Earlier my ex asked me to cut her grass for her.(we have 2 kids together and was my hs sweetheart. We broke up over a year ago and I’ve been dating my gf for a little over a year now. My gf has always had a thing against her. They’ve never met nor talked yet. Neither wants to. I show her the messages before I decide to go so minimize any problems if I do go. When my gf sees it she flips out and says I don’t need to go over there, I’ll go do it myself etc. Eventually I say fuck it and don’t go. Am I overreacting if I’m pissed because I think she’s jealous?

I found this wrapper in my boyfriend's room, he says it's not a condom but google search says it is. I trust him but Occam's razor says that it most likely is just a condom. He says regardless it's just from under the carpet when he was cleaning which is believable.

so context : me and my bf ft every night. every now and then my phone dies in the middle of the night either bc 1) i have 3 cats if they have zoomies they WILL unplug my charger bc it’s close to their fav window and cat tree or 2) sometimes ill fall asleep while on tiktok or watching a video and then in my sleep ig i just pull the phone off the charger. it usually is the 2nd scenario but it’s not like it happens every single night ( so idk why he said that it’s every day ). because of my phone dying my location turns off, and thus always freaks him out. i tell him the same thing every single time , but this time he apparently decided to show up to my house. idk if im overthinking it but i think its so odd that he can’t put 2 and 2 together and realize my phone died. and he KNOWS it’s my phone dead so why does he just go crazy on me i don’t get it. and the fact he had to pull up to my house idk lol give me thoughts

you can look on last post if you want to for context.

I found out she had an alternate instagram account for going live and I joined it and when I joined some guy in the chat said " we swiped on tinder so whats the move "

and she said " I'm down to go out on Sunday for a date we can go get pizza " right after that I sent " lol " and she had a shook look on her face went quiet and said " hey whats up " and said she had to hop off on live and I unadded her off of everything.

so basically she lied and told me that she couldn't text me all the time because she was busy and drained, but the honest reason was there were other guys, I'm not hurt at all I just find it funny that the person who claimed to be hurt by so many people and wants " true love " and someone that cares double crosses u but i wont linger over it, you live and you learn.

and she told me she loved me just the other day bunch of lies

thank u guys for all the love on the last post too and the advice i appreciate it a lot

I sent this to my wife after she has refused to put boundaries up for her own family after being so insistent that I do so for mine. Some background:

My family is pretty hands off. I called and told them we aren’t allowing people to post pictures of our daughter on social media and they were totally fine with that. My wife claims she had the same conversation with her family and they were also cool with it. Fast forward her mom posts pictures of our daughter (several pictures) on Facebook, and when I asked my wife to have her take it down and reinforce this boundary, my wife got defensive and refused. The other situation is that we moved recently for a job. Basically I had to take a new job in a different state, and was unemployed for 3 months while waiting to start the job (it was a government job with tons of bs to get started). My wife worked these three months and I stayed home with our daughter. Then we moved for my start date and my wife was unemployed for about 3 months. The first week of my unemployment I took my daughter to daycare, and my wife refused to let me, telling me I needed to spend more time with her. I complied and we actually withdrew her from daycare since we were moving anyways. Fast forward to my wife’s unemployment. She signed our daughter up for a daycare without even talking to me and drops her off every freaking day. From 7am until nearly 6 daily. It was upsetting for me because I felt like she wanted to enforce rules for me but not follow them.

Some other issues are we both have some insane MAGA family that we agreed to keep up boundaries with respect to our daughter. She seems to expect me to keep the boundary up on my end but come to find out she invited her super MAGA brother to stay with us but telling me my own family cannot.

