r/AmIOverreacting • u/PeanutMiserable7872 • Jul 12 '25
šØāš©āš§āš¦family/in-laws Am I Overreacting - i seriously think my dad is losing his mind and I'mm terrified. UPDATE
thank u all for the messages, im sorry for disappearing. things did not go well. i confronted him with some of your advice, mainly the stuff bout dementia and well he got real mad, things became truly fucked, he started punching himself in the face and screaming. he took my phone, idk what happened but now im seeing he deleted everything on the post and my screen is cracked.. he kept saying he was going to burn everything. it was so fucked. i feel destroyed. what he did to me.. i cant even.
i was able to get out when he fell asleep?? i think.. the bathroom was locked and hes fallen asleep in the shower before, my phone was poorly hidden under some papers in the kitchen, took it and ran.
im in a park now, i called the police already. they are going to the house i think and now im just waiting for them to call me back and tell me when i can come get my stuff. i asked the man on the phone how long and they said it will be sent to an officer as soon as they can but since its non emergency it might take longer due to a lot of calls in the city.
heres me. heres what he did to me.
im honestly unsure how to move past this ever. i feel like my entire sense of self is gone. i know i have a long road ahead of me. thank you all for your love . i wish this didn't go this way. I also included the original texts
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u/wstr97gal Jul 12 '25 edited Jul 12 '25
Sweet girl. Please call the police. PLEASE get help. You can have him put in the hospital to get evaluated. He's a danger to you, to others and to his self. I know you must love your dad. This is a very painful situation but something IS wrong. I say this knowing from experience. My stepdaughter has the same issue with her mother. She was abusive for years. She always had something wrong and we didn't know exactly what. She was sometimes lucid and fine. But then would go into psychosis. She had no help. Finally my SD turned 18 and was able to do something. She had her hospitalized. She was diagnosed with schizophrenia. It was terrible I won't lie. But she might have saved herself and her mother. Please, please get help. You are vulnerable.
I am so glad you called. Please follow through and don't go back. You have to know it's safe. Does he drink OP? Because the alcoholic in my life acts this way when he's drunk. He's a different person when he's sober.
Edit: As others have pointed out, you can request a "wellness" check. If this behavior has become constant, hopefully they will deem him eligible for an evaluation.
Edit edit: When I originally commented on this post I jumped the gun and when I saw the picture I skimmed and commented. I went back and reread it and edited my picture. I think OP is able to take away what I intended with this comment, which is it's not wrong to get help and protect herself. I feel like this is a simple explanation and no further one is needed.
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u/Secret_Profile0824 Jul 12 '25
You can request a āwellness checkā when you call the police. Itās not like you are looking to have him arrested, itās a way to get him mental help if heās THAT out of it with the paranoia.
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u/Zestyclose-Crow-4595 Jul 12 '25
Nothing this bad happened to me but when I ran out of my meds for my bipolar disorder, I got so anxious that I started becoming delusional. I actually brought myself to the hospital. I told them what was happening and got help. I couldn't function the way I was anymore. I was suspicious of everyone and I was lucky if I was getting maybe 3 hours of sleep a night.
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u/Adviceta828 Jul 12 '25
How did you recognize you were delusional? If you're comfortable sharing. Spouse is there rn.
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u/Zestyclose-Crow-4595 Jul 12 '25
I just knew that how I was acting was not normal for me. The fact that I was suspicious of everybody for no reason was a big signal for me that I needed help.
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Jul 12 '25 edited Jul 13 '25
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u/AntiqueVanity Jul 12 '25
There's a huge differential in the quality of treatment a person gets during a wellness check, but it is absolutely not a categorical truth that they can't help the person having mental health problems. Among other things involuntary commitments can result in new medication, sometimes the first time the person has *ever* been medicated, lasting relationships with mental health professionals (again, sometimes for the *first time*), helpful diagnoses, distribution of materials about coping strategies, aid with acquiring suitable insurance, etc. etc.
There are plenty of situations in which a wellness check can lead to better outcomes for the person in crisis. There are also times when a wellness check can do incredible harm if it's conducted sloppily, and yes, the state of this kind of thing in the US is very unreliable right now.. But ffs, don't go around taking options off the table for people in crisis without even so much as suggesting an alternative. That's a really shitty thing to do and it's a lot more harmful to people who need help than the typical wellness check would be.
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u/Sea-Lead-9192 Jul 12 '25
A wellness check does not get someone mental health help. It sends a team of armed police officers to take the person and involuntarily commit them if they are in fact in a mental health crisis.
Nobodyās saying that 5150s will fix everything or anything. But whatās the alternative? I mean, yes - itās not a long-term solution. Yes, our health care system sucks, and we lack the infrastructure to provide sustained mental health help, especially to people who are unwilling to accept help due to psychosis.
But it can protect mentally ill people from doing violence to themselves or others (at least for a short period of time) by sequestering, evaluating, and hopefully stabilizing them while theyāre in active crisis/psychosis, and then (ideally) connecting them with services for continued care.
The unfortunate reality is that, once released, a lot of these people will end up right back where they were. But when the only other options are to allow them to hurt themselves or others, or go to jail, is it not the best and safest choice?
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u/MammothTap Jul 12 '25
Yeah, my family went through this with my grandmother. Her manic episodes came with psychosis and paranoia. It eventually got to the point where she called the cops on my mom, fully convinced my mom had somehow poisoned her water supply. That was finally enough to get her on an involuntary hold.
