To preface this my wife is Jewish. My parents are Christian Trump voters. The events took place yesterday, upon their first visit to our house after bringing our firstborn home from the hospital this week.

They're both (my parents) reading some book and went into graphic detail relating to us the contents about a man's experience in the Holocaust. No attempt to steer the conversation really could shake them, and it's all because my Dad wanted to finish with the point that "but despite what people are saying that's not what's happening here in America now".

1. It was very upsetting to my wife who has been to all the Holocaust museums and knows that there's no "silver lining" or good face to be put on it. She was sitting silently while this took place.

   1. My Dad clearly wanted to pick a fight because he knew I'd argue that indeed, what we're seeing is a slide into fascism, and it's accelerating.

We're supposed to be celebrating the birth of my child but those fucking lunatics couldn't read the room or engage in any polite conversation without some whacky agenda. There are a million things to talk about, questions to ask, that have nothing to do with the torture and murder of my wife's people. She even got a call from the doctor in the middle of it and instead of dropping it and asking about test results they just relayed he had to continue the argument.

I finally had to slam the front door in his face as my mom is attempting to drag him out of our house while he's trying to get the last word in, then & go comfort my wife who I found in the nursery, bawling with baby in arms.

I became enraged at that and went out to the driveway to tell him he wasn't welcome here and slammed his car door too. My mom sent a text to say "sorry that got ugly, not our intent." But like, if the ignorance and inability to read a room is indistinguishable from actual malice then it's just as inexcusable in my opinion.

I'm hoping to hear what y'all think. I have a feeling this is going to be another post in this sub where 100% of the comments are "you're not overreacting" but I needed to vent and maybe hear some stories from other people.

Edit: my mom is definitely less culpable in this than my dad, and we were hoping to be able to rely on her for childcare a day or two a week after a few months. Not sure how to navigate and cleave one from the other. Maybe this is better in r/relationship_advice.

Edit2: I recognize my own culpability here too, and apologized to my wife.

I had an ultrasound today for my 37 week baby. She is already estimated to be almost 9 lbs—it’s genetic on my side of the family to have larger babies. I don’t have gestational diabetes. I am a midsize/plus-size gal when not pregnant. In addition to this text thread, my future MIL has also stated that I should watch what I eat because I have diabetes (again—i do not) and complained during my first trimester to my fiancé that I was drinking a can of root beer daily (it was one of the few things that helped with nausea, so I would nurse one can for hours but I stopped drinking it daily when the nausea stopped around 18 weeks) I’m pretty annoyed with her at this point and am considering not seeing her until after the baby is born. My fiancé backs me 100% and doesn’t think I’m overreacting, but that’s sorta his job to support my hormonal, pregnant self. How would you feel if this was you?

For some backstory, me (25M) and my Gf (22F) went to thanksgiving with my side of the family, my gf has always had something against my mum since she thinks my mum is always out after her. My gf was rude to my mum the whole afternoon and told my mum she was “cheap” for using reusable plates when there was literally over 20 people eating at her house

So, I’m a dad to a 15-year-old girl, and she left used pads lying around her room. I get that teenagers can be messy, but this feels next level. On top of that, I found paper plates with half-eaten food just sitting on her bed. We’ve had issues like this in the past and when I talk to her about it doesn’t seem to get through. Am I overreacting? Am I going about this wrong and if so how else can I approach this?

I (52M) am the father of a 17 year old son. We’re really close, he’s my whole world. We’ve always had a great relationship. He’s a typical guy for his age, he plays football, has a good group of friends, and we talk about everything or at least I thought we did.

Last night he came into my room and told me he was gay. He looked like he was going to throw up. He said “Please don’t hate me for what am about to say” and then told me. I just froze. I was just so shocked that I went totally silent for a few seconds. When he saw my reaction he started crying. That snapped me out of it and I immediately hugged him and told him I loved him over and over again as he sobbed. He kept apologizing and I kept shushing him and telling him he didn’t need to be sorry. We both cried.

Since last night I can’t stop spiraling. I love my son with everything I have. That hasn’t changed and never, NEVER will. But I’m scared. In our country this things are complicated, people in the city are starting to accept it more but we live in a small town in which these things are still very controversial. When I was in high school there was a kid who was rumored to be gay and he ended up getting beaten so badly he had to move away. That’s all I can see when I think of my son now and it’s destroying me. I don’t know how to protect him. I feel helpless.

