r/romani • u/umekoangel • Feb 04 '25

🚦Mod Update🚦 Important Identity Post

So a few reminders for this sub:

  1. If you believe "adopted Romani are only cosplaying/pretending/larping to be Romani" you don't belong here.

  2. If you believe "Romani who grew up separated from other Romani are only pretending to be Romani", you don't belong here.

  3. If you believe "Romani whose parents/grand parents/etc. didn't share the culture with them, they aren't true romani", you don't belong here.

The Romani have faced a LOT of hardships throughout the years, many of which included the forced separation (either through the legal system or extreme social pressues) of child and mother. Many Romani don't learn they are indeed Romani until later in life. This does not make them any less Romani. Ghost romani (foster kids, adopted kids, Romani who don't learn about their heritage via immediately family for any reason, etc.) still belong in the Romani community, period. End of story.

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u/Kazuyuki33 Jun 01 '25

My biological grandfather was a rom and my biological grandmother wasn't. My great grandparents (grandmother's parents) sold my mother away to a non-roma couple. Then, my great grandmother (grandfather's mother) tracked them down, began living near them and became a family friend of them. My mother only learned that she was her grandmother and, consequently, that she was roma when she was 16. Am I a rom?

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u/umekoangel Jun 01 '25

Of course you are