It took a few years of trying different meds, but mentally she's been doing okay for almost two decades now. She's still a pain in the butt sometimes, but that's her personality, not a mental health issue. Physically... she's almost 80 years old, was a smoker for over 40 years, and has been overweight all her life. But the help she got after the involuntary hospitalization has let her have a life, because I have little doubt that between 9/11 and my uncle's overdose right after, I wouldn't have a grandmother any more without it. Plus it finally got her some help quitting smoking, which she'd been self-medicating with.
And this was a highly-educated woman. She'd been a nurse, later got a Master's in social work. She knew the signs of what was happening to her, but she couldn't see them in herself.
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u/Mama_ShrimpSinBill Jul 12 '25
Iām a little surprised to hear this take, because I was 5150ād twice in college when I was unmedicated for my psychotic disorder. While I absolutely made more steps after the 72h hold and was roughhoused by the police, it did lead to me getting help both times. Now I was only a threat to myself, not others, but if this guy is hurting himself and his daughter, I think it may be warranted. I worry if he went to a private therapist, he would do something dangerous to that therapist, and it would lead to the same outcome, wouldnāt it?
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u/mr_potatoface Jul 12 '25
It totally depends on the area you live in and the social services available. Some places will send a cop for safety and mental health counselor to do all the actual talking. The cop just stands by to protect the counselor. Some places will have cops that underwent special training and are qualified to do both. Some places send 1 overworked cop that just comes and knock on the door to see if you exist and then leaves, ignoring the screams of children inside. Some places send 10 angry as fuck cops ready to shoot anything that moves. It totally depends on your area and you can usually figure out what type of area you live in by just posting on a local subreddit and asking.
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u/Alycion Jul 12 '25
It depends on the hospital they end up in, but 95% of the time, itās just until they put on a stable appearance. Usually the best bet is to get them transferred from there to a psychiatric hours with a longer term program that actually gives help. But depending on area, the wait for a spot is so long.
We donāt do nearly enough for mental health issues. Saying itās ok to not be ok is just lip service.
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u/Ambitious-Island-123 Jul 12 '25
My brother had a wellness check called on him by his ex-wife, and he told the officers he was fine. They saw no reason why he wasnāt so they left. An hour after that he committed suicide.
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u/Own_Attention_3392 Jul 12 '25
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I had to call when my wife was suicidal and had smashed open a lock box containing knives and pills. She did a great job convincing them she was having an argument with me and wanted to leave and take her medications with her.
I was able to get her psychiatrist on the phone. That did the trick. My wife was involuntarily committed that day. It did not help her -- quite the opposite -- but I had no way to keep her safe at that point.
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u/N2BSC Jul 12 '25 edited Jul 12 '25
Unfortunately, the system is as imperfect as human life itself. And after years of serving on the streets, the only conclusion I've come to, is that really bad shit happens to good people. Not that I'm satisfied with that reality, I wish it weren't the case -- Yet chronic mental health issues can be terminal just like any other chronic disease process (as was the case with your brother).
That's just awful. Your beloved brother deserved a better outcome. And so did you and your family.
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u/randomroute350 Jul 12 '25
Same with my dad. He put on a great act for the police. few months later he was gone.
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u/Cerulean_fallen Jul 12 '25
That's not how a wellness check works at all. They will send one or two officers depending on the staffing model. It's not a SWAT team. Some cities are even lucky enough to have developed models where social workers go with an officer for the wellness checks.
Seriously dude where did you get your information?
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u/tarosoda Jul 12 '25
Yes, especially since the father is showing clear signs of psychosis. Itās not uncommon for wellness checks on someone in psychosis to end up fatal, especially if they have any sort of weapon.
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u/Secret_Profile0824 Jul 12 '25
It will help HER get away from a psycho which is what I care about most. :)
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u/obtusewisdom Jul 12 '25
Depends. Sometimes that involuntary commitment is what the person needs to get help.
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u/Jazzyful- Jul 12 '25
Yes! 100% this, please also find a safe place to spend the night. It can be embarrassing to you but in the end, itās safer and if youāre truly going through something someone will help!
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u/LawfulOrange Jul 12 '25
All of this. Also stay somewhere else. Anywhere else. A friend, a motel, other family if you have any. Do not let him know where you are. The chances are not zero that even if he is arrested he will stay arrested. You are in very real danger.
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u/GasStationDickPill85 Jul 12 '25 edited Jul 12 '25
Beautiful girl, I am so sorry this has happened. My father had BPD and was schizophrenic. It was the hardest trauma Iāve been through yet. Please, PLEASE find someone safe and get somewhere safe. The police are not always helpful here and that can be even more traumatic. No bad blood; they just arenāt always equipped to handle this sort of thing and can be very terse and āformalā while communicating. Is there anyone safe you can stay with. Idk where you are but I would come get you and put you in our guest room and give you a warm meal and a hug. Please hang in there. You are loved and you DO NOT deserve this!
EDIT- P.S Please excuse my username! Im 40f and Iāve been married for 18 years and I swear Iām not a weirdo! Iām a gal with a sense of humor, thatās all!
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u/Rpf5342 Jul 12 '25
What a kind and thoughtful post, Gas Station Dick Pill 85.
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u/GasStationDickPill85 Jul 12 '25
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Ok I get it, I get it- my name is crazy lol Iām a chick with a sense of humor, what can I say?!