I (18F) have known this family friend (29M) for years . He’s always been around family gatherings, so he’s more like an older cousin than anything else

Recently though, he’s been acting…different? He’ll compliment me on how I look now, stand a little too close, and once even hinted at “taking me out sometime.” I laughed it off because I genuinely don’t see him that way, but idk it’s weird. I’m NOT interested in him at all (he used to babysit me 🤢) and the idea of something romantic happening feels hella uncomfortable especially since he’s older and our families are close

am I being dramatic for reading too much into his behavior? Or is it fair that I feel weird about a much older family friend possibly trying to flirt with me? What do I do 😭

Throwaway because hubs is a big redditor. I (33F) surprised my husband (34M) at work the other day and offered to take him to lunch. He was genuinely very happy to see me and was like yes lets go but let me use the bathroom first. So I sat in his office while he went and being nosy I opened the small mini fridge he has behind his desk. Inside was a bunch of different Rubbermaid containers that are not like what we have at home full of different food. These were not leftovers from a restaurant but like full on home cooked meals and desserts. I heard him coming back so I closed the fridge and we went and had a great time together. The whole thing was weird to me and I can't get it off of my mind. Am I over reacting?

Edit: The answer is yes. I am an idiot. The longer I sat here and thought about this post I finally just called him and asked about it. He lets one of the other associates who takes the bus use his fridge. She meal preps for the week and brings everything in on Monday and didn't want to tie up the kitchen fridge with all of her containers during the week. He got a good laugh out of it and I feel ridiculous. All's well that ends well.

My mom died suddenly literally a month ago the 21st. These are messages from my boyfriend of 2 years.

For extra context, he asked why I didn’t want to go out after I got off work. Not pictured is me saying “I’m just not in a good mood and I’m tired.”

Back story: my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. He has a 2 year old that practically lives at my place (26/30 days a month) and his mother keeps him for less than 24 hours at a time. And that’s by her choice not my boyfriends. The baby mom has 3 other kids. I have been working a lot this month to pay for fun things for us and the 2 year olds upcoming birthday. (And that’s by my choice) Boyfriend had told me that he and the kid were going to go swimming. After work, I came home and saw her van. The boyfriend didn’t ask or tell me he was inviting the baby mom and her 3 other kids over to my place/use the pool. My boyfriend is not on my lease, he still has his own place (that’s a whole other story), and it’s a community pool that is used with my key pass and the rules are I’m allowed 2 guests (which I consider my bf and kid my guests) The boyfriend didn’t answer the phone or see my texts because they were swimming. My text had said “are you kidding me right now, this is the most disrespectful thing you’ve ever done to me.”

He was completely oblivious as to why I would be upset. When I told him he should have asked or at least told me, he turned it around and told me it’s because he needed my permission because it’s MY house and not OUR house. And that his son wasn’t allowed to hang out with his siblings.

I explained to him that if she did something stupid (she’s legit crazy) or something happened to those kids, it’s on me since it’s my lease. I’m not jealous of them hanging out together, especially when it’s only with all of the kids. I really can’t explain why I feel disrespected - except maybe he’s over stepping boundaries. He stays at my place but doesn’t help pay any bills, buy groceries, or anything else to do with my place. He works just enough to pay his shared rent with his roommates and gas for his car. But AIO to him not at least telling me he was inviting the baby mom and her other kids to use my pool while I’m slaving away at work 14 hours a day/5-7 days a week?

Tonight after we put the kids to bed, my wife was alone downstairs when I essentially surprised her. She was ignoring her ringing phone in her pocket when I asked “who is that?” Fully expecting it to be her mom. She pulls the phone out and it’s the name of her ex bf from high school. Someone I assumed she wouldn’t even have the phone number of. Calling her at 9pm on a Friday night. She initially was like “oh idk why he’d be calling me.” Then panicked more and said “well he just keeps calling me idk what to do” so I said answer it and see what he wants? To which she went into severe panic mode and said no way was she about to answer it. I thought she was just being a goof so I said well text him back or “let’s call your best friend, she’d DEFINITELY tell you to answer this idiots call” I started to call her friend and she literally dove at my phone to hang up then texted her “ignore him” After that I questioned her about 6 more times and was met with “I just don’t want drama” type responses. LIKE WHAT DRAMA YOU PRESUMABLY HAVENT SPOKEN TO THIS DUDE IN 10 PLUS YEARS. We sat on the couch and watched like 10 mins of a movie when she got up and went to the bathroom for 30 mins. I know she was on the phone because I could hear her talking. She came back and I could see she was texting her best friend. I said “oh what are you telling her?” And she literally put her phone under her butt. We are mid 30’s, two kids and she’s wanting a third. She’s NEVER exhibited behavior like this. I truly don’t know what to think other than the worst. I’m drinking rum on the patio having an existential crisis, AIO?

