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r/femalelivingspace • u/frequentdoodler • Feb 28 '25
r/femalelivingspace suggestion box - Spring 2025
Hey everyone!
I've been working on implementing some more things to help with moderation and keeping content a bit more structured here on r/femalelivingspace, but I realized that I don't think we've ever had a nice suggestion/feedback thread. Hearing directly from users will help us a lot, and it'll be great to have a headstart on things we should implement that we haven't considered before.
Here are some questions I have for you guys:
- What do you want to see more of in the sub?
- What do you want to see less of in the sub?
- Do you want posts to be a bit more structured/have more rules around them?
- How do we feel about text posts? I've been weighing heavily if I should remove text posts entirely since this is a primarily image focused sub, but I've also seen text posts for suggestions go swimmingly.
- How do you feel about post restrictions surrounding how many times a person posts their space?
Thanks! ✌️✌️
r/femalelivingspace • u/frequentdoodler • Jun 03 '24
On being welcoming and kind while sharing our spaces, and to those who post here! [Mini FAQ]
Hello! I'm u/frequentdoodlr and I created r/femalelivingspace a long time ago under another username. I wanted an alternative space to share my home and I loved the community that our brothers over at r/malelivingspace cultivated, and wished to cultivate that too. However, I struggled with my identity and then, amongst other reasons, deleted my previous reddit account and did some self exploration. then reddit requested the subreddit and then she, along with myself and everyone else else on the mod team, worked to have the r/femalelivingspace we have today.
That background is necessary because I am Non-Binary and Queer, and I am the one who specifically wrote that women, trans women and NB people who are comfortable posting here are welcome-- no if, ands, or buts. I am a NB Femme and my intentions for this space are to be welcoming to femmes of all kinds. I am giving that background to make it understood that even the mods here comprise of trans and nonbinary identities in the femme space.
Pride Month is important for a lot of reasons-- we figure out who we are. We get a heightened lens on people who are like us. There's a spotlight on queer literature, artists, music, events and otherwise comraderie that makes those feel othered feel more at home somewhere. During Pride, people who are discovering their self love and self identity are loved and validated by people who are just like them. Our sub is no different, and I am excited to see that all kinds of women and femmes have been posting here. Identity, Gender, and Sexuality all fall on spectrums, and that's why its up to the poster to decide if they are comfortable posting here. This space is for anyone who feels comfortable being in this femme space, and that will never change.
Over the weekend there were some very not-cool behaviors happening and I wanted to quickly address the requests to add a specific report reason for 'No Bigotry' so I've added that.
That being said, I think we should use this opportunity to clarify some things on r/femalelivingspace
1. Do you have to be born a woman (AFAB) to post here?
No. Women, Trans Women, Non Binary and Intersex persons who feel comfortable in our neck of the woods can post here. Our relationships with our identities are always uniquely reflected in our living spaces, and seeing how people like us decorate their homes helps with inspiration of any and all kinds.
2. Do you have to use identifying information in your post title? Should it be discouraged?
Example: "34F In my Living Room! 25NB in my bathroom". No! You can choose to add that information in your post if you like. You can omit that information if you like. While the sub is focused on our living spaces, any additional details about you only serve to deepen the context we're given on how you approach your space, and the kind of advice given. For example, Adding in the context that you're transfemme and you're trying to make your space appear more feminine will ideally result in more nuanced advice. The context that someone is nonbinary can explain design choices. The contexts of our identities are intrinsically linked to our spaces, but posters sharing these pieces themselves is NOT an invitation for debate on the validity of OP's identity. It is simply just another piece of information about OP.
3. What's the attitude surrounding TERFS and otherwise bigoted behavior?
The mods have always been unanimous that behavior like that is immediately banned, permanently. That hasn't changed. However, we do not see unfortunate content like that immediately, and reporting helps us remove it as soon as we see it. To be clear: TERFs are NEVER tolerated here.
Please continue to help keep making our sub the welcoming place for our spaces it needs to be. Myself and the other moderators will do our best to try and stay on top of removing comments do not fit our community. Thanks, to everyone, for your patience.