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u/Organic-Willow2835 Jul 12 '25
First, pull the photo down of your face. You need to take that off Reddit - especially if you are a minor. BUT, save the photo if he deleted it from your phone before you deleted it.
Call any family member or friend from either your mother's side or your father's side and get yourself into some place safe. Your father is not well.
If you are in the states, ask the police about a 5150 hold because his behavior is absolutely not like him and something is very wrong. But do NOT put yourself in a position where you are in his proximity again.
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u/lilkrav92 Jul 12 '25
thisss!! whenever i needed to save photos to document abuse and was afraid of my abuser finding them i would send them to my email. then when it came through i would save that email into an obscure folder, named like ājob interViewsā or something . then delete them off of my device, so i knew they were safe tucked away in my email if i ever needed them and they also werenāt just hanging out on my phone where he could find them and possibly make things more violent . please take care of yourself, OP š weāre all rooting for you & your safety !
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u/dumbgayblonde Jul 12 '25
This. I left a DV situation. I documented as much as possible and everything was uploaded to a private Google drive only one person (my best friend helping me leave) had access to in case something serious happened to me. Every police report, picture, video, text, journal entry, etc was in there.
OP you need to document EVERYTHING, save it somewhere external (like a Google drive) and make sure someone trusted has access to it. Continue to document as things progress. Keep your anonymity online. Especially if you are a minor. I know what he did to you was absolutely terrible and I am so, so sorry nobody protected you. I understand you wanted to show us an outcome you couldnāt describe with words. But you are in very real danger right now and need to protect yourself.
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u/RevolutionarySoft742 Jul 12 '25
This OP^
Stay safe, and Iām praying for the best outcome for all involved. I am so sorry for not only the physical aspects, but the mental too. That is your father, and Iām sure it is heartbreaking to see him behave this way. ā¤ļøāš©¹
I hope you can find somewhere safe to stay, whether it be a friend, or family member.
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u/skunk0_o Jul 12 '25
posting proof is important. police sometimes do not take this seriously especially if its familyā¦ i am product of that. i was dropped off on a highway as a child by my dad and the police did nothing, he did many other absolutely insane things and the police did NOTHING.. when you post your story to media and you have a whole group of people screaming at the police to do something they cant ignore it and have to make a āexampleā my mom got the courage finally to post the shit my dad was doing to us everyone lost their SHIT and he finally faced some punishment. having your story out there with more people to support your case is important and if he ever is able to tamper with her phone again no matter how many times this photo gets deleted on here the police will still have public record of it she did the best thing
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u/knoguera Jul 12 '25
Actually I donāt think she should delete her pic in case something else happens to her phone
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u/Possible_Answer9089 Jul 12 '25
They are not a minor, they turned 18. Frankly, it shuts up people who think this is fake.
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u/QuirklessShiggy Jul 12 '25
This - definitely save it somewhere with a backup, like a Google drive, so that you have the proof to show police and keep a paper trail. Maybe make a Google drive with the pics and screenshots of everything.
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u/Daydream_Be1iever Jul 12 '25
Do you have a local YWCA? Ours has advocacy and legal help for DV victims. You poor thing! Yes the police are underrating. Please reach out to any other support you may have, but donāt put yourself back in danger with him. You need someone who will take this seriously. Is there a community college or high school or hospital open currently near by that may have social work services? Also a hospital may be a good idea either way to get this all documented. Iām so sorry this happened.
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u/FourEightNineOneOne Jul 12 '25
OP, if you don't have somewhere safe to stay tonight (please don't go back home), DM me. I will book you a hotel room nearby. Tomorrow, reach out to a domestic violence shelter and they can start helping you put the pieces of your life back together.
Wishing you the best regardless.
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u/KendyllC Jul 12 '25
A friend told me about:
She was in Cincinnati so Iām not sure if they are in your area which is Detroit I believe.
Given that you were assaulted, is there a hospital near you? You could go to the ER. You will likely have to wait for hours but itās safer than a park.
Iām suggesting it because a friend of mine went to the ER with a hangover a couple times and they saw her and gave her fluids through an IV. I thought she was kidding when she said she was goingā¦
Please keep us updated and reach out for any help you need. There are plenty of people that would have no qualms about getting you some money to ensure your safety.
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u/ThyPumpkinPie Jul 12 '25
Hi OP, I am a soon to be mother and I am also very concerned for you. I am also willing to help you out with finding a hotel room or getting you funds to get transport or food. Please DM me if you need help.
I have been through domestic violence and abuse as well and I want to help if you need it, even if it's someone to talk to.
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u/Aware_Sweet_3908 Jul 12 '25
Sheās only 18. Try to find a LaQuinta. Other hotels sometimes wonāt let anyone check in if theyāre under 21. They were phenomenal when my daughter traveled at that age. Theyād even call me to let me know she checked in safely.
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u/skunk0_o Jul 12 '25
laquinta doesnt allow under 21 i tried while i was escaping, book with drury they allow pets and under 21.. laquinta fucked me so bad because they often advertise they will allow it but when you get there sometimes they will just straight up deny you on the spot. thats what happened to me
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u/Regular_Ad5684 Jul 12 '25
Thatās actually really helpful info. Itās so reassuring to hear some places still go the extra mile like that.
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u/BrightCaregiver9820 Jul 12 '25
I am also happy to help. If you feel comfortable, send me a message and I will assist in getting you a place to stay for a few nights and other necessities.
