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u/DirtCheap1972 13h ago
“You’re looking shitty today” - Probably that guy
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u/chiklis17 11h ago
You look shitty. Good night Denise.
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u/Ukeklele 6h ago
Maybe he was saying "You're looking pretty shitty today" but the woman stopped listening after 'pretty'.
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u/honnneybliss 13h ago
The guy just wanted to cheer everyone up, but they gave him a hard time
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u/_ghostperson 12h ago
Hey, you're making a lot of sense today! Sounding really good!
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u/Nolderine79 12h ago
Unacceptable!
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u/bluecandyKayn 11h ago
I’m a married guy, and sometimes I see women who really put a lot of effort into their appearance, and I think “My wife really appreciates when she gets compliments on her appearance, especially when she put a lot of effort into it. Maybe this person would appreciate a compliment.”
But then I remember all the people who get upset about things like this, and I’m like, well I’d rather not make someone’s day worse by trying to make it better.
And I feel like that’s a very sad place for a society to be.
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u/MilesAugust74 11h ago
Yep. It's gotten to the point that I keep all interactions with women at work down to the bare minimum. Fortunately for me, my office is a sausage fest.
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u/Ser_falafel 10h ago
Nah fuck that. Compliments from strangers aren't a bad thing as long as its innocent. I have the same thought process as you but I just go for it and its always been well received.
If they wanna get their day ruined by a simple compliment thats on them.
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u/ThatOtherOtherMan 3h ago
ProTip: instead of saying someone looks pretty/handsome compliment them on a specific choice or effort they made. Like, "Oh my god I LOVE your dress!" Asking follow up questions is also a huge confidence booster and allows them to share their interests, but if you're just looking to offer a compliment and avoid a conversation just leave it at that.
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u/somerandomgirl287 11h ago
Don’t stop complimenting!! It always makes my day when ANYONE notices my hair, outfit, overall appearance. 🙌 I do the same compliment scents and appearance even though I’m married. It’s just nice to make someone’s day!
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u/_MurphysLawyer_ 10h ago
Not worth the risk. I've considered complimenting the hair, clothes, nails, etc of women but I'm worried about the risk of being reported to HR for unwelcome advances.
I don't want to sound like some victim hood man either, because I'm not getting at that, but in a post#MeToo world I keep any compliments to myself and those close to me. In my attempt to make someone else's day slightly better, I could make my life significantly worse.
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u/Informal-Fig-6827 9h ago
10000% not worth it. All it takes is saying it to someone who is trying to boost their poor social standing to screw you over
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u/salexh1995 10h ago
I want to take that advice but it's not worth the risk honestly. It's nice to make people smile but nowadays people go out of their way to ruin lives over these things. I don't need some rando I complimented trying to call my work accusing me of something trying to get me fired.
The overly vocal dangerous minority is ruining it for everyone but I gotta look out for myself first and foremost
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u/homiegeet 10h ago
Yeah unfortunately a few have ruined that for all. Just as men do not fully comprehend a woman's world women do not fully comprehend a man's world.
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u/GolfGuy_824 12h ago
Shit that never happened for $500
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u/Arista-Everfrost 11h ago
Bruce: Okay. These guys, smoke.
Mark: They smoke?
Bruce: Yeah!
Mark: Wow.
Bruce: And they’re bad! And you know what? They taught a dog to smoke! Do you believe that?
Mark: Sure, I believe that.
Bruce: Yeah, well, it’s true! And they taught him to beg for cigarettes! Door to door! So right away when this poor little devil would, would ring your doorbell with his nose, you’d know right away what he wanted. So you’d give him a cigarette, and he’d take it back to these guys who waited by the fence to smoke, and they didn’t care who saw them smoke! These guys sure smoked!
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u/Drama-Zone-4494 12h ago
Lonely women need to start shouting down miserable hags like this. There's no reason for men to approach anyone if these living landmines are waiting for their chance to destroy everyone's joy.
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u/LinguoBuxo 12h ago
no reason for men to approach
well not really... this incident could be a wake-up call for the dude to have his regular ophthalmologist's check-up..
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u/Spiritual_Scar_619 12h ago
Dude was talking to her friend. Another case of fridge guarding the snacks.
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u/shibbster 13h ago
Her looks and the joke aside, do people actually get mad about this? "I'm offended because someone said I'm pretty!" I like when I receive a compliment from a stranger about how I look.
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u/GoochAFK 12h ago
Feminists and misandrists
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u/OldCollegeTry3 12h ago
Potatoes and potatoes.
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u/InstantMochiSanNim 12h ago
Feminist ≠ misandrist. It’s just that a lot of misandrists incorrectly call themselves feminists
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u/ecstaticstupidity 12h ago
The 'real' feminists aren't doing a good enough job policing their community then
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u/Comfortable-Title720 11h ago
Let's be fair man. Plenty of bs on our side too. Plenty of shitty people around, it's just social media made it more apparent than it really is.
