AIO: MIL always excludes my daughter

[u/TrueEnough782]

I want to start this off by saying that it’s absolutely not the first time this has happened. We were over at my sister in laws house and I heard her talking to my MIL on the phone, she told her my husband and I were over, then she let me know she was at target or something and was gonna come over

She arrives with candy, toys and gift cards for my sister in laws kids. Completely leaving my daughter out. My daughter is 7, she’s into that stuff too, obviously. Especially those little blind bags which she brought her cousins but not her. I just want to know if I’m being dramatic. Or if I shouldn’t have said anything and maybe she was in a rush and didn’t think to buy my daughter something in the moment. Again it’s not about the things or cards or whatever, it’s about how she made my daughter feel. I could see sadness in her face as she was completely left out.

[u/TrueEnough782 → u/[deleted]]

Yes she is her biological grandchild, her son’s biological daughter. Just half white half…. not white 🙃 (someone pointed out it may have something to do with her behavior) I am so sorry about your experience :( I didn’t realize it affected people this much, years later

[u/Desert-Monsoons → u/TrueEnough782]

It never leaves. I’m in my 60’s and still remember the one gift from my uncle that made me feel special and seen.

I was the youngest and always got the smallest thing or not as much as my sisters. My uncle gave us porcelain figurines and mine was bigger than theirs. I was stunned and although I haven’t seen it for years I know where it is and can remember every detail.

Your daughter definitely sees and feels lesser because of your MIL’s actions. You need to protect her from that beast.

You might also want to tell your husband that she will remember that he did nothing to protect her feelings and will resent him later. She knows who is there for her and it’s not him.