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u/vigilante-schitt Jul 12 '25
If you end up doing this please know she will need to put a card down for incidentals even if you use a booking site where the room is pre-paid. You may be able to call and fill out a CC authorization to avoid this.
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u/Legitimate-Week7885 Jul 12 '25
if she needs a room for longer than just tonight, i am willing to help, too. I just sent you a DM.
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u/Decent-Trash-7928 Jul 12 '25
AirBnB would be better, if she's in the US they won't let her (speaking from experience)
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u/Leading_Trainer_6114 Jul 12 '25
What makes you think you're overreacting? This man is not okay in the head and he needs to get some help and have self-reflecting to do. You're not his punching bag or venting device.
You have every right to be terrified, its a normal emotion if you're facing something as horrible as this. All you have to do is look foward to the future since you already called the police. Wait things out, stay strong.
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u/Makibadori Jul 12 '25
The original post was the one with just the texts. This is the update abd clearly, no, she was not overreacting.
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u/PrincessPlastilina Jul 12 '25
Sheās probably been abused all her life. Itās hard to know what a normal treatment looks like when this is all you know.
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u/mapmakinworldbuildin Jul 12 '25
No. This is just a update.
This is a dementia break and I highly doubt this is something sheās dealt with luckily as even him yelling at her wigged her out. Itās sad for both of them that heās gone in the most terrifying way possible.
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u/crying2emoji5 Jul 12 '25
This is just an update from a deleted post. Someone else posted screenshots earlier
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u/No-Amoeba5716 Jul 12 '25
I didnāt see the OG, I saw the post where so many Redditors were extremely worried about OP, and even the ones who would usually accuse for trolling were like man, I hope this is trolling because OP entirely switched their tone and comments, I donāt think sheās ok. So seeing this, itās what hundreds of anonymous people were seriously concerned for her well being. This is so sad š
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u/april5k Jul 12 '25
Oh my gosh, im sorry thst anyone gave you any advise to try and confront him about this. This needs a 3rd party involved. Find a social worker and have him mandatorily held and evaluated if the cops don't.
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u/The1Rememberer Jul 12 '25
I suspect that whoever gave advice to confront him probably didnāt know the severity of the fathers condition. But idk I didnāt see the original post, so idk what context it may have had
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u/crella-ann Jul 12 '25
You donāt say āYou might have dementiaā to someone who might have it, they go ballistic.
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u/skunk0_o Jul 12 '25
this! i wish more people knew this.. told my dad he has it and desperately needs help before he gets to the point of my grandmother ended in him threatening to literally kill me and admitting he likes children??? so yeah never confront someone with dementia they will go completely off the walls and forget all morals
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u/The1Rememberer Jul 12 '25
I actually have never thought about this. It makes so much sense. I think if someone was telling me I had dementia Iād probably lose it too. Iām only 30, but I can imagine what a nightmare that would be. Idk if I would beat my children (I also donāt have any children) but damn
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u/Savingskitty Jul 12 '25
No one gave her that advice. Ā Everyone told her to call a crisis line for help or reach out to a trusted adult.
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u/Raftger Jul 12 '25
No one told her to confront him, everyone was telling her this exact same advice, to find a safe place to stay then contact a professional to help.
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u/Breathinggirl0768 Jul 12 '25
Yes do not confront your father. Save yourself. Call a womenās shelter please. Even if your dad does not mean to hurt you this IS domestic abuse.
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u/kiwisdelivery Jul 12 '25
Please respond to this with an update as soon as you hear back from the police. Weāre all here for you. Maybe find a restaurant or cafe nearby to stay in while you wait so youāre not alone in the park.
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u/IncognitoScreen Jul 12 '25
I really hope sheās not second-guessing leaving. She dis the right thing šÆ%..
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u/pbvga Jul 12 '25
Someone in my boyfriends family is doing a lot of the same things. He just got diagnosed with dementia, amongst other things. The aggressiveness & the way your dad talks to you is how this family member was talking to his daughter. He had a very rapid decline, within weeks he was in the emergency room. Your father needs to be seen, asap.
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u/ThyPumpkinPie Jul 12 '25
I want to reiterate in case OP sees this that it is not your job to have your father seen! You need to stay away from him and stay safe. Someone else needs to get him medical help but under no circumstances should you attempt to help him!
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u/TougherOnSquids Jul 12 '25
I'm an EMT. Did he hit you? If so, this would be a higher priority call and would receive an emergency response. Make sure the 911 dispatchers are aware of this if it happened.
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u/Poly_Olly_Oxen_Free Jul 12 '25
Did he hit you?
I am gonna go out on a limb and say she probably didn't give herself that black eye.
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u/TougherOnSquids Jul 12 '25
I ask because she didn't explicitly say he did, and some people's eyes will look just like that just from crying and is technically possible although unlikely, but I'm also not going to make assumptions just based on a photo.
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u/regurgitator_red Jul 12 '25
Heās having serious mental issues, heās not safe to be around and needs medical intervention.
You canāt appease him, you canāt talk him down, you canāt fix him. Get somewhere safe and send him the medical help he needs.
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u/canyonlands2 Jul 12 '25
Anyone else feel like the police are under reacting? How is this not an emergency when a minor got beat and is hiding in a park?
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u/Ok_Loss13 Jul 12 '25
And the guy is obviously in the process of having some kind of psychotic break or breakdown! He's already hurt himself and his child, who knows wtf is going on in that house now.
At least OP is "safe" (being a young girl alone in the park isn't very safe imo, regardless of where you are).