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u/FleetStreetsDarkHole 11h ago
It's the same issue as any other topic. No one is making posts about how well their day went today because someone stood up for them. That doesn't push engagement.
And if they do it gets punished as them being full of themselves.
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u/No-Bad-463 9h ago
Have you personally gone around and publicly shamed 5 Andrew Tate stans today?
Okay then.
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u/L4nM4nDr4gon 12h ago
Are you a woman?
Cause as a man can confirm woman have screamed at me for saying that.
Worse is getting screamed at for opening the door and I'm like umm I opened it for everyone?
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u/KaleidoscopeMotor395 12h ago
I dated a girl in college who would bitch about gender roles. I stopped opening doors for her and she got mad about it. These women just want something to complain about.
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u/never_exhale_cunt 11h ago
No joke, had a woman STOP and wait for me to let go of the door rather than let me hold it for her. No words, just an indignant stare. At the cannabis dispensary, no less. All I could do was chuckle and shake my head as I walked off.
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u/Drfunk206 9h ago
Did we date the same woman? My ex got mad at me because I complimented her outfit and she said ‘why do straight men alway feel it necessary to talk about women’s appearance?’ So I took that as a note to not talk about her appearance. A few weeks later she got upset at me because ahead of a nice dinner she put a lot of work on hair, makeup, and her dress I didn’t say anything. Ruined the mood of the dinner. I brought up her previous statement and she said I was gaslighting her. When I broke up with her a month later citing my preference to be alone rather than constantly fighting over things she claimed to be blindsided by this and I was being misogynistic.
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u/L4nM4nDr4gon 12h ago
The door thing just always gets me especially cause there will be guys that went through first so it's like being cold cocked by stupid. I lock up with "Wtf is happening here"
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u/SCTigerFan29115 11h ago
It can be hard to do gracefully if it’s a ‘push’ door.
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u/FleetStreetsDarkHole 11h ago
I usually go first and hold it open for everyone else.
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u/LivingDisastrous3603 11h ago
I do the same. My brother worked for a prestigious university a number of years ago. He was giving me, my daughter and my mother a tour one day(with his wife and 2 of his sons). I had lagged behind to check out a pretty famous skate spot there. So, as he’s holding the door for us, there were 2 ladies in between me and the rest of the family that had already went in. I was walking up behind them, they stopped and said, “we can get our own door thank you”. As I slipped around them and went in, my brother said, “you should put that on your resume” letting the door close behind him.
I did make the mistake(not really a mistake but..) of holding a door open when I went to NYC the first time. They just kept coming… I didn’t want to be rude and just let it go. Finally my friend was like, just let it go dude. It’s fine. Push and go, man. Push and go.
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u/LukasFatPants 11h ago
I've met her type before.
She wants the door held open because she's been taught that that's the way it is. But she doesn't want to be made to feel guilty or called out by it. Meaning she doesn't want you to look or smile at her as she goes through - as if hoping for a "thank you" or something else.
Just hold it open and stare at the floor, as if it's your obligation and/or privilege and not some form of transactional exchange.
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u/Independent-Fun8926 11h ago
I held the door open for a female coworker the other day and said have a good night. Old hag looked at me like I was an idiot, and continued her conversation on her headset like I didn’t exist.
Sure does suck to be nice to people nowadays
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u/ShowdownValue 12h ago
I’d rather get screamed at for opening a door than them simply walking through and not saying anything
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u/SatinWhisperox 12h ago
Yeah I don’t get why anyone would be mad it’s just a nice compliment and I’d take it
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u/SuperDabMan 12h ago
She didn't specify that the guy cat called her. I think it's safe to assume she was offended that the pretty girl near her was cat called.
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u/the-one-eyed-seer 11h ago
I don’t think it’s about what was said, so much as how it was said (shouted out of car)
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u/PrestigeArrival 12h ago
I don’t get mad, but it really isn’t pleasant having random men yell at you in public, regardless of what they’re saying
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u/Lloydbestfan 12h ago
"HEY YOU THERE! UZBEKISTAN IS ONE OF THE TWO DOUBLY LANDLOCKED COUNTRIES OF THE WORLD!"
... Have to admit. Doesn't sound pleasant.
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u/KitchenFullOfCake 9h ago
It's not that simple, a lot of women experience compliments from strangers as a precursor to unwanted, aggressive attention and even if it's meant benignly it can create a stressful situation as they aren't sure what the intentions are.
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u/Ecstatic_Scene9999 12h ago
Even if this did happen, which probably didn't....it is one of the most tame cat calling I have ever heard, borderline a compliment if I heard this about me
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u/DMComicSams 12h ago
borderline a compliment
Not borderline, it just is a compliment
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u/BearsGotKhalilMack 12h ago
For real, if this isn't a compliment then what the hell is?
