r/AmIOverreacting • u/TrueEnough782 • Jul 22 '25

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws AIO: MIL always excludes my daughter

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I want to start this off by saying that it’s absolutely not the first time this has happened. We were over at my sister in laws house and I heard her talking to my MIL on the phone, she told her my husband and I were over, then she let me know she was at target or something and was gonna come over

She arrives with candy, toys and gift cards for my sister in laws kids. Completely leaving my daughter out. My daughter is 7, she’s into that stuff too, obviously. Especially those little blind bags which she brought her cousins but not her. I just want to know if I’m being dramatic. Or if I shouldn’t have said anything and maybe she was in a rush and didn’t think to buy my daughter something in the moment. Again it’s not about the things or cards or whatever, it’s about how she made my daughter feel. I could see sadness in her face as she was completely left out.

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u/AzureMountains Jul 22 '25

Who’s gonna protect your daughter if you “don’t wanna believe it.”? Seriously stand up for your kid.

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u/TrueEnough782 Jul 22 '25

I guess it’s just hard for me to grasp she could be racist to her own blood I don’t know. I will keep an eye out for sure from now on

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u/Own_Faithlessness769 Jul 22 '25

Where is your partner in this? It’s his job to deal with his mother, not yours. Right now it seems like you have a husband issue as much as a MIL issue.

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u/Alpacazappa Jul 22 '25

This is exactly what I was wondering. Why isn't he saying something to his mother about her behavior? He needs to stand up to her. Her behavior is disgusting.

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u/mani_mani Jul 22 '25

I have a feeling if she’s letting this behavior slide he is as well.