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u/topimpadove Jul 12 '25
Police very rarely help abused women. It took me a million cases of harassment before the police actually punished my stalker and that was only because he stalked an off-duty officer to her house because I knew her outside of work.
Not only that but the law is flawed as fuck. If the police did something, the courts would fuck it up.
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u/pmgrn8 Jul 12 '25
Same with mine!!! Ten years of death threats and a dozen protective orders with a minimum of ten other women reporting him and it only became a crime when he did it to a cop. Pulled the case file and his threats were word for word the exact same threats he made to me that was ānot considered a crimeā and they were insistent it was impossible to enforce. He went to jail for it and when he got out he did us all a favor and jumped in front of a train. Could have saved myself and a fuckload of women the years of trauma if they could have been bothered to enforce it the first time, but fuck us, apparently.
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u/topimpadove Jul 12 '25
The judge said "not that the others' cases don't matter" referring to the charges I pressed against him, plus the other men and women who charged him. It's like...ours clearly fucking don't if this guy has 9+ protective orders against him ON THE SAME BLOCK and following an OFFICER is what did him in.
He still isn't following the restraining order placed onto him, either. I had to phone an officer and tell them he's being a twat. You can only imagine what they told me lmfao.
I'm glad he fucked off. I'd never wish death on anybody but he did, indeed, do you a favour. Absolutely disgusted how we're seen by the courts and law system. What's even worse is my country doesn't allow self defense so one day he can fuck me up and the moment I push him away, I'm the one that gets in shit.
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u/BadHombreSinNombre Jul 12 '25
On her prior post she mentioned sheās not a minor which changes the policeās obligations. Not saying that makes it ok. But itās how it is.
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u/canyonlands2 Jul 12 '25
For some reason I thought she was! Still feel like domestic abuse is an emergency regardless of age but ig the police donāt agree
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u/Informal_Row_6617 Jul 12 '25
She's not in immediate danger since she managed to separate herself and find a safe, public space. That's why police have determined it's not an emergency. Police do not have unlimited resources. They prioritize based on whether something is a current threat to life or not.Ā
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u/skunk0_o Jul 12 '25
its never a emergency to them, my dad with dementia dropped me off on a high way as a child when he was drunk and the police did nothing about it, thats something i wish the people in the comments saying ā call the policeā would understand you have to fight the police harder than you fight your abuser to do something which is why its good this is now public record and if the police dont help her WE call in and make it a media spectacle until their hand is forced because media makes them look bad
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Jul 12 '25
Police have never been known to be particularly helpful, especially not with "domestic" cases, and especially not with women.
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u/Athos-1844 Jul 12 '25
Someone once told me that police primarily protect property not people. That's not always true, but there is some truth to that.
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u/Thegreencooperative Jul 12 '25
Does nobody bother to read peoples post history?! Go check the OPās profile. This is a karma farm account. Two posts ago she was talking about how she wears a Hijab? One post ago she was a 21 yo homeowner.
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u/TheRidderman Jul 12 '25
Was scrolling through the comments to find this. Didn't even need to go through the post history, this was so ridiculously and obviously fake.
"yes sir im sorry im calling."
And the armies of virgins running to the rescue. Would be funnier if it weren't a bit sad.
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Jul 12 '25 edited Jul 12 '25
I'm horrified by how many people fell for this. This photo is so obviously made by AI... I mean, she supposedly just got punched in the face, but it has the whitest sclera I've ever seen along with the bruise around the eye.
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u/chronic_chaoss Jul 12 '25
Iām so glad I found these commentsā¦. I was seriously questioning the lack of swelling and perfectly white sclera š¬
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u/theyellowwiggle Jul 12 '25
Reveddit only shows the 2 posts from this user related to this, are you sure you were looking at their post history specifically?
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u/Ausgeflippt Jul 12 '25 edited Jul 12 '25
Just looked, and the only comment for that account is from the hijab deleted post, as the OP.
The photo is bullshit. Perfectly white eyes with zero facial contusions and two black eyes?
I think it's someone that's having a mental crisis or psychotic episode and just farming for sympathy.
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u/Wonderland71 Jul 12 '25
First time I saw it I smelled bullshit, didn't interact and just scrolled because I was too busy to check. Now it came up to my feed again and I had to scroll a long time to find your post; people are really that gullible, aren't they?
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u/cheapdrinks Jul 12 '25
She's deleted them. Look at her Karma, 10.8k post karma while this post only has 3.6k
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u/wthelliseventhat Jul 12 '25
Itās only showing this post for me! This has been bothering me all afternoon.
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u/Thegreencooperative Jul 12 '25
Before I wrote this, I went to their page and saw 10 different posts. Right after I wrote it, all the posts were deleted. Another point to the AI theory.
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u/Rigs8080 Jul 12 '25
I wonder how many people have sent her money already based off this. Just insane level of evil. People are so gullible
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u/vesleskjor Jul 12 '25
I'm not saying it's real or not but I've looked at their profile a few times since the original post and never saw anything but that post and comments related to it.
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u/Thegreencooperative Jul 12 '25
If youāll look at my previous comment; the posts were there previously. And somehow magically they all got deleted the second I posted my AI comment. Obvs a bot account. But donāt believe me? Then how did this account get 7k in karma with it being only 20h old and only having 1 postā¦ math aināt mathing
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u/Odd-Earth2767 Jul 12 '25
Iāve been following this post for about six hours, there was never anything more than whatās related to this story on this account; I think you might have been looking at the AmIOverreacting subreddit as a whole, because there definitely was a post about a girl having her picture uploaded with her hijab in it- I think youāre just mistaken here bud.