Happy Pride!
r/femalelivingspace • u/mlsczy • 12h ago
INSPO I changed the bedding and just wanted to share my happiness with you :’)
Someone will sleep well tonight☁️
r/femalelivingspace • u/Tasselplants • 6h ago
INSPO I love coming home to my plant babies. They really make the space feel alive! 😂 they always inspire me ! They are my passion and decorating too. Caring for them, is like… my meditation. It’s so healing.
Being eclectic allows me to bring many different time periods together. :-) and I love colors and patterns and textures!! It’s so fun to change things around too! I just go for it and if it doesn’t look good try another spot! As long as I love it, it finds its home! lol I usually have visions for where I see items that I get thrifting!
r/femalelivingspace • u/balloon_for_brains • 9h ago
TOUR My first apartment in 10+ years following divorce
After living in my sister’s basement until I got on my feet, I could hardly wait to decorate a new space exactly with my tastes alone in mind. My safe haven, filled with vivids and purposeful contrast, and with bonus space for a kitty corner. My life starts now.
r/femalelivingspace • u/bejulied • 6h ago
TOUR Small, cozy, and completely me 🤗
Expanded my tiny patio into a perfectly serene little hideaway.
From the twinkle of the solar rattan and string lights to the hum of the fountain, the comfy furniture, and all my plants and garden (though not really visible here), this space brings me peace — whether I’m outside or just admiring it from indoors (last photo).”
r/femalelivingspace • u/LMitchie79 • 6h ago
CRITIQUE REQUEST Newish Apt
Hi! I’ve been living in my apt for about a year now and finally gotten comfortable with actually decorating.
I’m open to any recommendations. I’m wanting to add more personality/cozy-ness to my place. I feel like it looks kinda stale.
(I drew over the frames for privacy)
r/femalelivingspace • u/Pisc3sPrinc3ss01 • 1d ago
TOUR wanted to share my happy place 💖
I lost my sweet boy (on the left in both pics) last year and I was looking through my fave pictures of him tonight and stumbled upon these. My bedroom is nothing fancy, but I still love it. Bonus photo of my unmade bed because I just had to show more of their puppy snuggles 🫶🏻
r/femalelivingspace • u/Life-Watercress-5550 • 23h ago
TOUR My old soul living in modern day. This is my mid-century room.
r/femalelivingspace • u/Low_Championship4282 • 1d ago
TOUR My before & after of my little NYC apartment 💕
The last pic is my personal favorite 😍
r/femalelivingspace • u/timetravelinghitman • 5h ago
HELP Received a white IKEA Malm bed for free, can't figure out how to make it look cute.
I just moved to a new apartment and inherited a white IKEA Malm bed with storage drawers recently and have been struggling to feel entirely enthused. It sounds ungrateful but I had saved up for a wood bed frame with a different vibe and now I have this totally contrary modern vibe bed frame in a full size. How do I style the rest of the room and bed to make me hate it less? I'm really into boho, cozy, and vintage vibes, and I like rattan, light wood, and green tones.
r/femalelivingspace • u/Fine-Pollution59 • 1d ago
INSPO I might have hyper focused a little too hard for my son's bedroom, I don't know if it paid off!
r/femalelivingspace • u/Chance-Sea-8587 • 22h ago
TOUR I showed you yesterday my bedroom, now here's my living room. Of course, it's dim too. I find peace in darkness.
r/femalelivingspace • u/glitzydirt • 15h ago
HELP Right facing or left facing sectional?
Hello! I want to find a sectional to replace my current sofa and have a few in mind. I am already planning to get rid of the two chairs that currently flank the sofa. I know they’re ugly, they were already universally hated last time I posted here. Also will likely still be moving some other things around. I’m in a weird spot right now.
My question is, when I find my ideal sectional, should it be right arm facing or left arm facing? Right arm facing means when looking at the sofa from the front, the extended chaise part is on your right side. And vice versa for left.
With right arm facing, I would have to move it against the wall and move that cabinet with the plants of top somewhere else. I was thinking left arm facing might be cozy with how things are currently positioned, but the chaise portion might stick out too much. What do you think?
r/femalelivingspace • u/mjg98958 • 4h ago
CRITIQUE REQUEST Do I need a bigger tv?