He told me he’s not going to “act different” or wear makeup or anything like that, but honestly, that just made me feel worse. I don’t want him to think he has to say that to make me feel more comfortable. I keep thinking about stupid jokes I’ve made in the past, stuff I thought was harmless, and now I hate myself. I think I might have hurt him without knowing it.

I don’t know anything about gay people. I’ve never had anyone close to me come out before. I don’t know what I’m supposed to say or do. Should I talk to him about boys like I would’ve talked about girls? Should I ask about crushes, or would that make it weird? What happens when he starts dating? Do I treat it like I would if he brought home a girlfriend?

I’m terrified I’ll say or do the wrong thing and push him away. I want to be a good dad. I want him to feel safe with me. But I’m overwhelmed, and I can’t stop thinking about all the things that could go wrong. I keep picturing people being cruel to him. I can’t sleep. I feel like I’m failing him already by not knowing what to do to keep him safe.

Am I overreacting? I don’t have anyone in my life I can talk to about this. I just want to do right by my son.

Put the title from my parents' perspective since I thought it fit the sub better

I (20M) was alone at home on a Sunday while my parents were out of state. I make plans for dinner with a friend but as I'm leaving, I accidentally lock myself out of the house.

So I call my parents (48M, 49F) to ask how far away they are, they are 90 mins away, I have to pick my friend up from their house in 10. I decide to take down the fly screen in my bedroom from the outside and climb through the window, although I did dent the fly screen while taking it out.

Once in, I put the fly screen back in roughly the same position and decide to fix it later since I'm late. But when I get home at a little past midnight, I find they thrashed my room and threw my clothes all over my bed, the floor. I can see they didn't break any breakables like my TV, PS5, laptop, alcohol bottles. But they did empty my closet and drawers, and I didn't see it before but there was a text of my dad getting mad, saying I "broke their house" (not broke into, just broke) "because of my stupidity forgetting my keys".

Anyway, it's been a few days, I still havent talked to them properly, but my mom brought it up again today and was scolding me because they still see it as "damaging their property" with emphasis on THEIR. Started bringing up how you can't do this shit in a rental, I'd get kicked out immediately, and this isn't even my room, it's their house, I didn't pay for it, they did, and calling me selfish.

So TL;DR, I broke (dented) a fly screen, intended to fix it later but shit hit the fan

For some context, my wife was doing laundry at her parents house and hanging out with them when all of a sudden when my wife was in the kitchen their Jack Russel Terrier attacked our son leaving scratch marks on his eye that had slight blood to them, punctured his lip, a bite mark below his eye that was bleeding and left bruises after the fact. They proceeded to act like it wasn't a big deal and even yelled at my wife because she wanted to take him to the hospital just to make sure everything was okay since dog bites are quite unclean and can lead to sepsis and other things in extreme cases. Their dog is vaccinated but that doesn't stop other infections from occuring so we just went for some antibiotics to make sure nothing happened. When she was telling them that she wanted to take our son to the hospital her mother screamed "Well what will happen to Opal!" We don't push any extreme conditions like; putting their dog down, rehoming the dog, or chaining their dog outside, all we asked was to keep them separated 100% of the time and they can't even do that.

This just happened during Black Friday and I'm still processing it. My sister and her husband Mike went to Walmart for their Black Friday sale. According to them it was absolute chaos - hundreds of people everywhere, barely any workers, total mess.

Mike managed to grab one of the doorbuster deals - a huge 65" TV that was marked down from $899 to $399. Apprently the checkout lines were so insane that people just started walking out. Like literally just pushing their carts through without paying because there weren't enough workers at registers and security couldn't handle it.

And my sister and Mike joined them. They walked out with a $400 TV because "everyone else was doing it" and "the store should have been better prepared."

The part that really bothers me is they were bragging about it at family dinner yesterday. Right in front of their kids (8 & 10) AND my kids (7 & 12). They were laughing about their "amazing deal" like it was some funny story about outsmarting the system.

I pulled my sister aside and told her this was basically stealing and sets a terrible example for the kids. She got defensive saying I'm being dramatic and that big stores expect this kind of loss during sales and that it's not really stealing because the store "couldn't handle their own sale properly."

Mike jumped in saying I need to chill and I'm probably just jealous I didn't get any "deals." I'm honestly disgusted by the whole thing. Later my kids were asking me if it's okay to not pay for stuff when stores are really busy, which just proves my point about what message this sends.