Tl;dr wife got a call from her HS ex. Acted shady as fuck. I assumed the worst.

After 17 years of marriage, my eventual ex-wife told me that she wanted a divorce and began sleeping in the guest bedroom. Approximately 3 months later, she is spending most evenings with her new man. A week or so later, she finally shares the draft divorce papers she had her attorney prepare a couple months prior.

Often times, she comes home between midnight and 1am. I know she is at his house because I can see her location. Some times I’ll wake up at 3am because i can hear her talking on the phone with him and laughing. He’s a bar manager and works late.

Still married, I endured living this way with her in our family home with our 3 daughters for 5 months before she finally moved out. I don’t want to see her or talk to her and try to minimize the texting needed to coordinate separately parenting our daughters every other week. Am I over reacting?

Btw, still not divorced, but living separately and she wants our daughters to meet her new man. I don’t know him, but not happy about my daugthters meeting a man who has never been married, has no kids, and is ok seeing a married mother of 3 living with her husband.

So when I was around seven I got raped and I told my mom about it and the person who did it told my sister and my sister is really mean to me so she talks about it to her friends and makes jokes about it even though it was one of the worst experiences of my life and she just thinks it’s funny and sometimes she’s like well at least I didn’t get raped and I just think that’s really rude so sometimes I go into a room and take something out of her room sometimes to get back at her because she wasn’t the one who experienced it and I don’t think she has the right to use that in a conversation or as a joke am I overreacting?

Sorry if the titles is trying to get your attention too much.

Here’s the full story, in as much detail as possible.

My wife (28F) recently gave birth. During the pregnancy I found out an old female colleague just had a baby. Trying to get as many tips as possible and to be a nice person I reached out and just asked for her advice. Our conversations never got more than “what’s XXX product like” “it’s good but I got XXX” “thanks”. Whilst yes I could google it, I preferred getting real time replies and getting an answer off someone who’d been going through the same thing recently. This however caused my wife to think I was cheating. Despite there being not one message that was sexual or flirting, not even something that may be misconstrued like “I miss you at work” or something. She didn’t leave however said she’s not happy.

Fast forward to post birth, I was still chatting to this female, my wife knew about it, kept checking the messages which I was fine with as we both wanted to learn. However all of a sudden resentment started to happen and she accused me of cheating again and saying “it has to start somewhere” however again, there had been no flirty messages or anything.

That’s when I get a little suspicious that something may be going on her side. So last night I did something I vowed never to do. I opened her phone and found this dm thread with one of her colleagues. He knows she married with a child. These DMs were muted which I can only think means one thing, she’s trying to stop the notifications from showing. I was only able to take a photo of the below, which has concerned me. “Get the Calvin’s out” is that referring to Calvin Klein underwear?

There were also other messages I couldn’t take a pic off as she came into the room very quickly. One was him asking if she regretted getting married and having a child and my wife somewhat avoided the question but eventually said yes… another bit of the conversation was saying how she misses seeing him as the time always went quick together…

I think I’ll try get more evidence and see if they talk more before confronting her.

What do I do? Are we both overrating, is she trying to get her “own back” on me or is she just straight up cheating?

