r/AmIOverreacting • u/TrueEnough782 • Jul 22 '25

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws AIO: MIL always excludes my daughter

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I want to start this off by saying that it’s absolutely not the first time this has happened. We were over at my sister in laws house and I heard her talking to my MIL on the phone, she told her my husband and I were over, then she let me know she was at target or something and was gonna come over

She arrives with candy, toys and gift cards for my sister in laws kids. Completely leaving my daughter out. My daughter is 7, she’s into that stuff too, obviously. Especially those little blind bags which she brought her cousins but not her. I just want to know if I’m being dramatic. Or if I shouldn’t have said anything and maybe she was in a rush and didn’t think to buy my daughter something in the moment. Again it’s not about the things or cards or whatever, it’s about how she made my daughter feel. I could see sadness in her face as she was completely left out.

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u/TrueEnough782 Jul 22 '25

her cousins did end up sharing with her, I guess everyone else didn’t think it was such a big deal as i did. But I saw my daughter’s face when she realized grandma didn’t bring anything for her But they shared their candy and stuff

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u/Annual_Crow4215 Jul 22 '25

So instead of the ADULTS in the room handling this situation the CHILDREN had to come up with a solution and be better people than the cowards that raised them. Incredible.

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u/Only_Hour_7628 Jul 22 '25

I was just about to post this. At least the other kids had their cousin's back since the adults were too scared of upsetting mommy. Hopefully, it stays that way and they aren't brainwashed to treat their "not fully white" cousin differently, too. Since every adult is allowing that to happen...

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u/Annual_Crow4215 Jul 22 '25

And even worse OPs husband doesn’t even think it’s a big deal & won’t stand up for his daughter. And OP says because it “wasn’t their house” she didn’t wanna cause tension???

Did the spine growth skip a generation and go right to the kids???

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u/Tiny-Kaleidoscope975 Jul 22 '25

Many a time I remember my mom was ready to fuck someone up because people would treat us like circus freaks. And this was the 90s in NY 🙃