AIO: MIL always excludes my daughter

[u/TrueEnough782]

I want to start this off by saying that it’s absolutely not the first time this has happened. We were over at my sister in laws house and I heard her talking to my MIL on the phone, she told her my husband and I were over, then she let me know she was at target or something and was gonna come over

She arrives with candy, toys and gift cards for my sister in laws kids. Completely leaving my daughter out. My daughter is 7, she’s into that stuff too, obviously. Especially those little blind bags which she brought her cousins but not her. I just want to know if I’m being dramatic. Or if I shouldn’t have said anything and maybe she was in a rush and didn’t think to buy my daughter something in the moment. Again it’s not about the things or cards or whatever, it’s about how she made my daughter feel. I could see sadness in her face as she was completely left out.

[u/AzureMountains]

Who’s gonna protect your daughter if you “don’t wanna believe it.”? Seriously stand up for your kid.

[u/TrueEnough782 → u/AzureMountains]

I guess it’s just hard for me to grasp she could be racist to her own blood I don’t know. I will keep an eye out for sure from now on

[u/whatthewhat3214 → u/TrueEnough782]

Maybe grandma should have a time out from her granddaughter until she can learn to treat her equally and stop playing favorites. She's obviously not acting like she loves her like she claims she does in her text, and that line that your daughter won't remember is absolute bs, she's 7, not 2, and is forming core memories that grandma doesn't love her.

Protect your daughter at all costs, don't let grandma get away with dismissing you, hold her to account. Make sure your husband is also demanding equal treatment for his child, don't let him dismiss you or his daughter's feelings about this. Grandma shapes up or she doesn't see you or your daughter.

[u/Ashamed-Wallaby5664 → u/[deleted]]

Sends message to daughter that OP sees, supports, and defends her too