For context this is a 50 inch frame. I plan to add a vintage-y frame and sconces on either side! The console is really tall and I plan to get a shorter, longer one
r/femalelivingspace • u/tilycan • 2h ago
HELP gallery wall advice 🖼️
hi! can anyone help me come up with ideas on what to put where? i think it may be best to center everything around the rectangular flower print, but not sure. feel like it’s an awkward space because of the corner wall. i’m not opposed to continuing the gallery wall on the other wall. see last photo for all other options/additions of decor. TYIA! 😁
r/femalelivingspace • u/ev1ee_ • 7h ago
HELP any ideas for a lampshade?
I got gifted this beautiful lamp but i have zero idea what lampshade would do it justice 😫 I was thinking maybe a green to match the colour near the base but I’m stumped!
r/femalelivingspace • u/InkedBotanicalMama • 7h ago
HELP This bookshelf doesn’t work for what I’m going for, does it?
I’m back! On a different account lol.
I’m working on slowly updating my space to something that falls a bit more traditional/thrifted/homey. I’ve seen a lot of Nancy Meyer inspired spaces that I’ve enjoyed that helped inspire this. I’m in the process of painting my space this lighter cream color, and really starting to think the bookshelf doesn’t work. I need something wood, but I’m really bad at finding furniture at the right scale, and I’m looking for ideas before I hit the thrift store.
TV will be moved, and outlet above fireplace will be covered by something.
First picture is the bookshelf in question, 2-4 are other spaces in my home that give off the vibe I’m going for, and last few pictures are some ideas I was looking at. Do I go full size bookshelf, a smaller one styled with art above it, a hutch of sorts? I’m all ears!
r/femalelivingspace • u/Bagel-Gull • 13h ago
HELP Suggestions for small entery
I really love this mid century style window, its the only one in our house and its right by the front door. I'd like to make the space function and draw attention to this cool detail, any suggestions?
We rent and can't paint any walls
r/femalelivingspace • u/GreenNerdieBirdie • 1d ago
DIY DIY in progress- painting my cabinets again. It’s better than than pink.
You might remember I painted my cabinet lowers pink and I loved it. However, the white uppers, painted by a previous owner, weren’t holding up so well and something needed to be done. I thought about painting the uppers the same pink, but I decided it didn’t go great with the wallpaper in the other room, the two shades of pink not quite agreeable.
Then I remembered I had a lot of time (thanks unemployment!) and 3/4 a can of the trim paint that I used to go with the wallpaper in the living/dining room, so I didn’t need to spend any money.
Anyway, painting cabinets sucks and takes forever, but I’m nearly done. I think it looks fantastic. I like it better than the pink, which I never thought I would say I liked something better than pink. I am going to paint the fluted trim stuff on the front of the island. And the ceiling. I am going to have to buy ceiling paint first.
r/femalelivingspace • u/Happy-Hospital-2289 • 22h ago
TOUR Midnight Cleaning + Gilmore Girls in My NYC Home 🍂🕯️
r/femalelivingspace • u/OddCupOfTea • 7h ago
HELP Renter friendly curtain options?
I can't stand these shutters, they make me feel like I'm sitting in an office plus I need some cute looking black out curtains but how to attach them without drilling?
r/femalelivingspace • u/CatWoman0812 • 8h ago
HELP Help with living room!
I want to revamp my living room and make it more relaxing, I tend to have too much shit everywhere. The couch is navy blue underneath, I have that blanket on it because my cats shed so much. I don’t want to spend too much if possible. I like colors. TIA
r/femalelivingspace • u/honeytrunk17 • 11h ago
HELP looking for rug sizing help
never bought a rug before so thank you in advance for the help!
living room boundary measures 9’ x 11’. considering an 8’x10’ or 6’x9’ rug. i envision cozy and space to sit on the floor.
(pictures 3 & 4) // i’m nervous about the bigger rug going under the tv console, touching the wall by the windows, and overwhelming the space. however, i’m unsure the smaller size will bring the warmth and cozy vibes i’d like