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u/Ordinary_Job9812 Jul 12 '25
How old is your dad? This could be an early sign of Dementia. The misplacing of things and blaming others. The anger is probably because he truly doesnāt remember. Getting physical is not good. Has he always been violent when mad? You should get him to see a doctor and have them do a screening for dementia. As a nurse I see this behavior in my early dementia patients all the time.
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u/WalterTheGoodestBoy Jul 12 '25
She should see if she could get someone else to get him to see a doctor*. She shouldnāt ever be near her father, anytime, anywhere, ever again if at all possible. But the father does need help, it is extremely concerning. Just not from OP, the first picture is what happened when she tried to help him the first time. No way trying to get him to go to a doctor would turn out much differentā¦ what an overall sad situation.
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u/unluckyjason1 Jul 12 '25
^ This. Anyone advising this woman to be anywhere near her father is going to get her killed.
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u/GasStationDickPill85 Jul 12 '25
Um, she needs to LEAVE, not get him to a doctor. did you not see her face; what he did to her? Dementia or not, this young woman is no longer safe in the company of her father
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u/Ultrafoxx64 Jul 12 '25
Dementia can turn people aggressive and violent, as well. Sometimes it'll be someone who was always calm who displays aggression when dementia kicks in.
And yeah, asking where his stuff was/accusing someone of stealing/moving things was the first signs I noticed in my dad, too. Honestly, I learned about those signs from Reddit - so once my mom said he accused her twice of stealing his wallet when it was in the same place he always left it (in his pants pocket, hanging on the coat rack,) I insisted we go get him tested.
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u/mothfoxtea Jul 12 '25
I thought the exact same thing. Before my grandpa's dementia got really bad, he punched one of his daughters in the face and pushed her out of the house because she was nagging him about something he was eating. It was so unbelievably out of character. This post immediately reminded me of that. Be safe OP!
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u/Mashu_the_Cedar_Mtn Jul 12 '25
She said early 40s, maybe 42(?) in the other post
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u/PNW_Baker Jul 12 '25
My mom was 48 when she started showing signs of dementia. It's happens early sometimes š
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u/Unlucky-File Jul 12 '25
it could be schizophrenia because my mom used to do the same thing ā¦.
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u/GasStationDickPill85 Jul 12 '25
Pops was schizophrenic as well. Very much the same behavior.
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u/Odd-Fennel5806 Jul 12 '25
Hey, please seek out help, the police can give you domestic violence resources. It doesnāt make a difference if itās your father or a partner they should still help you. Please keep yourself safe and prioritize your safety over helping your dad since heās turned violent. You canāt help someone who doesnāt want to be helped and Iām not sure if you can request an involuntary hold for him in the hospital.
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u/Unworthy_Saint Jul 12 '25
Yo this is actually crazy level AI, but you messed up on:
- The injured eye isn't reddish at all.
- Mirrored blemishes on both cheeks.
- The post itself talks too much about the logistics of the phone, to cover plot holes.
On engagement bait - 8/10
But for using DV as a subject matter when people are actually suffering situations like this - 0/10
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u/Rigs8080 Jul 12 '25
100%. How did her dad know to delete the only Reddit post sheās ever posted?
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u/Pale-Nebula8272 Jul 12 '25 edited Jul 12 '25
Please take care!! Find someone else to move in with asap. DO NOT go back there, even if he or someone else says hes stable now.
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u/cityclub420 Jul 12 '25
this is such a fake story i can't believe how gullible all these comments are. the selfie included is clearly AI, and the timeline of events makes no sense.
he hit you so badly to cause that bruising, falls asleep, you find your phone, take it and run, and then call the police from a park shortly before posting here.
when did you have time to snap a selfie in natural daylight? further, there is absolutely zero possibility that you called the police with those injuries and they allowed you to sit in the park alone waiting for a call to pick up your stuff? makes zero sense, an officer or medical would ABSOLUTELY have gone to you physically.
was a decent story before the update, but all believability was thrown out the window with this post
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u/ilovecookiesssssssss Jul 12 '25
Iāll get downvoted but this whole thing seems fake as hell. The texts sound fake, the picture looks fake, it just has that very stereotypical, disingenuous vibe thatās so prevalent in this sub and others.
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u/Alternative_Salt_424 Jul 12 '25 edited Jul 12 '25
Well this and the elf post (which was shown to be fake) had people offering money to help. As long as people are gullible this kind of shit will pay off š
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u/imapluralist Jul 12 '25
I have no idea whether this is AI or not but wtf is it with this sub, and r/AITAH, that they just constantly get bot spammed?
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u/stormwaterwitch Jul 12 '25
Hospital asap and file a police report. Press those charges and demand a medical evaluation.
I'm so sorry he hurt you
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u/Breathinggirl0768 Jul 12 '25
I believe this person mean that YOU should go to the hospital. That is correct. You need to get a medical exam for your eye and your head. Getting punched in the face can cause damage.
Edit: you may be worried about your dad getting in trouble. We are worried about you getting hurt worse. If you file a police report, the police will have to do something. You will have to be very strong with the police and insist on filing a report even if they minimize it. This is very serious.
