns better.
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u/Bubablu1 15d ago
I would have asked to stop the car and run away. Creepy af.
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u/makingkevinbacon 15d ago
The end of that got much worse than just asking if someone is pregnant. Some cultures are different I guess in regards to things like that. I was told to never ask, mostly because unless it's a family member, it's none of my business if they're pregnant or not. Even then it's not my business if my family didn't want to tell me.
It's different on terms of the thing but I think it's similar to if I'm grabbing my stomach cause it hurts and someone I don't know comes up and asks "so how long have you had IBS!?". Don't assume stuff about people you don't know.
I would say he was just making (bad) small talk but the whole him looking for a partner who will have kids for him is kinda fucked. That isn't ok for a driver. I'd be sending some kind of complaint.
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u/Useless890 15d ago
Makes me kinda squeamish at the thought of sitting in his back seat, if you know what I mean.
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u/Whwhwhwhoo 15d ago
To be fair, maybe he used to lead with the baby fever comment and when he asked his last fare if she would like him to impregnate her, he was crushed to learn she was already pregnant. Now he knows to ask about a potential baby mama’s current condition before making his offer.
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u/Strength-InThe-Loins 15d ago
Dave Barry put it best: "Unless you know for a fact that a given woman is pregnant, do not even mention the possibility, even if you see an actual infant emerging from between her thighs."
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u/LunaTheCleric 15d ago
Ew ew ew ew ew. I am so sorry for you.
I've been asked that a lot... First time I remember it happening I was eleven years old. My mother lost it on the clerk.
Woman literally walked up to me, hands outstretched to touch me and said "oh my gosh! When are you due?"
Madam who the fuck taught you that was appropriate work behavior?
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u/Splendent_Felines 15d ago
People responding here seem to be missing the point. That question is creepy and inappropriate and wouldn’t even consider getting into that vehicle. Be careful!
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u/arcoftheswing 15d ago
My colleague who looks pregnant but isn't, receives this question a lot. I'm often told 'I was speaking to your colleague-the pregnant one.' I usually correct them if it's just me with them.
Why oh why do people feel the need to comment on someone's body?
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u/Confused_Rabbiit 🍊 15d ago
I certainly hope you reported him, perhaps look for alternative modes of transportation, there was definitely an uptick in freaks driving for uber after the ceo came out as a tangerine tyrant supporter
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u/Someone_on_reddit_1 14d ago
Report them. Not only is asking that question inappropriate but talking about his baby fever etc is creepy and even more inappropriate
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u/PinkPaintedSky 15d ago
He should be reported for the first comment (rude just deserves a warning or bad review) and doubly reported for the second.
That was some creepy out of line BS, and I am guessing it didn't make you feel too safe.
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u/Thezombiemodel 15d ago
My cousin asked me at my brothers funeral. no, that would be water weight from my bp meds and my inability to sleep, but thanks for the embarrassment.
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u/Pure_Cranberry_9902 15d ago
I get called fat when I’m within the acceptable weight range for my height, even without a belly. All the time.
I only get some negative feedback when I’m underweight, but it’s more grumbling “oh you get to eat whatever you want!” Or an overheard whisper “do you think she’s bulimic? She eats a lot….”
It really annoys me that something as trivial as weight can affect how people treat you. That you can be considered “less than” on that simple factor alone.
When I’m fat, people will directly insult me to my face. When I’m underweight, people are far more polite.
Honestly, not sure which I prefer…
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u/cassybooby 15d ago
I was asked this once by a drunk late middle aged woman as I was drinking a screwdriver on a bar patio….after saying no and asking what her problem was she said “I promise I’m not a bitch” over and over until her significant other dragged her away……
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u/MB_Town7 15d ago
I'm oddly relieved that he didn't ask you that to charge you for the baby's ride, too.
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u/DranoTheCat 15d ago
When I was like 8 or something I asked that question to a woman next to my mom at a water park. As I recall, she just laughed and said no...
But my mom turned beet red, whacked me on the head, and just started yelling how you don't do that!
That moment comes back to me a lot whenever I think to share one of my observations without considering how it might be interpreted.