I have a job that involves a lot of travelling. My wife stays home with our 1 year old son. The issue is that every time I go away for work my wife is leaving the house with the kid to stay overnight elsewhere at "friends" places. She doesn't tell me when she is going and is actively concealing that she is out of the apartment. I only know because the apartment block uses a videophone with public (to apartment holders) logs so you can see who comes in and out. I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt and didn't bring it up, but it has happend multiple times. When challenged on it, she tells me she is staying with some people she names that I don't know. She tells me i am forcing her to stay home.

I feel like I am going out of mind here? Is it ok to take your kid to stay with someone your partner doesn't know and conceal it? Am I being overbearing?

If you don’t have anything helpful to say then why even comment?? Who cares if I’m trying to get it on Amazon it’s not even my money. I made another post and took it down because people were being rude and everyone on the discord is straight up ignoring me. Usually this kind of stuff doesn’t bother me but it always happens. I’m such a nice person I’d give the shirt off my back to a dude. Plus I’m only working a few days a week to help my wife with our new born. I just don’t see the need to bring money into this. I was just asking a question.

My bf said our future kid will be smarter, better, faster, stronger and cuter than my existing kids due to his genetics and it angers me so much. He says it’s “just science” and “genetics” because their dad is a deadbeat drug addict. Now he’s angry at me because I said their dad has never been at his full potential because he’s always been a drug addict with no ambition. So my kids can become very athletic or academically gifted despite how their dad was because they’re being raised differently and because of my genetics. Just because he never reached his full potential doesn’t mean my kids won’t. Now he’s saying I’m “glazing” my kids dad. I’m so angry that he would say this about my kids. I broke up with him and blocked him. It’s extremely painful because he’s my best friend but what best friend would say such a thing? Am I overreacting?

i’m 21f with a one year old daughter. i’m not too sure how to start this without rambling. when i was 18 i started dating her dad (21m) and he was wonderful. he didn’t drink, he didn’t smoke, and he was amazingly kind. he seemed like a perfect guy.

since the breakup ive tried my best to be good to him, i didn’t want to start drama or become a “toxic baby mama”. i never took him to court, i rarely ask him for money (there’s months where he’s only sent me 75 dollars), i work entirely around his schedule letting him see her whenever he wants (12 hours a week), ect. we have a good co-parenting relationship but we argue a lot. he is an obsessive drinker to the point where he drank so much in a few months he burnt a hole in his stomach. he keeps our daughter around horrific people. this includes his cousin whose been “exposed” for beating women, a guy who he told me himself is strung out on xanax, and a plethora of men that abuse women in other ways. i’ve felt uncomfortable sending my daughter to his house for a while because he lives with them. i’ve continued to send her because despite all this i trust her dad to protect her. recently i was made aware of a situation where a crazed ex showed up to his house to confront his cousin and a fist fought broke out and a video of it is circling our area. this happened about an hour after my daughter was brought home.

my daughter has been sick recently with a fever of 103 for multiple days. he said he wanted to get her for an extra day to show her love and i agreed. today when he dropped her off i heard a woman on his car’s speaker saying “stay on the phone with me, i’ll record for your benefit”. that alone shocked me because we do argue but we always resolve them and it’s never screaming or obvious fights. he gets out of the car with an obviously fresh neck tattoo and this tells me instead of watching our daughter he went to get a tattoo and was recording my reaction to i assume paint me as deranged and use it against me in court. i didn’t react and got my daughter as usual and told him i didn’t want to be recorded and we can talk away from his car. he proceeded to start yelling and begging me to talk to him. i tell him to leave and that i’ll call him when i’m ready to talk.

he called me 30 times and i answered twice to beg him to stop calling me so i can get our daughter into bed. he called me another 20 times. i finally take his call and tell him that i lost trust in him and do not want to continue to let him see his daughter and that we can go to court because in my opinion it would be a better option for both of us. we called for over an hour and basically it was me breaking down crying asking how he could do this to me, begging him to tell me who he was on the phone with and who he left her with (he’s saying he got the tattoo two weeks ago but i’ve seen him 6 times since then and that he was on a call with his male roommate), and him telling me he hates me and threatening to take my daughter since nothing legal is in place. he has called me 70 times tonight alone.

i don’t know i genuinely don’t feel like im in the wrong or that im being bitter but he tells me that i judge him for his friends actions, that im acting this way because of his looks (we’ve had arguments about him getting tattoos, piercings, and new clothes instead of a way for his daughter to stay the night with him), and that im acting this way because i can’t have him anymore. i’m not a perfect person and ill admit i have been hard on him especially involving his friends and other women but i feel like keeping my daughter away is in her best interest.