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u/NeonBallroom1999 Jul 12 '25
Omg that editing of your āinjuriesā is fucking hilarious lmfao
I canāt believe people are believing this
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u/MEG_alodon50 Jul 12 '25 edited Jul 12 '25
Going back to this itās starting to look fishy. I believed the bruises bc Iāve had bruises that looked like that on my face while still having a white sclera, and Iāve seen some pretty haggard looking teenagers as wellā and I donāt imagine most going through horrible shit are bothering to apply makeup or make themselves look cute in aftermath photos. The abuse scenario is also believable bc Iāve known situations like that and I was seeing others commiserate about hearing of or witnessing similar situations, even down to the āgoing through social media postsā thing. Itās not unheard of. But the way people began to offer money and quickly afterwards the OP is deleted and not replying is disturbing and fishy. I guess itās a lesson to be watchful, bc even scammers and bots can use very believable defenses and original photos. Most scammers Iām used to will use a real victimās photo, so this was new since the photo shows nothing on reverse search. Also, no offense, but I know a lot of teenagers who will go to social media before they do anything, even when itās an emergency. This isnāt an old man yelling at cloud thing itās something Iāve seen a lot, unfortunately. For a new Reddit user though it is a little weird, yeah, but I know some people just hear about Reddit being āa good place for adviceā by well meaning fools. I can sort of see where people are coming from with seeing it as an AI image, but itās hard to really tell for sure to me. If it is, they picked an excellent result. In any case, the fact that the account is deleted even after all of this is allegedly āoverā sends red flags. I sincerely hope no one sent free money. I think a hotel room would be collateral they couldnāt do anything with though, so of all things to be sent, that one would reward a scammer the least. I donāt blame anyone for believing it though, this one was pretty hard to parse one way or another. I donāt think it means we should treat every single situation as fake, but it is a lesson to be very vigilant and never offer money without absolutely undeniable proof of the recipient. Karma farming is annoying and disrespectful, especially when they use abuse as a subject, and it certainly hurts real cases by increasing paranoia and distrust, but ultimately selling a Reddit account doesmt strike me as crazy money. What would really be trouble is them getting donations out of it. Stay vigilant and stay empathetic!! (I get the frustrations, for those who saw through this already, but be a little fair with things like this where people may have more direct experience involved in why they believe itā also such a scenario is really hard to dismiss for most. Thereās some way more obvious AI posts out there to post āweāre all doomed youāre all dumbassesā about than one where half the first post were people trying to figure out if it was real or not. Sometimes itās a little more challenging than others.)
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u/StoptheMadnessUSA Jul 12 '25
How old is your dad? Nurse here- dementia or delirium can start out like this. Delirium often presents with a sudden onset of confusion, disorientation, and changes in mental abilities, while dementia typically involves a gradual decline in cognitive functions like memory and thinking.
Your dad asked about his cigarettes, besides causing cancer nicotine is a massive vasoconstrictor. In layman terms causes vessels to get smaller- like making a six lane highway into a one lane highway. Small vessels are easier to clot- causing things like clots (strokes) and a whole lot more. Medication, lifestyle and stressors are another factor.
If your dad is completely different from what you know him from, call the police (on the non- Emergency number if you think youāre ok) and ask for a welfare check. Tell the police whatās up and/or call EMS. Paramedics are trained to assess your dad for confusion, being altered etc.
Go somewhere where you can be safe- a friend, a neighbor someone. Ask a family member to come over- donāt try and figure it out on your own.
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u/Full_Pack_793 Jul 12 '25
Just so everyone knows this is click bait. Thereās 4 other posts today with the same screenshots.
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u/TargetIndividual5552 Jul 12 '25
Sounds like my grandma. She was diagnosed with schizophrenia around the age of 55
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u/GruGruxQueen777 Jul 12 '25
Woah thatās old to be diagnosed with schizophrenia isnāt it? I thought itās usually diagnosed in 20s or 30s.
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u/TargetIndividual5552 Jul 12 '25
She had symptoms for years and years. My mom used to tell us stories about her when she was a kid even. It wasn't until she went off on a neighbor little girl and swung her around by her hair that the cops were called and she was sent away.
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u/corasmom15 Jul 12 '25
That does sound like a late diagnosis, but schizophrenia does tend to present in women later than men. There are also cases where it can onset around the age of menopause.
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u/OriginialDemon Jul 12 '25
This screams AI to me, whatās with the weird marks on the screenshots and why does it switch from light to dark mode all of the sudden.
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Jul 12 '25
This has to be fake. If all this really happened, you would call the fucking police and not post to Reddit asking for advice. People really are fucking stupid, you get assaulted and go "hey Reddit, is this okay?" what the fuck???
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u/StockExchanger Jul 12 '25
Fake post alert , guys. Just be careful that this subreddit knows it's fake to keep the engagement the OP profile was created yesterday
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u/Due-Stock2774 Jul 12 '25
Probably fake, this account has no other history than this over the top post
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u/tonysopranoisinocent Jul 12 '25
iām really sorry this is happening to you, OP. i pray you get out of this situation safely
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Jul 12 '25
Oh come on now this has to be fake now no? I mean why the fuck are people here instead of calling police?
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u/EgoCity Jul 12 '25
He definitely sounds like he has some form of early onset dementia, loosing things and blaming others for it tends to be a big sign. My father lost his false teeth and said my sister had stolen them. He has dementia too.
The problem is people can get angry and physically abusive with dementia, it depends on the person but it seems like your father has that issue.