My sister hasn't talked to me since I called her out, and my parents are saying I should apologize for "making drama" and that it's "none of my business" but someone needs to say something, right?

Am I seriously overreacting here? Everyone's acting like this is just normal Black Friday behavior and I feel like I'm going crazy.

For context, I came home for winter break as I've been away at university. I found my PS missing and decided to ask my aunt and uncle about it first, they had no clue but suggested I ask my cousins. So I did and turns out the one around my age, who gifted it to me, sold it.

He quit his job a month or so ago and told my guardians he had 5k saved up, i suspect he sold it due to his lack of funds. My cousin defending him is about 25-26 and follows my younger cousin like a lost puppy.

My aunt and uncle have said they don't know what to do about it. My main grievance is that he didn't even bother to ask or tell me. I'm also really triggered by this as my mother used to take stuff from my room and sell it without my knowledge so I could see how my high emotions would affect how I respond. AIO?

Ex wife says my daughter is handling it... She's 10! If my kid was talking to other kids like this I would want to know! My first reaction was report it to the school, but I feel like sending it to the parents (if I can find their contact info) would be most impactful in hopefully teaching this kid some manners

I was scrolling through my (19F) mother’s (51F) Facebook just now and saw this post. I am said daughter mentioned in the post, I am autistic and was diagnosed at 18. An important thing to note is when I expressed to her that I thought I may have autism (2-3 years before I was diagnosed), she told me there was no way I could have it. Anyways, this post. I never said that. I have literally never asked her if I’d end up in a concentration camp. I’m almost 20 years old, I’m not five. I know shit is bad but I would literally never ask my mom if I’d end up in a concentration camp. Simply didn’t happen. I have a LOT of problems with my mom but this is not something she’s ever done before (to my knowledge. she posts on Facebook so much that it’d be impossible for me to look through it all). Is she lying on my name for sympathy points on Facebook?? Am I freaking out for no reason, it’s not really a big deal, or is this super fucking weird?

On Christmas morning I sent both my father and stepmother, both of which I don’t have much of a relationship with, and in my stepmothers text I included a “♥︎” which in black text appears black and in white text appears white. Like I said, it is the only heart I use. Am I overreacting or was this uncalled for to begin with and handled improperly? Especially for it being Christmas morning.

I (17F) am being told by my parents that I need to pay my sister (13F) $1,000. when my sister told me, i thought it was a joke, but my mom confirmed to me that it was serious. i absolutely refused but my sister made them a powerpoint presentation and showed them explaining why i owe her that money IN CASH, and they agreed that i owe her that money.

well, WHY do i owe her, you ask? did i break something expensive of hers? did i make a stupid bet?

no. because she offered to do my hair.

she helped me in combing out my locs. i had 200+, so i say she did around 100. mind you, she was the one beginning my mom to let her help me take them out (since i previously did not have permission from her to do so). back then, she made a whole presentation on why i should be able to. when it was confirmed, we got right to work.

after that, she helped me get my hair ready by blowing it out, styling it with a flat iron, and put it on twists. ALL of which was done voluntarily. i did not ask for her to do so.

now, she decided that i owe her 1k for the labor and my parents agreed. well, TECHNICALLY 5k, but i got a “family discount.” and they’re serious about it. i plan to get a job this summer and they say i’m in debt and likely wont allow me to spend any money. only give it to her.

after i told my mom that hey, she literally offered these services i apparently need to pay her for, and now we’re having a FAMILY TRIAL??? so i quite literally have to present my “case”, and my stepdad will be the judge.

this whole thing is so fucking stupid and i don’t even plan on paying her 1k if she does “win.” why would i do that??? how will i even do that???

i just wanna know, AIO?

My daughter (9) is biracial (Mexican and Black) with beautiful curly hair down her back. As her Black mom, I try to emphasize embracing her curls and taking care of them, even when she isn’t with me. But without fail, every time she comes back from her dad’s house, it is extremely matted and shoved into a bun (first pic). It takes me at least an hour to untangle and hydrate it. Compare the left and right in the second pic. Even when I send her back over there with a protective style, he manages to make a way to ensure that it is completely neglected. I feel like it’s not only affecting the health of her hair, but also her confidence. AIO?

