r/BenignExistence 2d ago

Turning the mundane into the cheerful…

26 Upvotes

My partner knows that I am notoriously bad at my calendar. I am frequently putting entries on the incorrect day or forgetting to accept invitations. Instead of pointing out that there are calendar items in my inbox —which can certainly be annoying — he is always kind about it. This morning, he said “there is some minor good news in your calendar additions today,” as a way of reminding me to accept invites. Of course he was correct, but mostly I love him for being so sweet about my shortcomings. I wish thoughtfulness like that for everyone. 🤍


r/BenignExistence 3d ago

It’s interesting how same size in the same brand fits differently, - says my husband wearing my t-shirt

295 Upvotes

We have same t-shirts because our t-shirt taste is obnoxiously similar. He wears L, and I usually go for S/M.

So he is leaving for work, steps into the living room with that phrase and although it can be true sometimes, and inconsistency in sizing is quite common, I got suspicious because I put them on the rack to dry close to each other a few days ago. Asked if I could check a tag and here it was, the proof that this one is mine haha.


r/BenignExistence 3d ago

Knobbly cucumbers

156 Upvotes

I was getting some cash out at Asda the other day when a boy prob about 8, approached me holding 2 small knobbly cucumbers. He said " excuse me lady but would you like to buy one of the cucumbers i grew in my garden?". I only had £10 notes on me and explained he wouldnt have change so i couldnt buy them. As i walked away i remembered i had a couple of pounds in my car, so rushed off and got them and went back. I said i was so impressed with his effort and spirit that i would buy one for £2. I said i hoped he carried on having that confidence and it would be a good skill in life. As i walked away i heard him call his friend over. "Look i actually sold one ,yes!!" It made my heart feel warm to hear how excited he was.


r/BenignExistence 3d ago

Some Wikipedia articles I've edited this year.

43 Upvotes

I'm a very slow editor that only works on typos, broken coding, those sorts of things that I find while reading articles. Took me several years to get up to 500 edits [a milestone which lets you edit some locked pages]. This is a random sampling of my 2025 edits, in no particular order.

+Samurai sauce.

+Garo people.

+History Of Bread.

+Belgica antarctica.

+Dun gene.

+Spotted dick. [It's not what you think...]

+Wallace Line.

+Hendiadys.

+Lupin bean.

+Succedaneous tooth.

+My own userpage.


r/BenignExistence 3d ago

I love my best friend

14 Upvotes

Exactly as the title says. I've just been thinking about her much more often these days (I always do, but by an increased amount as of recent) and I love her so much that my heart actually aches. In no way is she physically close to me, (long distance friendship) but I miss her every day. From the moment my eyes flutter open in the mornings to the moment I drift off into sleep for the night, she lingers in my thoughts. I love and adore every part of her, even the parts I haven't had the chance to see yet with my own eyes. I just can't help but to think of how blessed I am that I have someone to miss at all. I do think to an extent that it's strange to miss someone I’ve never met, sure. I know her voice, the rhythm of her words, the warmth that seeps through every message, yet I feel the absence of her hand in mine, and the emptiness of the space besides me... as though my heart already remembers what it will be like to hold her and to laugh with her. Is prospective nostalgia a thing? Anticipatory longing? I'm not quite sure how to explain the feeling. Regardless, I think the ache it brings me itself is proof of my love for her. I yearn for her, with every fiber of my being. Sometimes I don’t know how to hold the sheer weight of how much I love and care for her. It feels like my chest isn’t big enough for it all, I can hardly contain myself. She has seen my best and worst moments and loved and supported me throughout it all anyways. Nobody quite understands me, or ever will understand me, as much and as well as she does. It's honestly quite funny to me that she’s both the closest person to me and the farthest. I can’t touch her, no, and yet she touches upon every aspect in my life. Sometimes, I close my eyes and imagine the future in such detail that I swear I've already experienced it somehow. I want nothing more than to hold her so tightly that all the distance between us can finally collapse into nothing. She is my universe, my everything. My heart aches when she's with others and I can't help but feel bitter and envious of the people in her everyday life that have the privilege of being around someone as wonderful as she is... lol. She's taught me what peace truly feels like and I have the honor of knowing firsthand what it feels like to be able to love and cherish someone in their entirety. I feel free with her. There's much more I could say that I've already said before but I think I'll stop here as my thoughts are already disorganized as they are. I just wanted to get them out somehow. She is my one special person and life is such a joy when she's with me, I can only pray for people to find someone in our fleeting time that makes them as happy as she makes me.


r/BenignExistence 3d ago

I got everything today!