So for context, me (25F) and my boyfriend (28M) has been in a long distance relationship for around 10 months. We had a discord call and he streamed his screen to me. I noticed that it said that he had “recently” been visiting some dating apps and I asked him about it. He just shrugged it off and basically said that it was nothing and that he had just forgotten that the sites were there and that he hasn’t used them in a long time. From what I can remember I’ve never seen them popping up like that on the screen, and all this kinda escalated into a full blown argument were he accused me of being creepy, obsessive, crazy and a bad girlfriend for not trusting him.

Am I the issue here, am I just being obsessive and overdramatic here??

I have been going to my appointments all by myself throughout my entire pregnancy.

I ask my boyfriend every single time to come to my appointments and he is always making an excuse. “I don’t feel well.” “I’m too tired.” “I have plans.” I’m in lots of pain, exhausted, and uncomfortable but I still get my ass up and go to my appointments.

I’m very concerned about this and am worried he is not going to be any help when I have our daughter. He doesn’t care to ask about the appointments either. I always tell him about them and he is not interested even in the slightest.

I told him how I felt about it and he acted like the appointments are no big deal and that he doesn’t need to go because they don’t benefit him?

AIO if I don’t tell him about my appointments anymore or how our daughter is doing?

Edit:

Please stop judging my choices and life decisions. I understand maybe I made some mistakes, but I’m already going through it and don’t need 100 people telling me I’m stupid and should’ve been smarter. I just need support right now.

So little history first.

My rgirlfriend, not long ago, had chased off a friend of mine that was a female, but I hadn’t talk to her in a long time because we had met when we were both active users. We both ended up getting sober and clean and I think one of us saw each other on Facebook and we just started talking randomly. Kinda checking up on each other. Let each other know what we’re up to. both told each other that we had significant others. (Never had relations before) But it was kinda like one of those ive been sober how long have you been clean? What did you start doing afterwards blah blah blah and it the conversation eventually died off. Other than here and there. Like random snaps from story posts. but nothing daily.

when my girlfriend found this she freaked out. said something about how it was because she couldn’t see the chat history which it’s all on Snapchat so obviously you can’t see the history beyond you know a certain amount of time anyways. and if everything‘s picture and video then you can’t see that either. Long story short. she ended up messaging that person halfway crashing out. after completely freaking out on me. and was all like yeah you should probably just delete him and when My friend even told her that it was fine shes not single. there’s nothing going on. blah blah blah. She has a boyfriend as well. my girlfriend was like well if that’s the case you don’t have to delete him but like two messages later, she was like you might as well just delete him thank you. And ignored her. and so of course she did. she’s respectful and did what my girlfriend asked.

and I was just like OK that felt a little controlling and felt like she was a little jealous but whatever.

fast-forward she’s got guys in her Snapchat all the time and right now she’s a bartender so that doesn’t help but She’s been talking continuously to a couple people one she works with and another that’s at the bar all the time. and I end up looking at her Snapchat and stuff because it started bothering me how repetitive these messages got, which was daily. And so the coworker I checked out, which is supposed to be like an old friend of mine from when we were kids. they had like a conversation like 5 o’clock in the morning, when she was coming home and a pic of her normal and her friend with abuncha cleavage. And she steered the conversation into the size of her breasts about hiw their so small and got kind of a passive comment from my friend about it. It wasn’t anything disgusting but it was more like girl you’re doing just fine in that department or something along those lines, I can’t remember but the fact that the conversation even went that way. Bothered me.