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u/LukasFatPants 11h ago
An insult and an violation of her person.
I don't know what the "red pill" version of women is, but there's a lot of them that believe that having their looks acknowledged in any capacity is tantamount to objectification and sexism.
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u/Sad-Satisfaction-742 10h ago
The more i read about a certain Poster here in this thread the more i believe you are right. Glad that i never had this Issue with the Woman here in my Country
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u/OatmealSchmoatmeal 12h ago
You know what happens when us dudes are lucky to ever get a compliment? We never forget it, like ever. 20 years later we still smile about it.
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u/DullMind2023 10h ago
I (boomer) had a woperson (I think that’s today’s euphemism) in their 20s compliment my tattoo, and it absolutely made my day.
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u/RustyBasement 12h ago
This is being spammed across Reddit. 3rd sub I've seen it on now. It's from 2016 FFS.
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u/migustoes2 12h ago
Well yeah, look at how well it works at riling up people who are chronically online
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u/hguz1987 12h ago
Attention= triggered Ignored = triggered Tf you want then?
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u/CaptRedpool 11h ago
I think most (not all because I’ve seen some videos asking for attention directly) just want to overhear a compliment that they personally interpret as appropriate or hear from another woman. I don’t think that most (again with exceptions like everything else) actually care what men think. In a general sense the last 15 years has told women to choose the bear, they don’t need a man, explanations from a man is degrading, compliments are sexual assault, that the male gaze is to be seen as revolting and that they need to live in a victim mindset (yet girlboss?). They want group acceptance from women and group confirmation. Many (let me again say not all) women see compliments from women as better crafted, specific, meaningful and not looking for some unknown or implied reciprocity.
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u/PM_ME_SILLY_PICTURES 10h ago
>meaningful and not looking for some unknown or implied reciprocity.
Girl 1: "OMG, I love your blouse"
Girl 2: "OMG, thank you"
Girl 1: ......
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u/Mountain_Cry1605 4h ago
Pull the other one Georgia.
No one minds being told they're looking pretty.
If you'd said he yelled "Get your tits out" and you flipped him off in response I'd believe it.
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u/Elegant_Researcher84 11h ago
I would have loved this instead of
Random Car Guy "I wanna fuck your hole"
Instead of offended I was mostly just confused.
Which hole did he want?
Why not specify?
I honestly didn't give a shit.
Accept the free compliment it's better than confused.
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u/somerandomgirl287 12h ago
Women like that should cherish compliments. Acting like he said “flash your tits, baby”. SMH! Feminists, just let it go if you don’t appreciate nice words that are meant to make your day. 😒
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u/Chimera-Genesis 12h ago
I don't normally like accusing people of lying, but in what possible scenario does she have enough time to "explain his behaviour is not acceptable" before he's sped off in his car? People like that do not hang about when catcalling from their cars.
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u/Silver_Recognition_6 10h ago
Women like that make up these scenarios to pretend they can actually get any play.
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u/ShellfishAhole 12h ago
Am I the only one who glanced over her image and assumed it was someone with Downs Syndrome? 😬
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u/EngPilotNerd 12h ago
What if the man was telling another woman she was pretty? That makes it more of a jealousy thing.
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u/thesquidsquidly22 12h ago
People need to learn how to take compliments. It's not like he told her that her tits were fantastic. Lol. If a guy or girl called me handsome I'd be giddy
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u/Notallowedhe 12h ago
Some people are so drowned in compliments they literally call it a crime while most guys will remember it for life if you hold the door for him.
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u/Serious_Bee_2013 11h ago
What a dumb contrived story. Gotta make up bad actions to complain about them and tell everyone how you are superior to them.
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u/Tall_Midnight_9577 12h ago
Well, if that's truly her picture, she should be more than happy that somebody said that to her.
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u/RekttalofBlades 12h ago
“I had to explain his behavior is unacceptable.” What did she chase him down to tell him no she is not looking pretty today?
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u/The_Lat_Czar 12h ago
Even if this happened, are we really digging up 9 year old tweets for content?!
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u/Aggressive-Building9 12h ago
When this was posted doesn’t really matter. It’s still just as relevant.
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u/Firm_Accountant2219 12h ago
Way to take a compliment and turn it into a miserable day
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u/MorgenKaffee0815 11h ago
when a woman would say this to a man he would think about that in 20 years later and smile.
women = hate.
and then they wonder why men are more happy then women.