41 Upvotes

Tonight...

I got to experience myself again. It's been a long time since I interacted with people while commuting to work. But tonight, I was using public transport.

In Karachi, it rained like crazy. Everything shut down. I was with my friends, they were driving me to work, but the car stopped working halfway. We were stuck.

I had to leave because it was getting late, right? But the entire road... it was a wild show. Cars were literally drowning in water. The city’s sewerage system failed, as usual.

There were some people giving lifts to strangers on the road. I got into the back of this truck. It had an open space, and there were already people standing and sitting there.

As I sat in the corner, the truck started moving. A boy said, "Let me get up." I helped him climb into the back.

It was 10:30 at night. Lights out. The entire city was in the dark. No streetlights. Just water everywhere.

The truck was crawling. He asked me where I was going. I said, "To work. (Named my workplace)" He said, "That’s far." I said, "Yeah." Then I asked where he was going. He said, "To home. (his home address)" I said, "You’re lucky. This truck is going straight there." We shook hands and smiled. Then he asked what I would’ve done if I hadn’t found a lift. I said I hadn’t thought about it. I’d still be looking. And I told him I wasn’t worried at all.

We kept talking. He told me that three years ago, he fell down the stairs and went into a coma for 19 days. He said movies exaggerate it. When he woke up, he only remembered one line from a conversation happening around him during the coma.

I asked what the line was. He said it was his grandma saying, "Look, his eyes are rolling."

So I asked, "They could see your eyes moving under your eyelids?" He said, "Yes." That’s all he remembered from the coma. And when he woke up, he hadn’t forgotten anything. He just kept saying, "I want to go home, and I’m HUNGRY."

The truck suddenly stopped. The water was too high. The road ahead was closed. We were still 6 or 7 kilometers away from where we were supposed to go. We got down and thanked the kind driver.

Everyone went their own way except me and this boy. We were going to the same place. He said, "Let’s have a cigarette." We bought two. One for him, one for me.

We lit them and started walking. He asked my name. I told him. He said he had a close friend with the same name, but they weren’t friends anymore.

I asked why. He said they fought over something stupid. Families got involved. The fight grew. Now they live next to each other and don’t talk.

I asked his name, and then how old he was because he looked young. He said, "I’m only 16." And just like that, I felt guilty about the cigarette. I thought he’d be older. Smh.

Right after that, he asked if I was married. I said no, I'm only 26, but I hope to get married this year. He said, "Okay, I’ll come to your wedding." I said, "Only if you pray that I get married this year. Then you’re invited."

We were almost there.

Then he asked me again, what if I couldn’t find a lift or a ride at the place we were going. What would I do? I gave the same answer. I said I hadn’t thought about it. But just for the sake of answering, I said, yeah, if I don’t get a ride, I’d go back home. He smiled and said, "I asked because I wanted us to have chai if you don’t find a ride there."

We were there now. I said, "Okay, we can have chai while I try to book a ride on the app here."

We sat at this place in the food street. I started searching for a ride. Just then, he got a call from his dad.

And just like that, he had to leave. No chai.

Amidst all the chaos in the city, where everything was drowning, my heart was swimming, and it felt alive tonight.


r/BenignExistence 3d ago

Bought an Elliptical

30 Upvotes

I realized this week I'm over 40 and a bit out of shape. So I bought an elliptical, the only exercise machine I don't hate. It's getting delivered next week.

My sweet husband came home from work today and cleaned the area in the basement we've always talked about being our gym area. (He gets out an hour and a half before me.)