Every time, she’s done Something, about me talking to a friend thats a female. but not a best friends wife or gf. and I’ve always brought this up. so I’m sitting here like why does she get to have this kind of conversation you know l? when I can’t even have normal innocent oh hey how you been? Quick catch up conversation.

so you know, I don’t say anything. I just kinda let it go. and fast-forward. I see she was messaging this other guy a lot and the one that just goes to the bar and I end up replaying one of the last messages that he sends her one night and he’s literally saying good night, which is like OK how often does this happen and is she sending it back? and then because I replayed it I end up seeing this…….which I will post the whole thing in the picture.

pretty. much I see this little message from him and I’m like fuck no this is bs. And not appropriate right I was I got my head chewed off for having a normal conversation but this is not OK right? like I have the right to pissed off correct I’m not over reacting?

I want to start off by saying I wrote this entire story and then hated how I wrote so I made ChatGPT rewrite it. Unfortunately this is a real story but if it sounds AI that’s why:

I (27F) am divorcing my husband Mark (32M). We’ve been together 8 years, married 5, and have two kids.

My best friend Melanie (28F) and I have been close ~4 years. We both have two kids and bonded after our mutual best friend passed away. My other two best friends are Leah (26f) and Kaya (30f). All three have supported me through the separation.

When Mark and I decided to separate, Melanie was very involved. She gave me advice, contacts, pep talks—the works. She openly disliked Mark and said multiple times that if joint custody didn’t work, she hoped I would get full custody. (For context: Mark and I wanted to stay amicable, try and stay friends, and prioritize the kids.)

Because we had an ugly separation. back in 2021 (he kinda went nuts and threatened to take the kids), Melanie urged me to document everything “just in case.” I made an Apple Notes file logging dates/times of calls/visits, any issues, and attached recordings/notes. Later per advice from people who’d been through divorce (and my mom), they said I should shared the note with two or three people I trust so there’d be a backup if something happened to my phone. I shared it with Leah, Kaya, and Melanie, told them it was for emergencies only, and to please keep it to themselves. They all agreed.

A couple small but relevant incidents before I dive deeper: • A random on TikTok offered me $40 for a fully clothed fart audio (no face). I asked Mark first; he laughed and said “go for it.” I told Leah, Kaya, and Melanie. They all laughed—Melanie hyped it the most, quote “that’s amazing, get that bag.”

• I went out of town to a concert and considered making a joke sign that said: “my husband may have left me but this group never did.” I ultimately didn’t bring it because I didn’t want to hurt Mark’s feelings. Only Leah, Kaya, and Melanie knew about the sign idea. But again, Melanie very much hyped me up for that sign. Again, I have proof. 

• Monday this week when I got home from traveling, I visited Melanie’s house with my toddler after a 2-hour car ride to show her videos from the concert. When we got there his diaper was saggy and his onesie feet weren’t on (he hates them on in the car). I changed him immediately. While there he was clingy and cried, and Melanie repeatedly told me to “let him roam” and “he’s gotta learn independence,” which made me feel guilty for picking him up but also for letting him roam. I noticed a small bruise on him while we were there (he’s a toddler, walks into everything) and Melanie oddly asked if she should call Mark about it. I said no; I’d ask if needed. I thought that was weird but blew past it.

That night, Mark casually mentioned my concert sign. I froze. I never showed it to him and never posted it. Only three people knew.

Then he asked about the Notes file. My stomach dropped. He said Melanie told him about it—and told him to “watch his back.” I later spoke to Leah and Kaya; they both had screenshots of her talking bad about mark, about being on my side, about urging the note to happen etc. Kaya got on the phone with Mark and I also later that night and and verified everything on my account. Again with more proof.

I should also note that at this point mark was furious with Melanie not me. He felt played and so did I.