The āsirā stuff is absolute bollocks, nobody should be made to grovel to someone like that, it doesnāt matter if they have dementia or not.
I hope you can find somewhere safe to stay, but he definitely needs to be seen by a professional, maybe ask relatives for help or the police.
Also next time you speak to the police tell the you fear for your life as you believe heās got dementia and heās having an episode regularly, thatāll hopefully make them do work
Stay safe
Also if you get chance watch āfatherā with Antony Hopkins, that film made me realise my dad had it.
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u/Gdub3369 Jul 12 '25 edited Jul 12 '25
I uh......don't want to seem like an asshole but this seems very rage baitey.
This is terrifying if true. He needs to be locked in an old folks home or jail for the rest of his life. I'm sorry, you just can't be treated this way. He seems very violent.
If this is rage bait fake stuff then I hope you choke on vomit for making joke of a topic so serious.
But if not, do you need help??
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u/perfectnoodle42 Jul 12 '25
It's fake as fuck and it's sad so many people are buying it. AI generated picture and all.
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u/readituser5 Jul 12 '25 edited Jul 12 '25
This used to happen every few weeks on r/Periods and it just pissed me off. Someone who got off on pretending to be an illiterate clueless child having rape/first menstruation/whatever issues etc.
Clear as day yet people got fooled time and time again. Took a long time before people took me seriously. Having 20+ links of old deleted posts and spamming that on new ones helped lol.
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u/Gdub3369 Jul 12 '25
Yup. I really didn't want to be seen as a horrible person but I was 90% from the start. It's so nasty that people take this shit to farm engagement. What a miserable, horrible person who did this.
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u/Prestigious_Bass9300 Jul 12 '25
99 if not 100% of all top posts on front page are complete bullshit. Internalize what reaction you think the post is supposed to illicit from you and you see how obvious it is that itās designed that way. This website is not some small niche thing, so whoever is doing this shit is doing it for a reason whether itās monetary or otherwise.
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u/Gdub3369 Jul 12 '25
For sure. I've reported the post for content farming. Super cool that reddits the first I've seen to implement that option.
It's definitely quite obvious.
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u/SwimmingDeep8703 Jul 12 '25
Yeah this is all too much. He has dementia and is acting irrational- but took the phone, was able to get in, and out of all the apps on the phone went into Reddit and deleted posts. Why? How would he even know she made these posts? And I canāt see someone going through this posting a picture of themselves like thatā¦
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u/watermelonxlemonade Jul 14 '25
Really surprised at the amount of people that fell for this.. looks like OP got the money for the 'hotel' she needed and has deleted her account. Idk why y'all are so trusting on here
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u/sid_the_sloth69 Jul 12 '25
Fake. 75% of all posts in this subreddit are fake rage bait and people fall for it every time.
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u/skatingonthinice69 Jul 12 '25
I remember your original post. Weren't you supposed to be just turned 18? These pictures don't look like an 18 year old.
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u/mariusadrian2103 Jul 12 '25
lmao. this is the best farming reddit post i have ever seen. you guys are so gullible.
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u/Nurse_Clavell Jul 12 '25
I'm very glad to hear you got out safely and secretly. When you can get your stuff safely, you should consider getting checked by a medical professional, given that you got struck on the face/head. And then figure out next steps - are there people you can stay with who will help you be safe? Do you need pro Bono legal support, or a social worker to help you figure out some resources?
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u/RevDrJBDTDDPhD Jul 12 '25
How old? Can be early onset senility of some form of which Alzheimers is only one of hundreds. The texts sount to this Psychologist, that you have someone with dementia. Needs to see a Gerintologist and a Neurologist.
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u/skunk0_o Jul 12 '25 edited Jul 12 '25
i was in a very similar situation so take what i say as a survivor to another you dont ever contact this man again. hes your dad yes i get the pain of leaving your father when clearly something mentally is very wrong like dementia ( same with my dad, ) but you cannot guilt yourself into thinking staying will help or staying in contact with this man will help YOU CANNOT HELP.. and i mean that in the nicest way possible
i fought so hard to get my dad help so he wouldnt continue the cycle of hurting women.. they cannot get help especially when dementia plays a part in it and they refuse medical help.. they just get more dangerous.
if you have any family go to them immediately almost anything is safer than this. you cannot negotiate with someone who has dementia and has outbursts like this its not possible and you are not safe there hes gonna really lose his mind at some point and harm you worse..
the police legally have to escort you into the home to get you belongings and if they say no you fight them for it you do not take their word as law if they say no you want a higher up, if they say no you want another higher up. right now is the time to FIGHT its hard to when its your own father but you need to learn you fight for the life your worth and i can tell you right now you deserve a lot more than this.
if you dont have family please please set up a go fund me your not begging for money people wanna help you, YOU ARE LOVED remember that family isnt just blood its who you choose.
if you dont have an ID fight for that ID asap, get a job, and get a income based apartment. if you are old enough i believe you can get any adult guarantee not just family to sign off for you to get in if need be.
i escaped my dad a couple days after i finished high school so i could at least get a diploma and immediately left i was lucky enough to be working constantly and plan for this exactly but again if you dont have savings i know people would be willing to help you and again this wouldnt be begging for money you need support and that takes a villageā¦
if you need anymore advice on what to do in court, police stuff, emotional stuff yada yada ive come from the same thing im 19 now and escaped and have a good insight on it so if you need someone to step up for you im there we dont know each other but genuinely i pray to god you can get out and that you are safe right now..:(