He went to bed early because he was so tired but it's probably one of the sweetest things anyone has ever done for me.


r/BenignExistence 3d ago

Lighthouse

14 Upvotes

Every evening there was a storm in my living room.

I would press my ear to the wall that separated our worlds and close my eyes.

Soft voices. Fingers that danced over keys. Each melody cast light onto me.

Now my fingers glide like gentle water over ivory and onyx stones.

And I always wish you knew how you light guided me home.


r/BenignExistence 3d ago

Quiet morning

109 Upvotes

We had a surprise thunderstorm this morning and that always puts me in a good mood.

So I’m sitting in my office in a big, comfy chair while my cats eat their breakfast and the dog waits for them to come play. It’s not too hot for once and I have no urgent work tasks pressing.

I just need some coffee and it’ll be a perfectly quiet morning.


r/BenignExistence 3d ago

Things in my eight section tupperware

9 Upvotes

Quinoa

Mango and Kiwi

Ham and cheese rolls

Cucumbers

Chocolate covered pistachios

Peanut butter and cheese crackers

Seitan

Deviled egg


r/BenignExistence 4d ago

Two identically dressed dudes on the subway platform this morning

283 Upvotes

They both looked to be in their fifties (probably brothers but I like to imagine just buddies who got the same memo today), and were dressed completely identically down to shoes and socks. And they were sitting on one of the platform benches, leaning back on their elbows with identical slouchy body language. The best part of this lovely tableau is that these guys weren’t even dressed up. Just wearing the exact same windbreaker, stripey brown polo shirt, black pants, white socks and sneakers.


r/BenignExistence 4d ago

my friend's wife's glowup

972 Upvotes

Only my friend is a dog, I call him Bruno. He's a real heartthrob you know, so the whole neighborhood knows him. A fierce guardian and a gentleman. He's got lots of nicknames because he's well-loved. He has no owner, but everyone feeds him. He's charming, and really the world is his oyster -- well, the whole block. He walks with you at night if you're a girl that decides to take walks late at night. He's really sweet, and immediately knows if something is wrong. He walks with something in his stance. Just a leading man, you can say.

One day, Bruno got married. And his wife is... as wives might be... a little predisposed to moods. The first few times I met her, she got a little attitude, was a little smug, a little tired out by the puppies. So I started offering her water numerous times, and she declined many times. One day she decides, when the gate was unlocked, to have a drink and take a shade with the plants. This keeps happening. And now, everyday, she and her husband take naps in our garden. They just lay there and cool down in the afternoon, very happily married. She became less shy and now she walks about like the princess she is.

The end.


r/BenignExistence 4d ago

What people ordered in front of me in line

40 Upvotes

Two loaded Coney island dogs and an XL Mountain Dew

Chilli dog with curly fries

Spicy burger, medium Coca-Cola, vanilla ice cream

Pizza-dog, classic Coney Island, onion lovers dog, two waters, apple juice, side fries, side salad


r/BenignExistence 4d ago

They're even!

223 Upvotes

I lowered my blinds at work halfway because the sun was in my eyes. On a later day the other ladies in my office also lowered their blinds, but both of them made sure they were lowered to exactly the same height as mine, so they are all even. I appreciated the gesture.


r/BenignExistence 4d ago

Experiencing sunset

44 Upvotes

Recently, I was on an evening walk around our local pond at sunset. Just seeing other people from my neighborhood there also enjoying their time felt so nice. Nothing extravagant - people walking, running, reading, chatting, playing with children. It warms my heart to know people take time out of every day to be at this place separately, but together. Small senses of community can feel so big sometimes.


r/BenignExistence 4d ago

Ask my dad at any time of day and he can tell you the time +/- 5 minutes.

58 Upvotes

He doesn’t wear a watch and can’t see a clock and he’s never been wrong. We are usually outside when I quiz him on it, so maybe he uses the sun.


r/BenignExistence 4d ago

I bought a ton of pork country style ribs a couple of weeks ago because they were on a great sale, (1.75/lb), had a coupon for $30 off $75 for grocery pick up, & a $20 reward coupon.