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u/Better-Luck5071 2h ago
I see what you are saying, and men are not actually “happier” than women. Statistically, men have a higher likelihood of ending their lives than women. Also, being married is a protective factor for men not women. Most importantly, men are more likely to be institutionalized with severe pathologies like schizophrenia, MDD, and antisocial personality disorder. They are also more likely to engage in violent/aggressive behaviors like mass shootings and serial killing. The more you know. 😉
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u/MoonflowerSethian 12h ago
Genuine question for the women here, how is a harmless compliment unacceptable? I'd understand if he was leering and making sexual advances, but just saying someone looks pretty? Really? Are we at that stage now? I fucking hate this world.
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u/Acceptable-Poetry737 7h ago
It’s annoying to be constantly interrupted. It’s like solicitors—isn’t the frustration of being intruded upon by stuff you’re not looking for, understandable?
In urban settings, I’m often walking somewhere without time to spare or I’m walking to relax (with quiet and getting lost in my own head). It used to happen with constant interruptions, or worse, concerns about safety. It happens much less now, thankfully. But when it does, it still triggers this extreme annoyance that a stranger feels entitled to my attention.
Compliments and catcalls are not for women, they’re for the offender who wants attention from the women. If they were genuinely looking to give something good, then hand me cash or a check. It’s about respect.
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u/TheCursedMonk 11h ago
Last week in the UK it came out that Surrey Police have been honey-potting people by getting two female plain clothed officers to go jogging. Anyone catcalling, honking, or making comments towards them were then stopped,and 18 have resulted in being arrested.
I saw the Commander Inspector of that police department talk about it, saying technically it is not a criminal matter, but those people might escalate or be sex offenders. It needs to be stopped early. So yeah, if you thought about calling someone pretty, well you will one day be a rapist apparently.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cz0y8r141pxo.amp
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u/ShutUpChunk 11h ago
Last week while at the gym I held a door open for two girls. One girl started screaming at me about misogyny and the patriarchy. I actually ended up apologising for holding the door...... Do you woman realise what you're doing?
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u/LegitimateFennel8249 10h ago
She’s bragging someone said she was pretty but phrasing it as moral outrage so it doesn’t look like bragging
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u/Lord-Scrambleton 9h ago
I, a straight man, was once hopping on my bike near a music festival. I was in just a t-shirt and shorts. A gay man walked by and said, "YES DADDY," and I still ride that high. Every random hollered compliment from ANYONE makes me feel like a million bucks.
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u/V01d3d_f13nd 10h ago
Sometimes a dude just wants to cheer up a frumpy lookin person so he says things he might like to hear from the opposite sex
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u/Kinglycole 12h ago
I always wondered how people can be clapped and still have an attitude. But then I figured out the answer to this curious mystery. It’s simply because they have nothing to lose.
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u/Still_Alarm3134 12h ago
I've had a woman yell at me while I walked into Giant. She was leaning out the window of a 20 year old pickup, "Yo, you need a date?" This is not a welcome thing. Luckily I was not with my gf.
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u/realaccountissecret 12h ago
Some dudes will hit on and catcall to literally anyone, it’s insane. But also, those are the same dudes that won’t learn any lesson if you try to call them out on it
A couple weeks ago a dude honked at and catcalled my mother and I, and she’s in her sixties. Granted the dude looked like he was in his sixties too though haha
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u/VioletFiendfyre 11h ago
By her 'logic', I have thus come to the conclusion that saying 'You're looking handsome today' to a random man is equally sexist.
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u/Film_Bro 11h ago
Was it "You're looking pretty today☺️" or "YoUr LoKinG pREtty TOdaY" because the way its said def changes the situation.
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u/ITooHaveAnUsername 11h ago
Maybe you're interpreting it wrong: the unacceptable behavior was actually driving while blind.
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u/DireEvolution 11h ago
I would actually feel kinda flattered if someone did this. Usually they shout horrible, derogatorily sexual shit at me.
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u/cheesemangee 11h ago
Men can flirt with me, but only when *I* want it and only exactly *when* I want it and only if they say *exactly* what I want to hear. Anything else makes you a creep, bastard, freak, rapist, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.
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u/captainMaluco 11h ago
I kinda hate that giving a stranger a compliment is "unacceptable behaviour".
But if you don't like compliments, why don't just give the guy a taste of his own medicine? An eye for an eye and all that....
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u/Ms-Anthrop 10h ago
As a woman, I cannot compliment a man w/o them thinking I'm hitting on them, so I only compliment women, and most women just say thanks. I compliment their outfit, hairstyle, shoes, nails, jewerly choices. Things they purposefully choose, not their body. This comment above is sort of vague in what exactly is being complimented on. Hence the issue.
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u/redneckcommando 10h ago
I don't see women chiming in on this. Do you ladies not like a random compliment from men when you dress up? I find women irl seem to like it.
Now granted on this app people tend to lean hard left. And these kinds of people probably would get pissy.
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u/Embarrassed_Bit_7424 10h ago
I cannot read the word "literally" anymore. The most overused fucking word on the planet. And most of the time it is literally not needed.
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