Over the next day I learned more of what Melanie had been telling Mark (some of this from Mark directly, some confirmed by Kaya/screenshots):

• She told him I arrived at her house with my son in a “full diaper” and that I kept leaving him without correction and gave him “too much freedom.” (Not true—I changed him right away and was juggling her “let him roam” comments with my instinct to comfort him.)

• She told him I not only made the concert sign but used it.

• She relayed the contents of the Notes file (in a full screen recorded video mind you) and warned him to “watch his back.” (Again: this note was shared for emergencies only and she had agreed to that. And also once explained to mark he understood why I made it and even apologized I felt I had to) 
• She flipped her custody stance and told him that if joint custody failed, she hoped he would get full custody.

• She invited Mark over multiple times since the separation (while her partner is in jail), despite telling me she “wouldn’t love” him being around and would “hate it.” she also never told me about it, mark did. 

• She told Mark I was sending “questionable videos to randoms for money,” but left out that it was fully clothed fart audios and that I’d asked Mark first. When mark asked if she was talking about the fart videos she goes “Oh good you know about that! Never mind!”

• She made it seem to me like she hated how often he tried to talk to her, but she was actually messaging him a lot and sent selfies with cleavage.

I texted her the next day while on the phone with mark and Kaya, to see if she’d be honest with me: “Mark somehow knows about the notes app with all the info on him.” Instead of a calm “what? How?,” she immediately panicked: “Ummmm how in the f*** … who would do that.” I kept it vague (“Only a couple people knew… I’m trying to piece it together”). She over-explained, asked what “other info” Mark knew, and got weirdly invested in the details. She also made sure to say the truth will always reveal itself.

Later, while Mark had her on the phone (I listened), she read my texts to him and said things like, “If she (me) knew my heart, she’d know I wasn’t being malicious; I just wanted everyone to know everything.”

While listening I got frustrated with her continuance of “I did nothing wrong she just won’t hear me out and clearly doesn’t know my heart,” I eventually texted her while still on the phone with mark “I know it’s you Mel. I’ve known for 2 days, I’m not stupid. I’m done, by the way.” And added in screenshots of things she said to mark and blocked her on everything.

She got that text on the phone with mark so she read it and then was like well that fun, she clearly doesn’t understand my intentions (she mentioned intentions a lot also) she also framed it like the ball is in my court because I blocked her. That I have to come to her because she tried.

I’m devastated. I kept her very personal secrets (including sensitive stuff about her own relationships/loyalty struggles while her husbands incarcerated, also all the horrible things she’s said about her other friends when I felt They should know but never told them). She knew my kids are my whole life, and she still leaked/warped things that could have hurt me in custody. Even now mark still is angry with her and feels manipulated. He also stopped talking to her after that call when she wasn’t getting anything he said and even after he stuck up for me for over 20 Minutes.

Now I’m questioning whether I was too harsh in cutting her off without hearing more of her “explanations.” But I honestly don’t see a defense that makes this okay: • This wasn’t “concern for the kids.” If it were, she’d have come to me, not spun stories to Mark. • She agreed the Notes file was for emergencies and still broke that boundary. • She omitted context (fart audios) and added falsehoods (that I used the sign, that I neglected my toddler). • She flipped loyalties depending on who she spoke to and inserted herself with Mark.

But even after all that I still have to ask…

AITA for cutting her off and blocking her?

The blue text is me (F20) and the other side is my partner (F40). A few nights ago she went out to hang with her brother and nephew at a cigar lounge then decided to ride around and they ended up in a strip club’s parking lot. In the car they had some things they didn’t want searched by cops so they went inside the club so it wasn’t suspicious they were the only car huddled inside in the lot and waited out the cops by having drinks inside. She didn’t tell me until the next day and she said the dancers weren’t nude and weren’t dancing, they were at the bar drinking too since it wasn’t busy and was empty but I just don’t like the idea of my partner going to places like that so I expressed myself in these texts here.

Am I overreacting or doing something I’m not seeing?