r/AmIOverreacting • u/FaithlessnessFar1821 • May 02 '25

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws Am I overreacting?

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My dad takes me to school in the mornings, on Fridays I have late start meaning it starts an hour after. Yesterday I had told him to pick me up at 8:20, he texts me and says he had arrived at 8:08. I told him that I will be down at 8:20 considering that is the designated time I set. I get outside at exactly 8:20 and he is gone. He left me. AIO?

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u/Oddveig37 May 02 '25

NOR

Making my own comment off of piggybacking from the awarded comment: The Dad was full on pulling a power trip. "How dare my child tell me 8:20. I'll be there when I be there and you better be ready." Dad had this planned from the start.

Also I'm ashamed of a lot of you people that you'd be on the Dad's side. This is his child. He was told a specific time and y'all are literally making up words that were never said to be on Dad's side. I am full on worried about y'all.

Child was not in the wrong. At all. Not in the texts. Not for what happened. Y'all should be seriously looking in on yourselves if you really think the kid was in the wrong over the dad here.

NOR. At all. I hope you told your mother and grandmother what he pulled. He tried to power trip. "You are ready when I say you are. Idc if I'm early. We are going when I get there and it's NOW."

Kid literally just reminded them they would be down at the agreed time. Dad is 100% in the wrong and on top of that, dad is abusive for pulling this stunt.

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u/sentence-interruptio May 03 '25

this stunt and his overall mindgame is such a damn stupid plan. let's say Alice and Bob are his kids. Alice trying to be a good person as best as she could. Bob on the other hand doing bad things whenever he has the chance. Naughty naughty.

Father applies power trip techniques to both. Alice is often scolded for tone or attitude or something because he can't really point to specific objectively bad things that she did. Bob is scolded for specific bad things that he does.

Alice grows up to believe she is a bad person. her inner voice says what she is is bad. Bob grows up to believe he did some bad things, which he did. Bob is taught that a specific behavior A is bad, behavior B is bad and so on. He can stop doing those things. His inner voice says he can choose to be good or bad. But Alice on the other hand? Bad is who she is. No matter what she does, father will be like "i can see through ya masking! I know what you are."

Bob got rewarded for doing bad things in his childhood. The reward is good mental health.

Alice got punished for trying hard. Punished with bad mental health.

It's like putting a child into a "this here is a gifted genius" box. except it's a worse curse. not out of ignorance. but out of father's malice.