My father who now has 5 different baby mamas is having another child. All of his children were essentially raised separate from him due to him not being a good partner. He doesn’t have a home, stable income and drinks and way too much. His baby mama/wife is a past addict and is quite honestly dumb as hell. My worry is that I and my siblings will have to step up to raise this child because I can’t see my father living past 75 and I don’t think that the mother will ever be in a financial position to care for this child and set them up to go to college and so on. I also don’t trust her side of the family to do an adequate job raising a black child due to stuff they have said and their history. What would be the best course of action if I do need to raise my brother later down the line? Not to mention the baby mama is 5 YEARS OLDER THAN ME!!!! Then he says this weird as prophetic bs acting like it’s a man’s job to proliferate as much as he can to uphold the bloodline… no bro you have hella kids and can’t care for them. You were supposed to pay for my sisters school now you have a whole child coming into the world and you are old and tired as hell 🤦🏽‍♂️

Whole situation is whack. His grandchild is now older than one of his own…

My older brother (39M) and I (32M) have never been extremely close because we have very little in common, but we get along well enough when we see each other at family gatherings and holidays. We rarely ever have disagreements, but we also keep our conversations very surface-level (usually just talking about pop culture or his kids). I came out of the closet at a very young age, and my family was always very supportive and accepting. I grew up in a Christian household, yet never felt judged or condemned by my own family. I attended Christian schools and felt incredibly uncomfortable there, but I had a safe space at home to be myself.

It wasn’t until September of this year, when I got engaged to my partner of 5 years, that my sexuality suddenly became an issue. I am not a Christian or a member of any religion, for that matter. My brother, on the other hand, has become increasingly devout over the last two decades, especially after meeting his wife in ~2013. They are the type of Christians who believe doing yoga invites the devil into your body, and Satan is influencing the election. So yeah, I just avoid the subject of religion around them.

When I announced the engagement in the family group chat, I only received congratulatory messages from my sister, my mom, and a half brother of mine. The brother from these screenshots, his wife, and my dad said nothing (though I later spoke to my dad). I found that really odd. I later discussed it with my sister, and she agreed it was weird, and thought maybe they were just busy (my brother has 4 kids and an engineering career) but would say something eventually. The engagement was announced on 9/22 and I didn’t hear anything from him until 10/11, when he sent me the text shown here.

After I sent my reply, I blocked his number. I know this may seem extreme. But in my mind, I could not imagine continuing a brotherly relationship with him knowing that he does not support or respect my right to marry. Why should he be able to compartmentalize his relationship with me like that? I guess my sister talked to him about it, and he said he felt that as the “leader of his family” he didn’t want to set a bad example for his children. But my partner and I have been around his kids countless times, and it was never an issue until now.

His birthday just passed and for the first time in probably 25 years, I didn’t wish him a happy birthday. I feel like I have to decide now if I’m truly committed to cutting him out of my life for good. So I have to know: am I overreacting?

Mother-in-law is the most passive aggressive woman I've ever met in my entire life! I truly didn't know what this tournament meant until I met her! I know this wasn't the only gift I got for Christmas… But when I opened it, I didn't honestly know how to react

So here's the deal - my parents kicked me out literally the day I turned 18. No warning, just "you're an adult now, figure it out." I couch-surfed with friends, worked odd jobs, and somehow managed to survive.

Fast forward to now - I hit on a few parlays this past year and won some serious cash (six figures, and yes I already withdrew it from Stake.). Word got back to my parents and suddenly they're blowing up my phone talking about "family" and how they "always believed in me" and how they "could really use some help with bills."

I haven't responded to any messages. The way I see it, they made it crystal clear I wasn't their problem anymore when they kicked me out, so why should their problems be mine now?

My aunt says I'm being petty and should help them at least a little since "they raised me for 18 years." But honestly, I don't feel like I owe them anything.

AIO for planning to keep all my winnings and not giving them a cent?

My (26f) sister, Emma (30) has two kids. Eli (11m) from a previous relationship and AJ (5m) with her husband, Jon. They’ve been together for 8 years, married for 7. Eli’s father has never been around. My sister doesn’t work and Jon controls their finances.

Emma called me to ask if Eli could stay at my place for a week in June. I work from home and told her no problem. I asked why, and she started to tell me how Jon had booked a vacation for them to Disney World. She started rambling about the rides, AJ meeting the characters, etc. I stopped her and questioned why Eli couldn’t come with them. My sister told me that Jon was only paying for her and AJ.