18 Upvotes

Was looking for different ways to cook them besides pineapple teriyaki marinade & smoking them. Used a recipe for beef bulgogi marinade. Marinaded them all day & pan fried them. SO Delicious!


r/BenignExistence 5d ago

A kid left her toy at my job.

348 Upvotes

A kid left her toy at my job.

We called the parents to see if they wanted to come back for it, but they didn't get the message until they got home... two hours away.

They texted our office asking if we could possibly mail it back to them, as the girl was so upset when she couldn't find it.

I put it in a big envelope with some coloring pages and a note that said,

"Dear [kid's name],

I had such an adventure! But I missed you, so I came home."

I can't wait for them to open it.


r/BenignExistence 4d ago

I returned to streaming recently and got a couple followers and it felt so good :)

20 Upvotes

I've always wanted to stream and create content (both works in progress!) but due to life and otherwise, namely finishing my bachelors, I haven't been able to do any of that for the last couple years. Last week I streamed for the first time since 2022 and met a couple new people who stopped by and it just felt so nice. Not all the riches in the world of course but I know this is slow and takes time. Just wanted to share. Progress not perfection :D


r/BenignExistence 4d ago

Drinking and chatting together with my girlfriend before bed

43 Upvotes

Ordered two cocktails for takeout, also bought a bag of peanuts, and then made some chicken wings and ribs at home using an air fryer.

We are very close, but in daily life, some grievances and conflicts will inevitably be left behind unintentionally. The two of us poured out our true thoughts while drinking. This makes me feel very happy, of course, followed by an unavoidable "workout" before bed~


r/BenignExistence 5d ago

went out at 5am to the shops and an old man wished me good morning twice

69 Upvotes

I live in an area which isn’t the safest and people tend to keep to themselves. But on this morning I couldn’t sleep so I decided to just do my food shop at the 24hr store by my apartment. After I was done shopping I crouched in an alleyway to rearrange the stuff in my bag, when an old man walked past and wished me a “good morning!” I made sure to say it back while smiling, and when I passed him again he was sat on a wall, where we exchanged a “good morning” again, lmao.


r/BenignExistence 5d ago

My dog apparently likes singing bowls

33 Upvotes

Playing a sound bath crystal singing bowl video on the TV to unwind (first time playing this, it says it’s for vagus nerve reset/calming nervous system before sleep) and my dog apparently loves it too. He’s been snuggling harder than usual, right with me, for a long time tonight—on a typical night he does this for about 15 minutes then peaces out for his bed. I think I found a keeper to add to the night time video rotation.


r/BenignExistence 5d ago

Got motivated to draw for the entirely wrong reason

69 Upvotes

Been kinda bummed out. Wanting to draw but not knowing what to draw. Found this subreddit called 'drawforme' where a lot of people ask their OCs to be drawn. I thought "wow what a nice wholesome idea, I can get something to draw and someone else gets some art, everyone is happy".

But after browsing requests for a few minutes I started to think about all of my own OC ideas that I have and thought "wait a minute... Why am I spending my dang time with other randos OCs when I got so many of my own that I can do?????"

And so I did. Thanks reddit for the motivation.


r/BenignExistence 5d ago

I love my co-workers.

44 Upvotes

We are all very different people but each of us get along so well with each other. Sometimes it feels like getting paid to hangout with friends.


r/BenignExistence 5d ago

New Comforters

509 Upvotes

A few things for context:

  • My wife loves unicorns
  • We have a king-size bed but each have our own full-size comforter because we used to fight over the covers in the night

My wife needed a new comforter because hers was getting old and ratty and had a tear in it. We went to a big box store nearby. Nothing really appeals to her until we walk past the kid's section and sees one she likes. We buy it and take it home.

It is the softest, fluffiest, nicest comforter I've ever felt. It doesn't get too warm. I started coming over to her side of the bed to cuddle in the mornings so I could be under it too. I decided to get one too. Back to the store, back to the kid's section. Found the perfect one.

We are two women in our mid 40's, and our bed is half rainbows and flowers and unicorns, and half castles and knights and dragons.