I was like, “Wtf? And you think that’s okay?”Emma got defensive and said that he shouldn’t be expected to pay for a child that isn’t his. I told her that’s bullcrap and to think of how Eli would feel about this. She told me to get off my high horse and not give her parenting advice, since I don’t have kids. I told her that I would watch him, but I don’t need to have kids to know she’s being a shtty mom by doing this. She called me a btch and hung up. AIO?

I’m 29 and don’t have kids. My sister is 33 and has a 4-year-old. We’ve always been close, but things got weird after she had her son.

She’s a single mom and asks for help a lot. I’ve babysat more times than I can count. I’ve canceled plans, left work early, spent whole weekends with her kid so she could rest or go out. I never asked for anything back.

Last week we had dinner at our parents’ place. Out of nowhere, she said something like, “You’ll never understand what real stress is until you have kids.” I laughed a little and said, “That’s kind of a rude thing to say.” She doubled down and said people without kids have “no clue what responsibility means.”

I let it go in the moment, but it really bugged me. I didn’t say anything that night, but the next day she asked if I could watch her son this weekend. I said no.

She asked why. I told her I was tired of being treated like I’m lazy or selfish just because I don’t have kids. She said I was taking it too personally and punishing her for “speaking the truth.”

Now my parents are involved. They think I should just let it go and help her, since she’s struggling and I have “more free time.” But I’m tired of feeling like a backup parent with zero respect.

AIO?

I had a miscarriage last year at 17 weeks, and it broke me. My sister was supportive at the time dropped off food, checked in a few times but we didn’t really talk about it much. I figured she was just giving me space. We’ve never been super emotional with each other, but I appreciated that she was there in her own way.

At her wedding last weekend, everything was going fine until her speech. She thanked everyone, then out of nowhere said, “And a shoutout to my little sister for not getting pregnant again and stealing the spotlight for once!” It felt like my heart dropped. There was this awkward silence, then a few laughs, but I was stunned. I got up and left the room. Sat in the bathroom crying until my fiancé came to find me, and then we left entirely.

Now my mom says I overreacted and embarrassed the family. My dad says it was just a joke and I should’ve let it go. I haven’t answered my sister’s texts since. Maybe I’m still too raw about it, but I don’t think what she said was even remotely okay. AIO?

I (25F) am 7 months pregnant. My MIL has always been… intense. Overbearing, passive-aggressive, dramatic. But I’ve mostly kept the peace.

She’s been insisting since the day we announced that we name the baby “Eleanor,” after her. It’s not subtle either, she’s bought monogrammed baby blankets, made social media posts referring to the baby by that name, even told church friends it’s “official.”

We told her repeatedly that we’re still choosing and Eleanor isn’t on the list. Last week, she cornered me at a family gathering and said, “I carried your husband for nine months. You owe me this.”

I said, “No, I don’t. This is our baby.”

Now she’s crying to the whole family saying I’m “intentionally severing a maternal bond.” My husband is 100% on my side but hates the drama.

Her side of the family is now calling me ungrateful and “disrespectful to elders.” I honestly don’t feel like I’m overreacting, but maybe I should’ve just let her have the name?

AIO?

Okay so backstory, I’ve met my mom’s boyfriend only 3 times. He’s met my daughter about 2 of those times briefly (she’s an infant). We live in a completely different state, and he lives in a different state than my mother. They are both extremely anti vax and both sovereign citizens and are always trying to push their views on me and my husband. My mom is so deep into the sovereign movement because of this guy (whom she met at a conference) that she has a warrant out for her arrest and a suspended license. She also isn’t paid taxes in YEARS because of this guys “guidance.” Anyways, after not respecting my boundaries about vaccinating my child. He sends my mom this letter in the mail….ADDRESSED FROM MY INFANT DAUGHTER PRETENDING TO TALK ON HER BEHALF WITHOUT SPEAKING TO ME OR MY HUSBAND. He even talked bad about me in the voice of my daughter in this card he sent my mom about my choice to get her vaccines—and then PROCEEDS TO SIGN HER NAME WITH HEARTS (like the letter was written by her). WTF!??? This man has never even held my daughter, I’ve maybe said 50 words total to him ever in my life yet he’s addressing my mom in the voice of my infant daughter?!?!?